555 | What We Learn In The In-Between [available on Patreon]
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Release Date: 05/30/2023
907 | When Your Confidence Makes Others Shrink
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In this episode, I share thoughts on how our confidence can sometimes trigger the insecurities of those around us, leading them to shrink back instead of celebrating our growth. This dynamic is rooted in our individual beliefs and past experiences, which shape how we perceive the world. If our confidence makes someone else shrink, they were never truly cheering for us in the first place. Bless and release and thank them for the role they have played in your life. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - The Fear of Judgment 00:01:05 - Personal Story: The Book Incident 00:03:35 - Embracing Imperfection 00:05:14...
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906 | Reprogramming Your Mind: How to Write Your Book with Ease
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In this episode, I speak into the often-overlooked connection between subconscious writing blocks and the process of writing a book. I open up about my own vulnerabilities and the misconceptions that many aspiring writers face when they struggle to put pen to paper. I start by addressing a common sentiment among writers: the confusion about how subconscious rewiring relates to the writing process. Many people have invested in strategy programs, only to find themselves stuck and questioning their abilities. I explain that our subconscious mind is a powerful force, controlling 95% of our...
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905 | Pray It Doesn't Work with Jeremy Delk
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In this episode, we are speaking with Entrepreneur, Investor, Author, and Public Speaker, Jeremy Delk. Jeremy’s story is all about taking ownership of his failures, his wild successes, and every lesson in between. From jumping into entrepreneurship as a teenager to walking away from a half-billion-dollar exit, Jeremy has never shied away from bold decisions. He embodies the idea of creating your own path, embracing failure, and taking unbound action to live life on your terms. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction and Early Entrepreneurial Pursuits 00:02:30 - Lessons from Early Failures...
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904 | Can You Allow Others to Hold Your Vision With You?
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In this episode, I am sharing the process of embracing big visions and the fears that often accompany them. I start by sharing a personal anecdote from 2016 when I first received the idea to write my solo book. The initial excitement was quickly overshadowed by fear and skepticism from those around me, which led me to caution against sharing my ideas too freely. I reflect on my experience with launching my NLP coaching certification, Outspoken, where I had to build everything from scratch without any proof of concept. A mentor pointed out the difference between that experience and my current...
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903 | A Quick Way to Shift Your Thinking to See What is Possible
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In this episode, I address a common question: how do we shift our thinking? I emphasize that while the concept may be simple, the execution is often challenging. I share my personal experience of being in a crisis and how it forced me to reevaluate my choices and control over my life. I encourage listeners to consider how they want to show up in their lives, especially as we approach the end of the year. I discuss the importance of setting realistic goals and focusing on what we want rather than what we don’t want. Many people struggle to articulate their desires, often fixating on their...
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902 | Your Past Gives You the Lessons to Change Your Future with Valerie J. Walsh
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In this episode, I am speaking with Best-Selling Author, Inspirational Speaker, Mental Health Advocate, Valerie J. Walsh. Valerie is a best-selling author, inspirational speaker, and transformational leader known for turning pain into purpose. After losing her mother to suicide, surviving cancer twice, and overcoming addiction, Valerie made the bold decision not just to heal—but to serve. Her story is one of deep resilience, raw honesty, and a powerful commitment to helping others rise from their own darkest moments. Through her books Shattered to the Core and COREAGEOUS, she delivers...
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901 | At Any Stage, At Any Age, You Always Have a Choice
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In this episode, I want to reflect on the core message that has been a guiding principle throughout my life and this podcast: you always have a choice. No matter your age or stage in life, you possess the power to make choices that shape your reality. I understand that it can often feel like circumstances are beyond our control, but I assure you that we can always choose how we respond to those circumstances. At 55 years old and navigating the complexities of the sandwich generation, caring for aging parents while managing a business that feels ever-evolving, I find myself constantly reminded...
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900 | From Scrappy Beginnings to #900
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In this special episode of the "Own Your Choices, Own Your Life" podcast, we celebrate a monumental milestone: episode 900! This is a special episode where Marsha is being interviewed by Sue Ruhe, her podcast manager, ninja extraordinaire and close friend. Marsha shares her thoughts on the significance of reaching 900 episodes, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and the unique space the podcast has provided her to navigate both business and personal challenges. We discuss the power of vulnerability in her solo episodes, where she imparts valuable lessons from her own...
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899 | Why Strategy Isn’t Enough to Share Your Story
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In this episode, we are on the brink of a significant milestone—episode 900! As I prepare to share more of my journey in the upcoming episode, I want to dive deep into a topic that I believe is crucial for anyone looking to make an impact, whether through writing, coaching, speaking, or any other form of expression. Today, I discuss the importance of sharing your story and how it connects to building genuine relationships with others. Many people underestimate the power of their narrative, thinking that strategy alone will lead to success. Strategy is only 5% of the equation; the remaining...
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898 | How to Write Your Book from the Optimal State
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In this episode, I discuss the everyday struggles many authors face, such as fear of judgment from family and friends, and the realization that we cannot control how others perceive our words. Our internal representation of the world shapes our responses, and I share personal anecdotes to illustrate how our states can influence our reactions to others. Instead of focusing on the strategy first, it is essential to get into the right state of mind, energy, and nervous system regulation before writing. Our subconscious mind, which governs 95% of our actions, responds to feelings of safety rather...
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In this episode I am sharing some thoughts on the in-between, the time in between where we are today and where we think we are supposed to be.
In today’s episode we discuss:
1) The in-between is the most uncomfortable time, where we aren’t where we want to be yet, and we equate that to doing something wrong, not enough, or that we are on the wrong path. There is power in the pause and this is the in-between space. We are not yet who we want to be and have to grow into the version of the person who can hold and handle the next level of success, yet that person is inside of us, it is up to us to bring them to life.
2) This is the time we feel the most resistance, the most struggle and resistance recruits allies, thank you Steven Pressfield, and it shows up a lot like self-sabotage. The power of the pause. This is the time to become the identity that you are desiring to be. Health, fitness, reader examples. To assume the identity is to become that version, what do you do, see, hear, feel if you have that identity. Use this in-between time to anchor in the traits of this person. Bringing in your subconscious mind and not just consciously setting the goals. Goal getter vs goal setter
3) At the identity level, the self-image, the ideas a person constructs about themselves and their behaviour, abilities and beliefs, mostly unconsciously. In this level of change it is our beliefs, our values that will shape our identity.
4) In this in-between we are learning more about ourselves, building on our non-strengths, learning what is required, and getting clear on what we do or don’t want. It is a time of pause, but it is a required time of learning. The more resistance we feel and feed on the longer we can stay in this in-between. It requires surrender, trust, aligned action, belief. This is where one small step or act of courage every day can move the needle forward to create results. If you rush the in-between, or crowd more into this space, you create a temporary crash landing of more in between. You might not know exactly where you are going, but you know that backwards isn’t an option.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.