Ep 47: From Crisis to Clarity: A Journey Beyond Midlife w/ Ian Inguanez

Welcome to another enlightening episode of our podcast where we dive deep into topics of personal growth, mental health, and transformation. Our guest for today is the exceptional Ian Inguanez, a behavior change specialist and hypnotherapist. Ian is on a mission to guide busy men and working professionals in rewriting their narratives post-40, aiding them in a transformative journey of self-realization and introspection. Inspired by his own life experiences, including a mid-life crisis and divorce, Ian's insightful approach centers on the power of the subconscious, mental health awareness, and the profound potential of behavior change.

Key points of the episode:

• Ian stresses the importance of addressing mental health among men, a conversation he deems essential yet often overlooked.

• Self-realization and introspection, he argues, are key elements in post-divorce recovery and personal growth.

• Ian's own transformative journey began with a disenchantment with traditional counseling, leading him to hypnotherapy, a method he found deeply impactful.

• Emphasizing meditation as a life-altering tool, Ian promotes its regular practice for a healthier mindset.

• Behavior change, Ian believes, is challenging due to men's unawareness of their choices and the subconscious habits driving their actions.

• He encourages men to challenge their self-perceptions and investigate who they truly wish to become.

• Ian underlines the need to understand and revisit childhood experiences, as they shape our self-image and beliefs significantly.Ian and Andrew share personal traumatic experiences, and discuss the subconscious role in automatic reactions.

• They touch upon societal messages instructing men to suppress their emotions, and their detrimental long-term impacts.

• Ian stresses the necessity of self-discovery, understanding why we think and behave the way we do, and the importance of forgiveness.

• The episode ends with a discussion on the role of self-love, self-compassion, society, and authority figures in personal growth.

• They discuss the connection between physical symptoms and trapped emotions, and the power of therapy and coaching.

• Ian promotes the belief that change does not have to be hard but requires consistency and discipline, and highlights the impact of instant gratification culture on our ability to be patient.

• Ian speaks about journaling and self-reflection as vital tools for self-improvement.

Quotes from the episode:

"To be a man is, for me, being, let's say, obsessed with self-growth. Being the best version you can for yourself, because when you're the best version for yourself, you're the best version for everyone, whether that's your wife, your kids, your friends, colleagues."

 

"Who am I? Who do I want to be? We need to find that gap."

"It's really when you can get good at knowing who you are right now and then creating a new version of who you want to be and being really good with that person, I promise you right now, you are going to be good with everyone else."

 

Resources:

Ianinguanez.com

 

Action Steps:

1. Write down a list of the emotions you don’t like about yourself (timid, angry, passive, etc)

2. Write down a list of the positive opposite emotion for each one you listed

3. Track how often you get stuck in the negative emotions and write out the situation.

 

Follow Ian:

https://www.instagram.com/ianinguanez/

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