230 - Implicit Memory
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We all have moments we do things that seem disproportionate or a bit off. We have reactions that just don't seem to match up to other people. These can often be frustrating and destructive. Some of what we "remember" we hold subconsciously; it can affect us without us realizing why Join me in this episode as discuss what "implicit memory" is and how it affects you. I talk about how to find those memories and what to do about them. Ultimately everything comes back to surrender to the Lord - but we only have a chance to do that when we identify what specifically to surrender. I also invite you...
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229 - Are you a slave to your feelings
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Do your feelings control you? Perhaps when you're upset, hurting, or desperate you find yourself doing things you later regret? Has your solution to this problem been to simply shove the feelings down and bury them? If so, how is that working... Join me in this episode as I talk about a different way of dealing with feelings. When we deal with our feelings well, we gain the power to affect both our lives and those we love. When we don't, chaos and destruction often follow. One of the greatest gifts you can give to your children is to role model self mastery. I also invite you to check out my...
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228 - Fight like a saint
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If you are married, you've likely had fights that went poorly. You've probably also had issues that should have been brought up but have been hidden. It often seems like biology itself is against us when we disagree with our spouse. If we are not careful, it certainly can. Join me in this episode as I discuss how to fight with your spouse in a way that pulls you both towards sainthood rather than injury. I'll cover several specific tactics as well as some perspectives to hold onto. Furthermore, I'll talk about the goal of fighting, and what to fight for. I really recommend this episode to all...
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227 - Why her words hurt so much
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It's very painful for husbands when our wives unleash verbal attacks on us. Yet, we rarely know how to express why this is true even to ourselves. We certainly don't know what to say to our wives - and often get in trouble for trying. Join me in this episode as I compare male to male interactions with the underlying threat of physical violence and female to female interactions with the underlying threat of character attack. The parallels are powerful and will help you understand why her words are so scary and painful. It will also give you a foundation of how to talk to her about it. I also...
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226 - Are you too hard on yourself
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Odds are good that the person that has caused the most pain and suffering in your life is...you! If you're at all like me, you know that you can be lazy, mean, and sometimes even vicious if you do not keep a check on your natural weaknesses. So that's what we do! Sometimes we even come to dislike ourselves and treat ourselves in a way we would never let someone treat our children. Join me in this episode as I explore this issue that occurs in so many men, and how to respond to it in a Christ-like way. You are called to Love Your Neighbor As Yourself. We need to understand the second part of...
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225 - Confront the fears that separate us from God
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The most common instruction in the Bible is "do not be afraid," yet we humans are frequently fearful and worrisome. What's worse is that often we don't even recognize the deeper fears. These are the fears that cause us to pull back from God. Most men suffer from one of the following three fears: God has some limit. I'm too bad or broken for God to love My choices are too terrible for God to love Intellectually we may deny it - intellectually we know those aren't true. But deep down that fear can drive us to live our lives in a way that keeps us away from the Lord. Join me in this episode as...
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224 - Corporate to Entrepreneur with Dcn Charlie Echeverry
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We all intellectually know we are supposed to surrender everything to God. We can generally handle the first several requests God makes. But then, it starts to get more difficult. What do you do when God asks you to surrender what looks like the safety of your family? Join me in this episode as Deacon Charlie Echeverry shares his story of surrendering everything to God. Through many difficult moments, God took care of him and his family. God is calling us all in a similar way. How will you respond? You can read more about Deacon Charlie's work at his website: I also invite you to check out my...
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223 - Humility Part 8 - Michaels additions to the Litany
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Pride has always been the worst of the capital sins. I believe that it is the chief sin of our age. After going through the entire Litany of Humility, I felt there was a bit more to be said. This entire episode is simply my additions to the Litany of Humility. You may find some similarity to these. If so, I invite you to join me on my journey. Join me in this episode for the 21st century engineer/life coach additions to the Litany of Humility. These are ways that my pride has caused me pain in my life. I try to offer the humble perspective to each one. This is without a doubt the most painful...
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222 - Humility Part 7 - Others more than I
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We all know humility is important, but it isn't easy! Particularly in an age where comparisons are forced down our throat by every app and social media source. How are we to respond? In this episode I continue the discussion about humility by exploring the last section of the Litany of Humility. In episode six I talked about the dangers of comparisons; in this episode I go into the specific lines. I strongly encourage listening to the previous episodes before this one! I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at
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221 - Depression and suicide in youth with Mr. Whiskey
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Our children are growing up in an environment unlike any previous generations. Technology and cultural expectations have taken away their childhood and forced them to mature faster than ever. This is having some difficult effects. Join me in this episode as I'm joined by a much younger guest who goes by Mr. Whisky. We talk about his work supporting the mental health of our younger generation. We cover practical perspectives and things to think about as a parent of this generation. You can read more about Mr. Whiskey and find his podcast at: I also invite you to check out my free Manly...
info_outlineIf you're at all like me, it's easy to get mad when your wife accuses you (unjustly!) of something. It's easy to quickly see why it isn't true, fair, or even appropriate for her to have said that horrible thing! It's even easier to respond by pointing out just how horrible of a thing it was to say!
But this isn't the Christian way.
Husbands, you are called to love your wives. unconditionally. This means you have to love her even when she is being unfair or unjust. (Hint: you are also commonly unfair and unjust!)
But how do we do that?
Join me in this episode as I talk about one major way to love your wife - love her through her accusations. This is hard. This is also essential. Putting those two together means you might need some help. I offer you two particular tools in this episode that will transform your marriage conversations if used properly.
Your wife needs your unconditional love, not your corrections.