Episode 133: Marriage Advice for Newlyweds and Beyond
Release Date: 01/23/2022
Episode 230: A Grown Up Love Story: Adoption after Later Stages
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Summary: Today, we’re joined by Leah and Brian from the Gift of Adoption Fund to explore how families are supported as they welcome youth who have faced adversity into permanent, loving homes. With more than 6,500 children served and over $22 million in adoption funding provided, their work is creating tangible pathways to stability and belonging. While many people associate adoption with infants, this conversation broadens the lens to highlight critical needs within our communities. Leah and Brian share their personal journeys into adoption advocacy, what drew them to this work, and the...
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Episode 229: ENOLA: You're Not Alone
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Summary: Isolation is one of the most consistent challenges we hear from the young adults we serve. Many feel like they are navigating life on their own, and that sense of disconnection doesn’t just affect them—it impacts their families as well. In this episode, we explore what it looks like to break that isolation and how we can step in with meaningful support. We’re joined by Wendi Cross, author of Not Forgotten and CEO of xHope. Wendi shares how her personal journey—including adoption, ministry, and building community—shaped her passion for helping others experience connection....
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Episode 228: Empowering Vulnerable Youth in Uncertain Times - Estefana Johnson
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Summary: In a time marked by division and uncertainty, today’s conversation confronts a hard reality. Many of the youth we care about are struggling to find their footing. Fragmentation across culture, ideology, and community has not just created tension. It has created confusion for young people trying to navigate identity, belonging, and direction. Ignoring it is not an option. This episode invites a direct and honest discussion about what we are seeing on the ground. As adults, whether leaders, parents, mentors, or caregivers, we carry a responsibility to move beyond observation and...
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Episode 227: Finding Strength in Our Shared Stories
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Summary: In this episode, we explore how parents and caregivers can find strength, encouragement, and resilience through shared experiences with others who understand their journey. Parenting—especially within the foster care community—can sometimes feel isolating, but connection with others who have walked a similar path can provide the support and perspective families need to keep moving forward. Joining the conversation is Ricky Denwood, who has served the foster care community in many roles. As a foster parent, adoptive dad, parent trainer, and community advocate, Ricky brings both...
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Episode 226: Crisis Intersection: Policing with Compassion
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Summary: When a mental health crisis escalates to the point of police involvement, most families feel overwhelmed, unprepared, and unsure of what happens next. In this episode, we step into that difficult space with clarity and practical guidance. Youth mental health concerns are rising at alarming rates. Data from the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that 40% of high school students report persistent sadness or hopelessness, and 18% have experienced major depression. At the same time, 53% of public schools report an increase in students seeking mental health support. For youth who have...
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Episode 225: Navigating Connection in Out-of-Home Placement
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Summary: When a child can’t stay at home, families are often left asking one painful question: how do we stay connected without making things harder? In this episode, we talk about how families can stay emotionally connected when a child is placed in out-of-home care. Whether a child is receiving temporary services or more intensive wrap-around support, separation from the home can be one of the most challenging experiences for families—especially those connected to foster care, residential treatment, or therapeutic services. We’re joined by returning guest Estefana Johnson, a licensed...
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Episode 224: Focus In, Freak Out Less
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Summary: In this episode of the Fostering Voices podcast, Brian and Kim explore what happens when we shift our focus inward—toward what we can control, what we need, and how we choose to respond—and how that shift shapes our relationships with others. They kick things off with a few real-life moments we can all relate to, from navigating chaotic drivers to the unique stress of New Year’s Eve, using these everyday experiences as a springboard for deeper reflection. From there, the conversation turns toward intentionality: how we want to show up in the world, the power of choosing our...
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Episode 223: The Unofficial 2025 Recap - Vehon Version
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Summary: Happy 2026! In this reflective kickoff episode, Brian and Kim look back on 2025 through their shared perspective as the Vehons—an honest conversation about a year that taught them deeply, stretched them unexpectedly, and surprised them with moments of real joy. Together, they unpack what 2025 revealed: the lessons that shaped them, the challenges that pushed them beyond their comfort zones, and the places where joy showed up in meaningful ways. From there, they turn the corner toward the new year, naming what they are intentionally carrying forward into 2026—and what they are...
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Episode 222: Trauma Parenting Will Expose Your Scars
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Summary: In this episode, you’re invited into a personal, honest conversation about what really happens when you say yes to trauma parenting. Peter Mutabazi joins you for a heartfelt discussion about why fostering doesn’t just change the lives of children—it changes the adults who step in for them. If you’re fostering now or considering stepping into this world, this episode speaks directly to you. Peter shares how his journey began as a ten-year-old homeless child in Uganda and how the kindness of others shaped the man he is today. He opens up about becoming a foster parent to more...
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Episode 221: November’s Presidential Executive Order: Fostering the Future
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Summary: In this week’s episode of Fostering Voices, Kim and Brian dig into the recent presidential executive order released on November 13th: Fostering the Future for American Children and Families. After receiving many questions about what the order means for the foster care community, Kim and Brian break down the key components, highlight potential benefits, and raise important concerns. They begin with an overview of the order’s call to modernize the child welfare system, including improved data collection, better information sharing, and enhanced collaboration with non-government...
info_outlineMarriage is something we love to talk about, because it truly does help foster kids, and adoptive kids, and your bio kids to feel like they are in a safe and healthy home. The things that make marriages awesome are great communication and even great community!
We are happy to have been able to host a Marriage Shower for Cate and Josh this week, and that’s what prompted this episode. We start with why we have showers and gatherings, then we get into the advice that was shared at the shower.
Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
1:13 - Today's Topic – Marriage
10:42 - Bits of Wisdom Shared at Wedding Shower
18:40 - Our Sponsor – Showit!
19:00 - More Marriage Wisdom
28:48 - Good Word Of The Day!!!
Marriage:
Marriage is something we love to talk about, because it truly does help foster kids, and adoptive kids, and your bio kids to feel like they are in a safe and healthy home. The things that make marriages awesome are great communication and even great community!
We are happy to have been able to host a Marriage Shower for Cate and Josh this week, and that’s what prompted this episode. We start with why we have showers and gatherings, then we get into the advice that was shared at the shower.
The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
“This book will forever alter the way you look at your next meeting, industry conference, dinner party, and backyard barbecue—and how you host and attend them.”
Advice:
Don’t think you are competing or deserve something for serving your spouse. You are on the same team, not keeping score of stuff that doesn’t exist, so set your spouse up for success. Have grace.
Envisioning your spouse in the other team’s jersey is not healthy. Referenced Outward Mindset again, by the Arbinger Institute. Very important to have a healthy mindset in marriage!
Surround yourself with great community in every season that will point you to Jesus. Desperate need for Jesus to make your marriage work - humility is necessary. And ask for help. Steadiness, and pointing others to truth. Be a safe place to confess things to each other and confess everything to each other.
When you feel like things are coasting, that’s when things fall apart. Communicate frustrations so they don’t pile up. God created us with emotions. Part of emotion is connection. Learn how to understand what emotions are happening helps build intimacy. Untangling Emotions is a good book.
Allow yourself to go to bed angry. Think of marriage as a team sport- be willing to shift to cover. Go to bed at the same time- it’s hard to have sex in different rooms. Decide roles (who is in charge of finances), decide how you will communicate about money.
Of course, since this is a wedding shower, we talked about sex:
Communicate desires and drives ahead of time.
And “tiredness is the enemy of sex”, which is a good word from Grandma Watson
Good Word of the Day:
Say what you mean. 'It's fine', is never fine.
– From Cate and Josh’s Wedding Shower
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Good word of the day:
“It’s fine” is never fine.
Establish common communication habits. Say what you mean. Truth and love in communication.