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Blaming Others For Our Problems - Recovered 740

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Release Date: 09/14/2016

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Making the list is one thing. Become willing to actually make amends to those harmed is another. It can be a very humbling, but growing experience, to actually admit wrong-doing, especially to the person harmed. But the process can relieve those trying to recover from so much guilt!

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We have taken the very difficult moral inventory and admitted to our wrongdoings to ourselves, our higher power and to another human being. It’s now time to remove those wrongdoings from our everyday lives and we need help to ensure that we completely remove our shortcomings and don’t continue to fall victim to any of addiction’s ill effects.

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The sixth step can bring about significant and very noticeable change when it comes to the thought patterns and behavior that have been with us for a long time. It doesn’t happen overnight obviously, and there is nothing like perfection when working the twelve steps of AA. It’s about making a commitment and being content with patient improvement.

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Step Four has prepared you for step five, and by finding the courage to overcome that fear of rejection or the shame of your inventory, you experience honesty on a deeper level than in your first step of admission, and you break the pattern of denial that often plagues those suffering with alcoholism.

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While working on our step inventories we get a new perspective on the bigger picture, on patterns, selfishness, our responsibility in situations and in this process we are building up an accurate self-appraisal with true self-worth as the reward.

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When working on step three we take a look at how acting on self-will means behaving with the exclusion of any consideration for others, focusing only on what we want and ignoring the needs and feelings of others. While we were busy pursuing these impulses, we mostly left a path of destruction behind us, and we definitely lost touch with our conscience and a Higher Power.

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This is the beginning of the end, in a way. You will end your old life and begin your fresh one, committed to faith – faith in whatever you choose.

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The first step in 12 step recovery programs involves more than just admitting that there is a problem. It means breaking through the denial that has kept the person locked in their misery. The individual has to accept that they have been beaten by their addiction. The exact wording of this step is:

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If people feel that their life has no meaning and purpose they will find it impossible to build a successful life in recovery. During their years of addiction the focus would have been on obtaining and using their drug of choice. It is therefore vital that they replace this hole in their life with something new. The more meaning that people find in recovery the less likely it will be that they will relapse.

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Relapse is not uncommon. Some people find it difficult to overcome their addictive behaviors for the long term. Once clean, the addict can easily fall back into old practices and habits. Recovery requires commitment, discipline and a network of support. The old adage “it takes a village” is clearly demonstrated in recovery. But those of us who have relapsed, coming back into the village of recovery can be difficult.

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Among the many things newcomers need to consider
is how to best manage their sobriety.

This has to do with attitude. You can have the right intention and still be defeated by old attitudes. This can be referred to as stinking thinking.

One of the biggest barriers to overcome
is blaming others for our problems.
The truth is that blame is not healthy – but accepting responsibility is.

For me, blaming others has never worked. Instead of blame, what I found works for me is to take responsibility for my actions,
take action to correct the situation,
and accept the consequences
and try to do all of this with dignity.

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Let’s talk first thoughts.
When you were notified about the topic this week, what was your first thought?
Where do you want to start the discussion?

Did you blame others for you problems when you were new?
What did that look like?
What happened? How, give examples?

Do you fall into the blame game today?
What did that look like?
What happened? How, give examples?

Why is Blame bad?
Can blame be a good thing?

Spiritual axiom
It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. But are there no exceptions to this rule? What about “justifiable” anger? If somebody cheats us, aren’t we entitled to be mad? Can’t we be properly angry with self-righteous folk? For us of A.A. these are dangerous exceptions. We have found that justified anger ought to be left to those better qualified to handle it.

What about justified blame, how do you handle a situation when someone else is clearly in the wrong?

What about self-blame, what is this?
Do you fall into this?

Why do you fall into blaming, what shortcoming is in effect?
How do we identify when we are falling into blamming?
What is the solution for you?
How can acceptance help?
How do you accept responsibility?

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What would you say to the new guy?