The Anxiety Loop Explained, and How to Interrupt It with Dr. Judson Brewer
Release Date: 01/28/2026
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info_outlineThe worst part of anxiety is not the feeling. It’s the loop. The “what if” that keeps feeding itself until it feels like truth.
Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Judson Brewer to unpack how worry becomes a habit, why reassurance and mental debate often backfire, and how curiosity can disrupt the cycle without forcing you to “think positive.”
In this conversation:
- How anxiety becomes a loop: trigger → worry → short relief → more worry
- Why worrying feels like control even when it isn’t
- Curiosity as the interrupt that changes the pattern
- Anxiety vs stress vs overwhelm and why precise labeling matters
- A simple way to shift from “oh no” to “oh”
About the guest:
Dr. Judson Brewer is a psychiatrist and neuroscientist who studies habit change and anxiety.
Judd’s books: Unwinding Anxiety, The Craving Mind, The Hunger Habit
Programs & resources:
https://goingbeyondanxiety.com
https://juddbrewer.substack.com
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