90: Husbands: Repairing Anger Outbursts (3 Hacks!)
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Release Date: 07/02/2025
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Episode Title: Husbands: Repairing Anger Outbursts (3 Hacks!)
Host: Brian Mayer
Show Notes:
Husbands, have you ever lost your temper and blown up in anger at your wife? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Brian Mayer from Love How Deep shares his own past experience with an anger outburst and provides three crucial "hacks" designed to help you repair the damage and move forward constructively in your marriage.
Brian acknowledges that anger happens to all of us as human beings, but he emphasizes that it's what you do after the outburst that truly matters for the health of your relationship.
In this episode, you'll learn the three vital steps to repair anger outbursts:
- 1. Get Away to Calm Down: Discover the importance of physically removing yourself from the situation, not to dismiss your spouse or the conversation, but purely to regulate your emotions. Brian explains the dangers of "nursing and rehearsing" anger and encourages turning to God during this time to understand your own role in the escalation. He shares a personal, relatable story of his own "Walmart parking lot" moment.
- 2. Offer Genuine Remorse: Learn why a heartfelt apology, focused solely on your actions and expressed with sincerity from both your head and heart, is critical. This step precedes any discussion of the details and sets the stage for healing. Brian highlights the importance of patience if your spouse isn't immediately ready to move past the hurt.
- 3. Dialogue (Blame-Free): Once forgiveness has been extended, Brian advises how to engage in a calm, logical conversation about what happened. The goal here is understanding, not blame. Learn to identify misunderstandings (like Brian's own realization about his wife's priorities during a move) and gain "aha moments" that prevent future blow-ups, approaching the conversation like calmly discussing a play or opera.
Brian reminds us that while these things happen, it's not an excuse for them to continue. We are all human, still learning, and striving to be better.
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