875 | Sitting in the Chaos without Freaking Out
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In this episode, I share a personal moment when I found myself in a hectic period, balancing work commitments and supporting my husband through his recovery from an injury. This whirlwind of activity led me to a moment of exhaustion, prompting me to listen to my body and take a much-needed break. I shared this experience, highlighting the importance of embodiment work and how slowing down can help us process emotions and support our nervous systems. I received a challenging message that triggered a sense of contraction within me. I discussed how this contraction is often our subconscious mind...
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874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on the common tendency to chase after goals—reaching a new income level, achieving a sold-out offer, or becoming the version of ourselves we aspire to be. I emphasize that instead of chasing these external validations, we should focus on becoming the person who embodies those goals. Chasing often stems from a place of lack, where we seek external validation to feel worthy. I share stories of individuals who achieved their goals only to find that they still felt unfulfilled, highlighting the importance of internal validation. Throughout the episode, I...
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873 | The Impact of CanFund and the Art of Giving Back with Jane Roos
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In this episode, I speak with Jane Roos, CAN Fund Founder, Artist, Speaker, and Gallery Owner. Jane's journey is nothing short of inspiring, as she shares her life story, which took a dramatic turn at a young age when she was involved in a tragic car accident that claimed the life of her best friend. This pivotal moment forced Jane to reevaluate her life and ultimately led her to discover her true purpose. Jane describes how she has always been an entrepreneur, influenced by her athletic and artistic family background. Despite the challenges she faced after the accident, including multiple...
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872 | When the War Inside You Ends
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In this episode, I discuss the internal conflict many of us experience, which I metaphorically call a "war" within ourselves. This internal struggle often arises when two parts of us desire different outcomes, leading to feelings of doubt, fear, and uncertainty. I explore how resisting these conflicting parts can perpetuate a cycle of self-sabotage and emotional turmoil. Drawing from a recent in-person Outspoken Intensive, I introduce the powerful tool of Parts Integration, a technique rooted in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This method allows individuals to recognize and reconcile their...
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871 | When You Speak, You Heal
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In this episode, I am talking about how sharing our stories can lead to deep healing. I reflect on my own journey of speaking out about my experiences, particularly around the challenges of dealing with teen substance abuse and the misconceptions I held about healing. I emphasize that many of us often feel the need to have everything perfectly aligned before we share our truths, but this mindset can block our healing process. I share a pivotal moment from my past when I realized that speaking about my struggles not only helped me feel less alone but also opened doors to healing I never...
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870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson
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Today, I am speaking with Podcast Host, Travis Robinson. Travis’ life might seem defined by obstacles. Diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he’s faced relentless challenges—some expected, like mobility struggles, and others completely unforeseen, like losing his home and all of his photography gear in the Eaton fire. But rather than letting these hardships define him, Travis has built a life that proves limitations are meant to be challenged. Highlights: 00:01:00 - Travis's Diagnosis 00:02:30 - The Growing Concern of Parkinson's 00:04:30 - Facing the Diagnosis 00:06:30 - Starting the...
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869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet
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In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem...
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868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring
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In this episode, I am sharing the concept of alignment and how it can sometimes feel boring or uncomfortable, especially if you're used to living in chaos. We are conditioned to gravitate towards what feels familiar, even if it’s not what we truly want. Our subconscious minds often choose chaos over peace because it’s what we know. I emphasize that if you find yourself repeatedly returning to unhealthy relationships or stressful situations, it’s likely because they feel normal to you. Imagine what it would feel like to train and reprogram your subconscious mind to become familiar with...
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867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin
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In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking...
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866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned
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In this episode, I am sharing my take on the concept of "Let Them," inspired by Mel Robbins' teachings. I share my own journey and the lessons I've learned about control, choice, and the importance of allowing others to navigate their paths. I begin by reflecting on my experience attending a Mel Robbins event, where her powerful message resonated with me, despite my initial discomfort. I discuss how the idea of "Let Them" felt foreign to me as a parent who has faced the challenges of teen substance abuse. For me, the concept was not just about relinquishing control over trivial matters like...
info_outlineIn this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on our emotions and how they are driving the car. Picture yourself in the backseat of your car working on your personal development, trying to grow yourself and you get stuck in this perpetual loop of frustrations or emotions on repeat and you can’t find a way to break that pattern.
In this episode, we discuss:
1) Sometimes our brain can't tell the difference between a bear, an annoying client, or a tailgating car. This is when the “90-second rule” comes in handy. According to Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion and allow it to dissipate while you simply notice it.
2) Emotions operate as urgent signalling devices. How can you step back, zoom out and start to see what this message, the emotion wants you to know? The emotions feed the stories and the stories feed the emotions. By zooming out, or playing out the feelings of the best case scenario, we are start to create a new loop of emotions that it has all worked out better than we can imagine.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.