Unraveling Adoption

An intentional space to delve into adoption's complexities together, hosted by adoptive mom and adoptee advocate Beth Syverson. She and her young adult son began this podcast to help other families with adoptees struggling with addiction and mental health issues. It features the voices of a diverse array of adoptees and (occasionally) others with unique perspectives on adoption. Unraveling Adoption aims to elevate family preservation as the ideal, and amplify the voices of the traditionally marginalized.

Educating the Next Generation: Adoption Messages in Children's Books with Allison Olson - Ep 168 10/21/2024

Educating the Next Generation: Adoption Messages in Children's Books with Allison Olson - Ep 168 "I can read a book and tell you if it's written by an adoptee, written by an adoptive parent or written by somebody who's just a famous author and someone told him to write about adoption and they know nothing about it." -- Allison Olson EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Allison Olson, an adoptee and adoptive parent who has made significant contributions to children's literature on adoption. We explored her personal adoption story, which began in 1979 when she was adopted as a baby in a closed adoption, and how her experiences shaped her perspective as both an adoptee and a parent to an adopted child. Allison shared her insights on the evolution of adoption practices, particularly the shift from closed to open adoptions, and the importance of representation in children's books. She expressed her frustration with the common narratives found in many adoption-themed picture books, which often portray adoptees as "lucky" rather than "loved." This inspired her to write her own books, including Surrounded by Love: An Open Adoption Story and Learning About My Friend's Adoption, aimed at educating children about adoption in a balanced and loving way. We discussed the challenges adoptees face in educating their peers about their experiences and the need for more resources that accurately reflect the complexities of adoption. Allison emphasized the importance of normalizing conversations about adoption and providing children with the tools to understand and embrace their identities. Listeners will find Allison's work invaluable, as it not only addresses the needs of adopted children but also serves as a resource for their friends and families. I encourage everyone to check out her books and share this episode to help spread awareness about the importance of thoughtful representation in children's literature. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Allison’s information: Check out Allison’s website for her own books plus her lists of children’s books: Find Allison’s books on Amazon: Allison’s book lists: “An Adoptee’s Top 14 Children’s Adoption Books”: “Children’s Adoption Books Written by Adoptees”: Find Allison on Social Media: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: Other Resources: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Welcome to the podcast and introduction of host Beth Syverson and guest Allison Olson. 00:01:00 - Allison's Adoption Story Allison shares her personal adoption journey and her experiences as both an adoptee and an adoptive parent. 00:03:00 - Closed vs. Open Adoption Discussion on the differences between closed and open adoptions, including definitions and implications. 00:07:00 - The Impact of Openness in Adoption Allison reflects on the benefits of open adoption and her experiences with her daughter's adoption. 00:10:00 - Challenges in Children's Adoption Books Allison discusses her experiences with children's picture books about adoption and the messages they convey. 00:14:00 - The Need for Balanced Representation Exploration of the importance of balanced narratives in adoption literature, highlighting both love and struggle. 00:17:00 - Creating Surrounded by Love Allison explains her motivation for writing her first book and the intentional choices made in its creation. 00:20:00 - Learning About My Friend's Adoption Introduction to Allison's second book aimed at educating non-adopted children about adoption. 00:24:00 - The Responsibility of Educating Others Discussion on the burden adoptees face in educating their peers and the importance of literature in this process. 00:28:00 - Resources and Closing Thoughts Allison shares her website and resources for finding adoption-related books. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33521222

Creative Paths to Healing Childhood Trauma with Jonathan Moon - Ep 167 10/14/2024

Creative Paths to Healing Childhood Trauma with Jonathan Moon - Ep 167 “I'm telling all the skeptics who may be listening, just go in there with an open mind because you're not going to lose anything. You have so much more to gain.” - Jonathan Moon EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Jonathan Moon, an adopted person who has navigated the complexities of relinquishment and adoption trauma. Jonathan's journey began in Korea, where he faced significant challenges as a child, including living on the streets and experiencing significant instability. He was adopted to the U.S. at the age of nine and has recently embarked on a path of healing and self-discovery. Jonathan shared his unique story, including his reunion with his grandmother through a Korean TV show and the emotional complexities surrounding his birth family. He discussed the struggles he faced growing up, including the impact of his father's alcoholism and abuse, and how these experiences shaped his identity. Throughout our conversation, Jonathan emphasized the importance of community and connection among adoptees, highlighting how sharing similar experiences can foster understanding and healing. He also opened up about his journey toward healing, which has included acting classes, therapy, and alternative healing practices like myofascial release and ketamine therapy. Jonathan's story is a testament to resilience and the ongoing process of healing from trauma. He is currently working on an artistic film titled Voice of Waters, which aims to share his experiences and insights with a broader audience. I encourage listeners to check out his website and support his work. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Jonathan’s information: Find out about Jonathan's upcoming film, Voice of Waters, and sign up for his website here: Other Resource Mentioned in the episode: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.: Miofascial release: Ketamine therapy: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Welcome to the podcast and introduction of host Beth Syverson and guest Jonathan Moon. 00:01:14 - Meeting at Untangling Our Roots Discussion about the adoption conference where Beth and Jonathan met. 00:02:51 - Jonathan's Early Life Jonathan shares his background, including his birth parents and early memories. 00:05:48 - Life with His Grandmother Description of Jonathan's childhood living with his maternal grandmother. 00:08:00 - Transition to Living with His Father Jonathan recounts the move to live with his birth father and half-brothers. 00:09:20 - Challenges at His Father's Home Jonathan discusses the difficulties he faced living with his father and brothers. 00:12:52 - Living on the Streets Jonathan shares his experiences of running away and living on the streets. 00:15:04 - Adoption Process Jonathan describes how he was adopted to the U.S. and his initial thoughts. 00:18:34 - First Days in America Jonathan reflects on his arrival in the U.S. and the adjustment to his new life. 00:20:34 - Family Dynamics Discussion about Jonathan's adoptive family and his place within it. 00:22:05 - Struggles with Trauma Jonathan opens up about the impact of his past traumas on his life. 00:23:24 - Military Experience Jonathan talks about his time in the military and coping mechanisms. 00:24:18 - Reunion with Birth Family Jonathan shares the story of his reunion with his grandmother and birth mother. 00:27:33 - Confronting His Birth Father Discussion about Jonathan's decision to not reunite with his birth father. 00:28:55 - Journey to Healing Jonathan discusses his healing journey and the steps he has taken. 00:29:24 - Acting and Self-Discovery How acting classes helped Jonathan confront his trauma. 00:31:20 - Therapy and Healing Modalities Jonathan shares his experiences with therapy and alternative healing methods. 00:33:22 - Myofascial Release Therapy Description of myofascial therapy and its impact on Jonathan's healing. 00:35:16 - Ketamine Therapy Jonathan discusses his experiences with ketamine therapy and its transformative effects. 00:37:43 - Profound Experiences with Ketamine Jonathan recounts a significant session where he felt a deep connection with his family. 00:40:31 - Exploring Other Healing Practices Jonathan talks about trying Reiki and other energy work. 00:41:34 - Creating Voice of Waters Discussion about Jonathan's film project and its significance in his healing journey. 00:42:42 - Closing Thoughts and Resources Beth encourages listeners to explore Jonathan's work and upcoming events related to adoption. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33428607

The Realities of Open Adoption with a Mother-Daughter Duo with Linda and Belle Sexton - Ep 166 10/07/2024

The Realities of Open Adoption with a Mother-Daughter Duo with Linda and Belle Sexton - Ep 166 "I think my mom does a great job addressing this in the book, but open adoption is not without its challenges." - Belle Sexton Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the honor of speaking with Linda R. Sexton, an adoptive mom and author, and her 25-year-old daughter, Belle. This marks our first mother-daughter duo on the podcast, offering a unique perspective on open adoption. Linda R. Sexton is an author, speaker and blogger. She is an adoptive mom of two children, both in open arrangements, and is the author of the award-winning book, . The story is told with frank honesty about the grief and joys of open adoption. Linda includes the voices of all four birth parents, birth grandmothers and her adopted children. She has seen first hand how an adopted child can benefit greatly by knowing and connecting with birth parents and other members of their biological family. Visit her website to learn more. In our episode, Belle shared her adoption story, highlighting her early life in Texas and the open adoption plan created by her young birth parents. She emphasized the importance of knowing her birth family, which helped her navigate her identity as an adoptee. Linda reflected on the emotional journey of waiting for Belle's birth and the profound moment when Belle's birth mother handed her over in a hospital ceremony. We discussed the complexities of open adoption, including Belle's feelings of adoptee's guilt and the importance of maintaining connections with birth families. Both emphasized that while open adoption can be challenging, it is a better option when compared to closed adoptions. For those of you who enjoyed this podcast and wish to know more, The Branches We Cherish: An Open Adoption Memoir is available on Amazon or can be purchased from your favorite bookseller. There are several families involved in the story and most of the names have been changed to protect privacy. (Since you now know Belle, she is Sofie in the book.) This episode beautifully illustrates the complexities and joys of adoption, and I hope it resonates with those on similar journeys. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Linda & Belle’s information: Pick up Linda’s book The Branches We Cherish: An Open Adoption Memoir: Or pick it up at an independent bookstore if you prefer: Explore Linda’s website: If you want to reach Belle, email Linda through her website, and she will get your message to Belle Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Welcome to the podcast and introduction of hosts and guests. 00:01:26 - Belle's Adoption Story Belle shares her background and experiences with her birth parents. 00:03:15 - Terminology in Adoption Discussion on the vocabulary used to describe adoptive and birth parents. 00:04:16 - Linda's Perspective on the Adoption Process Linda reflects on the emotional journey of adopting Belle. 00:06:06 - The Ceremony of Relinquishment Linda describes the emotional moment of receiving Belle from her birth mother. 00:08:09 - Memories and Keepsakes Belle shares about the memorabilia from her birth family. 00:10:12 - Challenges in Open Adoption Discussion on the complexities and challenges faced in open adoption. 00:12:25 - Understanding Birth Parents' Choices Belle reflects on her birth parents' decision-making process. 00:15:46 - Adoptee's Guilt Belle discusses feelings of guilt and the impact of her adoption experience. 00:19:03 - Navigating Relationships with Birth Parents Belle talks about her relationship dynamics with her birth parents. 00:20:52 - The Impact of Writing the Memoir Linda and Belle discuss the process and effects of writing the memoir together. 00:26:02 - Final Thoughts on Open Adoption Belle and Linda share their concluding thoughts on the benefits and challenges of open adoption. 00:28:49 - Connecting with the Audience Linda provides information on how to reach her and access her resources. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33309532

The Intersection of Politics and Adoption with Mark H. - Ep 165 09/30/2024

The Intersection of Politics and Adoption with Mark H. - Ep 165 "The way that fascism triumphs is if everyone goes silent and becomes quiescent." - Mark H. EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I, Beth Syverson, welcome Mark, a transracial adoptee from Korea and a passionate advocate for adoption-related issues. Together, we delve into the often-overlooked intersection of politics and adoption, particularly in the context of the upcoming U.S. presidential election. As an adoptive mom of a 20-year-old son, Joey, who is navigating his own path, I feel a deep responsibility to address the complexities surrounding adoption and how they relate to broader societal issues. This election is particularly significant, as it touches on critical topics such as racial justice, women's reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and the preservation of our democratic systems. With Joey preparing to vote for the first time, I am acutely aware of the stakes involved and the long-term impact our choices will have on future generations. Mark shares his unique perspective as a transracial adoptee and a gay man, highlighting the challenges he faced growing up in a predominantly white environment. He reflects on the societal norms of his youth, where discussing politics was often taboo, and emphasizes the importance of speaking out in today's climate. Mark articulates the existential nature of this election, particularly for marginalized communities, and the need for individuals to engage in political discourse. Throughout our conversation, we explore the implications of having a woman of color, Kamala Harris, as a presidential candidate. While Mark expresses excitement about her candidacy, he also addresses the racism and misogyny she faces, which resonates deeply with his own experiences of being “other”ed. We discuss how the political landscape has shifted, particularly within the Republican Party, and the urgent need for individuals to recognize and confront systemic racism. Mark and I emphasize the importance of activism, not just in the traditional sense of protests and demonstrations, but in everyday conversations with friends, family, and neighbors. We encourage listeners to engage with those around them, especially in swing states, to ensure that their voices are heard and that they participate in the electoral process. As we wrap up the episode, I invite listeners to reflect on their own roles in advocating for change and to consider how their political choices impact the lives of those in the adoption community and beyond. We urge everyone to vote, to educate themselves, and to have open discussions about the critical issues at stake in this election. This episode serves as a call to action for all of us to be brave, to stand up for what we believe in, and to work towards a more equitable society for everyone, especially those affected by adoption. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: If you’d like to connect with Mark H., send him an email through me at . He’s staying anonymous in this episode in order to not jeopardize his job. Respond to this episode on Unraveling Adoption’s page on , , , or . Other resource mentioned in this episode: White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin J. DiAngelo: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:01:00 - The Importance of Voting Beth discusses the significance of the upcoming presidential election and its impact on adoption-related issues. 00:02:30 - Introducing Mark Mark, a transracial adoptee, joins the conversation to discuss the intersection of politics and adoption. 00:03:00 - Mark's Background and Perspective Mark shares his experiences as a transracial adoptee and the importance of speaking out in the current political climate. 00:06:00 - The Fog of Whiteness Mark discusses the challenges of growing up in a predominantly white environment and the implications for transracial adoptees. 00:08:30 - Representation in Politics Mark expresses his feelings about having a woman of color as a presidential candidate and the challenges she faces. 00:10:30 - Racism and Misogyny in Politics Discussion on the racism and misogyny directed at Kamala Harris and its impact on marginalized communities. 00:12:30 - Understanding Systemic Racism Mark explains the difference between individual acts of racism and systemic racism in society. 00:14:30 - The Role of White Allies The importance of white individuals engaging with and understanding issues of race and privilege. 00:16:00 - The Stakes of the Election Mark emphasizes the critical nature of the upcoming election and the need for active participation. 00:18:00 - Mobilizing for Change Discussion on the responsibility of individuals to educate and mobilize others in their communities. 00:20:00 - The Importance of Conversations Mark highlights the power of personal conversations in advocating for change and understanding. 00:22:00 - Adoption and Political Interests Exploration of how adoption intersects with political issues, particularly for families of color. 00:24:00 - Activism in Everyday Life Mark discusses how activism can take many forms, including simple conversations with friends and family. 00:26:00 - The Power of Individual Votes The significance of each vote in local and national elections and the moral obligation to participate. 00:28:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action Beth and Mark encourage listeners to engage in the political process and advocate for marginalized communities. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33241037

Unpacking Adoption Trauma: Insights from an Adoptive Parent with Stacey Uhrig - Ep 164 09/23/2024

Unpacking Adoption Trauma: Insights from an Adoptive Parent with Stacey Uhrig - Ep 164 “They [our kids] can't be more regulated than you are. They can only be as regulated as the least regulated person in the house.” - Stacey Uhrig EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Stacey Uhrig, an adoptive parent and certified trauma recovery coach. Stacey shared her journey into adoption, which began after her own struggles with infertility. She emphasized the emotional complexities and challenges that come with adoption, particularly the trauma that both adoptees and adoptive parents may face. Stacey discussed her experiences raising two boys adopted from Korea and the significant insights she gained about trauma, attachment, and the impact of early disruptions in a child's life. We explored the importance of understanding the emotional wounds that children may carry from their past experiences, even before they come into our homes. Throughout our conversation, we highlighted the need for adoptive parents to do their own emotional work in order to better support their children. Stacey shared valuable resources, including her own ebook, What is Trauma Really?, and her podcast, Flip Your Mindset, both of which aim to educate and empower those affected by adoption. We also touched on the misconceptions surrounding trauma and the importance of approaching parenting with empathy and an open mind. This episode serves as a reminder that understanding adoption trauma is crucial for creating a nurturing environment for our children. I hope this conversation resonates with adoptive parents and encourages them to seek knowledge and support in their parenting journey. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Stacey’s contact information: Look up Stacey’s website: Hear Stacey’s podcast: Find Stacey on Instagram: Download Staceys’ FREE e-book What Is Trauma Really?: Other resources mentioned in this episode: Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency: A Comprehensive Guide to Promoting Understanding and Healing In Adoption, Foster Care, Kinship Families and Third Party Reproduction by Sharon Roszia and Allison Davis Maxon: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction Welcome to Unraveling Adoption with host Beth Cyberson and guest Stacey Uhrig. 00:01:00 - Stacey's Adoption Journey Stacey shares her path to adoption through infertility and decision-making. 00:03:30 - Challenges in Adoption Discussion on the challenges faced, including school difficulties and a brain injury. 00:06:00 - Understanding Adoption Trauma Stacey reflects on the concept of the primal wound and its implications. 00:08:30 - Lack of Resources The struggle to find support and resources for adoptive parents. 00:10:30 - Importance of Education The need for better preparation for adoptive parents regarding challenges. 00:12:30 - Personal Growth How learning about trauma provided Stacey with grace in her parenting. 00:15:00 - Impact of Early Experiences Effects of early attachment disruptions on adopted children. 00:18:00 - Parental Responsibility The role of adoptive parents in understanding and healing trauma. 00:21:00 - Coaching Approach Stacey explains her coaching methods for adoptive parents. 00:24:00 - Nature of Trauma Exploration of trauma's meaning and effects on children. 00:27:00 - Self-Reflection for Parents Encouragement for parents to do their own emotional work. 00:30:00 - Work with Adoptees Stacey discusses her methods for working with adoptees. 00:33:00 - Conclusion and Resources Wrap-up and sharing of Stacey's website and podcast for further resources. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33149322

Personal Trust Communities in Adoption with Mike Thorne - Ep 163 09/16/2024

Personal Trust Communities in Adoption with Mike Thorne - Ep 163 "When I was nine years old,...my parents just looked at each other and looked back at me and said, Michael, we just want to tell you that we love you very much and that you're adopted." -- Mike Thorne =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: ============== EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Mike Thorne, an adoptee and community leader. Mike shared his journey of discovering his adoption at age nine, which profoundly impacted his self-worth. We discussed the importance of building personal trust communities—supportive networks that provide emotional and intellectual guidance, especially for those navigating the complexities of adoption. Mike also reflected on his time as a board member of the National Council for Adoption (NCFA), emphasizing the need for diverse perspectives in adoption discussions. He encouraged listeners to seek out their own support systems and focus on their dreams rather than being held back by past experiences. This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of connection and understanding within the adoption community. I hope you find inspiration in Mike's insights and encourage you to explore his TEDx Talk and memoir for further understanding. Thank you for joining us, and I look forward to continuing this important conversation in future episodes. RESOURCES: Mike Thorne’s information: Watch Mike’s TEDx Talk: Read Mike’s memoir Hustle With Heart: Unlocking Self-Worth Through Personal Trust Communities: Other resources mentioned in this episode: NCFA - National Council for Adoption: Simon Benn’s organization & podcast Thriving Adoptees: Other resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Welcome to the podcast and introduction of host Beth Syverson and her son Joey. 00:01:00 - Mike Thorne's Adoption Story Mike shares his vivid experience of discovering he was adopted at the age of nine. 00:02:30 - Navigating Adoption Conversations Discussion on the lack of resources and conversations around adoption during Mike's childhood. 00:03:55 - Understanding Late Discovery Adoptees Exploration of the term "late discovery adoptee" and its implications. 00:05:00 - Age-Appropriate Communication in Adoption The importance of age-appropriate discussions about adoption with children. 00:06:00 - Adoptee Perspectives in Education Mike discusses his daughter's experiences as a teacher and the impact of sharing adoption stories. 00:07:00 - Mike's Leadership in Adoption Advocacy Mike's involvement with the National Council for Adoption and the importance of adoptee voices. 00:08:30 - Adoptee Panel at NCFA Conference Insights from the adoptee panel at the NCFA conference and its impact on attendees. 00:10:00 - The Need for Male Voices in Adoption The significance of including male and non-binary perspectives in the adoption conversation. 00:11:00 - Evolution of NCFA Discussion on the changes within the National Council for Adoption and its leadership. 00:12:00 - Mike's Future Goals in Maine Mike shares his plans to connect with local organizations in Maine to support adoption and foster care. 00:13:00 - Corporate Leadership Background Mike discusses his corporate experience and how it informs his approach to leadership. 00:15:00 - The Importance of Personal Trust Communities Introduction to the concept of personal trust communities and their role in personal growth. 00:18:00 - Overcoming Perfectionism in Adoptees Mike reflects on the perfectionism often experienced by adoptees and its roots. 00:20:00 - Building Supportive Networks The importance of finding the right people to support you in various aspects of life. 00:22:00 - Adoptee Spaces and Support The value of finding supportive spaces for adoptees to share their experiences. 00:24:00 - Challenges for Adoptive Parents Discussion on the struggles adoptive parents face in understanding and supporting their children. 00:26:00 - Collaboration Among Organizations The need for collaboration among nonprofits to improve outcomes for children in the adoption system. 00:28:00 - Mike's Vision for the Future Mike shares his aspirations for making a difference in the adoption community. 00:30:00 - Encouragement for Listeners Mike encourages listeners to focus on their dreams and find supportive communities. 00:32:00 - Conclusion and Resources Wrap-up of the episode, including resources for listeners to connect with Mike and Beth. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/33050262

The Importance of Adoptee-Led Initiatives with Jessica M. Luciere - Ep 162 09/09/2024

The Importance of Adoptee-Led Initiatives with Jessica M. Luciere - Ep 162 "I tell every adopted person that I meet that their story changes my own story. And it's the truth. It is the absolute truth." - Jessica M. Luciere In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson interviews Jessica M. Luciere, an inter-country, interracial adoptee from Colombia who works at Spence Chapin, a nonprofit adoption agency. Jessica shares her personal adoption story and highlights the importance of adoptee-led initiatives in the adoption community. She discusses the programming she has created at Spence Chapin, including Voices of Adoption for adoptees over 18 and Teen Voices of Adoption for younger adoptees. Jessica emphasizes the significance of community and support for adoptees and adoptive parents, encouraging them to be open, vulnerable, and willing to learn. She also shares her experience of reuniting with her birth family in Colombia and offers advice for adoptees seeking connection with others. Beth and Jessica stress the importance of listening to adoptees' voices and elevating their perspectives in the adoption conversation. Overall, the episode highlights the value of community, support, and understanding in the adoption journey. =============== 📘Pick up our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Jessica’s information: Spence Chapin’s website: Voices of Adoption - support groups for adults and teen adoptees: Jessica's email: Jessica’s Instagram: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption and Jessica 00:05:30 - Importance of Adoptee-Led Initiatives 00:10:00 - Training and Support for Adoptive Parents 00:13:00 - Growing Up as a Transracial Adoptee 00:15:30 - Reuniting with Birth Family 00:17:00 - Advice for Adoptees Seeking Connection 00:19:00 - Advice for Adoptive Parents 00:20:30 - Resources and Programming at Spence Chapin 00:22:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32901632

Shedding Light on Children of Priests with Brendan Watkins - Ep 161 09/02/2024

Shedding Light on Children of Priests with Brendan Watkins - Ep 161 "The Church, of course, is doing everything it can to silence victims." - Brendan Watkins EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, the host, Beth Syverson, interviews Brendan Watkins, an Australian adoptee who shares his emotional journey of discovering his origin story filled with religious intrigue. Brendan found out that his birth mother became pregnant in the 1950s and relinquished him for adoption, and later became a nun. He then discovered that his birth father was a Catholic priest. Brendan's memoir, Tell No One, sheds light on the challenges faced by children of priests and nuns. The episode delves into the complexities of adoption, the impact of secrecy and shame, and the need for awareness and support for individuals affected by such circumstances. Brendan emphasizes the importance of mental health support and seeking legal assistance for those in similar situations. The episode highlights the ongoing struggle for justice and recognition faced by children of priests and nuns, urging listeners to educate themselves and support those affected by these issues. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Brendan Watkin’s information: Check out Brendan’s website: Grab Brendan’s memoir Tell No One: Other resources mentioned in this episode: SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests): Coping International (Children of Priests International): Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: Introduction to Unraveling Adoption: 00:00:02-00:00:34 Brendan's Early Childhood and Adoption Revelation: 00:01:36-00:03:08 Discovering Birth Mother's Identity: 00:03:28-00:05:14 Revealing Birth Father's Identity: 00:06:34-00:08:53 Insights into Relationship Between Birth Parents: 00:09:19-00:09:51 Discussion on Celibacy and Wealth in the Church: 00:10:32-00:12:53 Impact of NDAs and Confidentiality Agreements: 00:16:15-00:19:01 Support and Justice for Children of Priests and Nuns: 00:20:11-00:22:56 Reflections on the Church's Actions and Victims: 00:23:20-00:26:04 Resources and Conclusion: 00:26:54-00:28:30 /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32818092

Homeschooling Complexities for Adopted Children with Rae (Adoptee Reclaimed) - Ep 160 08/26/2024

Homeschooling Complexities for Adopted Children with Rae (Adoptee Reclaimed) - Ep 160 "I never learned the word stress until I was 14 years old. And I can guarantee you I was very stressed well before the age of 14." -- Rae =============== 📘 Order our book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson interviews Rae, whose handle is Adoptee Reclaimed. Rae discusses how being homeschooled from kindergarten through high school in a conservative family led to feelings of isolation and pressure to conform. She highlights the challenges adoptees particularly face in homeschooling, such as the heightened power dynamic between adoptive parents and adoptees, the lack of diverse perspectives in education, and the impact on social skills development. Rae emphasizes the importance of having additional teachers or group activities to provide different perspectives and social interactions for homeschooled adoptees. She also shares advice for isolated adoptees, encouraging them to be patient with themselves and seek out supportive communities. Overall, the episode sheds light on the complexities of adoption and homeschooling, urging listeners to engage with adoptees and homeschooling families to better understand and support them. Rae's insights provide valuable perspectives on the intersection of adoption and education, highlighting the need for more awareness and support for adoptees in homeschooling environments. =============== RESOURCES: Rae’s information: Find Rae as Adoptee Reclaimed on Instagram: Find Rae as Adoptee Reclaimed on Facebook: Other resources mentioned in this episode: Coalition for Responsible Home Education: Other resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:02 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:13 - Introducing Guest, Rae, and Discussion on Homeschooling 00:02:54 - Rae's Experience with Homeschooling and Adoption 00:04:44 - Rae's Initial Thoughts on Homeschooling 00:06:16 - Challenges Faced in Homeschooling 00:08:30 - Impact of Isolation in Homeschooling on Adoptees 00:10:00 - Transition to College and Educational Gaps 00:11:06 - Intersection of Homeschooling and Adoption 00:12:58 - Pressure to Conform in Homeschooling 00:14:31 - Potential for Abuse in Homeschooling 00:15:41 - Educational Gaps and Social Challenges in College 00:17:50 - Emotional Growth and Social Behavior 00:19:44 - Recommendations for Improving Homeschooling for Adoptees 00:22:18 - Ways to Support Adoptees in Isolated Homeschooling Environments 00:26:06 - Advice for Isolated Adoptees 00:28:06 - Conclusion and Contact Information /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32693617

The Stolen Legacy of Indigenous Adoption with Pete Patton - Ep 159 08/19/2024

The Stolen Legacy of Indigenous Adoption with Pete Patton - Ep 159 "I really want to focus on the collective nature of being stolen, because it wasn't just me. It was the vast majority of Native adoptees." -- Pete Patton Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, co-hosted by Beth Syverson and her son Joey, they interview Pete Patton,LCSW, an Indigenous Inuit adoptee who shares his experiences of being stolen and adopted. Pete discusses the historical context of racism in Oregon and the impact it had on Native American communities there and elsewhere. He also delves into his journey of reconnecting with his Indigenous heritage and the healing process he has undergone. Pete highlights the importance of understanding the collective experiences of adoptees and the need for reconnection with ancestors. The conversation sheds light on the complexities of adoption and the importance of listening to and learning from Indigenous voices. The episode emphasizes the significance of acknowledging and honoring the stories of adoptees and the importance of cultural reconnection for healing. Photo Credit for cover photo of Pete: Alberto Moreno ================ 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Pete’s information: Contact Pete via email at Find the chapter that Pete contributed to in this book: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Hear Pete on The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger: Other resources mentioned in this episode: IFS Institute (Internal Family Systems): Here are the books Pete mentions: Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer: 1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus by Charles C. Mann: The Rediscovery of America: Native Peoples and the Unmaking of U.S. History by Ned Blackhawk: The Memory of Souls by Cliff Taylor: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:24 - Focus on Being Stolen and Adopted 00:04:32 - Historical Context of Assimilation Policies 00:10:58 - Impact of Cultural Othering 00:14:07 - Connecting with Indigenous Community 00:18:45 - Seven B's of Indigenous-inspired IFS 00:20:20 - Shamanic Death Experience and Spiritual Journey 00:23:20 - Impact of Buffalo Population Annihilation 00:24:43 - Adoption as an Extension of Boarding Schools 00:26:02 - Sharing Collective Experiences of Adoption 00:26:56 - Upcoming Events and Conclusion /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32613237

Adoption and Suicidality with Joey Nakao, Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Bruce Porth, Janell Strube, Laura L. Engel, Lorraine Dusky, Terri Dreismeier, and Melissa Brunetti - Ep 158 08/12/2024

Adoption and Suicidality with Joey Nakao, Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Bruce Porth, Janell Strube, Laura L. Engel, Lorraine Dusky, Terri Dreismeier, and Melissa Brunetti - Ep 158 Adoption and Suicidality with Joey Nakao, Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Bruce Porth, Janell Strube, Laura L. Engel, Lorraine Dusky, Terri Dreismeier, and Melissa Brunetti - Ep 158 "Despite working hard on a daily or moment-to-moment basis to stay alive, the poem revealed a thin thread of hope that by turning toward and befriending my pain, I might just find a way through it." -- Bruce Porth, one of the book’s contributors ❤️‍🩹 If you or someone you know is suicidal, please call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. (Outside US, call your area’s crisis line.) ❤️‍🩹 Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this special episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson delves into the complexities of adoption and its intersection with suicidality. The episode features conversations with various contributors to the newly released book "Adoption and Suicidality," which includes stories, poems, and resources for adoptees, families, healthcare professionals, and allies. The episode begins with a heartfelt conversation between Beth and her son, Joey, who co-wrote the book. Joey reflects on his journey through mental health struggles and the healing process, emphasizing the importance of sharing their experiences to help others. Following this, Beth engages in conversations with seven contributors from the book, each sharing their personal stories and insights related to adoption and suicidality. The contributors, including Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Bruce Porth, Janell Strube, Laura Engel, Lorraine Dusky, Terry Dreismeier, and Melissa Brunetti, offer poignant readings from their pieces, shedding light on the emotional complexities and challenges faced within the adoption community. Throughout the episode, the contributors discuss the stigma surrounding adoption and mental health, the need for open dialogue and education, and the impact of early trauma on mental well-being. They share personal experiences of loss, grief, and resilience, highlighting the importance of community support and understanding. The episode concludes with a reflection on the powerful and emotional narratives shared, emphasizing the significance of raising awareness, providing resources, and fostering a supportive environment for adoptees and their families. The contributors' raw and honest accounts serve as a catalyst for destigmatizing adoption-related mental health struggles and promoting healing and understanding within the adoption community. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES from this episode: Purchase the book Adoption and Suicidality through Amazon as a paperback book, e-book, and audiobook: Here’s our website with more information about the book, including the resource list in the back of the book: Find a therapist, coach, or other healing practitioner through the Healing the Adoption Constellation Database: Find adoption-related support groups and other events through our Community Calendar: Contact the contributors who spoke in this episode: Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao: Bruce Porth: Janell Strube: Laura L. Engel: Lorraine Dusky: Terri Dreismeier: Melissa Brunetti, SMGI® Practitioner: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS Introduction to the Book: 00:00:03-00:02:10 Joey's Reflections on the Book: 00:02:14-00:04:07 Contributors’ Introductions: 00:12:57-00:13:40 Contributor Readings and Reflections: 00:13:40-00:25:17 Discussion on Suicide and Adoption: 00:25:17-00:36:11 Impact of Adoption on Mental Health: 00:36:29-00:39:06 Reading Excerpts from Contributors: 00:40:05-01:01:20 Hope for Readers/Listeners: 01:01:30-01:21:57 /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32523277

Rituals and Relationships in Adoption Reunion with Elizabeth Barbour - Ep 157 08/05/2024

Rituals and Relationships in Adoption Reunion with Elizabeth Barbour - Ep 157 "I think my mom, my adoptive mom, was probably scared that she was going to lose me to my birth family." -- Elizabeth Barbour EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson interviews guest Elizabeth Barbour, an adoptee who has been in reunion with her birth parents and 11 siblings since 1999. Elizabeth shares her personal adoption story and highlights the importance of navigating search and reunion in a healthy way. She emphasizes the need for support, education, and personal growth for all members of the adoption triad. Elizabeth also discusses the significance of rituals and ceremonies in maintaining long-term relationships post-reunion. Additionally, she mentions her upcoming book on adoption reunion and the spiritual journey she has experienced through adoption. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Connect with Elizabeth at Check out her book, Sacred Celebrations: Designing Rituals to Navigate Life’s Milestone Transitions: Look into the October 2024 Magical Mountain Retreat in Asheville, NC: Find Elizabeth on social media: FB: IG: LinkedIn: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Adoption and Reunion 00:05:30 - Elizabeth's Reunion Story 00:10:43 - Rituals in Reunion Celebrations 00:13:38 - Impact of Personal Adoption Experience on Parenting 00:15:33 - Family Constellations Workshop Experience 00:17:50 - Advice for Adoptive Parents in Search and Reunion 00:20:24 - Advice for Birth Parents in Reunion 00:22:41 - Spiritual Journey in Adoption and Reunion 00:24:07 - Upcoming Reunion Book Announcement 00:25:15 - Conclusion and Resource Recommendations /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32419517

Understanding The Foster Care to Prison Pipeline with Desmond DeRoo and Sara DeRoo - Ep 156 07/29/2024

Understanding The Foster Care to Prison Pipeline with Desmond DeRoo and Sara DeRoo - Ep 156 “Love is the biggest and best thing that she did — unconditional love." Desmond DeRoo EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of the podcast, I had the privilege of speaking with Desmond DeRoo, a 30-year-old currently serving his second prison term in Michigan. Desmond, who was adopted by Sarah DeRoo at the age of five after being in the foster care system, shared his experiences of growing up as a biracial child in a small white town in Michigan. Despite facing intense early childhood trauma and struggles with impulsive behavior, Desmond emphasized the importance of unconditional love and support from his adoptive family, especially his mother, Sarah. Desmond provided valuable advice for struggling youth, emphasizing the importance of finding one's passion, surrounding oneself with positive influences, and taking responsibility for one's actions. He also highlighted the significance of seeking community support and resources, especially for adoptive parents facing challenges in raising their children. The episode shed light on the failures of various systems, including the foster care, education, and criminal justice systems, in supporting individuals like Desmond. It underscored the need for greater awareness, empathy, and proactive intervention to prevent marginalized youth from falling through the cracks and entering the prison pipeline. Overall, Desmond's resilience, wisdom, and commitment to helping others serve as an inspiration for adoptive parents and individuals navigating trauma and adversity. His and his mom’s joint message of hope and empowerment resonates with the importance of building supportive communities and advocating for systemic change to create a more inclusive and compassionate society. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Desmond and Sara’s information: Connect with Desmond and Sara through their website: Buy their book through Amazon: Follow on Instagram: Follow on Facebook: Other Resources: Statistics about foster care and prison that were mentioned in the intro: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction: Beth Syverson introduces herself and her role as an adoptive mom, setting the stage for the podcast episode. 00:02:41 - Foster Care to Prison Pipeline Statistics: Discussion on the statistics and challenges faced by former foster children in the criminal justice system. 00:06:29 - Desmond and Sara's Background: Introduction to Desmond and Sara DeRoo's story, highlighting their experiences with adoption and trauma. 00:09:12 - Desmond's Early Trauma and Challenges: Desmond's struggles as a biracial child in a small white town, his impulsive behavior, and encounters with the criminal justice system. 00:12:00 - Sara's Parenting Journey: Sara's experiences as a widow raising six adopted kids and blending families, navigating the complexities of adoption. 00:19:12 - Impact of Education System on Desmond: Discussion on how the education system failed Desmond and contributed to his path towards prison. 00:25:48 - Advice for Adoptive Parents: Desmond and Sara share advice for parents, emphasizing the importance of love, support, and seeking help. 00:35:16 - Desmond's Advice for Struggling Youth: Desmond offers advice for struggling youth, focusing on finding passion, surrounding oneself with positive influences, and taking responsibility for actions. 00:42:09 - Desmond's Future Plans Post-Prison: Desmond discusses his plans post-prison, including working with kids and using his experiences to help others. 00:46:55 - Final Thoughts and Advice on Adoption Journey: Desmond and Sara emphasize the importance of community, seeking support, and being open about struggles in the adoption journey. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32309037

The Impact of Colonization on an Inuit Greenlander Adoptee in Denmark with Kâlánguak Absalonsen - Ep 155 07/22/2024

The Impact of Colonization on an Inuit Greenlander Adoptee in Denmark with Kâlánguak Absalonsen - Ep 155 "We have only ourselves. And when I'm thinking about that, I'm thinking how strong we are. Because we have survived and still live and still create and still talk about our history." -- Kâlánguak Absalonsen Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Kâlánguak Absalonsen, an adopted person from Greenland living in Denmark. Kâlánguak shared her unique perspective on adoption, colonization, and the challenges faced by Inuit people in Denmark. She highlighted the impact of colonization on adoption practices and the struggle to maintain cultural identity in a foreign environment. Kâlánguak’s personal journey of self-discovery and reconnecting with her Inuit roots was both inspiring and heartbreaking. She emphasized the importance of giving voice to marginalized communities, like Inuit adoptees, and the strength it takes to navigate the complexities of adoption without the support of family. Through her blog, book, and advocacy work, Kâlánguak is shedding light on the experiences of Inuit adoptees and challenging the narratives imposed on them by society. Her resilience and determination to reclaim her identity serve as a powerful reminder of the strength within adoptees. As the host, I was deeply moved by Kâlánguak’s story and her courage to speak out. I encourage listeners to visit her website, read her book, and support her efforts to amplify the voices of Inuit adoptees. Let's continue to spread awareness and understanding of adoption's complexities and support adoptees in their journey of self-discovery and healing. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Kâlánguak’s contact information: Discovery Kâlánguak’s website (in English and Danish): Connect with Kâlánguak on Facebook and find her blog posts (translatable on Facebook): Here’s her beadwork on Instagram: Check out Kâlánguak‘s beading handiwork in a video: And here’s the cover of her beautiful book (in Danish) called Lille: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: Time Stamps: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Kâlánguak and adoption in Denmark 00:01:32 - History Lesson on Greenland and Denmark 00:04:04 - Kâlánguak's Adoption Story 00:08:18 - Challenges Faced Growing Up in Denmark 00:11:04 - Learning Style Differences 00:13:35 - Transition to Adulthood and Career Path 00:15:56 - Discovering Learning Disability 00:19:36 - Estrangement from Adoptive Parents 00:22:08 - Impact of Colonization on Identity 00:24:34 - The Impact of Adoption on Kâlánguak's Life 00:26:37 - Advocacy for Inuit People and Adoptees 00:30:26 - Strength and Resilience of Adoptees /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32223572

Finding Meaning in Adversity with Stephen Rowley - Ep 154 07/15/2024

Finding Meaning in Adversity with Stephen Rowley - Ep 154 "The experience of being stuck is a pretty good place to be, I think, a lot of times in therapy and life." - Stephen Rowley Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Stephen Rowley, a school administrator, college professor, and psychotherapist who shared his fascinating journey of adoption and destiny. Steve's memoir, The Lost Coin: A Memoir of Adoption and Destiny, delves into the complexities of adoption and the impact it has had on his life. Steve shared insights into his adoption experience, including the profound moment of reconnecting with his birth mother at the age of 40. This emotional reunion brought a sense of closure and connection that Steve had been yearning for, despite the challenges and complexities that came with it. Throughout the conversation, Steve delved into the Zen concept of the lost coin, highlighting the idea of mystery and intuition in navigating life's challenges and uncertainties. He shared how his adoption and relinquishment played a significant role in shaping his response to being fired from his superintendent job, leading to a period of introspection and growth. We explored Steve's deep connection to spirituality, psychology, and therapy, discussing the importance of patience, resilience, and self-discovery in navigating life's obstacles. Steve's unique perspective on karma, belief systems, and the concept of designing one's own life path provided thought-provoking insights into personal growth and understanding. As an advocate for progressive education and a believer in creating schools that work for all children, Steve shared his vision for transformative educational practices. His experiences growing up in the Midwest and the values instilled by his family underscored the importance of respect, kindness, and community in shaping his worldview. Overall, Steve's story of adoption, resilience, and spiritual growth provided a powerful narrative of self-discovery and the transformative power of embracing life's challenges with patience and curiosity. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Stephen’s information: Buy Stephen’s book, The Lost Coin: A Memoir of Adoption and Destiny: Check out Stephen’s website: Find Stephen: on Facebook: on Instagram: on LinkedIn: or on X (Twitter): Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:05:30 - Unexpected Turn of Events 00:08:09 - Impact of Adoption on Firing 00:10:28 - Reflections on Life Choices 00:14:27 - Exploring Existential Questions 00:17:21 - Finding Meaning in Adversity 00:20:16 - Vision for Progressive Education 00:21:28 - Influence of Midwest Upbringing 00:23:34 - Contact Information and Conclusion /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32099302

Unraveling Adoption Update: New Book Launch and Other Collaborations with Beth Syverson - Ep 153 07/08/2024

Unraveling Adoption Update: New Book Launch and Other Collaborations with Beth Syverson - Ep 153 Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I, Beth Syverson, provide a detailed update on the latest happenings within the Unraveling Adoption community. As an adoptive mom to my son Joey, we are dedicated to delving into the complexities of adoption and providing support to those impacted by adoption. Book Launch Announcement: The main highlight of this episode is the impending launch of our first book in the Unraveling Adoption book series. Titled Adoption and Suicidality, this anthology features stories, poems, and resources for adoptees, families, healthcare professionals, and allies. The book, co-authored by Joey and me along with 14 contributors, aims to open up conversations about suicide, a crucial but often overlooked topic in the adoption community. The book features contributions from 11 adoptees who share their personal struggles with suicidality, as well as three mothers who tragically lost their children to suicide. Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, an adoptee and psychotherapist, has written the Foreword, lending her expertise to the project. The book is divided into three sections: our family story, contributions from adoptees and mothers, and a comprehensive list of resources for support. Listeners are invited to join the book launch team, where they can receive a free copy of the book in advance and help spread the word on social media. The goal is to reach a wide audience, including therapists, pediatricians, adoption agencies, and individuals with struggling teens. I also discuss upcoming books in the series, focusing on topics like adoption and sacred plant medicine and adoption and ADHD. Community Engagement: Listeners are encouraged to explore the Unraveling Adoption Patreon, where they can support the podcast and gain access to exclusive benefits. I express gratitude to current Patreon supporters and extend an invitation to join the community. Coaching Services: As a certified coach, I offer coaching services aimed at validating experiences and guiding individuals towards solutions. Special discounts are available for podcast listeners who book coaching sessions in July 2024. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES mentioned in this episode: Join the Adoption and Suicidality Book Launch Team here: Hear previous episodes by some of our book’s contributors: Addressing LGBTQ+ Adoption Stigmas with Tony Hynes - Ep 93: Exposing the Dangers of Secrets & Lies with Greg Rostron - Ep 97: Coming Out of the Fog with Melissa Brunetti - Ep 106: Investigating Adoption's Fault Lines with Birth Mother Lorraine Dusky - Ep 108: Healing Adoption Trauma Through Alternative Therapies with Ridghaus - Ep 113: Access the Healing the Adoption Constellation Database here: Access the Community Calendar here: Become a Patreon supporter here for as little as $5/month: Find out more about my coaching here: Other recent podcasts featuring our family’s story: Beth and Joey on Charlyn Spiering’s Adoption Uncovered podcast: Beth and Joey on Lisa Ann’s Wandering Tree podcast: Beth on Speaking of Teens with Ann Coleman: Beth on Mee Ok Icaro’s podcast Live Your True Story: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== 00:00:00 - Introduction and Book Announcement 00:04:50 - Book Launch Team Invitation 00:05:32 - Resources and Ways to Get Involved 00:07:07 - Collaboration with Podcast Guests 00:08:09 - Patreon Supporter Recognition 00:13:19 - Coaching Services Offered /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/32028892

Insights from Plant Medicine for the Adoption Constellation with Mee Ok Icaro and Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 152 07/01/2024

Insights from Plant Medicine for the Adoption Constellation with Mee Ok Icaro and Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 152 “Psychedelics can offer a portal to other consciousnesses and open spaces beyond our regular reality.” -- Mee Ok Icaro (adoptee) “Psychedelics can be a powerful tool for deep work and accessing feelings”. - Leslie Pate Mackinnon (birth mom) “Psychedelics can lead to transformative experiences, dividing life into before and after the journey.” -- Beth Syverson (adoptive parent) *********** All adoption constellation members (adoptees, birth/first parents, adoptive parents, and other allies) are invited to a Medicine Circle on July 7, 2024, led by Mee Ok Icaro and hosted by Unraveling Adoption. Register here: *********** Episode Summary: In this episode, we are joined by two previous guests, Leslie Pate Mackinnon and Mee Ok Icaro, to discuss the role of sacred plant medicine in their personal healing journeys and its potential to bring the adoption community together. Leslie, a birth mother, shares her experience of coming out of the adoption fog and how plant medicine has helped her access deep-seated trauma, both psychological and physical. She emphasizes the importance of doing thorough research, having a support system in place, and being open to sharing one's authentic self within the adoption community. Mee Ok, a Korean adoptee, highlights the transformative power of plant medicine in connecting with her ancestry and understanding the interconnectedness of her lineage. She emphasizes the need for adoptees to have a voice in the adoption narrative and the importance of collective healing within the community. Beth, an adoptive mother, shares her journey of exploring plant medicine as a means of healing her own trauma and supporting her son through his struggles. She reflects on the role of adoptive parents in collaborating with adoptees and birth parents to create a more compassionate and understanding adoption community. The conversation delves into the challenges and rewards of integrating plant medicine into the adoption healing process, emphasizing the need for compassion, understanding, and collaboration among all members of the adoption constellation. The guests discuss the importance of personal healing as a foundation for collective healing and the potential for plant medicine to facilitate deeper connections and empathy within the adoption community. As the episode concludes, the guests offer insights and advice for individuals interested in exploring plant medicine within the context of adoption, encouraging a mindful and intentional approach to healing and fostering unity within the adoption community. The episode serves as a reminder of the power of compassion, understanding, and shared experiences in promoting healing and growth within the adoption community. ============== RESOURCES: Mee Ok’s contact information: Connect with Mee Ok through her website: Find out about Mee Ok’s November 2024 ayahuasca retreat at Soltara in Costa Rica: Follow Mee Ok: on Substack: on Facebook: and on Instagram: Leslie’s contact information: Reach Leslie through her website: Follow Leslie on Facebook: Other resources mentioned in this episode: Read Michael Pollan’s book, How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence: Soltara Healing Center (Costa Rica): - use MEEOK at checkout for a $200 discount. Indigenous Medicine Declaration summarized by Mee Ok Icaro: Hear Mee Ok’s previous Unraveling Adoption podcast episode, “Ayahuasca for Transforming Trauma and Pain with Mee Ok Icaro”: Hear Leslie’s previous Unraveling Adoption podcast episode, “A Birth Mother's Perspective with Leslie Pate Mackinnon”: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: ============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS Introduction to the Podcast: 00:00:02-00:00:12 Guest Introductions and Topic Introduction: 00:00:12-00:00:55 Personal Experiences with Plant Medicine: 00:00:55-00:01:30 Discussion on Individual Healing with Plant Medicine: 00:01:30-00:02:40 Leslie's Introduction and Adoption Journey: 00:02:40-00:03:54 Beth's Introduction and Adoption Journey: 00:04:00-00:05:40 Mee Ok Icaro's Introduction and Adoption Journey: 00:05:40-00:06:22 Reasons for Pursuing Plant Medicines: 00:06:22-00:08:56 Impact of Plant Medicines on Healing: 00:08:56-00:10:21 Ancestral Healing and Insights: 00:10:21-00:12:20 Healing in Relation to Adoption: 00:12:20-00:14:55 Preparation and Support for Plant Medicine Journeys: 00:15:00-00:27:03 Personal Growth and Community Healing: 00:27:03-00:39:41 Collective Healing and Collaboration: 00:39:47-00:46:33 /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31869557

Pride and Resilience: A Transgender Adoptee's Path with Sanjay Pulver - Ep 151 06/24/2024

Pride and Resilience: A Transgender Adoptee's Path with Sanjay Pulver - Ep 151 "Being trans was not in my product description, and my 30-day money-back guarantee return policy has long since expired." -- Sanjay Pulver Read the transcript here: Episode Synopsis In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of hosting Sanjay Pulver, a transracial intercountry adoptee from India, who shared his unique journey as a trans man raised by white parents in San Diego, California. Sanjay's story sheds light on the complexities of being an adoptee and navigating the intersections of adoption, gender identity, and cultural heritage. Sanjay shared his origin story, revealing his relinquishment in a small village outside of Hyderabad, India, and his subsequent adoption journey to the United States. He discussed the challenges of not having access to information about his biological family and the cultural barriers in India that hinder reunion efforts for adoptees. The conversation delved into Sanjay's experience of questioning his gender identity from a young age and his journey towards transitioning, both socially and medically. He candidly discussed the complexities of coming out as a lesbian before transitioning and the mixed reactions from his adoptive parents, who initially wanted a daughter from India. As a trans adoptee, Sanjay highlighted the additional layers of identity and the challenges he faces in finding acceptance and understanding within both the adoptee and LGBTQ+ communities. He emphasized the importance of allyship and respect for trans individuals, urging listeners to prioritize using correct pronouns and avoiding invasive questions about surgeries or procedures. The episode also touched on the dangers and legislative challenges faced by trans individuals in the current political climate, emphasizing the need for support and advocacy to ensure the safety and well-being of the trans community. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Sanjay’s information: Find Sanjay on Instagram: Listen to Sanjay’s episode on Haley Radke’s Adoptees On podcast: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== 00:05:30 - Adoption Trends from India: Sanjay Pulver discusses the history and trends of intercountry adoption from India. 00:08:03 - Questioning Gender Identity: Sanjay shares about when he started questioning his gender identity. 00:09:35 - Transitioning Process: Sanjay talks about his process of transitioning, both socially and medically. 00:11:07 - Parental Acceptance: Discussion on how Sanjay's adoptive parents reacted to his coming out as gay. 00:12:53 - Fear of Rejection: Sanjay expresses his concerns about potential rejection from his adoptive parents due to his gender identity. 00:14:13 - Reunion Considerations: Sanjay reflects on the complexities of potentially reuniting with his birth family in India. 00:17:43 - Transgender Rights: Sanjay highlights the challenges faced by trans individuals in the current political climate. 00:19:48 - Allyship for Trans People: Sanjay provides insights on how individuals can be better allies to the trans community. 00:22:43 - Respectful Communication: Discussion on the importance of respectful communication and boundaries when interacting with trans individuals. 00:24:03 - Support and Connection: Sanjay shares his contact information and future projects related to adoptees and the LGBTQ+ community. 00:27:00 - Advocacy and Recognition: Sanjay emphasizes the importance of advocacy for marginalized communities and recognition of trans elders. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31826567

A Deep Dive into Adoption History and Motherhood with Rebecca Wellington - Ep 150 06/17/2024

A Deep Dive into Adoption History and Motherhood with Rebecca Wellington - Ep 150 "I think it's really important at this moment for us in our society to understand that we collectively and continuously, in every little micro level ways and macro level ways, differentially value mothers in America, and we are still making decisions that are rooted in really bigoted assumptions, that are rooted in racism." -- Rebecca Wellington Read the transcript: Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes guest Rebecca Wellington, an adoptee, mom, and historian, to discuss the complexities of motherhood in the context of adoption. Rebecca's new book, Who is a Worthy Mother?, serves as a hybrid memoir and adoption history, delving into the societal perceptions of motherhood and adoption in the U.S. Rebecca shares her personal adoption story, highlighting the challenges and complexities she faced growing up as an adoptee. She reflects on her journey of self-discovery and the impact of motherhood on her understanding of adoption trauma. The conversation touches on the historical context of adoption policies, including eugenics and forced sterilizations, shedding light on the systemic injustices faced by marginalized communities. The discussion also explores the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade and its implications on adoption and motherhood. Rebecca emphasizes the need for a deeper understanding of how societal biases and prejudices shape perceptions of motherhood and adoption. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage with Rebecca's book, share their reviews, and join the conversation on adoption and mothering. The episode serves as a thought-provoking exploration of the intersection of adoption, motherhood, and historical injustices, inviting listeners to reflect on their own beliefs and perceptions surrounding these topics. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Rebecca’s information: Reach out to Rebecca and find all her links at Order Rebecca’s book Who Is a Worthy Mother? here: Other resources mentioned in this episode: Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency by Sharon Kaplan Roszia and Allison Davis Maxon: "You Should Bea Grateful": Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption by Angela Tucker: https://amzn.to/3KI0iIz Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast 00:05:30 - Becca's Adoption Story 00:10:00 - Impact of Roe vs. Wade 00:16:00 - History of Eugenics and Forced Sterilizations 00:20:00 - Understanding Motherhood in America 00:22:00 - Book Information and Call for Reviews /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31736772

Chasing the Buzz: A Foundling's Quest for Identity with Ryan Anderson - Ep 149 06/10/2024

Chasing the Buzz: A Foundling's Quest for Identity with Ryan Anderson - Ep 149 "I'm just enjoying the journey. What happens when the journey is over? Then what? So I'm just chasing the buzz." - Ryan Anderson Read the transcript; or read along while listening, if you have trouble udnerstanding Ryan's lovely Scottish accent: Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Ryan Anderson, a foundling and transnational, transracial, and late discovery adoptee. Ryan shared his incredible journey of being found on the streets of Morocco as an infant and later being adopted by an English mother and Moroccan father in Scotland. The revelation of his adoption at the age of 18 sent him on a tumultuous path of self-medication with alcohol and drugs, but he has been sober for 10 months now. Ryan's story is one of resilience and determination as he embarks on a relentless search for his birth family in Morocco. Despite facing challenges such as language barriers and limited resources, Ryan has not given up hope. He has explored various avenues, including DNA testing, visiting hospitals and courts in Morocco, and even appearing on Moroccan TV to share his story. Throughout the episode, Ryan candidly discusses his struggles with mental health, the impact of his adoption on his identity, and the ongoing quest to find his roots. Despite facing negative comments and setbacks, Ryan remains steadfast in his pursuit, driven by a deep yearning to connect with his biological family. As the host, I was struck by Ryan's unwavering determination and vulnerability in sharing his story. His journey serves as a poignant reminder of the complexities of adoption and the profound longing for belonging. Ryan's courage and resilience in the face of adversity are truly inspiring, and his willingness to share his experiences sheds light on the emotional complexities of the adoption journey. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Ryan (Peshy)’s information: Connect with Ryan on Instagram Or find him on Facebook Watch Ryan’s 15-minute YouTube video about his life: Read Ryan’s 37-page story: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: If you enjoy our podcast, please RATE and/or REVIEW Unraveling Adoption on Apple or Spotify. It really helps our episodes reach more ears. Thank you! =============== Timestamps: 00:00:02 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption: Beth Syverson introduces the podcast and herself as an adoptive mom. 00:03:10 - Desire to Help Others: Ryan Anderson discusses his burning desire to help others and his people-pleasing tendencies. 00:06:42 - Discovery of Adoption at 18: Ryan shares his experience of finding out about his adoption at the age of 18 and the impact it had on him. 00:10:06 - Coping Mechanisms During COVID: Ryan talks about how COVID-19 impacted his partying habits and led to a period of sobriety. 00:12:25 - Ongoing Search for Birth Family: Ryan discusses his ongoing search for his birth family in Morocco and the challenges he faces. 00:21:14 - Near Kidnapping Experience: Ryan recounts a harrowing experience of almost being kidnapped during a trip to Morocco. 00:24:43 - Balancing Life and Adoption Search: Ryan reflects on the balance between searching for his birth family and living his life to the fullest. 00:30:07 - Journey to Sobriety: Ryan shares his journey to sobriety and the importance of finding balance in his life. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31659347

Behind the Scenes of Because She's Adopted: A Filmmaker's Journey with Kristal Parke - Ep 148 06/03/2024

Behind the Scenes of Because She's Adopted: A Filmmaker's Journey with Kristal Parke - Ep 148 "I truly felt the weight of the world telling the story. I felt like it was a great responsibility, but I had to do it." -- Kristal Parke Read the transcript here: EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kristal Parke, an adoptee and filmmaker behind the acclaimed documentary Because She's Adopted. Kristal shared her journey of self-discovery and identity exploration through the creation of her film, which delves into her childhood, reunion with her birth mother, struggle with addiction, and intentional reconnection with her Indigenous heritage. The film has received critical acclaim and won awards, shedding light on the complexities of adoption. Kristal discussed the impact of her film on her family, crew, and herself, highlighting the vulnerability and growth that came with sharing her story. She emphasized the importance of owning her narrative and the evolution of her understanding of adoption. The podcast episode also touched on the behind-the-scenes process of creating the documentary, including the support of her adoptive family, crew members, and the challenges and joys of filming. Listeners were encouraged to watch the film, which is set to be officially released by fall 2024. Kristal shared details on how to stay connected with updates and screenings. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Kristal’s information: Check our Kristal’s film’s website to keep informed of future events: Follow the film at Facebook: Or on Instagram: Email Kristal at Watch a trailer of the film Because She’s Adopted: Catch the Hiraeth Hope & Healing screening on June 15, 2024: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== Timestamps: 00:00:02 - Introduction to Kristal Parke: Beth introduces Kristal Parke, a Canadian adoptee and filmmaker, and talks about her acclaimed documentary "Because She's Adopted." 00:05:31 - Unique Adoption Story: Kristal shares the unique story of how she was chosen based on her gender for adoption. 00:10:18 - Residential School Trauma: Kristal discusses the traumatic experiences of Indigenous children in Canadian residential schools. 00:12:26 - Reunion with Birth Mother: Kristal recounts her emotional reunion with her birth mother and meeting her older brother. 00:14:58 - Impact on Family: Kristal reflects on how her family, including her brothers and father, were affected by the documentary. 00:17:43 - Supportive Husband: Kristal talks about the role of her husband in the documentary and the title choice "Because She's Adopted." 00:20:16 - Serene Reflection: Kristal describes a peaceful moment in Manitoba that symbolized her journey of self-discovery during filming. 00:24:27 - Personal Growth: Kristal shares how making the film helped her own her story and continue her journey of self-discovery. 00:26:33 - Film Release Information: Kristal provides details on how to watch the film and stay connected for updates. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31557607

The Impact of Divorce on Adopted Children with Jane Spreckley - Ep 147 05/27/2024

The Impact of Divorce on Adopted Children with Jane Spreckley - Ep 147 “I didn't want to lose them. I loved them both and I thought, it's hard to think about your life separated. I guess now knowing all that I know about being separated from the first person that I was supposed to be with, you know, I just never wanted to be separated from either one of them.” -- Jane Spreckley Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, the host, Beth Syverson, interviews Jane Spreckley, an adoptee whose adoptive parents divorced when she was 14 years old. Jane shares her experience of how the divorce activated her abandonment issues and impacted her relationships. She emphasizes the importance of adoptive parents seeking therapy with adoption-competent therapists for their children during difficult times like divorce. Jane also highlights the significance of open communication and compassion within families going through similar situations. The conversation sheds light on the complexities adoptees face during divorce and the need for understanding and support. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Jane’s information: Find Jane on Facebook at Email Jane at Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Podcast 00:05:30 - Jane's Experience with Parents' Divorce 00:10:00 - Realization of Impact from First Abandonment 00:13:30 - Advice for Adoptive Parents Going Through Divorce 00:17:20 - Advice for Adoptees Dealing with Divorcing Parents 00:20:00 - Encouragement for Self-Compassion and Support for Jane 00:21:30 - Gratitude to Patreon Supporters and Call to Share the Episode /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31461262

Wrestling with Social Anxiety as an Adoptee with Tammy Murphy - Ep 146 05/20/2024

Wrestling with Social Anxiety as an Adoptee with Tammy Murphy - Ep 146 “I have a hard time believing in love, that love just really exists, that you can love somebody. Then I feel like I have a hard time loving men and stuff, so I wouldn't want them to get hurt if they ever felt like I didn't love them.” - Tammy Murphy Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Tammy Murphy, a Black, same-race, domestic adoptee living in Indiana. Tammy shared her struggles with social anxiety and dissociation, stemming from her adoption experience. She recounted how her adoptive mother's inconsistent responses to her questions about being adopted led to confusion and a sense of not belonging. Tammy also shared her journey of self-medication with substances like alcohol and marijuana to cope with her feelings of disconnect and identity crisis. Despite facing challenges in forming deep relationships and feeling a sense of authenticity, Tammy has taken steps towards healing. She recently started therapy and has begun journaling to identify triggers and coping mechanisms. Tammy expressed her aspirations to become an adoption therapist and to write a memoir titled Two to Forgive, focusing on forgiveness towards her birth mother and adoptive mother. Throughout the episode, Tammy emphasized the importance of honesty in adoptive families, early communication about adoption, and seeking therapy and self-help resources to navigate the complexities of adoption trauma. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Resource mentioned in this episode: Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency: A Comprehensive Guide to Promoting Understanding and Healing In Adoption, Foster Care, Kinship Families and Third Party Reproduction: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:05:30 - Connecting with Others as an Adoptee 00:11:01 - Seeking Therapy and Beginning to Address Adoption Trauma 00:14:06 - Future Goals: Becoming an Adoption Therapist 00:15:50 - Advice for Adoptive Parents: Honesty and Openness 00:16:40 - Impact of Lies and Deception on Adoptees 00:18:16 - Advice for Adoptees: Therapy, Emotional Intelligence, and Coping Strategies /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31311092

Nurturing Hope: A Recovery Update with Joey Nakao - Ep 145 05/13/2024

Nurturing Hope: A Recovery Update with Joey Nakao - Ep 145 "I'm in a great place, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally." -- Joey Nakao Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this heartfelt episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes her son, Joey, back to the podcast after a five-month hiatus. Joey, a courageous 20-year-old in recovery from addiction, shares his journey of sobriety and self-discovery with listeners. The episode delves into Joey's recent experiences at Hazelden Betty Ford in Palm Springs, where he is participating in a PHP (Partial Hospitalization Program). Joey reflects on the challenges he has faced during his recovery, including moments of discomfort and the temptation to leave the program. However, he credits the supportive community at the treatment center for helping him stay grounded and committed to his sobriety. Joey opens up about his transformative experiences with meditation, where he received messages of healing and self-preservation. He also discusses his plans for the future, including moving into an apartment with a friend from rehab and continuing his recovery journey. As the episode unfolds, Beth and Joey discuss their upcoming book, Adoptees and Suicidality, which aims to shed light on the connection between adoption and mental health struggles. Joey expresses his desire to be more involved in the podcast and potentially pursue a career in counseling or recovery support. Throughout the episode, Joey emphasizes the importance of honesty, self-nurturing, and community support in the recovery process. He encourages listeners struggling with addiction to stay hopeful and seek help from those who can hold their truth with compassion. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Hear an earlier episode with Joey and Beth about suicidality: Hazelden Betty Ford Addiction and Mental Health Treatment Services (with services throughout the US): Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Timestamps: 00:05:30 - Joey's Recovery Journey: Joey discusses his experience with recovery and the challenges he faced in previous attempts. 00:10:17 - Importance of Community in Recovery: Joey emphasizes the role of community and support in his recovery journey. 00:15:07 - Milestones in Recovery: Joey reflects on his progress in recovery and the importance of taking it day by day. 00:17:14 - Comparison between SMART Recovery and AA: Joey explains the differences between SMART Recovery and Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) in terms of approach and structure. 00:18:28 - Transformative Meditation Experiences: Joey shares his experiences with meditation and the insights he gained during the practice. 00:21:35 - Unraveling Adoption Book Announcement: Beth discusses the upcoming release of the book Adoptees and Suicidality and its significance in raising awareness about suicide. 00:23:20 - Overcoming Stigma in Recovery: Joey encourages understanding and compassion for individuals struggling with addiction, emphasizing the importance of support and empathy. 00:24:17 - Message of Hope for Those Struggling: Joey offers words of encouragement and advice for individuals facing addiction, highlighting the importance of honesty and seeking support. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31238567

Finding Her Beat: Healing and Identity Through Taiko with Jennifer Weir - Ep 144 05/06/2024

Finding Her Beat: Healing and Identity Through Taiko with Jennifer Weir - Ep 144 "Taiko drumming is a wonderful way to release lots of negative energy and have it transformed into positive energy. " -- Jennifer Weir Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes guest Jennifer Weir, a Korean adoptee who connected with her Asian identity through Taiko drumming. Jennifer shares her journey of being adopted from South Korea at a young age and growing up in North Dakota with very little Asian representation. Despite facing bullying and struggles with identity, Jennifer found solace in Taiko drumming, eventually becoming the executive director of Taiko Arts Midwest. The episode delves into Jennifer's experience organizing a groundbreaking concert featuring elite women Taiko drummers from Japan, the US, and Canada. The concert, captured in the award-winning documentary Finding Her Beat, highlighted the challenges faced by women in the male-dominated Taiko industry. The film showcases the power of Taiko drumming as a form of expression and healing, resonating with audiences worldwide. Beth and Jennifer discuss the complexities of Asian identity, the importance of processing grief, and the transformative power of Taiko drumming in navigating personal struggles. Jennifer's journey from a Korean adoptee to a Taiko drumming powerhouse serves as an inspiration to adoptees and individuals exploring their cultural heritage. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== Resources mentioned in this episode: Finding Her Beat documentary: HERbeat: Taiko Women All-Stars (Full Concert Video): TaikoArts Midwest: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Timestamps: 00:01:05 - Guest Introduction: Jennifer Weir, Korean Adoptee 00:02:20 - Jennifer's Adoption Story: Arrival in the U.S. 00:03:31 - Growing Up in North Dakota as an Asian Adoptee 00:06:00 - Lack of Asian Cultural Connection in Childhood 00:08:00 - Experience of Bullying and Microaggressions in School 00:09:37 - Jennifer's Response to Bullying and Racism 00:11:59 - Vulnerable Story of Dealing with Bullying 00:13:32 - Coping with Rage 00:15:11 - Taiko Drumming is Cathartic and Therapeutic 00:16:08 - Women in Taiko Drumming: Gender Dynamics 00:17:13 - Empowering Women in Taiko Drumming 00:19:53 - Production of "Finding Her Beat" Documentary 00:21:38 - Jennifer's Family Involvement in Taiko Drumming 00:22:05 - Choosing Japanese Taiko Drumming over Korean Drumming 00:25:20 - Impact of Finding Her Beat on the Adoptee Community 00:27:02 - Information on Finding Her Beat film and TaikoArts Midwest 00:28:02 - Support Unraveling Adoption Podcast and Patreon Membership /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/31121318

Codependency in the Adoption Constellation with Jonathan Newbern - Ep 143 04/29/2024

Codependency in the Adoption Constellation with Jonathan Newbern - Ep 143 "...when you're walking around with a sense of loss, or you feel like your first mother or first family don't want you, there's two ways you go about this. Either A, you're going to get really enmeshed and get real clingy because you don't want to lose. Or B, you get this detachment, and as adoptees and groups sometimes say, ‘I'm going to leave you before you leave me.’" -- Jonathan Newbern Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of hosting Jonathan Newbern, a same-race domestic adoptee deeply involved with Codependents Anonymous (CODA). Jonathan shared his poignant adoption journey, marked by a late discovery of his adoption status and a tumultuous childhood. He bravely delved into the connection between relinquishment trauma, adoption trauma, reunion trauma, and codependency, shedding light on the complexities adoptees often face. Jonathan's personal experiences and insights into codependency from an adoptee's perspective provided valuable tools and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues. He emphasized the importance of seeking help, setting boundaries, and engaging in self-care practices to navigate the challenges of codependency. Throughout the episode, Jonathan's vulnerability and resilience shone through as he shared his journey of healing and growth. His message of empowerment and self-worth resonated deeply, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their struggles. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Jonathan’s information: Jonathan on Instragram: Jonathan on Facebook: Email Jonathan: Resources mentioned in this episode: Codependents Anonymous (CODA): Adoption Mosaic: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: Timestamps 00:00:00 - Introduction to Adoption and Codependency 00:05:30 - Jonathan's Adoption Story Unveiled 00:10:45 - Codependency and Attachment Styles 00:17:05 - Jonathan's Journey to Codependents Anonymous 00:20:39 - Recovery Tools and Self-Care Practices 00:22:06 - Embracing the Adoption Constellation 00:26:20 - Contact Information for Jonathan /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/30953773

Sexuality in Adoption: Insights from a Transracial Adoptee and Sex Therapist with Anna Linde - Ep 142 04/22/2024

Sexuality in Adoption: Insights from a Transracial Adoptee and Sex Therapist with Anna Linde - Ep 142 Sexuality and Adoption: Insights from a Transracial Adoptee and Sex Therapist "For me, sexual and reproductive health or our sexuality is so connected with attraction, with attachment style, with self-esteem, with the wish for connecting and creating long-term bonds." -- Anna Linde Read the transcript: Podcast Episode Synopsis: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Anna Linde, a transracial adoptee and a sex therapist. Anna shared her unique perspective on the intersection of adoption and sexuality, shedding light on the complexities and challenges adoptees face in this area. Anna, who was adopted from Brazil to Sweden at just six weeks old, grew up as one of the few Black children in her community. She discussed the impact of the "white gaze" on her self-perception and how it influenced her views on intimacy and relationships. Throughout the conversation, Anna highlighted the importance of addressing shame, anxiety, and boundaries in adoptees' sexual identities. She emphasized the need for adoptive parents to create a safe space for their children to explore healthy boundaries and navigate their sexuality with confidence. The discussion delved into the role of cultural stereotypes in shaping adoptees' sexual experiences and the challenges of navigating relationships in a society that often perpetuates harmful norms. Anna shared personal anecdotes and insights from her work as a sex therapist, offering valuable perspectives on how adoptees can cultivate a positive relationship with their bodies and sexuality. Towards the end of the episode, we announced an upcoming webinar on June 5 which will be led by Anna, focusing on sexual and reproductive health for adoptees. The webinar aims to provide adoptive parents and caretakers with valuable insights and tools to support their children in developing healthy attitudes towards sexuality. Overall, this episode provided a thought-provoking exploration of the complex dynamics at the intersection of adoption and sexuality, offering valuable guidance and insights for adoptees and adoptive parents alike. Anna's expertise and personal experiences added depth and nuance to the conversation, highlighting the importance of addressing these issues within the adoption community. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES: Anna’s information: Find Anna on Linked In: Find Anna on Instagram at Here’s Anna’s Linktree with more resources: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Timestamps: 00:00:02 - Introduction to the podcast and guest, Anna Linde 00:05:39 - Discussion on the white gaze and self-identity 00:07:49 - Impact of body image on sexuality 00:10:17 - Common sexual problems among adoptees 00:14:18 - Stereotypical sexual ideas related to race 00:18:47 - Importance of conscious work in dissecting adoption issues 00:21:34 - Advice for adoptive parents on building healthier sexual identities for children 00:25:49 - Availability of the guest, Anna Linde, for online coaching 00:27:28 - Announcement of upcoming webinar on sexual and reproductive health for adoptees on June 5, 2024 /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/30875928

Solving the Genetic Puzzle of Health Issues in Adoptees with Jeremy - Ep 141 04/15/2024

Solving the Genetic Puzzle of Health Issues in Adoptees with Jeremy - Ep 141 "I hate when people say that my life should be a movie. Can we just ban that phrase?" - Jeremy Read the transcript here: Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson delves into the complexities of adoption alongside her guest, Jeremy, a 24-year-old adopted person from Texas. Jeremy shares his journey of struggling with various health issues and neurodivergence, only to discover the genetic roots of his challenges after reuniting with his birth family in 2022. Jeremy's adoption story unfolds as he recounts being adopted in Albuquerque, New Mexico, from a birth family in Denver. Raised in Texas by adoptive parents who were open about his adoption but painted a negative picture of his birth mother, Jeremy grew up questioning his identity and health issues without a clear genetic history. As Jeremy navigates his health challenges, including asthma, joint pain, and dysautonomia, he sheds light on the importance of knowing one's genetic background for proper diagnosis and treatment. With a recent diagnosis of hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), Jeremy emphasizes the need for healthcare professionals to recognize and address invisible disabilities like EDS. Through his journey of self-discovery and reunion with his birth family, Jeremy finds validation and understanding in shared experiences with relatives who also have EDS. He highlights the significance of acceptance and support from adoptive families, healthcare providers, and the community in addressing the unique needs of adoptees with complex medical histories. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on the impact of closed adoptions, ableism, and stigma surrounding birth parents, as Beth and Jeremy advocate for a more inclusive and informed approach to adoption and healthcare. The episode concludes with a call to action for spreading awareness and support for adoptees facing health challenges and seeking reunion. To connect with Jeremy and explore more adoption-related content, visit his Instagram account, Borderline Adoptee. Additionally, listeners are invited to engage with Unraveling Adoption through their website and Patreon community to support ongoing discussions and resources for adoptive families and individuals impacted by adoption. Stay tuned for more insightful conversations and stories on Unraveling Adoption. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Find Jeremy at BorderlineAdoptee on Instagram: Find out more about Ehler’s Danlos Syndrome (EDS) here: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== TIMESTAMPS 00:00:02 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption: Beth Syverson introduces the podcast and shares her personal connection to adoption. 00:01:05 - Jeremy's Adoption Story: Jeremy shares his adoption story, including details about his birth family and upbringing. 00:03:01 - Searching for Birth Mother: Jeremy talks about his search for his birth mother and the impact of not knowing his genetic history. 00:05:30 - Discovering Neurodivergence: Jeremy discusses his diagnosis of neurodivergence and the challenges he faced growing up. 00:06:28 - Diagnosis of Asperger's: Jeremy shares his diagnosis of Asperger's and the challenges he faced due to misconceptions about his condition. 00:08:09 - Uncovering Health Conditions: Jeremy talks about the health issues he faced as a child and the discovery of his genetic conditions later in life. 00:10:49 - Reunion with Birth Father: Jeremy discusses meeting his birth father and the lack of medical information provided by him. 00:13:41 - Understanding Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome: Jeremy explains Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, a genetic connective tissue disorder, and his journey to diagnosis. 00:18:46 - Impact of Genetic Knowledge: Jeremy reflects on how knowing his genetic history from the beginning could have positively impacted his self-identity and health management. 00:21:44 - Advocating for Adoptees' Health: Jeremy discusses the importance of healthcare professionals and adoptive families supporting adoptees in managing their medical diagnoses. 00:23:35 - Addressing Ableism and Misconceptions: Jeremy highlights the need to combat ableism and misconceptions surrounding invisible disabilities like EDS. 00:27:00 - Connecting with Jeremy: Jeremy shares his Instagram handle for further engagement and invites others in the adoption community to reach out. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/30805953

Connecting with Ancestors for Healing with Helena Soholm, PhD - Ep 140 04/08/2024

Connecting with Ancestors for Healing with Helena Soholm, PhD - Ep 140 "I want to normalize the practice of spirituality and ancestral rituals. They're a normal part of our lives." Helena Soholm, PhD Read the Transcript here: Episode Summary Beth Syverson, the host of the podcast Unraveling Adoption, welcomes Dr. Helena Soholm as a guest on the show. Dr. Soholm, a Korean mudang or shaman, shares her unique journey of combining contemporary forms of shamanism and psychology to help adoptees connect with their ancestors. Despite not being an adoptee herself, Helena has been instrumental in assisting Korean adoptees in their healing process through communication with their ancestors. Helena's childhood experiences in Korea, surrounded by intuitive women and spiritual gifts, laid the foundation for her eventual path as a shaman. Her awakening to the power of ancestors led her to integrate psychology and shamanism in a profound way. Through her work, she has helped adoptees navigate their complex emotions and traumas by facilitating connections with their ancestral lineage. The podcast delves into Helena's personal journey, including her initiation as a mudang in 2018 and her experiences working with adoptees in both Korea and Denmark. She emphasizes the importance of developing one's spiritual authority and trusting oneself for healing. Dr. Soholm's approach focuses on empowering individuals to connect with their ancestors and find peace within themselves. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== Dr. Helena Soholm’s information: Helena’s website has much more information about her practice and upcoming events: Article about her Shamanic initiation: Dr. Soholm’s Lecture and Korean Shamanic Ritual at Yale: Find Helena on Instagram: and on Facebook: Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: Timestamps 00:00:02 - Introduction to Helena Soholm: Beth introduces Helena Soholm, a Korean mudang or shaman, and discusses her unique background and qualifications. 00:08:16 - Helena's Journey to Becoming a Shaman: Helena shares her personal journey and struggles with embracing her calling to become a mudang. 00:15:50 - Helena's Connection with Adoptees: Helena discusses her awakening to the ancestors and how she helps adoptees connect with their lineage. 00:26:28 - Healing and Connection for Adoptees: Helena explains the outcomes and benefits adoptees experience through her ceremonies and ancestral connections. 00:34:51 - Seeking Reputable Ancestral Work: Helena provides guidance on finding reputable practitioners for ancestral work and emphasizes the importance of trusting one's intuition. 00:36:45 - Empowering Self-Healing: Helena emphasizes the importance of empowering individuals to heal themselves and build their spiritual authority. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/30706863

Embracing Complex Identity: Insights from a Non-Binary Adoptee of Color with Anthony Lynch - Ep 139 04/01/2024

Embracing Complex Identity: Insights from a Non-Binary Adoptee of Color with Anthony Lynch - Ep 139 "I think everyone has had this experience of feeling like they're in two places or even more than that, but not quite enough of any." -- Anthony Lynch Read the Transcript: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HSYYTTTDQ2QVDVHZ079SXA3E Episode Summary: Beth Syverson, the host of the podcast "Unraveling Adoption," welcomes Anthony Lynch, a 24-year-old non-binary transracial adoptee living in London, as a guest on the show. Anthony is the co-founder of In Between Lines, an organization that empowers individuals with complex identities. Throughout the episode, Anthony shares insights into their personal journey as a transracial adoptee with Jamaican and white heritage, growing up in a multicultural family in London. Anthony discusses the challenges of navigating multiple identities, including being adopted, non-binary, and mixed race. They highlight the importance of embracing one's full identity and the complexities that come with straddling different cultural backgrounds. Anthony also sheds light on the concept of intersectionality and how it influences individual experiences and societal perceptions. The conversation delves into the significance of creating spaces for individuals with complex identities to share their stories and connect with others. Anthony shares about the work of In Between Lines, including an upcoming exhibition featuring individuals with diverse backgrounds and identities. They emphasize the need for a more nuanced understanding of identity and the importance of fostering inclusivity and acceptance. Beth and Anthony also discuss the upcoming parliamentary inquiry on adoptee voices in the UK, where Anthony is a steering group member. They touch on the mental health implications of complex identities and the role of policymakers in supporting individuals with diverse backgrounds. Throughout the episode, Beth and Anthony explore the power of authenticity, community, and understanding in embracing complex identities. They encourage listeners to reflect on their own identities and challenge societal norms that limit individuals to singular labels. The episode concludes with a call to share the conversation with others and continue the dialogue on identity and acceptance. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: =============== Anthony’s Contact Information: Find Anthony on Linked In: In-Between Lines on Instagram: In-Between Lines website: Anthony Lynch is a researcher working in the intersection between Lived Experience and Policy. Their work with Complex Identities began when they co-founded In-Between Lines, an award-winning creative community for individuals belonging to multiple ethnicities, cultures, and families. As a research assistant at Coram, the UK's oldest Children's charity, they use their lived experience as a mixed non-binary adoptee to inform policy. They are also a steering group member for an upcoming parliamentary inquiry into adoptee voices, organized by the All Party Parliamentary Group on Adoption and Permanence. =============== Other Resources: APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: Other Parents Like Me - Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Find us on , , and Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Check out our website: Create your own podcast through Libsyn: =============== Timestamps: 00:00:02 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Podcast: Beth Syverson introduces the podcast and herself as an adoptive mom. 00:01:06 - Guest Introduction: Anthony Lynch: Anthony Lynch is introduced as a non-binary transracial adoptee and co-founder of In Between Lines. 00:02:12 - Anthony's Origin Story: Anthony shares their background as a fostered and adopted individual with a complex mix of ethnicities. 00:03:29 - Blending In with Siblings: Anthony discusses how they were able to blend in with their biracial siblings and hide their adoptive identity. 00:04:29 - Coming Out as Non-Binary: Anthony talks about their recent realization and acceptance of being non-binary. 00:05:27 - Embracing Complex Identities: Anthony emphasizes the importance of embracing all aspects of their complex identity. 00:06:49 - Intersectionality and Multiple Identities: Anthony delves into the concept of intersectionality and the challenges of navigating multiple identities. 00:08:49 - Authenticity and Self-Expression: Anthony discusses the importance of being authentic and not compromising their identity for others. 00:09:22 - Understanding Intersectionality: Anthony explains the concept of intersectionality and its impact on individuals with complex identities. 00:12:46 - Daily Impact of Multiple Identities: Anthony shares how their multiple identities affect their daily life and interactions with others. 00:14:17 - In Between Lines Organization: Anthony talks about the In Between Lines organization and its mission to empower individuals with complex identities. 00:15:45 - Supporting In Between Lines: Anthony discusses ways to support the organization and participate in their upcoming projects. 00:20:44 - Parliamentary Inquiry on Adoptee Voices: Anthony shares their involvement in a parliamentary inquiry on adoptee voices and complex identities. 00:22:07 - Supporting In Between Lines: Anthony invites listeners to connect with In Between Lines on social media and support their upcoming exhibition. 00:25:19 - Appreciation for Unraveling Adoption Podcast: Anthony expresses gratitude for being a guest on the podcast and highlights the importance of in-depth conversations. /episode/index/show/32e8963a-2d90-4f3c-97bb-64ac96ea387d/id/30602123

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