875 | Sitting in the Chaos without Freaking Out
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In this episode, I share a personal moment when I found myself in a hectic period, balancing work commitments and supporting my husband through his recovery from an injury. This whirlwind of activity led me to a moment of exhaustion, prompting me to listen to my body and take a much-needed break. I shared this experience, highlighting the importance of embodiment work and how slowing down can help us process emotions and support our nervous systems. I received a challenging message that triggered a sense of contraction within me. I discussed how this contraction is often our subconscious mind...
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874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on the common tendency to chase after goals—reaching a new income level, achieving a sold-out offer, or becoming the version of ourselves we aspire to be. I emphasize that instead of chasing these external validations, we should focus on becoming the person who embodies those goals. Chasing often stems from a place of lack, where we seek external validation to feel worthy. I share stories of individuals who achieved their goals only to find that they still felt unfulfilled, highlighting the importance of internal validation. Throughout the episode, I...
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873 | The Impact of CanFund and the Art of Giving Back with Jane Roos
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In this episode, I speak with Jane Roos, CAN Fund Founder, Artist, Speaker, and Gallery Owner. Jane's journey is nothing short of inspiring, as she shares her life story, which took a dramatic turn at a young age when she was involved in a tragic car accident that claimed the life of her best friend. This pivotal moment forced Jane to reevaluate her life and ultimately led her to discover her true purpose. Jane describes how she has always been an entrepreneur, influenced by her athletic and artistic family background. Despite the challenges she faced after the accident, including multiple...
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872 | When the War Inside You Ends
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In this episode, I discuss the internal conflict many of us experience, which I metaphorically call a "war" within ourselves. This internal struggle often arises when two parts of us desire different outcomes, leading to feelings of doubt, fear, and uncertainty. I explore how resisting these conflicting parts can perpetuate a cycle of self-sabotage and emotional turmoil. Drawing from a recent in-person Outspoken Intensive, I introduce the powerful tool of Parts Integration, a technique rooted in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This method allows individuals to recognize and reconcile their...
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871 | When You Speak, You Heal
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In this episode, I am talking about how sharing our stories can lead to deep healing. I reflect on my own journey of speaking out about my experiences, particularly around the challenges of dealing with teen substance abuse and the misconceptions I held about healing. I emphasize that many of us often feel the need to have everything perfectly aligned before we share our truths, but this mindset can block our healing process. I share a pivotal moment from my past when I realized that speaking about my struggles not only helped me feel less alone but also opened doors to healing I never...
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870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson
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Today, I am speaking with Podcast Host, Travis Robinson. Travis’ life might seem defined by obstacles. Diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he’s faced relentless challenges—some expected, like mobility struggles, and others completely unforeseen, like losing his home and all of his photography gear in the Eaton fire. But rather than letting these hardships define him, Travis has built a life that proves limitations are meant to be challenged. Highlights: 00:01:00 - Travis's Diagnosis 00:02:30 - The Growing Concern of Parkinson's 00:04:30 - Facing the Diagnosis 00:06:30 - Starting the...
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869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet
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In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem...
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868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring
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In this episode, I am sharing the concept of alignment and how it can sometimes feel boring or uncomfortable, especially if you're used to living in chaos. We are conditioned to gravitate towards what feels familiar, even if it’s not what we truly want. Our subconscious minds often choose chaos over peace because it’s what we know. I emphasize that if you find yourself repeatedly returning to unhealthy relationships or stressful situations, it’s likely because they feel normal to you. Imagine what it would feel like to train and reprogram your subconscious mind to become familiar with...
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867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin
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In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking...
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866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned
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In this episode, I am sharing my take on the concept of "Let Them," inspired by Mel Robbins' teachings. I share my own journey and the lessons I've learned about control, choice, and the importance of allowing others to navigate their paths. I begin by reflecting on my experience attending a Mel Robbins event, where her powerful message resonated with me, despite my initial discomfort. I discuss how the idea of "Let Them" felt foreign to me as a parent who has faced the challenges of teen substance abuse. For me, the concept was not just about relinquishing control over trivial matters like...
info_outlineIn this episode, I wanted to share a concept that you only feel your emotions for 90 seconds.
Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor explains “When a person reacts to something in their environment, there's a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.
In this episode, we discuss:
1) The 90-second rule states that the physiological response, the chemical rush behind our emotions, dissipates after about 90 seconds. If we still feel the rush after that, or heightened emotions it is because our subconscious mind had attached old stories to the emotions. Once our subconscious mind attaches a story to the emotion, now it piles on shame, guilt, and judgment and it becomes part of our identity.
2) Your subconscious mind will always resort back to what is familiar and what it knows so that you can feel safe and protected.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.