100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
100% Guilt-Free Self-Care because you know you need it to live your best life and feeling guilty isn’t helping you do it. You may believe self-care is selfish. It isn’t. You may believe you are broken. You aren’t. From exercise to mindset to books that will change your life, Tami is here to remind you that you matter and self-care is the foundation to your dream life.
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EP 224: Beyond Your Wildest Dreams with Melissa Llarena
05/09/2024
EP 224: Beyond Your Wildest Dreams with Melissa Llarena
Show notes: I have been meeting with tons of interesting women doing amazing work in the world, taking a class on branding, preparing for a couple of speaking events and handling some big parenting challenges. In other words, I am ready for a little R&R this weekend for Mother’s Day. So many have told me lately that all they want for Mother's Day is some silence and solitude, perhaps a meal they don’t have to think about or clean up after. Me too! So that’s what I requested from my family. I will also be reading by a pool and swimming. Nice way to spend a Sunday if you ask me. So excited to share my interview with Melissa Llarena. We talked about how our imagination is the secret weapon to getting the life and career you want. I love how her mind thinks! Melissa’s creativity, imagination and determination have helped her connect with some of the biggest thought leaders. Melissa Llarena is a bestselling author, imagination coach, consultant, speaker, contributor to ForbesWomen articles that have garnered 4 million-plus views. Melissa is also the host of Unimaginable Wellness, the podcast for entrepreneurs, founders, and creators who are moms. Featured guests include Gary Vee, Beth Comstock, Suzy Batiz, David Meltzer, Jordan Harbinger, Kanika Chadda Gupta, Angela Middleton MBE (i.e., Member of the British Empire), Ken Honda, and hundreds of other unconventional thinkers. Melissa has been featured in the WSJ, Business Insider, Fox Business, CNN Money, The Huffington Post, and other publications. She holds a psychology degree from NYU, an MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth, and a Transformational Coaching Academy certificate. She is also training to become a meditation practitioner. Melissa lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband and three sons (one singleton and a set of identical twins).
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EP 223: Life Beyond The Classroom with Sara Torpey
05/03/2024
EP 223: Life Beyond The Classroom with Sara Torpey
Show notes: Welcome to Maycember! If you are a parent or teacher you know that (thank you Holderness family). It’s also the season when we start looking towards summer break and beyond. Are you a teacher, helper or giver with something to teach? Would you like to make income from your ideas? This week’s podcast guest Sara Torpey can teach you how to do just that.
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EP 222: What Self-Care is Decades Into Your Life with author Jennifer Louden
04/25/2024
EP 222: What Self-Care is Decades Into Your Life with author Jennifer Louden
Show notes: Have you read You Can Heal Your Life? I only understood about every third word, but one big takeaway is: change is possible and you have the power to make it happen. I was sold on the concept, but I needed something a bit more practical to help me in my everyday life. Then I found this book, and everything changed. It set me on the path I am on today. The Women’s Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring Balance in Your Life by Jennifer Louden. Fast forward a few decades and I had a major epiphany: authors are people. People are on social media. ✨poof✨ I found Jen on Twitter and sent her a message telling her how her book had changed my life. She responded (🤗🤩🥳) And now we are BFFS!!! Just kidding! (Sort of)…. In case you haven't met yet. JENNIFER LOUDEN wanted to be Harriet the Spy when she was eight, an enlightened master when she was twelve, and a brilliant comedy writer when she was twenty-two. She penned her bestseller, The Woman’s Comfort Book, after her first why bother time. She’s the author of five additional books including The Woman’s Retreat Book and The Life Organizer. She has inspired millions of women through her books, her retreats, and her newsletter, but probably not through her cooking or her typos. I hope you’ll give this week’s episode with Jennifer Louden a listen. I tried really hard to not fangirl too much. I loved hearing how self-care has evolved over the decades since Jen first wrote her self-care best seller.
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EP 221: Five Years!
04/19/2024
EP 221: Five Years!
Show notes: Five years ago I published my first 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care episode. I promised myself I would release a season because I knew I had ten things about self-care I wanted to share with you. I had no idea what the show would grow into. 🤯 Over the five years, we have learned from so many authors I admire. We have seen how self-care impacts women in all kinds of industries and professions. Deep dives into Enneagram and Getting Good at Grief gave me a chance to collaborate with my pals and learn more about myself (and you) in the process. Self-care for the 9-5er came about from a question from an audience member. I couldn’t do this without you.
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EP 220: Organizing The ADHD Home with Kat Green of Badass Homelife
04/12/2024
EP 220: Organizing The ADHD Home with Kat Green of Badass Homelife
Show notes: Today's guest is Kat Green, she's a perpetually curious and laid-back individual, a minimalist, and the proud owner of Badass Homelife. She is an ADHD Organizing Specialist and absolutely loves helping neurospicy folks find systems that work for them. I hope you’ll give my interview with Kat a listen.
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EP 219: Sharing Our Stuff and Adult Friendships with author Laura Tremaine
04/04/2024
EP 219: Sharing Our Stuff and Adult Friendships with author Laura Tremaine
Show notes: After I attended an author's panel last year I introduced myself to Laura Tremaine. It was a super nerdy moment for me because I love her books and podcasts. I love her storytelling. I am super intrigued by her. Our backgrounds are very different—she grew up in very conservative Oklahoma, and I grew up in the liberal San Francisco Bay Area. But she moved to Los Angeles in her 20s and has talked about how that has impacted her. Because I wanted to learn more about her, I asked her to be a guest on my podcast; she said yes! Then I made it weird. I didn’t reach out to schedule for almost a year. 🫣 Let this be a lesson to us all: people are lovely even when you leave them hanging for months.
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EP 218: More Equity for Everyone with Fair Play author Eve Rodsky
03/28/2024
EP 218: More Equity for Everyone with Fair Play author Eve Rodsky
Show notes: For more than a decade, I have been talking to people about self-care. Some would say I am a self-care evangelist because it saved my life. It is the only thing that keeps us from being burnt out. It is the fuel for feeling good enough in your life to keep going in our desire to make the world a better place. “I don’t have enough time” is one of the most often expressed reasons why women aren’t doing the self-care that they need. They are too busy because of work, child raising, keeping up with the housework, and doing all the things for all the people in their lives. What in your life would change if all time was created equal? What would change if you had enough time for your self-care and a more balanced distribution of housework and childcare in your home? In this week’s podcast, I got to talk with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, about creating equitable households, reducing the mental load, decreasing emotional labor, and making invisible work visible.
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EP 217: My Birthday Wish for Us
03/22/2024
EP 217: My Birthday Wish for Us
Show notes: It’s my birthday week, and I am having a lot of feelings. Spring feels like another new year; it is election season, and I am now entering my mid-50s. Now seems like a good time to share my birthday wishes with you. You can find them in this week’s podcast episode. Some may surprise you, and others may not.
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EP 216: Telling Your Story Without You Being There with Calvina Nguyen
03/14/2024
EP 216: Telling Your Story Without You Being There with Calvina Nguyen
Show notes: I’ve got moms on the brain. Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of my mom’s death and I am so bummed she isn’t here to see how well I am doing, how much my daughter is growing and how the world is changing for the better. She would 100% be my biggest cheerleader in my work. I even talked a lot about moms in this week’s podcast. I interviewed Calvina Nguyen of Your Brand Spark. Calvina was born in China and moved to the US when she was 9, which brought a whole new conversation around self-care and one immigrant family’s experience. In her professional life, Calvina runs Your Brand Spark, a creative agency that educates small businesses in design and branding while helping them build a solid visual brand foundation that empowers them to connect with the right audience and grow a thriving business. I hope you’ll listen to my interview with Calvina.
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EP 215: Redefining Media and Midlife with Jennifer Cooper
03/07/2024
EP 215: Redefining Media and Midlife with Jennifer Cooper
Show notes: How are you this late winter transitioning into spring? This week in my Facebook group I asked what magazines people read when they were in their teens and early 20s. Turns out a lot of us read Seventeen. Lots of others read Sassy and Jane. Ms. Magazine, Bitch, Bust got some shoutouts and even the ever-nerdy Utne Reader. Those magazines helped us feel less alone. We could find out what other GenXers or Millennials across the country were doing, thinking, and feeling. We found parts of ourselves in those pages. I asked because in this week’s podcast, I interviewed Jen Cooper, the founder of Jennifer Magazine. Show links:
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EP 214: Money Freedom with Maureen Paley
02/29/2024
EP 214: Money Freedom with Maureen Paley
Shote notes: In this week’s podcast, Maureen Paley of the Financial Autonomy for Women podcast and I got a chance to talk about all things money and self-care. Money is a touchy topic for a lot of women. Given our very recent history of being able to have credit in our own names, loans without a male co-signer, and the ability to purchase property to build generational wealth, it makes perfect sense that we struggle when it comes to money. This, coupled with the societal and cultural narratives about self-care being selfish, we’ve got a lot of things to talk about!
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EP 213: Creating Greater Impact with Melissa Camilleri of Stand for the And
02/22/2024
EP 213: Creating Greater Impact with Melissa Camilleri of Stand for the And
Show notes: Melissa Camilleri is the Co-founder of Stand for the And Education Company and the Impact Incubator. With over 20 years as a credentialed educator, a professional leader in training and development, and a decade in digital marketing, Melissa guides successful service providers to maximize their impact and their income with one-to-many offers. Over the last five years alone, she and her business partner, Angela Greaser, have helped their clients generate over $56 million in revenue through courses/programs and other group offerings. She’s a mom of 3 young kiddos, wife to one handsome husband, homeschools, and lives in Sacramento, CA. I hope you’ll give it a listen. Melissa is a rock star and we dove deep into not settling for the scraps of schedules or life with your family. You can find all the episodes and show notes at .
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EP 212: Letting Go of Mom Guilt with JoAnn Crohn of No Guilt Mom
02/15/2024
EP 212: Letting Go of Mom Guilt with JoAnn Crohn of No Guilt Mom
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I got a chance to interview Joann Crohn from No Guilt Mom.
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EP 211: What Is Saving My Life Right Now
02/08/2024
EP 211: What Is Saving My Life Right Now
All this rain in Northern California has reminded me that we are still six weeks out from spring and my urge to curl up with my cat, a blanket and a book make total sense. No need to rush because spring will be here soon enough. Over in my I asked everyone what is saving your life this week. The answers were varied and I got some great ideas for my own list. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing What Is Saving My Life.
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EP 210: You Are Never Too Late
01/25/2024
EP 210: You Are Never Too Late
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on being behind and not feeling like you have enough time. Show links:
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EP 209: Goals You’ll Crush in 2024
01/18/2024
EP 209: Goals You’ll Crush in 2024
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on goal setting. Show links:
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EP 208: A Little Happier in 2024
01/12/2024
EP 208: A Little Happier in 2024
Show notes: During this time of year, I let myself rest while I ponder what I want in the new year. This time of year I am all about laying the foundation for the year by day dreaming and planting seeds. Later in the spring when there is more light and action energy I will get to making those dreams into reality. In other words, a slow start to a new year still allows plenty of time for reaching goals and changing habits. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing 3 happiness-boosting exercises that take 2 minutes because even in winter, there is room for some happiness. Show links:
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EP 207: Seven Reminders to Myself You Can Borrow if You Need to as We Start the New Year
01/05/2024
EP 207: Seven Reminders to Myself You Can Borrow if You Need to as We Start the New Year
I don’t know about you, but my 2023 was HARD. People I love were displaced by flooding, tree damage and other consequences from historic weather events. I had so many health related issues that came with pain and we had way more sickness than usual. It felt like one thing after another, so I am happy to have a fresh start. Even though I believe we can hit reset any time, 2023 felt like it needed a hard reset. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing seven reminders to myself you can borrow if you need to as we start the new year. Show links:
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EP 206: Fair Play Isn’t Just for Families
12/14/2023
EP 206: Fair Play Isn’t Just for Families
Show notes: Lately, I have been getting so many questions about how to make Fair Play work in fill-in-the-blank living situation/family structure that I have been thinking about how all of my living situations could have been made so much easier and better if I’d had this framework. I don’t know about you, but I could have used some guidance and/or direct instruction about how to take care of a house. I had chores growing up and learned some skills, but I never learned the thinking behind why we do certain things or how they got done. It was up to me to do a list of chores, but that was it. Living with roommates in the dorms and then in various apartments over the years would have been a lot smoother with CPE. The house would have been cleaner and there would have been a whole lot less passive aggressive PostIt notes left around. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing how CPE can work in all kinds of living situations. Show links: Fair Play for The Holidays Workshop - so you can get the replay.
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EP 205: How Fair Play Helped Me Not Hate My Husband at the Holidays
12/07/2023
EP 205: How Fair Play Helped Me Not Hate My Husband at the Holidays
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I how CPE helped me not hate my husband at the holidays.
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EP 204: NOvember Wrap Up
11/30/2023
EP 204: NOvember Wrap Up
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I am sharing a few of the benefits of saying NO.
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EP 203: Three Free Gifts for Your Family and Friends
11/23/2023
EP 203: Three Free Gifts for Your Family and Friends
Show notes: I am sharing a few conversation starters that have helped my family feel loved and appreciated this fall.
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EP 202: Holiday Gift Guide
11/16/2023
EP 202: Holiday Gift Guide
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, I am sharing some things on my gift wishlist and other things I highly recommend because I already have them and love them.
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EP 201: Invisible Work: Valuing & Rebalancing The Mental Load at the Holidays
11/09/2023
EP 201: Invisible Work: Valuing & Rebalancing The Mental Load at the Holidays
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, we are about how we can make the invisible work visible and we can rebalance the mental load.
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EP 200: NOvember - The Beginning of the Busiest Season of the Year
11/02/2023
EP 200: NOvember - The Beginning of the Busiest Season of the Year
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, we are diving into the intersection between NOvember and rebalancing the mental load at home during the holiday season. Show links:
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EP 199: What If Superwoman Married a Giant Kid
10/26/2023
EP 199: What If Superwoman Married a Giant Kid
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, we are back to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the roles we play in our partnerships. Knowing what role each person is bringing to the Fair Play game can help us see how we can invite our partner into the conversation, ultimately, that can help us navigate taking care of our families in a more equitable way. No matter if you find yourself married to a Giant Kid, a Traditionalist, a Where’s the Butter, a One Step Forward/Two Steps Back, or a More Than Most, there is something there for all of us. Show links:
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EP 198: Get This Off My Plate
10/19/2023
EP 198: Get This Off My Plate
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, we are returning to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept surrounding “help” at home and the notion of fairness. Show links:
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EP 197: Microjoys: Finding Hope (Especially) When Life Is Not Okay with Cyndie Spiegel
10/12/2023
EP 197: Microjoys: Finding Hope (Especially) When Life Is Not Okay with Cyndie Spiegel
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, we are taking an intermission from the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept of Microjoys with Cyndie Spiegel. Show links:
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EP 196: Minimum Standard of Care
09/28/2023
EP 196: Minimum Standard of Care
Show notes: In this week’s podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am digging into living your values and the Minimum Standard of Care in the Fair Play System. Show links:
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EP 195: Never Ending To-Do List
09/21/2023
EP 195: Never Ending To-Do List
Show notes: No one wants one more giant time-sensitive thing on their to-do list. Speaking of to-do lists…what’s on yours? At home,3 no doubt you are dealing with at least some of this: Dealing with the mail Paying bills Grocery shopping Home goods shopping Home maintenance Dishes Laundry Pets Garbage Cleaning Cooking weekday and weekend meals Calendar keeper Childcare outside the home Watching kids inside the home Transportation for kids Bathing and grooming kids Bedtime routine kids Morning routine kids Diapering and potty training Medical for kids Homework, projects + school supplies Discipline and screen time for the kids Middle of the night comfort for the kids There are so many more home management tasks, and maybe you are your co-parent/partner already split them up equitably. Woohoo! 🎉🎉🎉 If you are like me, this list totally stresses you out, and you would like to know how other people manage all this adulting. Seriously, who can get this all done?! In this week’s podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am digging into the 100 Fair Play cards, being a game changer, and figuring out the roles we play in our household organization. Show links:
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