53. Talking With Your Spouse About Couples Coaching
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 12/07/2021
145. How To Problem Solve In Your Marriage (Without Driving Either Yourself Or Your Partner Crazy)
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by her husband Dr. Rodd Stockwell, to unpack the art of problem-solving in marriage. They stress the importance of clearly identifying the type of conversation you’re having, whether it's venting, seeking emotional support, problem-solving, or something else. You need to know which kind of communication you need, and which kind of communication your spouse needs. When there’s a problem, before diving into practical solutions, it’s essential to address any emotional baggage first. Visualize yourselves sitting side by side, collaborating on the...
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144. Sensual vs. Sexual: Exploring The Mysteries Of Erotic Power Through Identifying Your Erotic Blueprint | w/ Julianne Vaccaro
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Julianne Vaccaro, a somatic sexologist and spiritual guide to discuss the erotic blueprints and her unique way of applying them. We delve into the melodic world of erotic blueprints, discussing each type in detail. From the energetic to the sensual, from the kinky to the sexual, we describe each type’s superpowers, and their shadow sides, telling truths that definitely challenge societal norms. Join us as we decode the mysteries of sensuality, embrace our erotic blueprints, and...
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143. Vital Conversations About Menopause (For Men And Women Of All Ages)
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Tricia Brouk for an honest conversation about the often misunderstood topic of menopause. The conversation is inspired by and centered around their journey co-authoring "The Invitation: Vital Conversations About Menopause," their new book published on September 13, 2023. Together, Alexandra and Tricia challenge menopause stereotypes, emphasizing the unique and positive potential of each woman in this phase of life. They address the lack of open discussions about menopause and invite both women and men to join this crucial conversation. Reflecting on...
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142. What Makes A Marriage Last?
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD, shares heartfelt stories of couples she's coached and her thoughts on what makes a marriage last. From reigniting intimacy in a 21-year marriage to a couple's transformative journey after 27 years, these narratives inspire and inform. Alexandra encourages listeners to reflect on their own marital culture and emphasizes the importance of making a deliberate effort to foster a positive relationship within a marriage and within a family. She also provides insights and strategies to maintain focus and intentionality in long-lasting marriages, ways to reignite the spark and...
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141. The Secrets Of Desire, Arousal & Sexual Well-Being | With Dr. Rachel Rubin
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Rachel Rubin, a renowned urologist and sexual medicine specialist, to discuss sexual medicine, as well as the art/science driving sexual desire. Dr. Rubin emphasizes the vital importance of a biopsychosocial approach to sexual medicine, highlighting the significance of understanding a patient's background and their goals for enhancing their quality of life. She defines sexual medicine, discusses when to seek help and addresses issues like low desire and arousal. Dr. Rubin recommends various treatment options, including the use of devices (ie....
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140. How Dysfunctional Patterns Interrupt Intimacy And Impede The Archetypes Of Love
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Intimacy Coach Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the dynamics of genuine connection within marriages and how they can be influenced by two specific false archetypes of love. Delving beyond traditional roles, she navigates two common archetypes that hinder intimacy: the parent-child dynamic and the project manager approach. By embracing the essence of "being" over constant "doing," listeners learn to infuse presence into every interaction, fostering deeper relationships. The episode inspires self-awareness, promoting emotional growth and...
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139. Compromise In Marriage Can Be Very Sneaky
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Intimacy Coach Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares profound insights to help you recognize how varied compromise in marriage can be, and how to let it go. Instead, embrace uncompromising intimacy and all the lusciousness that comes with it! Discover the power of honoring and expressing your authentic desires, while respecting your partner's wishes. Learn how to break free from unconscious habits of compromise and foster transparent communication instead. Uncover the keys to building a collaborative and adult-to-adult relationship, deep emotional...
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138. Love, Risk, And Business: An Intense Journey In Personal And Professional Growth | w/ Joshua And Rachel Lee
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Intimacy Coach Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is joined by Joshua and Rachel Lee, a dynamic power couple, who share their rich journey involving both personal and professional growth. Joshua's entrepreneurial successes, including working with MySpace, taught him the importance of finding purpose beyond monetary success. Rachel, a branding expert extraordinaire, emphasizes the value of authenticity in corporate life. Together, they describe unexpectedly falling in love while living in different cities and needing to overcome unanticipated challenges...
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137. How To Elevate Married Sex From Good To Great With Expertise From An Intimacy Coach
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra delves into the topic of enhancing and enjoying your married sex life and how to go from just “good” to “absolutely great.” She emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication about sex, including sharing your personal experience and desires with your partner. Alexandra provides practical tips on how to initiate conversations about sex, such as starting with positive memories and desires. She also discusses the profound impact that talking about sex can have on emotional and physical intimacy in a long-lasting...
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136. Juicy, Straightforward, And Sophisticated: A Conversation On Pleasure And Eroticism | w/ Ruan Willow
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra shares a recording of an interview she did with Ruan Willow on her podcast. The episode explores topics such as uncompromising intimacy, libido mismatch, eroticism, and the importance of bringing all elements of oneself to a relationship, including heart, mind, and genitals. Ruan is an erotica author and a romance novelist, with a smooth silky voice. She’s comfortable talking about all aspects of sex and sexuality and asked some excellent questions, which makes for a deep, precise, and excellent conversation. Alexandra...
info_outlineOftentimes, when we ask our spouses for something, it can lead to disappointment, frustration and feeling that your spouse doesn’t care about your wants and needs. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m sharing four steps to use to improve communication when asking your partner for what you want, using the example of couples coaching. This is not a method to manipulate your partner. Rather, it’s a way to improve communication by respecting your partner’s experience while simultaneously establishing the importance of your desires, and ultimately getting what you want.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- [00:48] How to ask for what you want
- [03:56] Scenarios when a partner is seeking couples coaching
- [10:30] Step 1: Start with an opt-in
- [13:18] Step 2: Affirm your marriage
- [14:48] Step 3: Share areas of improvement within your marriage
- [16:27] Step 4: Introduce Alexandra and couples coaching
- [16:51] Tips for how to communicate with your spouse
- [18:23] Another option for improving communication and your marriage
- [20:59] Reviewing the four steps plus how these steps can improve other conversations your and your partners have about your life together
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- Today’s episode discusses how to tell your spouse what you want. I specifically talk about how to communicate about couples coaching, but the tips shared can be applied to many other areas in marriage.
- Start by getting an opt-in, meaning you want your partner to have a choice in starting the conversation.
- Affirm your spouse and marriage in a genuine way. Share specific things that you enjoy about your spouse and your marriage.
- Transition to asking how your marriage could be better. Share specific areas that you think need attention or improvement, and ask your spouse if they agree.
- Share that couples coaching is a good way to create positive change.
- If your spouse still says no to couples coaching, try asking if they will participate in a 15 minute call with me. Oftentimes, a quick call will show them that I'm not committed to doing things the way you’ve described. I'm committed to doing things in a way that works for both of you..
Links Mentioned:
Desires: Awaken the Woman Within: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/
Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl
The Aligned and Hot Marriage program: https://www.alignedhotmarriage.com/
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