#63. Behind the Song 4 - Why Do We?
Alive And Aligned
What goes on “behind the scenes” in the mind of an artist? In this new form of podcasting, Pete combines his love of deep personal development work with original music, as he breaks down the messages behind his new single “Why Do We?” In the episode, he dives into: - What is this song about & why was he inspired to write it? - His vision with combining music & personal development - His process of writing “Why Do We?” - A look behind the meaning of the lyrics - The story behind writing & filming of his first ever music video for the song This episode...
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#62 Three Wishes from the Genie
Alive And Aligned
The 3 key ingredients you need to succeed in all areas of life. If a parent could pass on only 3 things to their child in order to best prepare them for success, what would they be? Many think it would be a strong mindset, good manners, a great education, but the answer goes deeper than you think…. In this episode, Pete lists the 3 developable characteristics that can help you achieve success & more of what you want in the world - from health, wealth & purpose, to family & relationships. He also lists some effective strategies for cultivating more of these 3...
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#61 Reinventing Your Self Image w/ Laura Marinkovich
Alive And Aligned
How does your image support your bigger mission in life? Laura Markinkovich is a fashion expert & men’s personal stylist. She helps men who are completely clueless about their look to create a unique image & a self identity that stands out amongst the crowd. Originally from Argentina, Laura originally used fashion as a way to find her own sense of self in the world. She now takes great joy & pride in helping others to do the same. Many men might think of the concept of image & style as something that is too feminine, or self indulgent & surface level. However...
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#60 The Power of Why
Alive And Aligned
Do you have big goals, but often find yourself procrastinating? The level of motivation we have to go out in the world & take action is intimately correlated with the level of purpose or meaning we attach to our daily tasks. In this episode, Pete uses some personal stories and a fun analogy to describe the power of anchoring your daily work to your greater WHY - and how failing to do so can lead to a slow downfall of your vision. If you’re someone who has big dreams and goals but finds it hard to get excited about the process of getting there - this episode is for you. —- Reference -...
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#59 Climbing Mount Purpose
Alive And Aligned
What lies beyond material success? If you grew up in the Western world, there’s a good chance you were convinced of the importance of external achievement, and how it’s supposed to bring lasting happiness. There are some who make it to that level of success, only to realise that more achievement won’t bring them the fulfilment they were promised. So, what to do? In this episode, Pete tells a story about the entrepreneur’s journey to find something more - the pursuit of true happiness & fulfilment in life. If you’re someone who has achieved a solid level of financial success -...
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#58 Optimizing for Human Spirit w/ Tarush Aggarwal
Alive And Aligned
How do we optimise for happiness & connection, along with business success? Tarush Aggarwal is the CEO & founder of 5X, a multi million dollar company, is one of the leading experts on empowering businesses to make better data-driven decisions. His unique style of business leadership mixes rational problem solving with intuition, simplicity & connection to something greater. Originally from India, Tarush moved to the USA for university, and after graduating became one of the first data engineers in Silicon valley while at . Most recently he led Data for WeWork, where...
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3 Tools To Heal Chronic Fatigue w/ Jen Mann (Aligned Moment 3)
Alive And Aligned
In this “Aligned Moment”, Pete & Jen explore the 3 most potent & efficient techniques Jen has found & used to help thousands of people heal from chronic fatigue & anxiety. They dive into the stories behind these powerful techniques & how they have positively impacted Jen’s life. There is even a live singalong with a song about the “Inner Critic”! Jen is a Nervous system practitioner & co-founder of Somia International, a school dedicated to helping people heal from unresolved trauma & chronic symptoms. This clip is packed with...
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#57 When Will I Be Healed? (aka The Great Escape)
Alive And Aligned
“When will I reach the end of ‘the struggle’ and finally be able to enjoy life?” In this episode, Pete explores the different stages of the “Healing Journey” - which can feel like a never-ending endeavour. He describes observations from his work with his clients along various stages of this process - as they let go of their old ways & created a life more authentic & true to themselves. He uses an analogy of being “in the tunnel” to describe the process of outgrowing your old life & network, but still being unsure of the path forward. If you feel fed up, sick of the...
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#56 Punching Fear in the Face w/ Jan-Willem van der Heiden
Alive And Aligned
Jan-Willem van der Heiden is the Warrior coach. In this episode you will meet a lifecoach & boxer who blends the power of “mindset work” with the tool of “getting punched in the face” to build embodied resilience in men & women! Jan-Willem’s passion for fighting stemmed from being bullied as a kid and struggling with anxiety, which affected how he showed up in life. Through finding boxing & personal development & embodying his inner Warrior, he’s been able to follow his passion in life, become a successful entrepreneur and find his dream woman. His stats are...
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#55 The People Pleaser’s Exchange Bureau
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People Pleasing is a pretty rough character trait to live with. The “Nice Guy/ Nice Girl” pattern is insidious - it seeps into every area of life & distorts our perception of the world. At some point along the way, the people-pleaser took on the false belief that they’re some kind of burden on others & must overgive & self-sacrifice in order to receive their basic needs. This pattern can get so bad that, in an act of trying to remain consistent with self, they turn it into a badge of honour (think “the saviour” or “the empath”). These false...
info_outlinePeople Pleasing is a pretty rough character trait to live with.
The “Nice Guy/ Nice Girl” pattern is insidious - it seeps into every area of life & distorts our perception of the world.
At some point along the way, the people-pleaser took on the false belief that they’re some kind of burden on others & must overgive & self-sacrifice in order to receive their basic needs.
This pattern can get so bad that, in an act of trying to remain consistent with self, they turn it into a badge of honour (think “the saviour” or “the empath”).
These false identities perpetuate toxic relationships, which continue to leave the pleaser feeling burnt out, worthless…and most of all, “correct” in their belief that they are the victim.
In this episode, Pete dives into his own lived experience of this seemingly harmful but ultimately destructive pattern. He uses a fun analogy of a rather unique “Exchange Bureau” to describe how ridiculous the unconscious behaviour of the people pleaser really is.
He explores the solution to people-pleasing, a reframe that may help you understand the source of these problems - and a path forward.
Remember - Just by existing, you deserve to have your needs met,..“just cos” ;)
Books referenced:
“The Disease to Please - Curing the People Pleasing Syndrome - Harriet B. Braiker
“No More Mr Nice Guy” - Robert A. Glover
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