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Lessons for Leaders

Release Date: 02/28/2019

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Lessons for Leaders

Welcome to Lessons for Leaders.  Can you believe it’s episode 100? The goal has always been to share lessons, learnings, tips and advice and even when things got tough with it, I’ve enjoyed it more and I’m proud to be able to say I got to 100. Many of my regular listeners will know that my girls are the reason I do what I do and my eldest girl is about to make me a Granny next month so it seems like a good time to pause the episodes for a while. This last one is a very special episode, with my other amazing girl joining me at the mic to ask some of the questions you, my listeners...

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This week I'm sharing top tips and conversations that I have frequently with people in organisations to help them know how to persuade leaders to invest in wellbeing. We're covering: What to do to persuade your leaders The 3 R’s that I like to go with organisations I work with. Why we need to look at revenue in different ways and I dive into specifics here to give you a head start. How to highlight the risks to an organisation Why it’s important to include reputation in this persuasive detail too. It’s easy to say wellbeing can help to reverse employee burnout and reduce stress,...

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This week I'm joined by Gemma Woodward who is People & Culture Manager for Netsells in York.  We are talking about leadership and autonomy.  Listen in for: What are the benefits of allowing autonomy. How leaders can encourage autonomy in their teams. Where leaders get it wrong with a top down leadership and how it can affect their people and the organisation what's one key thing that people should remember about autonomy   Key comments and take-aways A top down leadership can create a fear of coming forward and fear of making mistake, their ideas and decisions might...

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What on earth is back to the floor? I start with that and why I'm covering the subject (it was inspired by my wonderful friend and leader Tina.  So I'm also covering today: Why is it important to know first hand what’s happening on your shop floor Some real life examples and stories of how back to floor worked, and how it didn’t One really, really important question to ask yourself   I share stories from my experience in corporate and Tina's feedback too to give real life examples - some are funny, some are lovely, one is a little shocking! Here's one of the key things .......

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This week on the podcast I'm talking about Why it's Worth Investing in Stress Awareness. I wonder if you've ever had a time when you've ever felt stressed and known what would help ... but not bothered to do it???? This is just one of the reason why I'm sharing information that can help you make a decision on whether it's worth investing in stress awareness.   I cover:   What is causing Stress in the workplace? How Will Stress Awareness Help Your Organisation? How Does Stress Impact Productivity? Is it Worth Investing in Stress Awareness? Ways I can support you or help for you to do...

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Two years since the UK locked down from the Covid 19 virus.  In fact pretty much the world locked down.   It changed so many things About how we live How we work Connections & communication Wellbeing – what were thankful for – fear / perspective Resilience   Have you looked back at those pictures from cities that were empty and streets that were bare?  I know I have.  There were bits that I loved, bits I didn’t love. There was a significant difference in how people viewed the lockdown.  Some loved it.  Some hated it.  For some it was...

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In honour of International Women's Day, I’m here to give ideas of ways that you can support women in leadership roles.  There can be a number of reasons why there are less women than men in leadership roles.   Data from the House of Commons found that companies led by women outperform those led by men - but despite this, we're very far from achieving gender parity in the workplace I share information about  Break the Bias Unconscious biases, opinions, beliefs are formed early in our childhood.  We learn these from family, friends, people of authority that are social...

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This week I'm talking to you about why empathy is crucial for great leaders.   I cover : What is empathy Why does it matter in leadership Whether empathy can be learned  How it can improve performance, create connections and What you can do to be more empathic.   Why empathy is crucial for great leaders and what is empathy anyway? Empathy is the ability to experience and relate to the thoughts, emotions, or experience of others.  So it's about truly feeling what the other person is feeling. You know I often talk about how we don't 'do' emotions.  But empathy is about...

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Do you find it difficult to say no to people?  Perhaps it means you end up being busy, stressed, over-committed?  Often when we struggle to say no to people it can leave us feeling used, put up-on, juggling too many things.  Are you the one who ends up working late because you’ve said yes to others, yet you’re the one with more to do?   This episode is for you where I talk about   Say no and establish healthy boundaries How to handle the fear, stress, worry and guilt The surprising reason that saying no is good for you Key phrases that you can begin to use to get...

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This week I'm sharing tips and information about De-stigmatizing Mental Health.  I share key points on:   Why mental health is stigmatized How stigma brings shame and what that looks like How it will impact on your organisation Good news on the wider impact of investing in destigmatizing Key things that you can do and examples too   When we prevent people talking openly and transparently we also prevent those who need it from having support.    Stigma brings shame.  Listen in for information about how people respond then feel ashamed and what the impact will be...

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What if coaching doesn’t work?

It’s important for my clients to know that the coaching process works.  But sometimes, coaching doesn’t work! What can you do to make sure coaching works ?

I’ve had some great coaching and I’ve one that was awful.  Here's what you can do to ensure coaching works for you.

1.  The Wrong Type Of Coach

You need to consider WHAT you want the coaching for. WHY you think you need it and WHERE you want it take you. This will narrow things down for you.

Then investigate different coaches and how they work. Some teach you their model. Others look at you, your business, your struggles, your goals and help you figure out what will work for you (that’s me)!

If someone recommends a coach to you, make sure it’s going to meets your needs.

2.  No Rapport Between Client And Coach

The client/coach relationship is crucial. Some clients thrive on a gentle, nurturing approach, whereas others prefer direct straight talking. Then there’s a balance of all sorts in between (I’d say I’m honest and straightforward with support and kindness thrown in).

In order to ensure there is rapport and the possibility of a good working relationship, it’s always a good idea to meet or talk with your executive coach before you jump in.

3.  A Lack Of Trust

You’ve got to be able to trust your coach.  You’re going to be talking about your feelings and your struggles. Whilst it won’t all be focussing on the negatives, you’ll get the best from coaching when you’re honest and possibly a bit vulnerable, so you need to feel safe doing that and trust that your coach can help you.

If you’re part of a coaching programme through your organisation, make sure you know the terms: by checking the confidentiality terms you can feel safe to disclose all your thoughts, issues and feelings.

I usually work independently with executives and entrepreneurs, and we do sign a working agreement which sets out confidentiality clearly and professionally.

4.  Boundaries And Expectations Are Not Clear

Clear boundaries are important.  Ensure your coach will set out what they expect, when and how to contact them, and ensure they’ll do what they say they’ll do.  Clear boundaries help you to feel safe so that you know what’s OK and what’s not in the coaching relationship.

I always plan out all sessions in the diary.  There is flexibility to change them, but there’s a cancellation policy too.

Also get clear on your goals.  It’s hard to make changes if you don’t know what you want to change, or what that outcome will look like.

5.  Coaching Gets Stuck In The Past

Coaching is about moving you forward to where you want to be, not dwelling on what you ‘should’ have done. That comes through looking to the future and action.

Sometimes we need to go back and work on getting you some strong foundations so you can go forward stronger and stay successful in that progress.

6.  When There’s No Legacy To The Coaching Work

Whether you’re with a coach for an hour, a day or three months, it’s really important that you can maintain the good progress you’ve made.  There’s no point investing in coaching then letting old habits and patterns slip back in. So it’s worth spending time working with your coach to identify how to apply the changes to your life for good. 

With my experience in psychology and neuroscience I help you make changes easily without having extra duties on their to-do list!  That makes sure that coaching does work.

Contact me HERE or BOOK in my diary and lets talk.