Anger - Recovered 465
Release Date: 02/11/2014
Ultimately, when we are humble we are willing to seek and receive help, support, guidance and direction with our lives. The result is that we are not alone anymore.info_outline Willingness - Recovered 1155
Your life belongs to you, right? Sure it does, but look at where your actions got you. Your life became unmanageable because of your addiction. You need to be willing for a lot of things, especially accepting help.info_outline Integrity - Recovered 1152
Sobriety helps us reconnect with our true selves and become reacquainted with our inner light, our life’s mission, and our purpose.info_outline Courage - Recovered 1150
Any challenges life throws your way, you now know how it feels to look fear in the face and remember how capable you are of walking through it.info_outline Faith - Recovered 1148
In order to keep going and develop sobriety the individual needs to have faith that things are going to keep improving.info_outline Hope - Recovered 1146
Hope is the elevating feeling we experience when we see a path to a better futureinfo_outline Honesty - Recovered 1144
It is normal to struggle with owning up to dishonesty, but the key is to acknowledge when it occurs as soon as possible. If not, you could struggle with feelings of guilt and put your sobriety in jeopardy.info_outline Popsicle Sticks - Recovered 1142
Here in our virtual studio, we have a can full of popsicle sticks. Each stick has a recovery topic written on it. We will take turns, randomly picking a stick and then sharing on that topic that was chosen.info_outline Reaching Out - Recovered 1140
If you have a problem with alcohol or drugs, reaching out for help can be hard. You’ve probably tried several times to handle this by yourself, but the problem is just too big to tackle without help.info_outline Stateline 2009 Part 3 - Recovered 1141
Stateline Retreat in Primm, NV - December 11th 2009info_outline
As a way to introduce the recovery topic of Anger, let’s see what our listeners think. I asked our listeners:
When you were new, with what/who were you most angry with?
Some of the responses we received included:
Anger can be labeled anger, mad, cranky, frustrated, irritated, irate, agitated, seething,
and many more. Many alcoholics/addicts and their family members are surprised that to find
that the newly recovering person continues to experience a lot of anger. There are many
reasons why a recovering person would continue to feel angry once they have quit
Let’s start at the beginning of recovery. Initially, detox may have something to do with it.
Thoughts on anger at the beginning of recovery and the physical withdrawal from substance and the effect on mood.
Swetha, Many alcoholics/addicts and their family members are surprised that to find
that the newly recovering person continues to experience a lot of anger. What has been your experience your observations within the al-anon community?
Sometimes the newly recovering person is still angry about how they came to be in
recovery. They may be angry at law enforcement, the judge, the boss, the wife, the
family in general, or society for not condoning active addiction. What has been your experience in regards to those closest to you in early recovery?
Swetha, what are the common expressions of anger for the new al-anon?
The newly recovering person, still not very adept at processing feelings, may project blame and
responsibility for their feelings onto others. Although they may be angry with themselves, the family may still be getting the brunt of it.
The family members of alcoholics/addicts also have anger. Instead of the addict being
grateful for family members getting them into treatment and saving his/her life, the addict
is angry at them. They cannot understand this because they remind the addict that is, and
has been, the family that has been holding down the fort, making all the payments, taking
care of the kids, the bills, the house, etc. The family member has been taking care of
everything and the addict is mad at them!
The addict does not understand why the family member is not giving him/her credit for
his sacrifice and understanding how difficult this has all been. The addict is angry that
when they do make efforts to do the things that family members have been asking them
to do for a long time, that the family member either does not notice or that that family
member just expects it. From the family member’s perspective, the fact that the addict
wants a reward for doing what everyone else is expected to do, is inconceivable. Neither
understands the other’s frame of reference.
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But we at Recovered are all about the solution. What are some of the tools of recovery that you use?
What about sponsors?
What about sponsees?
What about service work?
What about your higher power?
what our book says
...If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison. We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the future. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to...
...running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. It works - it really does. We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple...
...Try not to condemn your alcoholic husband no matter what he says or does. He is just another very sick, unreasonable person. Treat him, when you can, as though he had pneumonia. When he angers you, remember that he is very ill. There is an important exception to the foregoing. We realize some men are thoroughly bad-intentioned, that no amount of patience will make any difference. An alcoholic of this temperament may be quick to use this chapter as...
...In some circumstances we have gone out deliberately to get drunk, feeling ourselves justified by nervousness, anger, worry, depression, jealousy or the like. But even in this type of beginning we are obliged to admit that our justification for a spree was insanely insufficient in the light of what always happened. We now see that when we began to drink deliberately, instead of casually, there was little serious or effective thought during the period...
...but frankly said that he was not ready to stop. His wife is one of those persons who really feels there is something rather sinful about these commodities, so she nagged, and her intolerance finally threw him into a fit of anger. He got drunk. Of course our friend was wrong - dead wrong. He had to painfully admit that and mend his spiritual fences. Though he is now a most effective member of Alcoholics Anonymous, he still smokes and drinks coffee,...