499 | The Grieving Process - Supporting Employees Through Loss with Kim Hamer
Own Your Choices Own Your Life
Release Date: 01/19/2023
Own Your Choices Own Your Life
In this episode, I share some thoughts on how self-sabotage is not merely a sign of weakness or failure, but rather a form of self-protection driven by our subconscious mind. When we find ourselves on the brink of progress, it's common to experience a pullback into old patterns. I want to help you understand why this happens. I challenge the traditional narrative around self-sabotage by encouraging listeners to ask more empowering questions. Instead of questioning, "Why am I doing this?"—which can lead to feelings of shame—I suggest we ask, "What is my subconscious trying to tell me?" This...
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In this episode, I share some thoughts on doubt and how much space it takes up in our lives. Doubt can occupy a significant portion of our lives, often overshadowing our sense of certainty and self-confidence. This episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and regulating our emotions, particularly doubt, which can feel like a volcano ready to erupt. I share personal anecdotes about my journey, illustrating that even when it seems like others have it all together, they, too, grapple with similar feelings of uncertainty. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Weight of Doubt 00:03:00 - Doubt vs....
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In this episode, I speak with Virginia Ehrlich. Virginia is the owner and founder of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small-town economies and the businesses that sustain them. Every item we feature in our seasonal boxes is made or designed in a small town in Canada with fewer than 30,000 residents. Virginia embodies the spirit of small towns, big dreams. As the founder and owner of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small town economies, she has partnered with over 150 small businesses since launching in...
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In this episode, I am sharing the message of being "cracked open" by life's challenges and how these moments can lead to personal growth and clarity. I begin by sharing a powerful quote from Rebecca Campbell's book, "Light is the New Black," which emphasizes the importance of embracing the things that break us down, as they ultimately allow the light to shine through. This is a personal episode as I share the story of my husband, Brad, a Master’s Olympic lifter, who faced a serious injury during a competition. As he set national records, he suffered a painful elbow injury that required...
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on the concept of readiness and how it is a lie. I challenge the notion that we must feel 100% ready before starting new ventures. Drawing from personal experiences, I emphasize that readiness often results from taking the leap, not a prerequisite. I encourage listeners to reflect on their own lives and consider times when they felt prepared entirely—chances are, those moments are few and far between. I also touch on the significance of identity work, urging listeners to envision the person they aspire to be and to act as if they are already that...
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In this episode, I connect with Rebecca Ogilvie. Rebecca is a Mother, entrepreneur, and advocate for women’s empowerment. She believes life keeps getting better and is passionate about helping women create a life they love. Her journey began with her transformation. After years of prioritizing others, she reconnected with herself through small, intentional rituals—starting with skincare. That experience shaped her mission: to help women see their strengths, celebrate themselves, and embrace self-care as an act of self-respect. Through her skincare brand, The Detour Co, Rebecca reminds...
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In this episode, I highlight the importance of awareness in recognizing these limiting beliefs. I discuss how our subconscious can drive us back to familiar patterns, often leading to self-sabotage. I encourage listeners to confront these thoughts and reframe them, asking themselves whether they are valid. Doing so can interrupt the negative loops that keep us from reaching our full potential. Things can become easier, but they never truly become easy. As we grow, we often confront subconscious beliefs that can hinder our progress. I candidly share my experiences of feeling nervous and...
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In this episode, I explore how we can shift our mindset from feeling like an imposter to embracing our authority. I start by posing a thought-provoking question: How would you like to perceive imposter syndrome differently? I emphasize that authority doesn't have to be a triggering term; it can simply mean owning your life and your message. Throughout the episode, I discuss the common reasons behind imposter syndrome, such as caring deeply about our work and comparing ourselves to others who seem more experienced. I highlight the importance of recognizing that we often compare our beginning to...
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Today, I speak with Charlotte Grimmel. Charlotte is a psychologist (MSc) and holistic business coach who has helped thousands master the invisible patterns that hold them back. Through her coaching practice and platform @themindfriend (168k+ followers), she turns deep psychological insights into practical tools for overcoming self-sabotage, perfectionism, and paralyzing self-doubt. Known for her direct yet compassionate approach, she shows people how to transform their relationship with their minds instead of fighting themselves. By combining expertise in psychology with real-world experience,...
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In this episode, I dive into how big you allow yourself to dream. Where do you see yourself in two to three years? Will you live your dream, or will you still be in the planning, thinking, or avoiding phases? Throughout the episode, I emphasize the role of our subconscious mind in shaping our beliefs and goals. Many people settle for comfortable and familiar aspirations, but I urge you to break free from that mindset. By examining your past achievements and recognizing how far you've come, you can begin to dream beyond what you think is possible. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Importance of...
info_outlineIn this episode we are speaking with HR Director/Management, Kim Hamer. On April 16, 2009, Kim watched her 44-yr-old husband take his last breath. During his illness and after his death, she was amazed by the helpful ways their coworkers, bosses, friends, and family supported them. Kim started calling their kind actions "acts of love".
After the death of her husband, Kim, an HR leader, noticed how little guidance leaders received when navigating cancer, health crises, or death on their team. She knew their lack of knowledge negatively affected morale, employee engagement, and productivity. She set out to change that. Combining her personal experience with her professional knowledge and leadership skills, Kim launched her business to support leaders and coworkers when cancer (or any health crisis) affects a team member.
Kim Hamer is the author of 100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss, an easy-to-read book filled with 100 practical, quick, and effective ways to support a friend or coworker. She’s also an HR leader and speaker who lives in Los Angeles where she tries not to bother her relatively well-behaved college-aged children.
In this episode we discuss:
1) Kim’s story, how her family navigated the loss of her husband and how she recognized there was very little support in the workplace for families experiencing a loss, as well as helping HR and companies with how they can support these families.
2) Kim’s story inspired her to write and release, 100 Acts of Love, as well as resources of What Not to Say, this is inspired to support people in how to help others through the grieving process.
Connect with Kim
Email: [email protected]
Website: https://www.100actsoflove.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.hamer
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/100actsoflove/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimthamer
Website: https://www.100actsoflove.com/
Book: https://www.100actsoflove.com/shop
Resources: https://www.100actsoflove.com/whatnottosay
Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others