The Science Of Speaking Up For Yourself | Elaine Lin Hering
Release Date: 12/24/2025
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info_outlineHow to find your voice when you need to be heard, learn when it's smart to choose silence, and communicate better with the people who matter most.
Elaine Lin Hering is a former Lecturer of Law at Harvard Law School. She works with organizations and individuals to build skills in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She is the author of the book Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully.
In this episode we talk about:
- How we learn silence and self-editing
- How we often miscalculate the cost-benefit when it comes to speaking up or staying silent
- Elaine’s four steps to learn how to speak up and find your voice
- How we can unintentionally silence others, especially those closest to us, and what to do about it
This episode originally aired on May 15th, 2024.
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