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Day 8: It’s All About Stamina: How to Cultivate Grit with Shannon Polson EP: 239

How To Be A Better Person with Kate Hanley

Release Date: 07/29/2020

Ask Yourself This Question to Figure Out What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You EP: 541 show art Ask Yourself This Question to Figure Out What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You EP: 541

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Your emotions aren’t here to torture you; they’re messengers, giving you information about what you value, need, and want. Here's one question to ask yourself to figure out what information your anger is trying to convey. (Then it won’t have to try so hard to get your attention.)

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What’s Your Anger Story?  EP: 540 show art What’s Your Anger Story? EP: 540

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Each of us has a set of beliefs about anger that we’ve been carrying around since we were little. By taking a little time to think about what those beliefs are, you can get a little more objectivity and perspective on this emotion that so often prevents you from thinking clearly.

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Breaking the Cycle of Anger, an Interview with Andrea J. Lee EP: 539 show art Breaking the Cycle of Anger, an Interview with Andrea J. Lee EP: 539

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I wanted to talk to someone who could help us think about anger in new ways and potentially interrupt any of our habitual patterns around it so that we’ve got some space to learn some new skills for dealing with it. The person I’m talking to today is Andrea J. Lee. Andrea is the author of the blog "We Can Stop Being Abusive" on Substack, the controversial article "I Verbally Abused my Husband: Here's How I Stopped," published in the Washington Post and the book We Need to Talk for small business owners.

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Reasons Why You Might Feel Angry All the Time EP: 538 show art Reasons Why You Might Feel Angry All the Time EP: 538

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There’s nothing wrong with anger management strategies, which are fine but, to use a healthcare analogy, learning how to manage anger is trying to mitigate symptoms, instead of treating the root cause. Let’s look at some of the many, many things that can give rise to anger so that you can see what root causes that you might be able to address.

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Is Anger Good, or Bad? Both EP: 537 show art Is Anger Good, or Bad? Both EP: 537

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This week's episodes were inspired by a listener question about feeling angry all the time lately, and what to do about it. And since anger is definitely having a moment (all that cooped-up angst has to have somewhere to go), let's figure out what all this collective anger might be here to show us. First question: is anger a bad a thing? Or a good thing?

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How Do You Feel When You’re Having Fun? EP: 536 show art How Do You Feel When You’re Having Fun? EP: 536

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Even when you’re busy and don’t feel like you have a lot of time to do things just for the fun of it, you can increase your experience of fun by tuning in to how fun feels in your body.

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Using Fun to Motivate You--It Is Possible EP: 535 show art Using Fun to Motivate You--It Is Possible EP: 535

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Let’s face it: Adulting can be a real slog. The list of things to do and take care of can feel relentless. However, that does not mean that doing the things you need to do has to be boring, or tedious. You CAN use fun to goad yourself into doing those things you have to do, and enjoy yourself while you’re doing it

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Feeling Fried? Might Be Time for the Healing Power of Pleasure EP: 534 show art Feeling Fried? Might Be Time for the Healing Power of Pleasure EP: 534

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Today I’m interviewing Dr. Rachel Allyn, a relationship and sex therapist and the author of the new book, The Pleasure Is All Yours: Reclaim Your Body’s Bliss and Reignite Your Passion for Life. After all fun and pleasure go hand in hand, and if you’re listening from the United States, we live in a pretty repressed society where pleasure is either frowned upon or just ignored. Let's turn that beat around.

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So, What ARE You Doing for Fun? EP: 533 show art So, What ARE You Doing for Fun? EP: 533

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In order to invite more fun into your life, it helps to give some thought to what you consider to be fun, and what you’ve been doing for fun lately, and objectively assess whether you might need to prioritize fun a little more. I think of it as doing a fun inventory. That may sound like a clinical approach to playfulness, but what you inspect, you respect.

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Let’s Have Some Fun EP: 532 show art Let’s Have Some Fun EP: 532

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I get that fun can feel frivolous, and that it’s easy to think that we should wait until things calm down before we even consider doing something just for the fun of it. But fun is not just enjoyable, but also it’s vital to our wellbeing and even to our very purpose for being on this planet in this body at this juncture in time. Woah.

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To help us all think about how to go about cultivating more grit I wanted to talk to a pro, so I reached out to Shannon Huffman Polson, the youngest woman ever to climb Mt. McKinley, one of the first women to be trained to fly an Apache helicopter during her time serving in the Army and author of The Grit Factor.