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Finding Family: "The Keepers and The Throwaways" with David R. Ford and Tibby Ford - Ep 137

Unraveling Adoption

Release Date: 03/18/2024

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"I think adoptees who are going to go try to find their family have to recognize that... once you get into the process, you just have to roll with it, right? You have to be optimistic and hopeful and just play it out." -- David R. Ford

Episode Synopsis

In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson delves into the complexities of adoption alongside her guest, David R. Ford, an adoptee who reunited with his birth family 20 years ago. The episode explores the theme of family relationships, especially in the context of reunion with birth families.

Beth introduces David as an adoptee who was adopted at birth through a private adoption handled by a lawyer. David shares his early childhood experiences and the limited information he had about his birth parents, including the revelation that he had a seven-year older brother. Despite not initially feeling the need to find his birth parents, David's journey to reconnect with his birth family began in his late 30s.

Through a series of events, David eventually reunites with his birth mother and discovers he is one of seven children, four of whom were given up for adoption. The podcast delves into the complexities of navigating newfound relationships with siblings and birth family members, highlighting the challenges and joys that come with such reunions.

Beth also brings on Tibby, David's wife, to provide insights into the experience of being a spouse navigating the complexities of adoption reunion. Tibby shares her perspective on the intense emotions and dynamics that come with welcoming new family members into their lives.

The episode touches on the importance of supportive adoptive parents, the emotional toll of navigating difficult family dynamics, and the significance of maintaining core values and boundaries throughout the reunion process. David reflects on the metaphorical significance of the title of his memoir, "Blind in One Eye," and the journey of self-discovery and acceptance that comes with reuniting with one's birth family.

As the episode wraps up, Beth encourages listeners to explore the resources and support available on the Unraveling Adoption website, emphasizing the importance of seeking guidance and validation in the adoption journey. The episode concludes with a message of staying safe and embracing authenticity in navigating the complexities of adoption and family relationships.

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Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

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Timestamps

  • Introduction to Unraveling Adoption: 00:00:02-00:00:13

  • David's Adoption Story: 00:01:23-00:02:57

  • David's Search for Birth Family: 00:03:29-00:06:41

  • Reunion with Birth Mother: 00:07:15-00:09:33

  • Relationship with Siblings: 00:10:04-00:12:40

  • Tibby's Perspective on Family Reunion: 00:15:18-00:17:02

  • Navigating Family Dynamics: 00:17:28-00:21:39

  • Book Title Explanation: 00:25:26-00:26:29

  • Closing Remarks and Resources: 00:27:19-00:28:46