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Old Money vs New Money: Navigating Class & Etiquette in Modern Society

Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners

Release Date: 09/23/2024

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Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners

For the final episode of the season of Awkward Etiquette Old Money and New Manners, Auntie Kiki invites you into the most intimate setting of all: the floor by the Christmas tree, wrapping gifts imperfectly and talking you down from the holiday panic spiral. This conversational season finale explores why old money traditions never revolve around a perfect Christmas and why elegance, confidence, and connection matter far more than flawless décor or curated aesthetics. In this holiday etiquette episode, Kiki breaks down the modern obsession with getting Christmas “right,” from symmetrical...

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Vampires are back—but in 2025, they aren’t sleeping in coffins. They’re chairing the board, running the estate, and freezing you out of the conversation with a polite smile. In this episode of Awkward Etiquette, Kiki Astor dissects the ultimate social archetype: The Old Money Villain. Drawing from her novel Scarlet Fever and the terrifying "Sangren" family, Kiki explores why we are culturally obsessed with wealthy monsters (think Succession, The White Lotus, and The Perfect Couple) and why the scariest people aren’t loud—they’re just insulated. If you’ve ever felt frozen out by...

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Step into the holidays with old-money elegance, unbothered poise, and a velvet-lined sense of humor in this special episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor. In this Holiday Social Survival Guide, Kiki shares the discreet, never-spoken-aloud strategies that generational families use to glide through December gracefully—even when surrounded by chaos, questions, poorly behaved relatives, and peppermint bark they did not ask for. This episode covers 30 old-money-coded micro-manners, including: • Holiday dressing secrets (two uniforms, heritage prints, effortless grooming) • How to look...

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Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners

In this jewel-box episode of Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners, old money and etiquette expert and author of the Virginia foxhunting dark old money gothic novel Scarlet Fever Kiki Astor takes you on a richly layered tour of Old Money Green—the color that has shaped centuries of taste, architecture, interiors, jewelry, fashion, and even social behavior. From the deep, secretive gloss of Charleston Green, rumored to be a begrudging compromise from the post-Civil War era, to the storied Kelly Green of The Greenbrier, to Elsie de Wolfe’s iconic soft greens in her legendary drawing...

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Why is everyone suddenly dressing like they ride? From “equestrian-core” to “country luxe,” the horsey aesthetic is galloping through fashion — but what does it really say? In this episode, Kiki Astor, fresh from a research trip at her hunting lodge in Virginia's horse country, getting ready to release her upcoming dark old money gothic equestrian romance Scarlet Fever, explores why the equestrian look is the ultimate old money uniform: disciplined, neutral, and quietly expensive. We’ll talk about Ralph Lauren’s lifelong love affair with the hunt, the five essential garments that...

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As daylight wanes and autumn deepens, the first week of November offers unique opportunities—and subtle challenges—for anyone who cherishes etiquette, aesthetics, and intentional living. In this episode of Awkward Etiquette: Old Money and New Manners with Kiki Astor, Kiki reveals how to navigate early November with elegance, balance, and old-money flair. What you’ll learn in this episode: 1. Daylight Savings Time Etiquette: Adjust your daily routines gracefully, pour drinks earlier, and embrace the cozy rhythms of the season—without sacrificing sophistication. Learn how small timing...

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What happens when artificial intelligence meets old money manners, style, and lifestyle? In this witty and insightful episode of Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners, Kiki Astor takes on the rise of the AI Old Money Girl — that picture-perfect, algorithm-crafted vision of luxury and composure who seems to live in a permanent Ralph Lauren ad. She’s flawless, serene, and utterly unreal. She's also damaging to your self esteem and your sense of reality. Here's the thing: true sophistication isn’t generated — it’s cultivated. Kiki explores how to use AI tools elegantly, not for...

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In this episode of the Awkward Etiquette podcast, your host Kiki Astor ,etiquette maven and romance author, dives deep into the enduring tension between old money and new money, exploring the historical roots and modern-day dynamics of wealth, class, and social status. From feudal societies where aristocratic lineage dictated power, to the Industrial Revolution's rise of self-made tycoons, and the evolution of these tensions into the modern era of tech billionaires, Kiki offers a fascinating look at the sociology of wealth and social anthropology. 

 

Listeners will learn how old money families have historically upheld social traditions and exclusivity, while new money disrupts these norms with innovation and often ostentatious displays of wealth. Kiki explores the complex relationship between cultural capital, prestige, and economic mobility, particularly within the class system of the United States. 

 

The episode also serves up etiquette tips for navigating interactions between old and new money circles, offering insights into discretion, humility, and authenticity in high-society settings. Whether you’re intrigued by the sociology of class or looking for practical advice on mingling with the elite, this episode is packed with rich details about the history, economics, and social behaviors of the wealthy.