256 - How to Dethrone Your Inner Control Freak the Easy Way
Ripple-Effect Faith with Twyla Franz
Release Date: 06/23/2026
Ripple-Effect Faith with Twyla Franz
Like shoes, our habits can help or harm us. Sometimes it’s not obvious from the outside, but inside, we feel either weighed down or revived. That’s our clue. Pay attention. Some shiny new habits might not be right for you, and some familiar ones may be past their lifespan. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days. Read the written version of this episode . My word of the year,
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Even a former “most positive student” can hit a negativity streak. Even a well-practiced gratitude journaler can catastrophize. Even the most spiritual among us can spiral into negative self-talk. Indeed, even the host of who has a front-row seat to the life-changing nature of thankfulness, has days where the mind runs wild and the thoughts self-betray. I want to step softly here because negativity can appear bristly, but there’s a tender underbelly. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days. Read the written version of...
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Self-sufficiency is a sludge of pride and survival. Sometimes it’s our only option. Sometimes we make it our only option. I fall into the latter category. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days. Read the written version of this episode .
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We can be incredibly artful about disguising our pride–me included. I’d rather you see diligence and dependability, and not dig deep enough to trace them back to pride. I would prefer to convince you that I’m always capable and composed, so you don’t question why I reach for this consistency. I want you to see me as selfless and sweet-natured–never stubborn or snappy or overly sensitive–and assume pride never drives me to curate your impression of me. But the truth is, pride can slide into our best of intentions, subvert our peace, and sandwich itself between us and other people....
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Self-pity is not neutral. All the while we maintain composure and let self-pity subside at its own pace, it’s wreaking havoc on our mental health. It’s time to go on the offensive and reclaim the ground self-pity has stolen. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days. Read the written version of this episode . Recite Scripture verses to actively oppose self-pity:
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Where do you feel the pressure to be on par with someone else? To prove yourself worthy? To pretend your way into confidence? Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days. Read the written version of this episode . Find two summer’s worth of Enneagram blog series .
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I’ve got a thing with control. I like to paint it as a virtue because self-control sounds less harsh. Like less of a problem. But it actually isn’t. Your need to feel in control might come out in different ways than mine. Perhaps you vocalize more than internalize. Perhaps you extend your controlling efforts externally rather than internally. But it’s the same thieving trio–fear, pride, and shame–eroding your peace, dimming your light, and keeping you in a rut. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days Read the...
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Can we go there–to the root of our unruly inner dialogues–so we can find peace and strength and mental relief? That’s my invitation to you today. Our inner thoughts have had too much say for too long. They keep us in the shadows, thinking small. They sabotage our friendships and our focus. Cloud out the voice of God so we think we’re on our own. Where do we start? Here, with five easy-to-implement practices to keep our self-talk in check. Links mentioned: Get a Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days Read the written version of this...
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Maybe there’s a similarly pesky voice of perfectionism following you around inside your head, telling you that you should be able to get incrementally better. Every. Single. Day. It’s relentless. You’re worn out from all your undue try-hard. But also, maybe you carry a bit of shame around with your perfectionism. You’re told you worry too much. Focus on the wrong things. Care too much about your work. Can we talk about you? How you can be a perfectionist and have peace of mind? How you don’t have to turn off your desire to do your best? How your perfectionism can be an...
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Self-doubt surfaces quickly when it’s thinly veiled behind borrowed confidence and temperamental self-esteem. Maybe this is your story. To others, you appear secure, but you feel deeply insufficient inside. You can take the lead, finish the work, maintain a high standard of excellence, and pass as having it together. But you can’t outrun the voice that whispers, If only they knew how little you know, how long you’ve been in this role, or how lost you feel . . . If only they knew how un-brave and undeserving you actually are . . . If only they knew how meticulously you mask the...
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Your need to feel in control might come out in different ways than mine. Perhaps you vocalize more than internalize. Perhaps you extend your controlling efforts externally rather than internally. But it’s the same thieving trio–fear, pride, and shame–eroding your peace, dimming your light, and keeping you in a rut.
Links mentioned:
- Get a FREE, 5-Day Email Course: Turn Your Loneliness into Ripple-Effect Faith in 5 Days
- Read the written version of this episode HERE.