Own Your Choices Own Your Life

Welcome to the podcast, "Own Your Choices Own Your Life". Your host, Marsha Vanwynsberghe is a Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the Bestselling Book, "When She Stopped Asking Why". On this podcast, we will share the tips, tools and strategies used by our guests to breakthrough and overcome the challenges in their lives. Marsha is on a mission to educate, empower and inspire you to recognize that when you truly own your choices, you own your life.

874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading 06/27/2025

874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading In this episode, I share my thoughts on the common tendency to chase after goals—reaching a new income level, achieving a sold-out offer, or becoming the version of ourselves we aspire to be. I emphasize that instead of chasing these external validations, we should focus on becoming the person who embodies those goals. Chasing often stems from a place of lack, where we seek external validation to feel worthy. I share stories of individuals who achieved their goals only to find that they still felt unfulfilled, highlighting the importance of internal validation. Throughout the episode, I explore leading from identity rather than chasing lack. I discuss how our nervous systems can become anxious when we feel we are not enough, leading to a constant state of seeking safety and validation. I encourage listeners to reflect on their definitions of success and safety and how these beliefs shape their actions. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Commonality of Feelings 00:02:00 - Shifting from Chasing to Becoming 00:03:00 - Understanding Internal Safety 00:04:00 - Signs of Chasing from Lack 00:05:00 - Reinforcing Identity vs. Lack 00:06:00 - The Power of Feeling Safe to Receive 00:07:00 - Future Pacing and Visualization 00:08:00 - Leading from the Inside Out Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/37175255

873 | The Impact of CanFund and the Art of Giving Back with Jane Roos 06/26/2025

873 | The Impact of CanFund and the Art of Giving Back with Jane Roos In this episode, I speak with Jane Roos, CAN Fund Founder, Artist, Speaker, and Gallery Owner. Jane's journey is nothing short of inspiring, as she shares her life story, which took a dramatic turn at a young age when she was involved in a tragic car accident that claimed the life of her best friend. This pivotal moment forced Jane to reevaluate her life and ultimately led her to discover her true purpose. Jane describes how she has always been an entrepreneur, influenced by her athletic and artistic family background. Despite the challenges she faced after the accident, including multiple surgeries and the loss of her athletic and modelling careers, Jane found a way to channel her experiences into something positive. She founded CanFund, a charity dedicated to supporting Canadian athletes by providing them with financial assistance to pursue their dreams of competing on the world stage. Jane emphasizes the importance of understanding one's "why" and living intentionally. She reflects on how the accident shifted her perspective, allowing her to appreciate life more deeply and encouraging her to help others. Jane's passion for supporting athletes is evident as she discusses CanFund's impact over the years, helping over 8,000 athletes achieve their goals. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:22 - Living with Intention 00:00:50 - The Life-Altering Car Accident 00:02:10 - Reinventing After Tragedy 00:06:07 - Shifting Perspectives on Life 00:07:01 - The Importance of 'Be, Do, Have' 00:08:48 - Navigating Recovery and Self-Doubt 00:10:01 - The Loneliness After the Accident 00:11:39 - The Birth of CanFund 00:12:31 - CanFund's Mission and Impact 00:13:40 - Fundraising for Athletes 00:17:00 - CanFund's Community and Support 00:18:35 - The Role of Donors in Athlete Success 00:19:29 - CanFund's Unique Approach 00:20:54 - CanFund 150 Women Initiative 00:27:57 - Empowering Female Athletes 00:32:36 - The Power of Community and Collaboration 00:34:01 - Artistic Expression and Commissions 00:43:00 - Celebrating Canadian Accomplishments Through Art Connect with Jane Email: [email protected]. Email: [email protected] Website: https://Website: What services, products or items do you offer? One Word. One Country. One Collaboration Painting. For the first time in history, Canadians from coast to coast are invited to share one word that captures what Canada means to them. Each is a personal reflection that will bring these words together in a first-of-its-kind collaborative painting titled Who We Are by artist Jane Roos, which tells the story of who we are as a country. This is a national celebration of our collective identity, unity, and pride. Let’s rally behind our country one word at a time. Canadians can submit their word(s) from now until the July 19th deadline by visiting: To submit their word, it is a $25 donation to CANFund to support the athletes who wear the Maple Leaf on the world stage. Each word will be included in the final painting, and every donation will receive a tax receipt, along with the name of the athlete supported. Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/37155760

872 | When the War Inside You Ends 06/24/2025

871 | When You Speak, You Heal 06/20/2025

870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson 06/18/2025

870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson Today, I am speaking with Podcast Host, Travis Robinson. Travis’ life might seem defined by obstacles. Diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he’s faced relentless challenges—some expected, like mobility struggles, and others completely unforeseen, like losing his home and all of his photography gear in the Eaton fire. But rather than letting these hardships define him, Travis has built a life that proves limitations are meant to be challenged. Highlights: 00:01:00 - Travis's Diagnosis 00:02:30 - The Growing Concern of Parkinson's 00:04:30 - Facing the Diagnosis 00:06:30 - Starting the Podcast 00:08:30 - The Impact of the Podcast 00:10:30 - Living with Parkinson's 00:11:30 - Personal Loss 00:13:30 - Evacuation Experience 00:15:30 - Resilience and Perspective 00:16:30 - No Value in Self-Pity 00:18:30 - Support for Those with Parkinson's 00:20:30 - Understanding Parkinson's 00:23:00 - The Power of Kindness 00:25:00 - Travis's Creative Pursuits 00:27:00 - Mountaineering with Parkinson's 00:29:00 - Photography Journey 00:31:00 - Living Life to the Fullest 00:33:00 - Final Thoughts and Lessons Connect with Travis Website: Website: Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in April 2025) Join the OUTSPOKEN NLP In-Person Intensive (June 9th-13th), Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/37064890

869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet 06/16/2025

869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem from a subconscious desire for safety and protection from exposure. It's crucial to recognize that the intent behind these fears is to keep you safe, but they can also prevent you from sharing your truth and helping others. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Writing Your Book 00:01:00 - The Statistics of Aspiring Authors 00:02:00 - Overcoming Mental Barriers 00:03:00 - The Importance of Strategy vs. Mindset 00:04:00 - Fear and Doubt in Writing 00:05:00 - Identifying Hidden Fears 00:06:00 - Shifting Focus from Self to Reader 00:07:00 - Reframing Your Beliefs 00:08:00 - Creating a Safe Writing Environment 00:09:00 - Visualizing Success 00:10:00 - The Bigger Picture of Sharing Your Story 00:11:00 - Training Your Nervous System 00:12:00 - Engaging Your Audience Early 00:13:00 - Collaborative Book Opportunities Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/37019845

868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring 06/13/2025

867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin 06/12/2025

867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking action and ultimately receiving the results. HIGHLIGHTS 00:03:40 - The Concept of Be, Do, Have 00:05:00 - Identity and Mindset 00:08:10 - The Power of Imagination 00:10:30 - Fear and Habits 00:12:30 - Breaking Free from Identity 00:15:00 - Gratitude and Abundance 00:17:00 - Practicing Gratitude 00:19:30 - The Importance of Water and Energy 00:22:00 - Personal Journey and Transformation 00:25:00 - The Power of Choice 00:28:00 - Authenticity and Impact 00:30:00 - Patterns and Self-Talk 00:33:00 - Perspective on Death 00:36:00 - Living with Purpose 00:39:00 - Manifesting Backwards 00:44:00 - Empowerment and Creation Connect with Jim Website: Instagram: Free Gift for you: /marsha Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36968850

866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned 06/09/2025

865 | Reclaiming Your Power: The Metaphor of the Plug and the Wall 06/06/2025

865 | Reclaiming Your Power: The Metaphor of the Plug and the Wall In this episode, I share the power of metaphors and how they can help us understand our subconscious mind. I share a compelling metaphor involving two electrical outlets, one representing our past and the other our future. On the left side, we have the "old plug," connected to our daily thoughts, old patterns, and negative beliefs—essentially everything that has shaped who we are up to this point. This side is familiar and feels safe, but it often keeps us in a negative cycle. On the right side, we have the "new plug," which symbolizes our future potential, aspirations, and the identity we are striving to become. This outlet is connected to our visions and the possibilities that lie ahead. Every thought we have throughout the day is like a choice to plug into one of these outlets. The challenge is becoming aware of which plug we are connecting to and consciously choosing the one that aligns with our desired future. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Metaphors 00:00:12 - The Concept of Two Plugs 00:00:43 - Old Thoughts and Patterns 00:01:37 - The Future Plug 00:02:30 - Choosing Your Plug 00:03:45 - Reinforcing Neural Pathways 00:04:58 - Conscious Awareness and Unplugging 00:06:22 - Empowerment and Energy 00:07:25 - Changing Your Story 00:08:08 - Becoming Your Future Self Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36861055

864 | WORDS YOU Speak and Think Matter with Krista Lee Curtis 06/05/2025

864 | WORDS YOU Speak and Think Matter with Krista Lee Curtis In this episode, I connect with CEO & FOUNDER of the DBL JEWELLERY EMPOWERMENT MOVEMENT, KRISTA LEE. Krista is the visionary founder of a luxury women’s empowerment jewelry brand dedicated to inspiring women to embrace their strength, self-worth, and purpose. Her journey began after overcoming personal struggles, including depression and body dysmorphia, finding healing through creativity and the power of words. She believes that everything we need is already within us—we just have to take the steps forward each day toward our dreams. Through her transformative jewelry, she empowers women to trust their inner guidance, embrace their calling, and show up for themselves confidently and purposefully. HIGHLIGHTS 00:05:30 - The Power of Colour and Self-Expression 00:10:00 - Hiding in Plain Sight 00:15:00 - Postpartum Struggles and Rock Bottom 00:20:00 - The Healing Power of Writing 00:25:00 - Creating Jewelry as a Form of Empowerment 00:30:00 - The Evolution of the Jewelry Business 00:35:00 - Colour Nation and Seasonal Collections 00:40:00 - Vision for the Future 00:45:00 - Navigating Fear of Success Connect with Krista Lee Instagram: Email: Website: We have a luxury jewellery brand, each Piece 🖤🖤🖤🖤 designed to uplift, inspire, and encourage women to be all that they are… You can shop any of these pieces directly on our website … Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36853825

863 | You Don’t Chase the Vision — You Become It First 06/02/2025

863 | You Don’t Chase the Vision — You Become It First In this episode, I share the concept of becoming the version of ourselves that can hold our dreams before we chase them. Our nervous systems must feel safe and regulated to pursue our goals effectively. If we rush into chasing what we want without first anchoring into our identity, we risk operating from a place of lack rather than power. I share my journey of deciding to publish "Unreserved," highlighting the month I took to reflect on whether I was ready for such a significant commitment. This pause allowed me to assess my beliefs, emotional state, and the blocks that could hinder my ability to lead and sustain the energy of this project. If we chase our goals without addressing our internal barriers, we may experience burnout, self-sabotage, and the inability to sustain the results we are constructing and creating. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Welcome and Book Launch Reflections 00:01:15 - The Importance of Becoming Before Doing 00:02:50 - Understanding the Nervous System and Subconscious Mind 00:05:06 - Anchoring into Identity Before Pursuing Goals 00:06:31 - Addressing Limiting Beliefs and Inner Resistance 00:08:07 - Regulating Your Nervous System for Success 00:09:32 - Stacking Wins and Building Confidence 00:10:25 - Moving from Clarity, Not Chaos 00:11:18 - Preparing Your Nervous System for New Experiences 00:12:53 - Building a Solid Foundation for Sustainable Success 00:14:08 - The Importance of Rest and Reintegration Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36810735

862 | Identity Work Isn’t a One-Time Breakthrough 05/30/2025

862 | Identity Work Isn’t a One-Time Breakthrough In this episode, I share the journey of identity work and the ongoing process of breaking down limiting beliefs. After the exhilarating experience of the unreserved book launch party, which involved coordinating with 24 different authors and connecting with women from around the globe, I reflect on the personal growth from such expansive experiences. I emphasize that identity work is not a one-time breakthrough but rather a continuous process of chipping away at the concrete walls of limiting beliefs we have built over the years, if not decades. I share a powerful metaphor: just as you cannot smash through a thick concrete wall in one swing, you must chip away at it gradually. This analogy illustrates how we can shift our identities by consistently challenging and replacing our limiting beliefs. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Process of Identity Expansion 00:02:00 - Understanding Breakthroughs 00:03:00 - Chipping Away at Limiting Beliefs 00:04:00 - The Role of the Subconscious Mind 00:05:00 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs 00:06:00 - Rewiring Beliefs 00:07:00 - Finding Evidence of Change 00:08:00 - Anchoring New Beliefs 00:09:00 - Daily Commitment to Change 00:10:00 - The Decision to Change 00:11:00 - Final Thoughts and Support Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36761155

861 | It's Never Too Late to Reparent Yourself with Johanna Gordon 05/29/2025

861 | It's Never Too Late to Reparent Yourself with Johanna Gordon In this episode, I connect with Health and Wellness Coach Johanna Gordon. In 2019, Johanna experienced the heartbreaking loss of her mother to cancer after years of struggling with alcoholism. This loss was the catalyst of Johanna's healing journey, prompting her to seek therapeutic avenues and ultimately leading her to reevaluate her life choices. She candidly shared her feelings of stagnation and the realization that she needed to make significant changes to live a more fulfilling life. This profound loss deeply affected her, inspiring a renewed commitment to prioritize her mental and emotional health. Johanna’s healing journey became transformative, strengthening her dedication to nurturing her physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Along the way, she explored various therapeutic modalities and discovered a passion for supporting others in their own health journeys. Her perspective on reparenting oneself and nurturing the inner child resonated deeply, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and acceptance. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:29 - Johanna's Background 00:01:51 - Understanding Biohacking 00:02:51 - Cellular Health Explained 00:03:51 - Personal Experiences with Biohacking 00:05:14 - Client Success Stories 00:05:26 - Practicing What You Preach 00:06:30 - The Importance of Parasympathetic State 00:09:02 - Tools for Managing Stress 00:10:36 - The Impact of High Cortisol Levels 00:11:30 - Emotional Awareness and Healing 00:13:39 - Coping with Loss and Trauma 00:15:08 - Building a New Life 00:24:08 - Lessons from Grief 00:26:07 - Healing Generational Trauma 00:27:44 - Navigating Grief 00:30:07 - Embracing Emotions 00:32:14 - Changing the Narrative 00:34:45 - Future Aspirations Connect with Johanna Email: Instagram: Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36761045

860 | How to Shift from Lack to Abundance 05/26/2025

859 | You're Seeing What You're Programmed to Look For 05/23/2025

859 | You're Seeing What You're Programmed to Look For In this episode, I share thoughts on perception and how our brains filter the overwhelming amount of information we encounter daily. I start by expressing my gratitude to listeners for their support and shares, emphasizing the importance of being open to new perspectives and solutions that may be hidden from our view. I introduce the idea that we are not seeing reality as it truly is; instead, we only perceive what we are programmed to look for. With our brains processing 11 million bits of information every second, our conscious minds can only handle about 40 to 50 bits at a time. This means that what we consciously perceive is merely a fraction—0.0004%—of the reality around us. I explain how our brains delete, distort, and generalize information based on our beliefs and focus, which can significantly limit our understanding of the wrld. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:12 - Perception of Reality 00:00:45 - Information Overload 00:01:59 - Conscious vs. Subconscious Processing 00:03:06 - The Role of Filters 00:04:31 - The Reticular Activating System (RAS) 00:06:38 - Examples of Perception 00:08:04 - Beliefs and Interpretation 00:09:10 - Shifting Your Mindset 00:10:47 - Finding Solutions 00:12:25 - Stacking Wins Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36642770

858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla 05/22/2025

858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla In this episode, I am connecting with Tesa Arcilla. Tesa has never taken the conventional route—personally or professionally. A journalist by training and driven by an insatiable curiosity, she has lived and worked across multiple continents, carving out a career that defies easy labels. From live broadcasts at NBC and CBC to moderating high-stakes political debates for Euronews and the European Commission, she has spent over 20 years asking the tough questions, navigating complex global issues, and making sense of the world’s turning points. But beyond the newsrooms and international assignments, Tesa’s journey has been defined by bold choices—moving across the world for love, walking away from established career paths, and constantly reinventing herself. She understands what it means to take a leap into the unknown, to bet on yourself even when the path isn’t clear, and to thrive outside the traditional mould. Now, she helps others do the same—own their voice, build influence with authenticity, and turn their expertise into impact—without the ‘cringe’ of self-promotion. As the host of Choices & Chances, she dives into the defining decisions that shape lives and careers, helping others embrace uncertainty, make bold moves, and step fully into their potential. Whether on stage, moderating a panel, or mentoring thought leaders, Tesa brings a sharp mind, a global perspective, and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations that challenge, inspire, and drive action. Because in the end, life isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about making the choices that create the chances we truly want. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:30 - Vulnerability and Boundaries 00:01:56 - Self-Respect and Authenticity 00:02:59 - The Journey of Sharing Personal Stories 00:05:31 - Career as a Foreign Correspondent 00:06:02 - The Privilege of Journalism 00:09:03 - Navigating Stress and Health 00:10:10 - Learning to Listen to the Body 00:12:31 - Highlighting Career Experiences 00:16:18 - The Impact of Political Shows 00:20:16 - The Challenge of Live Broadcasting 00:23:20 - Transitioning to Entrepreneurship 00:26:07 - Recognizing the Right Time for Change 00:29:45 - Unwinding from High-Stress Environments 00:32:38 - Change as a Neutral Concept 00:35:42 - Agency and Choice 00:39:39 - Embracing Uncertainty 00:42:25 - Current Entrepreneurial Endeavours Connect with Tesa Instagram: Instagram: Website: Here is a freebie on Tesa’s website: Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36642985

857 | Holding The Vision When You Can’t See It Yet 05/19/2025

857 | Holding The Vision When You Can’t See It Yet In this episode, I ask the question, "Can you hold a vision when you can't see it yet?" I challenge the notion that we must wait for tangible evidence, like a certain bank balance or a fully booked calendar, before we can embody the person capable of achieving our dreams. We must first become that person internally to sustain the success we desire. Drawing from my personal experience, I recount my journey from being a kinesiologist for 27 years to embracing my calling as a coach. In 2019, I felt an unshakeable intuition that I would transition into coaching, despite not having a clear plan or business. Through continuous challenges and roadblocks, I continued to write and trust that I was being guided toward something greater. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:05 - The Challenge of Holding a Vision 00:02:32 - Personal Story: Transitioning Careers 00:03:36 - Identity Shift During Uncertainty 00:05:09 - The Role of Identity in Achieving Goals 00:06:34 - Repetition and Reprogramming 00:07:48 - Building a Bridge to Your Vision 00:09:14 - Self-Leadership and Vision 00:10:39 - Visualizing Your Future Self 00:12:07 - Celebrating Growth and Progress 00:13:43 - Upcoming Events and Community 00:14:15 - Encouragement to Pursue Goals Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36618270

856 | What You Ask For Won’t Show Up How You Expect 05/16/2025

856 | What You Ask For Won’t Show Up How You Expect In this episode, I am sharing about the unexpected ways in which our desires manifest. I want to keep it real and share my insights on how asking the universe for something big often leads to challenges and discomfort rather than immediate fulfillment. I begin by discussing the concept of expansion and contraction, emphasizing that when we seek growth, whether it’s in our personal lives, careers, or finances, we often encounter obstacles that feel like setbacks. I share my own journey of asking for expansion this year, only to face a series of personal and professional challenges that left me feeling like I was experiencing the opposite of what I desired. In one example, I share how my husband’s injury during a crucial competition I illustrate how life can throw us curveballs just when we think we’re on the right path. I reflect on the emotional turmoil that comes with these experiences and how they serve as lessons to help us grow into the versions of ourselves that can truly hold our dreams. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Nature of Asking for Growth 00:02:00 - Lessons vs. Dreams: The Reality of Expansion 00:04:00 - Recognizing Contraction as Evidence of Growth 00:05:00 - Reframing Your Perspective on Challenges 00:06:00 - Handling Abundance and Contraction 00:07:00 - The Importance of Trusting the Process 00:08:00 - Identifying What You Asked For This Year 00:09:00 - The Role of Your Subconscious Mind 00:10:00 - Rewiring Your Beliefs Through Consistency 00:11:00 - Emotional Regulation Techniques 00:12:00 - Leadership in Difficult Times 00:13:00 - The Universe is Preparing You 00:14:00 - Embracing Challenges as Part of Growth Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36584470

855 | How Far Can Your Voice and Story Reach with Amanda Sellers 05/15/2025

855 | How Far Can Your Voice and Story Reach with Amanda Sellers In this episode, I speak with VoiceOver Artist, Meditation Creator and soon-to-be-published author in the collaborative book, Unreserved, Amanda Sellers. Amanda Sellers is an award-winning voice actor, known for her work with top global brands. Her voice has been featured in a Toyota commercial during the 2022 Super Bowl, animations, video games, commercials, and even your household Roomba. A multi-time Voice Arts Awards nominee, she’s been recognized for Best Commercial Campaign (Ziploc) and Best Video Game Character (SkyForge). In 2017, she discovered a passion for writing and recording guided meditations, amassing millions of listens on YouTube and Insight Timer. Now, she’s stepping into the world of motivational speaking, sharing insights on authenticity, fulfillment, and self-expression. A former rock band frontwoman, radio DJ, and backup singer for New Kids On The Block, Amanda is no stranger to the spotlight. Off the mic, she thrives on adventure—running endurance races, sharing glimpses of her cats on Instagram, and cherishing her greatest role: being mom to Beck and Trace. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:18 - Unreserved Book Collaboration 00:00:54 - Writing Experience 00:01:41 - The Flow of Writing 00:02:32 - The Power of Scripting 00:04:54 - Uncomfortable Truths 00:05:15 - The Importance of Sharing 00:07:11 - Amanda's Current Work 00:09:36 - Unique Voice Acting Experiences 00:10:54 - Meditation Journey 00:12:54 - Creating Meditations 00:15:13 - Background in Performing Arts 00:22:23 - Touring with a Band 00:23:41 - Backup Singing for New Kids on the Block 00:24:43 - Impact of School Experiences 00:27:14 - Fostering Creativity in Children 00:31:15 - Children in Voice Acting 00:34:03 - Lessons from Motherhood 00:37:49 - Self-Compassion and Awareness 00:40:30 - Meditation and Mindfulness 00:42:21 - Connecting with Insight Timer Connect with Amanda Email: | Website: Instagram: Join Amanda on Insight Timer: Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36572265

854 | What Your Subconscious Is Trying to Tell You? 05/12/2025

854 | What Your Subconscious Is Trying to Tell You? In this episode, I share some thoughts on how self-sabotage is not merely a sign of weakness or failure, but rather a form of self-protection driven by our subconscious mind. When we find ourselves on the brink of progress, it's common to experience a pullback into old patterns. I want to help you understand why this happens. I challenge the traditional narrative around self-sabotage by encouraging listeners to ask more empowering questions. Instead of questioning, "Why am I doing this?"—which can lead to feelings of shame—I suggest we ask, "What is my subconscious trying to tell me?" This shift in perspective allows us to uncover the limiting beliefs that often disguise themselves as self-sabotage. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:01 - Introduction to Self-Sabotage 00:00:33 - Understanding Self-Sabotage as Self-Protection 00:01:16 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs 00:02:40 - The Role of Effort and Patterns 00:03:40 - The Positive Intention Behind Behaviors 00:04:49 - Personal Experience with Self-Sabotage 00:06:03 - The Signal of Self-Sabotage 00:07:20 - Growth Through Evidence 00:08:55 - Launching New Programs 00:09:05 - Questions to Uncover Limiting Beliefs 00:10:30 - Reframing Negative Thoughts 00:12:37 - Visualizing Success 00:14:04 - Building Self-Trust 00:15:50 - Embracing Growth and Discomfort Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36509575

853 | When Doubt Takes Up More Space 05/09/2025

852 | From Small Town Roots to Big Dreams with Virginia Ehrlich 05/08/2025

852 | From Small Town Roots to Big Dreams with Virginia Ehrlich In this episode, I speak with Virginia Ehrlich. Virginia is the owner and founder of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small-town economies and the businesses that sustain them. Every item we feature in our seasonal boxes is made or designed in a small town in Canada with fewer than 30,000 residents. Virginia embodies the spirit of small towns, big dreams. As the founder and owner of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small town economies, she has partnered with over 150 small businesses since launching in 2017—infusing nearly $1,000,000 into local communities across the country. The power of self-compassion has deeply shaped her journey as an e-commerce entrepreneur, and she’s now on a mission to encourage others to extend that same grace and love to themselves as they pursue their own dreams. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:12 - Acre 75 Gathered 00:03:10 - The Entrepreneurial Journey 00:04:10 - Business Evolution 00:05:46 - Mental Health and Business 00:06:55 - Simplicity in Business 00:08:17 - Growth of Acre 75 00:10:11 - Support System 00:12:12 - Nervous System Regulation 00:14:19 - Self-Discovery Through Entrepreneurship 00:15:12 - The Importance of Self-Compassion 00:22:07 - Practicing Self-Care 00:25:55 - Navigating Challenges 00:33:05 - Personal Adversity 00:40:29 - Pandemic Impact on Business 00:44:28 - Community Impact 00:45:07 - Lessons for the Next Generation 00:47:12 - Louisa's Birth and Business 00:52:05 - Postpartum Challenges Connect with Virginia Website: Instagram: Virginia is offering our listeners $10 off their first Acre75 Gathered Box - MARSHAV10 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36479785

851 | When the World Cracks You Open 05/05/2025

851 | When the World Cracks You Open In this episode, I am sharing the message of being "cracked open" by life's challenges and how these moments can lead to personal growth and clarity. I begin by sharing a powerful quote from Rebecca Campbell's book, "Light is the New Black," which emphasizes the importance of embracing the things that break us down, as they ultimately allow the light to shine through. This is a personal episode as I share the story of my husband, Brad, a Master’s Olympic lifter, who faced a serious injury during a competition. As he set national records, he suffered a painful elbow injury that required immediate medical attention. This situation forced us to navigate a whirlwind of emotions and decisions, all while managing the urgency of his condition and the pressures of our personal and professional lives. Throughout the episode, I reflect on the overwhelming nature of life when it feels like everything is happening at once. I discuss how, in these moments, we often find ourselves stuck in overthinking and fear, but I emphasize the importance of trusting our bodies and instincts to guide us through tough decisions. I share how I learned to pause, breathe, and listen to my inner voice, which often knows the answers we seek, even when our minds are racing. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Cracked Open: Embracing Vulnerability 00:01:15 - The Pressure of Decision-Making 00:02:40 - Trusting Your Body's Intuition 00:04:48 - Navigating Crisis: A Personal Story 00:06:45 - Making Decisions Under Pressure 00:09:04 - Finding Clarity in Chaos 00:10:20 - The Power of Grounded Presence 00:12:08 - Stripping Away the Noise 00:13:12 - Accessing Your Authentic Voice 00:14:25 - Trusting Your Body for True Power 00:15:52 - Embracing the Cracks for Growth 00:17:08 - Final Thoughts: Letting Your Voice Be Heard Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36430635

850 | Why I Stopped Waiting to Feel Ready 05/02/2025

850 | Why I Stopped Waiting to Feel Ready In this episode, I share my thoughts on the concept of readiness and how it is a lie. I challenge the notion that we must feel 100% ready before starting new ventures. Drawing from personal experiences, I emphasize that readiness often results from taking the leap, not a prerequisite. I encourage listeners to reflect on their own lives and consider times when they felt prepared entirely—chances are, those moments are few and far between. I also touch on the significance of identity work, urging listeners to envision the person they aspire to be and to act as if they are already that person. By shifting our mindset and embodying the qualities of our future selves, we can break free from the constraints of waiting for readiness. I provide practical steps for listeners to visualize their goals and take immediate action, regardless of their current feelings of preparedness. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:06 - The Myth of Being Ready 00:02:54 - Navigating Feelings of Unreadiness 00:04:10 - Listening to Your Inner Nudges 00:05:14 - Identity Work and Taking Action 00:06:37 - The Reality of Fear and Excitement 00:07:32 - Serving Your Audience Regardless of Size 00:09:10 - Shifting Your Mindset 00:10:56 - The Importance of Action Over Perfection 00:12:24 - Future Pacing and Visualization 00:14:45 - Deciding to Be Ready 00:16:00 - Building Confidence Through Action Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36405045

849 | Detours That Paved the Way for Entrepreneurial Success with Rebecca Ogilvie 05/01/2025

849 | Detours That Paved the Way for Entrepreneurial Success with Rebecca Ogilvie In this episode, I connect with Rebecca Ogilvie. Rebecca is a Mother, entrepreneur, and advocate for women’s empowerment. She believes life keeps getting better and is passionate about helping women create a life they love. Her journey began with her transformation. After years of prioritizing others, she reconnected with herself through small, intentional rituals—starting with skincare. That experience shaped her mission: to help women see their strengths, celebrate themselves, and embrace self-care as an act of self-respect. Through her skincare brand, The Detour Co, Rebecca reminds women that they matter. Her mission goes beyond skincare—it’s about guiding women back to themselves so they can live radiant, confident lives. HIGHLIGHTS 00:02:00 - Rebecca's Skincare Journey 00:04:00 - Rebecca's Big Dreams 00:06:00 - Transition to Business 00:07:00 - Inspiration Behind Skincare Creation 00:08:00 - Early Product Development 00:15:00 - Growth and Support 00:19:00 - Live Events and Customer Connection 00:22:00 - Balancing Family and Business 00:24:00 - Aligning Vision with Reality 00:25:00 - Future Aspirations for The Detour Co 00:28:00 - Embracing Possibilities 00:33:00 - The Importance of Embracing the Unexpected Connect with Rebecca Website: Instagram: Rebecca is sharing a face care routine freebie. It walks them through a simple routine that can be modified depending on the products they are using. Here's that link: Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG. Click Subscribe on YouTube. Click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36382915

848 | Rewiring the Stories That Held Me Back - and How You Can Too 04/28/2025

848 | Rewiring the Stories That Held Me Back - and How You Can Too In this episode, I highlight the importance of awareness in recognizing these limiting beliefs. I discuss how our subconscious can drive us back to familiar patterns, often leading to self-sabotage. I encourage listeners to confront these thoughts and reframe them, asking themselves whether they are valid. Doing so can interrupt the negative loops that keep us from reaching our full potential. Things can become easier, but they never truly become easy. As we grow, we often confront subconscious beliefs that can hinder our progress. I candidly share my experiences of feeling nervous and self-doubting as I expand my offerings, particularly with the launch of my Master Practitioner program in NLP. This new venture felt daunting, and I found myself fighting with old narratives about success and worthiness, and the last year has been feeling all the discomfort of growth, even though it doesn’t mean that I can’t do it, it is just new and expansive and your nervous system has to learn how to hold your new growth. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Misconception of Growth 00:02:00 - Embracing New Responsibilities 00:03:00 - Confronting Subconscious Beliefs 00:04:00 - The Importance of Data 00:05:00 - Self-Sabotage Awareness 00:06:00 - Transformational Breakthroughs 00:07:00 - Recognizing Evidence of Success 00:08:00 - Stacking Wins 00:09:00 - Protecting Your Subconscious 00:10:00 - Empowerment Through Rewiring 00:11:00 - Building a Better Relationship with Stories Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: Connect on IG click Subscribe on YouTube click /episode/index/show/ownyourchoicesownyourlife/id/36279625

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