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Ep. 104: Grief & Work - Alica Forneret

Grief Out Loud

Release Date: 02/06/2019

The Indigenous Death Doula Mentorship Program - Chrystal Wàban Toop show art The Indigenous Death Doula Mentorship Program - Chrystal Wàban Toop

Grief Out Loud

What does it mean to train to be a death doula for your community? Chrystal Wàban Toop is the founder of Blackbird Medicines and she joined us to talk about how her early experiences with grief grounded her in the the work she does as a life spectrum doula and her commitment to helping people reconnect with traditional knowledge and cultural practices to guide individual, family, and community transitions throughout the life span. 

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Love Stories - A Griefy Valentine's Special show art Love Stories - A Griefy Valentine's Special

Grief Out Loud

Even if you don't really celebrate it, Valentine's Day can be rough when you're grieving. This year, we decided to bring you a compilation of love stories from listeners. Even though Valentine's Day is usually marketed as only about romantic love, this episode is about the love that exists in any connection. The idea for this episode came out of our conversation in episode 162 with Alesia Alexander, LCSW.

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Ep. 182: Healing Trauma, Attending To Grief - Native Wellness Institute & Jillene Joseph show art Ep. 182: Healing Trauma, Attending To Grief - Native Wellness Institute & Jillene Joseph

Grief Out Loud

Jillene Joseph, Executive Director of the Native Wellness Institute, joined us to discuss how settler colonial policies outlawing Native funeral rights purposefully cut people off from traditional practices and how that trauma reverberates today. We also talk about what it means to take a healthy risk in grief, the importance of attending to grief emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally, and how Native Wellness Institute is continuing to promote health and wellness with their Native Power Hours.

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Ep. 181: Ep. 181: "She's Always With Me" - Finding Peace In The Permanence Of Grief

Grief Out Loud

Molly loves her life, but she didn't always feel that way. 18 years ago, Molly's life changed in an instant when her mom died of a heart attack while driving Molly to school. Since that day, Molly's worked hard to figure out what helps her feel healthy and grounded. This includes recognizing that grief is permanent and will always be part of who she is in this world.

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Ep. 180: More Than Just A Number - Grieving When Someone Dies Of COVID-19 show art Ep. 180: More Than Just A Number - Grieving When Someone Dies Of COVID-19

Grief Out Loud

As of January 21st, 2021, over 400,000 people in the U.S. have been killed by the coronavirus. Globally, the number is over 2 million. Despite attempts by journalists and public health officials to put these numbers into context, what gets lost in tracking case counts are the stories of the people who died and their family members left behind. This is one of those stories. The story of Maria, beloved mother of four, who died this summer of COVID-19, told by Mariana, her youngest daughter.  

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Ep. 179: Sons Of Suicide - 50 Years Of Friendship & Grief show art Ep. 179: Sons Of Suicide - 50 Years Of Friendship & Grief

Grief Out Loud

This is the story of how a random encounter led to a transformative friendship that's lasted for more than 50 years. A friendship rooted in the shared experience of grieving a parent who died of suicide. David Pincus and Rick Knapp met as high school seniors. They had a lot in common, including a part of their lives that they rarely talked about. Both of their mothers had died by suicide. Their book, Sons of Suicide: A Memoir of Friendship, chronicles how these early losses shaped so much of their lives. 

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Ep. 178: Survivor's Guilt - Julia Mallory show art Ep. 178: Survivor's Guilt - Julia Mallory

Grief Out Loud

After her oldest son was killed in 2017, Julia Mallory had a sense that creativity was a place she could go in her grief. In that place, she wrote Survivor's Guilt, a collection of essays and poems about grief, joy, and the moments when they intersect.

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Ep. 177: The Relentless Nature Of Grief - Carmel Breathnach show art Ep. 177: The Relentless Nature Of Grief - Carmel Breathnach

Grief Out Loud

When Carmel Breathnach was 11, her mother died of cancer. While she felt supported at home by her father, she didn't feel that way at school. Now as an adult, Carmel’s carried this grief though graduations, moving from Ireland to the U.S.. getting married, and now through a pandemic.  We talk about the role anger played in her grief, what she needed from her teachers, how she honored her mom at her wedding, and how working on her forthcoming memoir, "Briefly I Knew My Mother," has affected her grief.  

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Ep. 176: Grief In Your Twenties - Amber Jeffrey/The Grief Gang show art Ep. 176: Grief In Your Twenties - Amber Jeffrey/The Grief Gang

Grief Out Loud

Amber Jeffrey is the creator and host of The Grief Gang, a podcast by and for young adults who want to normalize the conversation about loss. Amber was 19 when her mom died suddenly, throwing her into a period of questioning and reworking so much in her life. We talk about what inspired her to start The Grief Gang, the solace she finds in the online grief community, navigating the winter holidays & grief, and what to do when a grief activating song comes on during a manicure.

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Ep. 175: Grieving A Mother While Becoming A Mother - Dara Kurtz show art Ep. 175: Grieving A Mother While Becoming A Mother - Dara Kurtz

Grief Out Loud

When Dara Kurtz was in her late twenties she was excited. Excited about being pregnant. She was also devastated. Devastated that her mother was recently diagnosed with stage IV cancer. As Dara’s baby grew, Dara’s mother grew closer to the end of her life. Two weeks after Dara’s daughter was born, her mother died – sweeping Dara into a whirlwind of diametrically opposed emotional states: the thrill of being a new mother and the heartbreak of being a grieving daughter.

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The list of things that are hard to do when you’re grieving is long - eating, sleeping, focusing, surface-level chit-chat, remembering where you left your phone, planning for the future, or forgiving yourself for the past. Throw work or school into that mix and it gets really tough to feel like you can show up and function at the same level you're used to. When Alica Forneret went back to work after her mother's sudden death, she found the opposite of what she needed in terms of support. That experience inspired her to explore ways companies and organizations can better support their grieving employees as well as small things each of us can do to attend to our grief in the workplace.

Alica Forneret writes for a number of publications and websites, including, SAD Magazine, Modern Loss, and Vancouver Magazine. She also created the Dead Moms Club lapel pins as a way to express grief more publicly and connect with others who are grieving their mothers. Check out Alica's website with articles, resources, and even recipes for supporting yourself and others who are grieving in the workplace and beyond.