More Than a Provider: Reimagining Black Fatherhood with Mutle Mothibe
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In this powerful and heartfelt episode, acclaimed poet and writer Mutle Mothibe, a father of three, joins us for an intimate conversation about the evolving role of Black fathers in the household. We explore the profound distinction between being a father and being a dad, and how intentional parenting can foster lifelong friendships between fathers and their children, relationships that many in previous generations never had the tools or emotional language to build. Long before “gentle parenting” became a global phenomenon, Mutle was living it and embodying a style of fatherhood that...
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Those Who Influence Your Perspective Shape Your Experience
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"Your perspective will either become your Prison or your passport; choose wisely" Who has shaped the way you see the world? How much of what you believe about yourself and your life has been unconsciously influenced by others? In this episode, I reflect on a somewhat life altering day spent with two of my high school teachers. One, a fabulous woman in her late 50s, is navigating a cancer diagnosis with grace and joy that can only be described as inspirational. The other, a widow who has endured profound loss, radiated so much wisdom and wonder, it left me in awe. Despite their...
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Building a Life You Love Before Love Finds You
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In this episode of An Extraordinary Take, I’m joined by my good friend Kuda as we unpack the often-overlooked beauty of singlehood. We challenge the notion that being single is to be endured as a waiting cell before the desired destination of marriage. Kuda reflects on his own journey of navigating singleness as a black man and the responsibility that comes with being seen as an eligible bachelor. We explore how embracing singleness with joy, adventure, and self-awareness can lay the foundation for deeper, healthier relationships in the future. We also discuss the risks of rushing...
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What traveling reveals about oneself and the world
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And we’re back! After a 3 week break, An Extraordinary Take returns with its 10th episode. In today’s episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of travel. More than just a leisure activity, travel is a gateway to expanding your worldview, challenging your assumptions, and connecting with the broader human experience. We unpack the myths and misconceptions that often hold people back, like the idea that you need a partner or a group of friends to travel, or that your life must be perfectly in order (complete with a house and car) before you can explore the world. We challenge...
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The Trap of “More and Better”: Escaping the Endless Chase
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In a world where luxury is celebrated and progress is often measured by possessions, many of us find ourselves caught in a loop, waiting for the next big thing, the next breakthrough, the next season of abundance, before we allow ourselves to truly live. But what if this constant pursuit of “more” is quietly robbing us of the richness of the present moment? This episode invites listeners to pause and reflect: Are we living in a state of perpetual waiting, believing that fulfillment lies just beyond the next achievement or acquisition? With influencer culture on the rise and comparison more...
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Could you be the problem ? Spotting Toxic Traits in Yourself at Work
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In this episode we dive into the complex world of workplace dynamics with HR Specialist Thobeka Msweli. Together, we explore what really goes on behind the office doors, from the subtle signs of a toxic work culture to the often-unspoken reasons why internal promotions are passed over in favor of external hires. Thobeka brings her expert lens to help us understand how to recognise if you might be the toxic colleague and what it takes to change for the better. We also unpack practical strategies for increasing your visibility at work, positioning yourself for growth, and navigating career...
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Ukukotiza: Sacred Tradition or Subtle Oppression?
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This week, I’m joined by Producer, Pastor, and Podcaster Blaq Nubon who is the creator and host of That Husband Podcast, the only podcast on the continent dedicated to husbands under the powerful theme: “Husbands who know better, do better.” Together, we dive deep into the institution of marriage and the many dynamics that shape it. From ukukotiza, (a traditional Zulu practice where a new wife (makoti) lives with her in-laws to learn domestic skills and adapt to her new role as caregiver for her husband and extended family) to the ways men communicate in relationships as well as how...
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The Cost of Being the One Who 'Made It' - Unpacking the Emotional and Financial Strain of Unequal Success in Black Families
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In this episode, we delve into the emotional and relational complexities that arise when one person becomes the only financially successful member in their family. We explore in particular how sibling relationships can become strained—sometimes even breaking down, when success is unevenly distributed. We also unpack the subtle ways in which these dynamics can become transactional, with the successful sibling either feeling burdened as a provider or using their status to assert superiority. The episode offers practical reflections for both parties to foster healthier, more respectful...
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You Are Not Your Emotions: A Guide to Inner Safety
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In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with anxiety and the emotional waves that often come with it. Here, I share the tools and practices that have helped me not only manage anxiety but also navigate a wide range of emotions with more clarity and compassion. But this isn’t just about learning how to live through difficult emotions—it’s about strength, growth, and learning to build a safe, nurturing relationship with your inner self. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply curious about emotional wellness, this episode is a gentle reminder that...
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What Fulfills You?
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What if finding the balance’ in life isn’t about finally tipping the scales even? What if it’s not even about finally figuring out how to show up at 100% for all the roles you occupy in your life. On this episode I share my own journey of discovering how prioritising work above all else, didn’t quite turn out the way I had thought or hoped and how this taught me the importance of prioritising what really matters... Of course, there’s no one size fits all when it comes to this, and we’ve all heard enough about 'finding the balance' to know that it’s not about 50/50; all that...
info_outlineIn this episode, I open up about my personal journey with anxiety and the emotional waves that often come with it. Here, I share the tools and practices that have helped me not only manage anxiety but also navigate a wide range of emotions with more clarity and compassion. But this isn’t just about learning how to live through difficult emotions—it’s about strength, growth, and learning to build a safe, nurturing relationship with your inner self.
Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply curious about emotional wellness, this episode is a gentle reminder that emotions are powerful, but they don’t have to overpower you. With the right tools, you can learn to soothe your inner world, rather than silence it or let it take the wheel.
This episode is for anyone seeking to create a safe emotional home within themselves—one they don’t have to be afraid to return to.
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