EP 241: Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports with author Kelley Coleman
Release Date: 09/06/2024
EP 266: Done Being Good with Sandi Konta
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: This week on the podcast, I am talking all about the insidious nature of being raised a good girl. She’s so polite. She’s so agreeable. She is so likeable. She’s such a team player and so dependable. And we wonder why we are exhausted and resentful we don’t have time for fun, friends or self-care. Meet Sandi Konta. She’s a coach for women who are ready to create a life that reflects their needs, without feeling guilty. We met because we are both Fair Play Facilitators. I love learning about the how and why other facilitators come to the work of rebalancing domestic...
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EP 265: Ten Things Saving My Life Right Now
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: How was your week? This week on the podcast I am sharing 10 Things Saving My Life Right Now. I love when Kendra from The Lazy Genius does these every few months, so you might also love hearing mine. What’s saving your life right now?
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EP 264: Feeling Called to Something Bigger with Tamara Wamsley
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: How was your April? So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we’ve always dreamed of, how we let go of what’s ok when we deep down know something bigger and better aligned with our values is out there waiting for us. Meet Tamara. Tamara Wamsley is a transformational coach and founder of The Ambitious Chick Freedom Movement. She is on a mission to redefine success for ambitious women. After experiencing her own journey from burnout to breakthrough, she now guides women to break free from unfulfillment and...
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EP 263: Reaching for More & Knowing What to Say with Jenny Dreizen
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we’ve always dreamed of, how we let go of what’s ok and trust that the thing we really want is out there and how to have difficult conversations gracefully. Meet Jenny. Genevieve “Jenny” Dreizen, Co-Founder and COO of Fresh Starts Registry, is an operations specialist, marketing professional, and modern-day etiquette expert. On the heels of her sister Olivia’s divorce in 2020, prompting Olivia to have an ‘aha moment’ when she realized we needed to reframe the...
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EP 262: Some Life Advice 15 Years Beyond 40
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: Approximately 20,075 days ago I was born. In case you don’t have a calculator handy, that is double nickels AKA FIFTY-FREAKING-FIVE years old. It feels completely bonkers because it doesn’t feel like that much time has gone by. Everyone I have met recently is in the 38-48 year range and that got me thinking about how much my life has changed for the better since my late 30s. At 39 I started blogging. At 40 I started teaching yoga. At 41 I became a mama. At 42 learned about invisible labor, domestic load & inequity in marriage At 43 I resigned...
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EP 261: Ten Things My Mom Was Right About
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: My mom died 10 years ago today. We weren’t close, but she was my biggest cheerleader. The older I get the more I understand who she was and how much of the time in history she was born into really shaped who she got to be. My mom couldn’t wear pants to her segregated school, got married at 20 and had her first child at 21. I came along right before she was 25. She was on the younger side of average at the time, but was relieved to be out of her parent’s house. In the early 1960s women then didn’t have a lot of choices. Options for work were...
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EP 260: When the House is on Fire Don’t Wait to Help Put It Out - with Liz Minnella
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: Are you waiting for someone to choose you? Are you holding back because you think you aren’t ready? Are you waiting until you have enough experience or go back to school? Are you worried you’ll get it wrong? I hear these fears all the time from women. They want to do something that makes a difference in the world and they get stuck because the little voice in their head telling stories about why now isn’t the right time, they aren’t the right person and they stay stuck in the loop of inaction. This week on the podcast I am sharing a very special interview with someone who...
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EP 259: Calm The Chaos: Part 3
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: If I were in charge of how the world operates, I would definitely sleep as little as possible, stay horizontal in my soft pants, drink caffeine in the AM, and booze it up at night while eating BBQ potato chips and candy corn and feel FANTASTIC! But alas, I am not in charge. Instead we have to subscribe to human biology 101 or feel like a bucket of hot garbage or rusty buckets of bones. Or Boooooth. 😭 I regret to inform you no matter what is happening in the world, we have a lot of control over how we feel inside our bodies and in our lives in this utterly bonkers world. What we...
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EP 258: Calm The Chaos: Part 2
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into Calming the Chaos Part 2: Friends Are More Important Than We Think.
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EP 257: Calm The Chaos: Part 1
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
Show notes: Cops and vampires have permission to enter. Crazy too. Someone recently said that since the plan is to overwhelm and exhaust us into giving up, we need to look at our own behavior in order to survive this administration. The goal is to watch the rollercoaster without getting on the rollercoaster. Watching a rollercoaster feels way different than riding a rollercoaster, doesn’t it? This metaphor helps to capture the concept of equanimity really clearly. Being calm during a crisis is what we practice in the . {Enroll today with code 2025EARLY to save $600. Payment plans are...
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Happy back to school aka new year!
While I love the fresh start energy of a new school year, it also brings a deep feeling of anxiety. Will the teacher like my kid? Will the teacher be fair? Will the other kids include mine and be kind to her?
The second day of kindergarten was the first time I got a behavior call from school and I have spent every beginning of the school year since educating teachers and administrators about disabilities and disability rights within the public school system.
We have had to learn about special education laws and disability rights all while raising our little firecracker. Sometimes I feel like the universe had this kid in mind for me because what else would explain my past work as a lobbyist, a public school teacher AND a coach? These jobs gave me the skills to go to bat on her behalf.
But not all families have the time, money, expertise or experience to help their students.
This is lonely work for parents of kids who don’t fall into the school system because of learning and thinking differences. A lot of times we parents share similar struggles as our kids.
Between me and my husband we have 36 years of direct classroom experience. AND THIS IS STILL A MYSTERY.
The education system needs help and no place is that more apparent than in special education. If your student needs an IEP or a 504, uses a wheelchair or other medical equipment or has ADHD you have to know a whole lot more stuff than parents who never deal with special education.
The craziest part of this is so much of special education is settled law. It should be this hard to access services legally required for students under settled law, right? Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) guarantees students with disabilities free and appropriate education was passed in 1975 and updated in 2004. The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) was enacted in 1990 - 34 years ago.
Why is this still such a struggle? <blood boils>
I recently asked my friends, neighbors and former teacher colleagues what they wished everyone knew about special education. They came through… everyone feels like every single part of the system is set up to fail.
I just discovered our school district has been under scrutiny since 2017 about their failure in special education. They have been involved in lawsuits and are just now trying to get it sorted. Needless to say I will be throwing in my two cents because this has been a shitshow.
People who aren’t directly involved have no idea how much extra work we are all putting in trying to sort out a complicated and confusing process. It is a privilege to not have to advocate for your student.
People who live this every day are exhausted and anxious because we all want the same thing for our kids: a quality education that will help them be lifelong learners.
This isn’t the last you’ll be hearing from me about systemic changes in education, but I did want to share a resource I found.
Of course I immediately checked this out from the library, devoured the contents and then reached out to the author to be a guest on the podcast.
Kelley Coleman is a feature film development executive turned author and advocate for parent caregivers and individuals with disabilities.
Her book Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports draws upon over a decade of experience, including her own experience parenting a child with multiple disabilities.
Kelley lives in Los Angeles with her husband, two boys, and her son’s trusty service dog.
Who can you share this episode with? Does anyone you know know a student with thinking and learning differences like ADHD, autism, dyslexia or other learning difficulties? Do you know a family that has visible disabilities? Do you know a teacher, principal or school board member? Please pass it on.