91: Feeling Invisible in Your Marriage & Life? 👀 How to Be Seen! #MarriageTips #SelfWorth

Feeling Invisible? Why You Need to Be Seen & How God Sees You

Key Takeaways:

• The Universal Feeling of Being Unseen: We often feel invisible in our daily lives, whether it's in a busy airport, at work, or even within our families. This is a core human need.
• The "It's All About Me" Mentality: Our focus on our own destinations and needs can lead to inadvertently overlooking others, and in turn, feeling overlooked ourselves.
• Core Needs & Childhood Impact: Feeling seen is one of five core human needs, and early experiences can significantly shape how we perceive being seen or unseen.
• The Craving for Connection: Despite tendencies towards independence, humans inherently crave genuine connection. "We're not meant to be alone."
• Social Media & The Highlight Reel: We often use social media to feel seen, posting our "highlight reels," but this doesn't foster true, deep connection.
• In Marriage: The Danger of Taking for Granted: We can easily take our spouse's efforts for granted (e.g., cooking dinner, doing chores), leading them to feel unseen and unappreciated.
• Actionable Tip for Couples: Make a conscious effort to vocalize gratitude for even the mundane things your spouse does. This simple act can transform their sense of worth and connection in the marriage.
• Pour Positivity into Children: Beyond just physical tasks, notice and vocalize positive internal characteristics in your children to help them feel seen and valued for who they are.
• God Sees You Completely: The most profound truth is that God knows and sees you fully – your good, bad, and ugly, not just a "highlight reel."
• Jeremiah 1:5: "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you..."
• Luke 12:7: "Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows."
• Psalm 139:13-16: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb... My frame was not hidden from you... You saw my unformed body."
• Rest in God's Promise: Your self-worth should come from the Lord's unwavering view of you. He loves you, knows you, and you matter more than anything else.

Free Resource Mentioned:

• Core Values Exercise: This resource helps you and your spouse to truly see each other and what's most important to them.
• https://love-how-deep.kit.com/core-values-exercise

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