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858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla

Release Date: 05/22/2025

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, I discuss the internal conflict many of us experience, which I metaphorically call a "war" within ourselves. This internal struggle often arises when two parts of us desire different outcomes, leading to feelings of doubt, fear, and uncertainty. I explore how resisting these conflicting parts can perpetuate a cycle of self-sabotage and emotional turmoil. Drawing from a recent in-person Outspoken Intensive, I introduce the powerful tool of Parts Integration, a technique rooted in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This method allows individuals to recognize and reconcile their...

871 | When You Speak, You Heal

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, I am talking about how sharing our stories can lead to deep healing. I reflect on my own journey of speaking out about my experiences, particularly around the challenges of dealing with teen substance abuse and the misconceptions I held about healing. I emphasize that many of us often feel the need to have everything perfectly aligned before we share our truths, but this mindset can block our healing process. I share a pivotal moment from my past when I realized that speaking about my struggles not only helped me feel less alone but also opened doors to healing I never...

870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

Today, I am speaking with Podcast Host, Travis Robinson. Travis’ life might seem defined by obstacles. Diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he’s faced relentless challenges—some expected, like mobility struggles, and others completely unforeseen, like losing his home and all of his photography gear in the Eaton fire. But rather than letting these hardships define him, Travis has built a life that proves limitations are meant to be challenged. Highlights: 00:01:00 - Travis's Diagnosis 00:02:30 - The Growing Concern of Parkinson's 00:04:30 - Facing the Diagnosis 00:06:30 - Starting the...

869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet

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In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem...

868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, I am sharing the concept of alignment and how it can sometimes feel boring or uncomfortable, especially if you're used to living in chaos. We are conditioned to gravitate towards what feels familiar, even if it’s not what we truly want. Our subconscious minds often choose chaos over peace because it’s what we know. I emphasize that if you find yourself repeatedly returning to unhealthy relationships or stressful situations, it’s likely because they feel normal to you. Imagine what it would feel like to train and reprogram your subconscious mind to become familiar with...

867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin

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In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking...

866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned

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In this episode, I am sharing my take on the concept of "Let Them," inspired by Mel Robbins' teachings. I share my own journey and the lessons I've learned about control, choice, and the importance of allowing others to navigate their paths. I begin by reflecting on my experience attending a Mel Robbins event, where her powerful message resonated with me, despite my initial discomfort. I discuss how the idea of "Let Them" felt foreign to me as a parent who has faced the challenges of teen substance abuse. For me, the concept was not just about relinquishing control over trivial matters like...

865 | Reclaiming Your Power: The Metaphor of the Plug and the Wall

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, I share the power of metaphors and how they can help us understand our subconscious mind. I share a compelling metaphor involving two electrical outlets, one representing our past and the other our future. On the left side, we have the "old plug," connected to our daily thoughts, old patterns, and negative beliefs—essentially everything that has shaped who we are up to this point. This side is familiar and feels safe, but it often keeps us in a negative cycle. On the right side, we have the "new plug," which symbolizes our future potential, aspirations, and the identity we...

864 | WORDS YOU Speak and Think Matter with Krista Lee Curtis

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In this episode, I connect with CEO & FOUNDER of the DBL JEWELLERY EMPOWERMENT MOVEMENT, KRISTA LEE. Krista is the visionary founder of a luxury women’s empowerment jewelry brand dedicated to inspiring women to embrace their strength, self-worth, and purpose. Her journey began after overcoming personal struggles, including depression and body dysmorphia, finding healing through creativity and the power of words. She believes that everything we need is already within us—we just have to take the steps forward each day toward our dreams. Through her transformative jewelry, she empowers...

863 | You Don’t Chase the Vision — You Become It First

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In this episode, I share the concept of becoming the version of ourselves that can hold our dreams before we chase them. Our nervous systems must feel safe and regulated to pursue our goals effectively. If we rush into chasing what we want without first anchoring into our identity, we risk operating from a place of lack rather than power. I share my journey of deciding to publish "Unreserved," highlighting the month I took to reflect on whether I was ready for such a significant commitment. This pause allowed me to assess my beliefs, emotional state, and the blocks that could hinder my ability...

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In this episode, I am connecting with Tesa Arcilla. Tesa has never taken the conventional route—personally or professionally. A journalist by training and driven by an insatiable curiosity, she has lived and worked across multiple continents, carving out a career that defies easy labels. From live broadcasts at NBC and CBC to moderating high-stakes political debates for Euronews and the European Commission, she has spent over 20 years asking the tough questions, navigating complex global issues, and making sense of the world’s turning points.

But beyond the newsrooms and international assignments, Tesa’s journey has been defined by bold choices—moving across the world for love, walking away from established career paths, and constantly reinventing herself. She understands what it means to take a leap into the unknown, to bet on yourself even when the path isn’t clear, and to thrive outside the traditional mould.

Now, she helps others do the same—own their voice, build influence with authenticity, and turn their expertise into impact—without the ‘cringe’ of self-promotion. As the host of Choices & Chances, she dives into the defining decisions that shape lives and careers, helping others embrace uncertainty, make bold moves, and step fully into their potential.

Whether on stage, moderating a panel, or mentoring thought leaders, Tesa brings a sharp mind, a global perspective, and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations that challenge, inspire, and drive action. Because in the end, life isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about making the choices that create the chances we truly want.

HIGHLIGHTS
00:00:30 - Vulnerability and Boundaries
00:01:56 - Self-Respect and Authenticity
00:02:59 - The Journey of Sharing Personal Stories
00:05:31 - Career as a Foreign Correspondent
00:06:02 - The Privilege of Journalism
00:09:03 - Navigating Stress and Health
00:10:10 - Learning to Listen to the Body
00:12:31 - Highlighting Career Experiences
00:16:18 - The Impact of Political Shows
00:20:16 - The Challenge of Live Broadcasting
00:23:20 - Transitioning to Entrepreneurship
00:26:07 - Recognizing the Right Time for Change
00:29:45 - Unwinding from High-Stress Environments
00:32:38 - Change as a Neutral Concept
00:35:42 - Agency and Choice
00:39:39 - Embracing Uncertainty
00:42:25 - Current Entrepreneurial Endeavours

Connect with Tesa
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tesa.arcilla/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choiceschances/
Website: www.choiceschances.co
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