5| Shame, Judgment, and the Parts We Push Away: The Power of Paradox
Release Date: 05/13/2025
19| When Growth Feels Like Grief: The Hidden Cost of Becoming
Paradox and Parts
In this episode of Paradox & Parts, we explore the emotional cost of growth—what it really means to outgrow old roles, relationships, identities, and belief systems that once felt like home. While much of the world celebrates the “becoming,” few talk about the grief that often comes with it. In this honest and reflective conversation, I dive into the parts of growth we tend to avoid: the fear, the resistance, the internal pushback from your nervous system, and the ache of letting go—even when it’s time. You’ll hear why protector parts often rise during seasons of expansion, how...
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18| The Art of Receiving: Why It’s Hard, Why It Matters, and How to Practice
Paradox and Parts
On the surface, receiving looks simple—someone offers a gift, a compliment, or support and you say “thank you.” In real life, it’s layered, messy, and vulnerable. In this episode of Paradox & Parts, Sarah Failla unpacks the paradox of receiving: why it feels hard (family, culture, church conditioning), how judgment blocks our openness (“must be nice”), and why receiving isn’t weakness or passivity—it’s partnership and participation with God, people, and life. You’ll hear a vivid $1,000 coffee exercise, a gentle reframing of Acts 20:35, and a personal story about...
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17| Unscripted: When Growth Feels Slow (and You’re Circling the Same Mountain)
Paradox and Parts
In this unscripted episode of Paradox and Parts, I get real about what it’s like to face the same patterns, the same fears, and the same inner roadblocks over and over—and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. We talk about: Why change takes longer than we want (and why that’s okay) How to stop judging your past self with what you know now The power of one-degree shifts in healing and growth What to do when you’re in a funk about being in a funk Why “life will life” and how to give yourself grace in the middle of it Whether you’re navigating trauma, self-doubt, big...
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BONUS: Somatic Dignity Practice
Paradox and Parts
This is the guided practice companion to the previous episode on Somatic Dignity—designed to help you experience the length we talked about. In that episode, Sarah Failla introduced the framework of somatic dignity through the lens of length, width, and depth. This practice takes it deeper by focusing specifically on length—your rootedness, your alignment, and your energetic presence. You’ll be guided to source from Divine consciousness and the magnetic energy of Mother Earth, amplifying your somatic length and anchoring your nervous system into truth and power. Whether you’re feeling...
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16| Somatic Dignity: Reclaiming the Power, Presence, and Worth in Your Body
Paradox and Parts
You’ve done the mindset work. You’ve read the books. You’ve coached yourself through the spirals. But you still find yourself shrinking, stuck, or spun out. What if the missing piece isn’t in your head—but in your body? In this powerful episode, Sarah introduces the life-changing concept of somatic dignity—the embodied experience of your worth, presence, and self-respect. She breaks down what it really means to live in your body with alignment, courage, and sacred authority—and why your nervous system, spiritual resourcing, and capacity to feel are key to reclaiming your full...
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15| You’re a Human, Not a Machine: Rethinking Consistency and Self-Discipline
Paradox and Parts
What does consistency really look like when life is full, your energy shifts, and your nervous system is begging for a break? In this episode of Paradox & Parts, Sarah shares how to redefine consistency so it doesn’t burn you out—or become a weapon you use to judge yourself. She talks about: Why we attach moral meaning to consistency (and how to release the shame) How to create Plan A and Plan B rhythms for workouts, food, and routines Why women’s cycles change what productivity and discipline look like How to know if your ‘go, go, go’ drive is true devotion—or a dysregulated...
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14| You’re Not Broken: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Quiet Your Inner Critic
Paradox and Parts
In this episode of Paradox & Parts, Sarah Failla unpacks the powerful truth that you are not broken—and you never were. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, harsh inner dialogue, or body image shame, this episode invites you into a gentler way of seeing yourself. Sarah shares how to recognize when your inner critic isn’t actually your voice, how to practice self-compassion even when it feels unnatural, and why embracing all parts of you is the real path to personal growth and emotional healing. You’ll walk away with: A new understanding of where your inner critic comes from...
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13| Born Good: Letting Go of Sin Nature and Learning to Trust Yourself Again
Paradox and Parts
In this episode of Paradox & Parts, if you were raised in the church and taught that you were born sinful, this conversation is for you. We explore how inherited theology—especially the belief in sin nature—can shape our ability to trust ourselves, listen to our inner voice, and feel safe with our own power, desires, and questions. Inside this episode: Discover why “goodness” doesn’t have to come from disappearing yourself. Understand what happens when the version of God you were handed no longer fits the life you’re living. Learn how to trust your spiritual evolution without...
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12| What Is Your Capacity For Joy?
Paradox and Parts
In this episode, Sarah explores the surprising ways we resist, bypass, or shrink joy—even when life is good. She shares personal stories, nervous system insight, and five reflection prompts to help you expand your emotional capacity and stop bracing when things feel light, fun, or easeful. You’ll hear: – How joy relates to your nervous system and emotional safety – Why many women subconsciously suppress joy – A vulnerable birth + birthday story that redefined celebration – How to invite just 1% more joy into your day (without guilt) If you've ever felt guilty for feeling good,...
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11| Unscripted: When You Forget Who You Are
Paradox and Parts
This one’s raw, real, and straight from the heart. Recorded just after a powerful embodiment call, this unscripted episode is a sacred reminder for the moments you feel stuck, off, or disconnected from your power. Sarah shares a vulnerable reflection on how forgetting who we are pulls us into functional freeze, burnout, or numbness—and how remembering (through embodiment, God, source, and even a Care Bear Stare of wildflowers) can root us back in truth. If you’ve been over-functioning, under-feeling, or just wondering why nothing feels quite right… this one is for you. 🔁 Come back...
info_outlineIn this episode of Paradox and Parts, I dive deeper into how shame and judgment show up when we try to live in black-and-white thinking.
We talk about the parts we push away—the ones we think disqualify us—and how paradox invites us to hold them with compassion instead of rejection. I share personal stories around parenting, confidence, overthinking, and spiritual growth… and how learning to hold both/and has softened how I see myself and others.
This one is raw, honest, and real. If you’ve ever felt like a contradiction, or wondered why shame hits so hard—this is for you.
Takeaways:
- Shame thrives in silence, secrecy, and either/or thinking.
- Paradox helps us soften judgment and reconnect with our wholeness.
- You don’t have to pick one version of yourself to be lovable.
- Holding space for contradiction is a practice of healing.
- Self-acceptance doesn’t mean you have it all figured out—it means you stop fighting who you are.
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