An Extraordinary Take
Welcome to An Extraordinary Take! I'm Sibonisile Ngubane Cossa—a Public Relations Specialist, former Journalist, Poet, and Public Speaker—driven by a passion for uncovering the extraordinary within the ordinary. This podcast celebrates the courage to stand out in a world that often rewards blending in. Together, we'll explore stories that reignite our unique flames, showcasing how embracing what makes us different can leave a lasting, unreplicable mark on the world. Join me in discovering the extraordinary within all of us—where being different isn’t just welcomed but celebrated for its potential to spark change. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share. Let’s journey together toward embracing and expressing the magic that makes us extraordinary.
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GBVF in South Africa: A Crisis We Can’t Ignore
11/20/2025
GBVF in South Africa: A Crisis We Can’t Ignore
South Africa is often called the rape capital of the world, and the numbers are devastating: 15 women are murdered every day, and 117 rapes are reported daily; with thousands more going unreported. Gender-Based Violence and Femicide (GBVF) is not just a crisis; it’s a national emergency. In this episode of An Extraordinary Take, host Sibonisile Cossa sits down with Cameron Kasambala, spokesperson for Women For Change, the organisation behind the G20 Women’s Shutdown campaign. This bold movement calls for GBVF to be declared a national disaster, unlocking urgent government intervention and systemic change. Together, we unpack: The cultural norms and belief systems that fuel GBVF, including the dangerous idea that men and women are not equal. How abuse is learned as early as age 7, perpetuating cycles of violence across generations. Why the G20 Women’s Shutdown is a critical moment for South Africa—and how ordinary citizens can take action. This conversation is raw, urgent, and deeply human. It’s not just for women, it’s for men who want to listen, learn, and grow their empathy, and discover practical ways to support survivors and dismantle harmful norms. Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence, femicide, and trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening, and be kind to yourself if any part of the conversation feels triggering. Tune in, reflect, and join the movement to end GBVF.
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You're Never Too Old For Childlike Faith
11/06/2025
You're Never Too Old For Childlike Faith
This week’s episode is more of a story time where we journey through the miraculous and the mysterious, these are moments where faith met the supernatural and the impossible became reality. You know those moments where every plan you had has gone out the window and you have nothing new up your sleeve; but how just when you were about to lose hope, things come together and work out even better than you had hoped or expected. I call these moments in my life my Faith Chronicles, the moments where I knew for certain that God really exists and is For Me. It’s my faith chronicles that allowed my younger self to be more daring, to go for opportunities that seemed way above me, while trusting that the impossible was in fact, possible and that a miracle could just be on the other side of my daring to try. As we grow older, the fearless parts of ourselves often get buried beneath the need for structure, certainty, and control. But this episode is a gentle, powerful reminder that we are never too old for childlike faith. It’s a call to remember the magic that once moved us, the daring leaps we took without knowing the full story, and the grace that met us mid-air. Whether you’re in a season of doubt or simply longing to reconnect with the wonder of trusting in the unseen, this episode will reignite your spirit. It’s an invitation to believe again, to expect miracles, and to live with the quiet confidence that we are always looked after by a loving God. You have your own Faith Chronicles too. Let this episode help you remember them so you can trust again.
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Are You Being Humble Or Just Bracing Yourself For Failure?
10/23/2025
Are You Being Humble Or Just Bracing Yourself For Failure?
Did you know that research shows people often prefer complainers over those who speak positively about their lives? It’s a surprising truth that reveals how deeply our culture discourages self-celebration, especially for women. In this episode, we challenge the idea that humility means shrinking yourself. We explore how being too humble might actually be holding you back from the success, joy, and opportunities you deserve. If you’ve ever downplayed your achievements to seem more relatable or avoid being labeled as “braggy,” this conversation is for you. We dive into: Why redefining bragging is a radical act of self-love How celebrating your wins can attract more abundance The power of betting on yourself and believing you could be the exception Minimizing your accomplishments doesn’t serve you or the world. It’s time to learn how to brag in a way that builds you up, inspires others, and honors the greatness within you. If you're ready to shift how you see yourself, speak about your goals, and step into your power unapologetically—tune in. This might just be the mindset shift that unlocks your dream life.
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How to Say No: The Black Tax Survival Guide
10/03/2025
How to Say No: The Black Tax Survival Guide
Remember that episode about family members who only call when they need something? Well, Part 2 is here, and it’s deeper, bolder, and more necessary than ever. This time, we’re joined by Phumza Chuene, a Black Tax Coach and author of The Black Tax Survival Guide, a powerful guide that’s helping Black professionals across South Africa and beyond reclaim their financial and emotional autonomy. In this episode, Phumza unpacks the cultural weight of Black Tax, the silent guilt that often accompanies success, and the emotional toll of being the “go-to” in your family. But this isn’t just a conversation, it’s a toolkit. Phumza shares practical strategies for setting boundaries, saying “No” without shame, and redefining what support looks like in a way that honors both heritage and personal well-being. If you’ve ever felt torn between love and obligation, or struggled to balance generosity with self-preservation, this episode is for you. It’s raw, real, and radically empowering.
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More Than a Provider: Reimagining Black Fatherhood with Mutle Mothibe
09/18/2025
More Than a Provider: Reimagining Black Fatherhood with Mutle Mothibe
In this powerful and heartfelt episode, acclaimed poet and writer Mutle Mothibe, a father of three, joins us for an intimate conversation about the evolving role of Black fathers in the household. We explore the profound distinction between being a father and being a dad, and how intentional parenting can foster lifelong friendships between fathers and their children, relationships that many in previous generations never had the tools or emotional language to build. Long before “gentle parenting” became a global phenomenon, Mutle was living it and embodying a style of fatherhood that is intentional, empathetic, and revolutionary. In this episode, we celebrate the anomaly he represents in his generation and the powerful example he sets for Black dads everywhere. Mutle opens up about the inner work required to show up not just as a provider, but as a present, emotionally attuned, and nurturing figure in his children's lives. We unpack how traditional titles and expectations often limit men from fully connecting with their children, and what it means to parent without a blueprint; especially in a society where Black fatherhood has long been misrepresented or misunderstood. Mutle shares how creating emotional safety at home has empowered his children to feel secure in themselves and in the world. He offers deep insights for both men and women on how to parent from a place of emotional clarity and self-awareness, rather than reaction, and how doing so allows children to experience the best version of their parents. We also dive into the importance of seeing children as whole human beings, not just as dependents, and how dehumanizing them through dismissal or control can fracture the parent-child bond. This episode is a celebration of healing, growth, and the redefinition of what it means to be a dad in today’s world.
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Those Who Influence Your Perspective Shape Your Experience
09/04/2025
Those Who Influence Your Perspective Shape Your Experience
"Your perspective will either become your Prison or your passport; choose wisely" Who has shaped the way you see the world? How much of what you believe about yourself and your life has been unconsciously influenced by others? In this episode, I reflect on a somewhat life altering day spent with two of my high school teachers. One, a fabulous woman in her late 50s, is navigating a cancer diagnosis with grace and joy that can only be described as inspirational. The other, a widow who has endured profound loss, radiated so much wisdom and wonder, it left me in awe. Despite their challenges, both women exuded such immense gratitude and light that it shifted something deep within me. It reminded me that our perspective doesn’t just shape how we see the world; it defines how we experience it. I realised that many of our limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns are inherited, not chosen. But once we become aware, we can choose differently. This episode invites you to examine your own perspective: Is it serving you or holding you back? Who’s influencing how you see the world, and is their view worth carrying forward? Or is it time to adopt new ways of living, loving, and experiencing life? If you're ready to reclaim your mindset, elevate your thinking, and live with more clarity and purpose, this conversation is for you.
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Building a Life You Love Before Love Finds You
08/15/2025
Building a Life You Love Before Love Finds You
In this episode of An Extraordinary Take, I’m joined by my good friend Kuda as we unpack the often-overlooked beauty of singlehood. We challenge the notion that being single is to be endured as a waiting cell before the desired destination of marriage. Kuda reflects on his own journey of navigating singleness as a black man and the responsibility that comes with being seen as an eligible bachelor. We explore how embracing singleness with joy, adventure, and self-awareness can lay the foundation for deeper, healthier relationships in the future. We also discuss the risks of rushing into marriage out of fear or cultural/religious pressure, and how clarity in your single years can shape the kind of partnership you choose in the future . This episode is a celebration of singlehood as a space for growth, joy, and radical self-love. Whether you’re already married, seeking, or navigating the complexities of being single, this conversation offers a fresh lens on how to live fully in the now, whatever it looks like for you.
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What traveling reveals about oneself and the world
07/31/2025
What traveling reveals about oneself and the world
And we’re back! After a 3 week break, An Extraordinary Take returns with its 10th episode. In today’s episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of travel. More than just a leisure activity, travel is a gateway to expanding your worldview, challenging your assumptions, and connecting with the broader human experience. We unpack the myths and misconceptions that often hold people back, like the idea that you need a partner or a group of friends to travel, or that your life must be perfectly in order (complete with a house and car) before you can explore the world. We challenge these limiting beliefs and invite you to consider travel as an act of courage, curiosity, and self-discovery. We also explore how travel opens your heart, not just to the beauty and joy of other cultures, but also to their pain and struggles. We reflect on the importance of empathy and how being present to the suffering of others, like the ongoing genocide in Gaza, can profoundly shape how we choose to show up in the world. This is not just an episode about destinations, it’s about awakening. It’s about seeing yourself and others more clearly, and embracing the responsibility that comes with that awareness. Whether you’re a seasoned traveler or someone dreaming of your first trip, this episode will inspire you to move beyond fear, beyond comfort, and into a life of deeper connection and purpose.
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The Trap of “More and Better”: Escaping the Endless Chase
07/03/2025
The Trap of “More and Better”: Escaping the Endless Chase
In a world where luxury is celebrated and progress is often measured by possessions, many of us find ourselves caught in a loop, waiting for the next big thing, the next breakthrough, the next season of abundance, before we allow ourselves to truly live. But what if this constant pursuit of “more” is quietly robbing us of the richness of the present moment? This episode invites listeners to pause and reflect: Are we living in a state of perpetual waiting, believing that fulfillment lies just beyond the next achievement or acquisition? With influencer culture on the rise and comparison more accessible than ever; the pressure to measure up can make contentment feel like a distant dream. We also explore the subtle dangers of romanticising the future while resenting the present, and ask: What does it mean to be truly content with life as it is, even if we believe it could be better? Can we create joy, meaning, and memories with what we have now, instead of postponing our “best life” for a future that may never arrive? Join us we unpack what it really means “to arrive.” Is there ever a point where we feel we have enough? Or are we chasing a moving target, forever stuck in a cycle of wanting and striving for more ? This episode of An Extraordinary Take challenges the narrative of endless pursuit and invites you to consider the possibility that the present moment, unfiltered and unembellished, might already be enough.
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Could you be the problem ? Spotting Toxic Traits in Yourself at Work
06/19/2025
Could you be the problem ? Spotting Toxic Traits in Yourself at Work
In this episode we dive into the complex world of workplace dynamics with HR Specialist Thobeka Msweli. Together, we explore what really goes on behind the office doors, from the subtle signs of a toxic work culture to the often-unspoken reasons why internal promotions are passed over in favor of external hires. Thobeka brings her expert lens to help us understand how to recognise if you might be the toxic colleague and what it takes to change for the better. We also unpack practical strategies for increasing your visibility at work, positioning yourself for growth, and navigating career transitions. Whether you're a young graduate trying to break into the job market or a seasoned professional feeling stuck, this episode offers honest insights, actionable advice, and a fresh perspective on how to thrive in today’s challenging workplace landscape. Tune in for a bold and extraordinary take on the realities of work and how to make it work for you.
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Ukukotiza: Sacred Tradition or Subtle Oppression?
06/13/2025
Ukukotiza: Sacred Tradition or Subtle Oppression?
This week, I’m joined by Producer, Pastor, and Podcaster Blaq Nubon who is the creator and host of That Husband Podcast, the only podcast on the continent dedicated to husbands under the powerful theme: “Husbands who know better, do better.” Together, we dive deep into the institution of marriage and the many dynamics that shape it. From ukukotiza, (a traditional Zulu practice where a new wife (makoti) lives with her in-laws to learn domestic skills and adapt to her new role as caregiver for her husband and extended family) to the ways men communicate in relationships as well as how cultural customs continue to influence modern unions. We also ask the big questions: Do age-old practices like ukotiza still have a place in today’s world? How can couples create their own relationship dynamics in a society where everyone seems to have an opinion on how marriage should work? Whether you're married, considering marriage, or simply curious about how relationships evolve within the African context, this episode offers honest insights, cultural reflection, and practical wisdom. Let us know what you think by rating this episode or leaving a comment on our social media platforms.
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The Cost of Being the One Who 'Made It' - Unpacking the Emotional and Financial Strain of Unequal Success in Black Families
06/05/2025
The Cost of Being the One Who 'Made It' - Unpacking the Emotional and Financial Strain of Unequal Success in Black Families
In this episode, we delve into the emotional and relational complexities that arise when one person becomes the only financially successful member in their family. We explore in particular how sibling relationships can become strained—sometimes even breaking down, when success is unevenly distributed. We also unpack the subtle ways in which these dynamics can become transactional, with the successful sibling either feeling burdened as a provider or using their status to assert superiority. The episode offers practical reflections for both parties to foster healthier, more respectful relationships that go beyond material wealth. This conversation is especially relevant in the South African context where the unemployment rate rose to 32.9% early this year, with youth unemployment at an even worse standing at 62.4%. These figures highlight the structural inequalities that often place immense pressure on the few who "make it," particularly in black families, where success can unintentionally become a source of division rather than unity. Tune in to challenge your perspective on success, family, and the emotional cost of inequality.
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You Are Not Your Emotions: A Guide to Inner Safety
05/23/2025
You Are Not Your Emotions: A Guide to Inner Safety
In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with anxiety and the emotional waves that often come with it. Here, I share the tools and practices that have helped me not only manage anxiety but also navigate a wide range of emotions with more clarity and compassion. But this isn’t just about learning how to live through difficult emotions—it’s about strength, growth, and learning to build a safe, nurturing relationship with your inner self. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply curious about emotional wellness, this episode is a gentle reminder that emotions are powerful, but they don’t have to overpower you. With the right tools, you can learn to soothe your inner world, rather than silence it or let it take the wheel. This episode is for anyone seeking to create a safe emotional home within themselves—one they don’t have to be afraid to return to. FOLLOW US: IG:https://www.instagram.com/an_extraordinary_takeigsh=MXF4bGd0bmZta242MA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr YouTube: Tik tok:
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What Fulfills You?
05/15/2025
What Fulfills You?
What if finding the balance’ in life isn’t about finally tipping the scales even? What if it’s not even about finally figuring out how to show up at 100% for all the roles you occupy in your life. On this episode I share my own journey of discovering how prioritising work above all else, didn’t quite turn out the way I had thought or hoped and how this taught me the importance of prioritising what really matters... Of course, there’s no one size fits all when it comes to this, and we’ve all heard enough about 'finding the balance' to know that it’s not about 50/50; all that matters is figuring out what really feeds you and what allows you to be at your best so you can start sowing where your soul reaps the most. Thanks for tuning in. FOLLOW US: IG:https://www.instagram.com/an_extraordinary_takeigsh=MXF4bGd0bmZta242MA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr YouTube: Tik tok:
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For The Daughters Who Are Triggered By Mother’s Day
05/11/2025
For The Daughters Who Are Triggered By Mother’s Day
Dear Extraordinary Tribe Welcome to the very first edition of our monthly newsletter for An Extraordinary Take! Each month, I get to choose one episode that had the biggest impact on me and put on my writing hat so I can share my deepest reflections and some behind the scenes insights on the topic in a letter to you. This concept feels like such a lofty task considering how deeply meaningful each episode was for me but seeing that the first installment of this letter is in May, it only feels fitting that I pick the episode that had a profound impact on not just me, but many of you who are navigating their own challenging and unique relationships with your mothers. Today I share with you my very raw, vulnerable and mixed feelings about Mother’s Day. This letter was particularly difficult for me write for but I have no doubt that it healed some parts of me and that it may do the same for you, should you be willing. This inaugural letter is available to everyone, but future editions will be exclusive to our subscribers only, so make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss the next one, it’s completely free. If you would like to read the letter visit our substack page: I hope you enjoy this deeper look into the episode and find the additional insights both engaging and enlightening. Thank you for being part of this extraordinary journey, please share it with others who may be impacted by it too.
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Jesse Donn on Identity, Football, Fitness And Health
05/01/2025
Jesse Donn on Identity, Football, Fitness And Health
On today’s episode we are joined by Former Football player Jesse Donn, as he takes us through his own process of redefining himself and navigating life after a career move he never saw coming. Together, we unpack the often unhealthy relationship we can have with our work when we can’t separate ourselves from what we do vs who we are. Jesse, who has now transitioned to a Fitness Trainer, also takes us through the importance of women understanding how their monthly cycles affect how and when they should train. Thanks for listening, please do take time to leave a review at the end.
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Healing the Mother-Daughter Bond: A Conversation with Sebabatso Thulo
04/24/2025
Healing the Mother-Daughter Bond: A Conversation with Sebabatso Thulo
In this powerful episode of An Extraordinary Take, we dive into the complexities of the mother-daughter relationship with author, educator, and TEDx speaker Sebabatso Thulo. A passionate advocate for women’s healing, Sebabatso has dedicated her life to helping women mend the often complex relationships they have with themselves and each other. Sebabatso shares her deeply personal journey of discovering her own mother-wound and the courageous steps she took to heal her relationship with her mother. The conversation uncovers the barriers that often inhibit mothers and daughters from forming deep, authentic connections, while also exploring how these unresolved wounds manifest in children—insights she has gained from her experience as a high school teacher. As the founder and host of Healed and Loved, a women’s networking group aimed at inspiring and uplifting women, Sebabatso brings wisdom, empathy, and a roadmap for those navigating their own healing—whether together or on their own. This episode is a must-listen for mothers and daughters who are on their own journey of healing past wounds, and understanding the profound impact that their connection to each other has on who they become. Don't forget to share, and give us a review at the end of each episode. Enjoy!
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Where It All Began With Barbara Moagi
04/17/2025
Where It All Began With Barbara Moagi
On this episode I am joined by Barbara Moagi who’s a 24-year-old Radio Personality, Multimedia Content Creator, Entrepreneur, and the voice behind the empowering podcast "Boldly Becoming." When I knew I wanted to start this podcast Barbara was one the very first few people I felt safe enough to tell and it felt fitting to have her not just as my first guest, but to have her be the person that introduces me to the listeners of this podcast. Together we go on a beautiful trip down memory lane looking at my activism work that started at the age of 15 as inspired by my grandmother who was and is still a trailblazer in our community of umhlabuyalingana. By sharing my own journey, I hope you get better insight into who I am and my intention for this platform. Enjoy and please leave a review at the end of the episode to help us grow our rating scores. FOLLOW US: IG: YouTube: Tik tok:
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Introducing An Extraordinary Take with Sibonisile Ngubane Cossa
04/14/2025
Introducing An Extraordinary Take with Sibonisile Ngubane Cossa
Hi there! Vulnerability moment here, one of the main things that led to me taking so long to release this podcast was how many podcasts I would see being launched almost on a daily! I felt as though people were getting podcast fatigue and I completely understood why. But here's the thing, while they may be annoying (some…haha) podcasts are an important mirror into our society. By being exposed to the many different ways that other people see life, we get to expand our worlds and our views about it and the more we do so, the more we may discover that we have so much more to learn... My hope is that that discovery leads us to walk this earth with more kindness and humility. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk:)
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