95: Your Marriage Communication Problem? It's Your Love Language!
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Release Date: 08/06/2025
117: The Surprising Shift That Can Save Your Marriage Communication
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Bridging the Communication Gap in Relationships Brian from Love How Deep offers advice for couples struggling with communication problems in their relationships. He discusses why communication often breaks down and how to address underlying issues rather than surface disputes. The episode introduces practical strategies like the 'ten-second buffer' and creating a 'vulnerability culture' to foster deeper connections. Brian also shares personal anecdotes and stresses the importance of empathy and understanding. He provides resources and invites viewers to download a free...
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116: Your Marriage Gift is Waiting
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Have you ever received a beautifully wrapped gift—complete with the perfect bow and silver paper—and just let it sit there? Of course not! The excitement of a gift comes from opening it to see what’s inside. In this episode, Heather shares a powerful metaphor: Your marriage is a gift from God. But often, life gets messy. The "cats" of life chew on the bow, the paper gets torn, and sometimes we get so hurt or annoyed that we pack the gift back up and stick it on a high shelf. Heather encourages us to take that box back down, unwrap it with God’s help, and rediscover the incredible...
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115: These Everyday Annoyances Are Slowly Killing Your Marriage
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Get Our Online Course on The Power of Forgiveness Here: In this episode, Brian and Heather from Love How Deep discuss the impact of small issues on marriage rather than the large, dramatic events. They emphasize the importance of 'bearing with each other' and addressing grievances in a loving and forgiving manner. Referencing Colossians chapter 3, verse 13, they explore the concept of enduring difficulties and forgiving as the Lord forgave. The discussion includes practical examples, like communicating grievances directly and handling forgiveness even when the other party is unaware of the...
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114: Is Your Generosity Truly Cheerful? Here's What Jesus Meant
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Get our Free Communication Guide Here: In this Love How Deep episode, hosts Heather and Brian explore the biblical scripture from 2 Corinthians 9:6-7, traditionally associated with financial generosity, and reinterpret its application within the context of marriage. They emphasize 'sowing seeds' of spiritual fruit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—into marital relationships. The discussion highlights the reciprocal nature of giving generously to one's spouse and the significance of doing so cheerfully. They also touch on the...
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113: Past Issues Are Killing Your Marriage—Here's What Jesus Says
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Get The Online Course on The Power of Forgiveness Here: Letting Go of Past Mistakes in Marriage | Lessons from John 8 In this episode of 'Love How Deep,' hosts Brian and Heather delve into the challenges of bringing up past mistakes in marriage conflicts. They reference the biblical passage from John chapter 8, where Jesus addresses the woman caught in adultery. Through this story, Brian and Heather draw parallels to marital relationships, emphasizing the importance of avoiding holding past mistakes over one’s partner and instead practicing forgiveness and understanding. They discuss three...
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112: The Scripture Every Struggling Marriage Needs to Hear - Phillipians 3:12-14
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Get the Love How Deep Newsletter: In this episode, Heather and Brian from Love How Deep address a common struggle many couples face: feeling that their marriage isn't what they hoped it would be. They dive into an unconventional scripture from Philippians 3:12-14, exploring how its teachings can be applied to strengthen marriages. Heather and Brian analyze the scriptures phrase by phrase, encouraging couples to adopt a growth mindset and continuously strive for improvement. They emphasize the importance of a Christ-centered foundation, understanding that marriage requires effort, resilience,...
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111: Marriage on the Brink? Here's What's Missing
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Click Here to Get our Online Forgiveness Course: In this episode, Brian and Heather from Love How Deep discuss the importance of taking online courses to improve communication and connection in marriage. They share their personal experiences with online courses and highlight the benefits such as gaining wisdom, understanding, and knowledge about each other. They emphasize that online courses offer the flexibility to be done on your own time and provide valuable insights into each spouse's background and behavior. The couple delves into their latest online course on forgiveness, explaining...
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110: Why Every Couple Needs a Marriage Webinar Now
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Check Out our Marriage Communication Webinar Here: Is a Marriage Webinar Right for You? | Love How Deep Podcast Episode 110 In this episode of the Love How Deep Podcast, hosts Heather and Brian explore the benefits and relevance of marriage webinars for couples at any stage of their relationship. Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this episode delves into why attending a marriage webinar can be a valuable investment in your relationship. Heather and Brian share insights from their personal and professional experience, explaining who can benefit from these webinars,...
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109: Why Men Must Step Up as Spiritual Leaders in Their Families Now
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Big or Small Hurt in Your Marriage: Take Our Forgiveness Course With Your Spouse Today: In this episode of Love How Deep, solo host Brian Mayer addresses husbands who aspire to be the spiritual head of their households but struggle with knowing how to do so. Brian shares personal experiences and offers practical advice on how to lead your family spiritually, emphasizing the importance of prayer, unity with your spouse, and proactive engagement with your children. He underscores that being the spiritual head involves serving, being present, and showing genuine care and love. Brian also...
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108: Why Your Marriage Isn't Thriving - The Missing Factor
Love How Deep Marriage Podcast
Welcome Back to the Love How Deep Podcast! In this episode of the Love How Deep podcast, host Brian Mayer sits down with special guest Christopher Falconer, an author and expert on cultivating enduring love in marriages. They delve into the essence of lasting love, drawing from real-life experiences and biblical principles, particularly from 1 Corinthians 13. Christopher shares personal anecdotes from his 30-year marriage, discussing challenges like career pressures and health issues, and how essential elements like patience, kindness, and forgiveness have played critical roles. The...
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The Premise of Love Languages: Communication in marriage often falters when partners aren't "speaking the same language" of love. Understanding the Five Love Languages helps you give and receive love in the most impactful way. (Inspired by Gary Chapman's book, "The Five Love Languages").
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Love Languages as "Personality Types": They describe how individuals give and receive love, similar to personality types or wiring.
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The Five Love Languages Defined:
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Words of Affirmation: Expressing love and appreciation through verbal compliments, encouragement, and written notes/letters. (Brian's #1).
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Acts of Service: Doing helpful things for your spouse, like chores, errands, or taking on tasks to lighten their load. (Heather appreciates, but can feel obligated to reciprocate).
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Receiving Gifts: Giving thoughtful (not necessarily expensive) presents that symbolize love and care. (Lower for Brian, high for some children and adults).
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Quality Time: Giving your spouse undivided attention, whether through shared activities, deep conversations, or simply being present together. (High for both Heather and Brian).
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Physical Touch: Expressing love through physical affection like hugging, kissing, hand-holding, snuggling, and sexual intimacy. (Heather's #1, Brian's #2).
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Origin of Love Languages: May stem from what was heavily received in childhood or what was lacking and is now craved. Ultimately, it's often how God wired us as individuals.
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Knowledge is Power: Understanding your spouse's love language (and your own) leads to deeper understanding, empathy, and a more endearing relationship, reducing assumptions and misunderstandings.
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Clues to Love Languages: Listen to your spouse's complaints. What they fuss about often reveals what they are not receiving in their primary love language (e.g., "You never help out!" = Acts of Service; "You never tell me you love me anymore!" = Words of Affirmation).
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Real-Life Examples: Brian and Heather share personal stories of how understanding their differing love languages (especially Physical Touch for Heather and Words of Affirmation for Brian) helped them navigate dating and early marriage challenges.
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How to Discover Your Love Languages:
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Take the official quiz at 5lovelanguages.com.
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Compare notes with your spouse after taking the quiz.
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Consider reading "The Five Love Languages" book together, even a page a day, and discussing its meaning for your relationship.
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Free Resource Mentioned:
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Date Night Ideas: Visit our website for creative date night ideas that can help you speak your spouse's love language and foster deeper connection.
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