144 | Coach Carrie Answers a Question from Emmie: On Anger and Failing Relationships
Release Date: 03/27/2025
The Injured Athletes Club
“How do I adjust my training mindset now that I'm a masters athlete? I have a hard time accepting that my body is no longer 20. I'm 35, about to turn 36.” —Kelly Society often tells us that getting older is something to be feared and refused—think about the concept of anti-aging. For athletes, there’s an added layer of performance changes as we move into the masters categories. The problem, Coach Carrie says in this week’s Q&A episode, is that aging isn’t an optional activity. By fighting against its reality, we often keep ourselves miserable and stuck. If...
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“One thing that helped me—and I don't know if I really thought about doing this, I think I just did it when I was in the hospital—was just taking it a day at a time. Taking the day for what it is, not trying to look too far ahead. Obviously, you want to hit that goal of getting better, but take the day for what it is and what you can do that day.” As one of the world’s most accomplished equipped lifters, Tony Carlino is used to hoisting huge weights over his chest and on his back. But in 2019, he faced a challenge no gym session could have prepared him for: A bout...
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“I’m feeling left out, although I know it’s not intentional. I joined a racing team this year, but have had to withdraw from several races already due to recovering from a bone stress injury. I did too much, too soon last year, and it finally caught me right after team training started—go figure! There’s another race this weekend that most of the team is running, and I’m always happy to support them, but it also sucks feeling like a wasted spot on the roster and not being able to attend any group runs or races while I’m recovering. Do you have any advice on handling...
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“ It's not going to be a linear journey, which is something that's been hard for me to wrap my head around. I have bad days and I have good days … I've had to learn that sometimes it's two steps forward, one step back.” Lyn Jutronich has been swimming since she was a child in the Chicago suburbs, and as an adult living near San Diego, she fell in love with the open water. But in November 2022, she experienced every swimmer’s worst nightmare when a juvenile great white shark attacked her. With help from her swimming partner, Lyn returned to shore. Her wounds healed in...
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“I am nearly 8 months post-op after a femoral osteotomy to correct my knee. One of my biggest challenges is trying to figure out if my knee hurts because it ‘should’ as part of my recovery—or if it hurts because my body isn’t used to this level of training after 7 months of not doing much. Can you help?”—Aaron Sometimes, pain sends a clear signal to your brain that there’s tissue damage or danger. But when you’re recovering from an injury, those messages can get muddled, with an overactivated central nervous system firing off warnings even though there’s nothing...
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“ You don't want to think about a friend dying or going through a divorce or anything like that—you kind of don't want to even put that energy in the world. Same thing with running. You don't want to think about what it looks like, but the reality is, most of us are going to have to think about that. Not everyone can stand on the podium at age 70.” Dimity McDowell was first on our back in 2022, when she’d just written a series of for (the late, great) Women’s Running magazine about what happens when you can’t run anymore. As she describes in her return...
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“ How do I cope with knowing that I may never get back to where I was—that this might be a permanent change for me?” —Emily Many athletes—whether they’re professionals or amateurs—have a strong athletic identity. When that’s threatened by injury, especially if it’s a permanent shift, it’s normal to feel frightened and unmoored, Coach Carrie shares in this week’s listener Q&A episode. Whether you have to give up your sport altogether or must adjust the way you participate, you should allow yourself to feel grief at the path you’re no longer taking....
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“If I had to choose one injury or obstacle as the most difficult, it's really hard for me to do that because each one was very different in and of itself. I look back at them, and I'm honestly quite grateful I've been through it all, because it's changed who I am and it's made me who I am. You learn a lot when you're down and out.” Angela Naeth has been racing as a pro triathlete since 2008, and added gravel racing in 2022. In that time, she’s had plenty of success, reaching the podium more than 40 times in 70.3 and Ironman events and placing in the top 8 at Ironman World...
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“ My surgery was a success, and my doctors have given me the go-ahead to play again next season, but it's been over a decade since my initial injury, and I needed to hang up my skates. I've been sidelined for about 11 years. I was always a really aggressive player, and I've never been one to shy away from a confrontational situation on the ice. But after my injury, I'm worried that I'll be too nervous to really dig in and go full throttle when it comes to checking or anything that brings me too close to the boards. I DESPERATELY want to play again, but I know myself well enough to...
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“ When you take a moment to pause and label the emotion you're feeling, you're asking your prefrontal cortex to get involved, which pulls the activation out of the amygdala where your brain is processing threat or no threat. Instead of being overwhelmed by the physiological experience of the emotion. It creates psychological distance so you can experience it from a less threatening vantage point.” Here at the Injured Athletes Club, we talk a lot about the roller coaster of emotions. Today, on this host-ful episode, Coach Carrie guides us through some of the ups and downs you’re...
info_outline“ Just after recovering from being hit by a truck over the summer and breaking a bunch of bones, I got to start running again only to slam my ankle into a table and now I can’t even walk. It’s possibly just a bone bruise but the pain is radiating through my entire leg and I’m so angry this happened to me just after I got better.
Everything is just fifty thousand times worse. I don’t get along with those closest to me, I have so much more conflict with family and friends because nobody understands what I’m going through and nobody is even that nice. Does anyone else feel like their relationships all turn into s--t when they get injured?”
—Emmie
In season 8 of The Injured Athletes Club podcast, mental skills coach Carrie Jackson answers a question every other week about the mental side of overcoming injuries.
This week, listener Emmie shares her challenges with her friends and family as she deals with a setback in her recovery. Coach Carrie explains how anger is like a mushroom—both have deep and complex roots—and why digging down is important, not just for your relationships but for yourself.
She also advises on how to ask for the help you need and what to do when those around you can’t provide it. Sometimes, it’s because they simply don’t understand, but they’ll listen and learn. In other cases, it’s beyond their capabilities. But that’s why it’s critical to build a whole team of support to buoy you through the darkest days.
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