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Things Others Never Even Have To Think About - Grief & Identity

Grief Out Loud

Release Date: 07/18/2022

One In A Million show art One In A Million

Grief Out Loud

When your parent is one of six people in medical history to be diagnosed with and die from a rare disease, the phrase, "The odds are one in a million" takes on a very different meaning. This was true for Rebecca Hobbs-Lawrence, Pathways Program Coordinator at Dougy Center, who was 11 when her father died of heart cancer. At that point, she decided that if something tragic could happen, it would most likely happen to her. This worldview informed so much of how she approached school, dating, family, and becoming a parent.  In this conversation we explore: The early days of being a parent...

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The (Not) Most Wonderful Time Of The Year - Holidays & Grief Mini-Episode show art The (Not) Most Wonderful Time Of The Year - Holidays & Grief Mini-Episode

Grief Out Loud

For a lot of us, the end of year holidays + grief = the (not) most wonderful time of the year. Rebecca Hobbs-Lawrence, Pathways Program & Group Coordinator at Dougy Center, is back for our annual Holidays & Grief episode. We discuss negotiating with family and friends around how we want to celebrate or not celebrate and how the past few years have shifted our priorities. Rebecca also shares how she and her family are approaching the holidays with a new type of grief, her mother having Alzheimer's.  If you missed our past Holidays & Grief episodes, be sure to listen to Ep. , , and .  ...

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Grief Doesn't Fit In A Box, But You Can Make A List - What's Your Grief show art Grief Doesn't Fit In A Box, But You Can Make A List - What's Your Grief

Grief Out Loud

Have you found it difficult to read anything longer than a paragraph since your person died? It's a phenomenon familiar, both personally and professionally, to Eleanor Haley, MS & Litsa Williams, MA, LCSW-C. Eleanor & Litsa started the community back in 2012 as a way to create the kind of grief resources they most needed in their own lives and for the clients they supported. They just published their first book, , and it will come as no surprise that it's filled with lists designed to help you better absorb information about grief from death and non-death losses.   If you...

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"These Relationships Matter" - Grieving The Death Of A Pet

Grief Out Loud

We deliberated for a long time about whether it was appropriate for us to do an episode on pet loss. We know from those grieving the death of a person that it can hurt when someone tries to relate to their loss by sharing about their pet who died. We also know that grief is grief. Pets bring us joy and laughter and frustration and tears and love - just like humans do. In the end we decided to do this episode because we want to honor that for many people, their pets are family members, and the grief when one of them dies is real and valid and worthy of recognition and support. As our guest,...

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Celebrating Día de Los Muertos show art Celebrating Día de Los Muertos

Grief Out Loud

Día de Los Muertos, or “Day of the Dead,” is a two-day holiday to remember family members and friends who have died. Día de Los Muertos has origins throughout Mexico and parts of Latin America, and is celebrated on November 1 and 2. The holiday is not a version of Halloween, but rather an enduring ritual celebrated since ancient times. Valenca Valenzuela, MSW, Volunteer Coordinator at Dougy Center, joins us to talk about the history of Día de Los Muertos, her personal connection to the holiday, and how people from all traditions can respectfully celebrate Día de Los Muertos by honoring...

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"They Were Part Of My Firefighter Family" - Grieving A Coworker

Grief Out Loud

Charlie Tull has two lives, but he's not deceiving anyone. There's his civilian one that he lives with his kids and family and there's his professional one that he spends with his firefighter family. In 2018, one of his fire family members, Eli, died of a heart condition. Three years later in 2021, another member of his fire family, Scott, died of COVID. Charlie's first reaction to both of these shocking and unexpected deaths was numbness. Then, he went underground with his grief. Over time though he realized he needed and wanted to honor Eli and Scott by talking about them - and about the...

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Caring For A Parent At The End Of Life - Mark Chesnut & Prepare for Departure show art Caring For A Parent At The End Of Life - Mark Chesnut & Prepare for Departure

Grief Out Loud

is a NYC-based journalist, editor, and public speaker. His book, is about love and care and acceptance – not the infamous acceptance from the 5 stages of grief – but the acceptance that can happen between a mother and son when one of their lives is coming to an end. This episode travels to a lot of places, including: What Mark learned about grief from his mother after his father died. How those lessons shaped the way he approached caring for her and grieving her death. How Mark moved into a place of acceptance with his mother for the ways she responded when he came out to her as a young...

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The Awkwardness Around Grief Is International show art The Awkwardness Around Grief Is International

Grief Out Loud

This was meant to be a story about grieving in a foreign land. A story about navigating cancer treatment and funeral planning in a different language. And, it is that story, but it it's also the story of the accumulation of loss and grief. Rebecca was 22 when her mother died of cancer. She was 23 when her fiancé died in a car crash, leaving her with their two young children. In the 8 years since she's also had a number of family members and friends die. In talking with Rebecca, you would think she is decades older based on the number of deaths she's experienced. This ended up being a story of...

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"We Did Everything We Could Not To Be Here"

Grief Out Loud

This is a story about the people behind the numbers. A new study came out this week (September, 2022) estimating that 10.5 million children, across the globe, are grieving the death of a parent or caregiver from COVID-19. Lissa and Bryce's children are four of those. Bryce died in late December, 2021, after weeks in the hospital, receiving treatment for COVID-19. Throughout Bryce's illness and since his death, Lissa has done everything she can to answer her children's questions honestly and let them know they are in this together. She's also had to find ways to make space for herself to grieve...

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Grief Out Loud

Adam Stevens, RDT, (he/they), knows grief. He grew up in a family of five. A family that is now a family of one. Adam brings this deep knowing of grief to his work as the Program Manager for Bereavement and Mental Health Services at the , where he supports primarily BIPOC queer & trans youth in transforming grief & the pain of loss through creative arts therapy.  We talk about: How Adam came to work with grief & loss. What Drama Therapy is.  Adam's work at Hetrick-Martin Institute supporting LGBTQIA+ youth in being seen and heard in their grief.  The collective losses the youth...

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Everett's spent the last few years trying to access and process the emotions that come with grief. Emotions that he learned to push aside when he was 12 and his father died. Emotions he didn't know how to make sense of in his early twenties when his brother died. Emotions he was better able to feel and express to when his grandmother died just this past winter. 
Grief doesn't happen in a vacuum and that is particularly true for those who have aspects of their identity that are marginalized by others. For Everett, growing up poor and being trans are two of these aspects that add layers to his grief. Layers that those who don't carry these aspects never even have to think about. 
Note: this episode mentions suicide. If you or someone you know if struggling, please reach out for support. 
National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 988
TransLifeline: 1-877-565-8860
Crisis Text Line: text HELLO to 741741