From “Never Again” to “I Do”: Our Relationship Healing Journey
Love Isn't Enough
Just days before their wedding, Joree and John sit down to reflect on how they transformed their insecure attachment - hers anxious, his avoidant - into a secure partnership. They share what it looked like to move from fear and defensiveness to trust and safety, and why the work of healing old wounds is the foundation for a lasting relationship. In this heartfelt conversation, John and Joree open up about what each of them had to face within themselves: John’s struggle with shame and defensiveness, Joree’s fear of losing independence, and how those patterns used to collide. They also talk...
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Finding a Psychologically Rich Life…in Portugal!
Love Isn't Enough
In this intimate, story-driven episode, Joree and John explore three complementary paths to a good life: pleasure (hedonic happiness), purpose (meaning), and the often-overlooked third path: psychological richness. Drawing on positive psychology research from Dr. Shigehiro Oishi’s “Life in Three Dimensions,” they unpack how novelty, challenge, and perspective shifts can transform not only your mood, but your worldview. You’ll hear the mindset shifts behind their next big leap - relocating to Portugal - and how they moved from what was “pushing” them (escaping comfort and routine)...
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Dating Post-Divorce Part 2: Green Flags to Look For
Love Isn't Enough
In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Joree and John continue sharing the dating advice they followed in their own journey, along with the tips they give their clients on how to find - and maintain - the love you’re looking for. While some of this episode is for those dating later in life, and specifically for those who are divorced, much of what they share will apply to anyone in the dating world. They talk about what green flags to look for, how to set up an authentic dating profile, how to not get attached too quickly to someone you just met, ways to ensure safety, and most importantly,...
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Dating Post-Divorce, Part 1: How To Identify Red Flags
Love Isn't Enough
Dating after divorce is a whole new game, with real wounds, real wisdom, and (yes) real hope. In this straight-talking, compassionate episode, John and Joree share their own post-divorce dating stories and how they guide their clients: what to put on your dating profile, how to spot genuine interest vs. mixed signals, and why behavior, not words, should guide your choices. They unpack red flags (inconsistency, judgment, defensiveness, love-bombing), safety must-dos, and the mindset shift that turns dating from desperate to discerning. This is Part 1 of a two-part series; next up: green flags,...
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Do Love Languages Really Matter?
Love Isn't Enough
What makes you feel loved might not be what your partner needs to feel loved - and that’s where so many couples miss each other. In this playful, practical episode (yes, complete with Joree’s giggles and Dr. John’s faces 🙃), we revisit Gary Chapman’s five love languages - Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Gifts - and talk through five powerful additional love languages from Dr. Elizabeth Frederick: Consistency, Nurture, Attunement, Vulnerability, and Foreplay (the all-day kind, not just the 10 minutes before sex). You’ll hear real-life...
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The Ways Vulnerability Breeds Connection, and How to Practice It
Love Isn't Enough
Intimacy isn’t just physical, it’s the courageous act of sharing your inner landscape: the thoughts, feelings, fears, and messy in-between moments most of us keep tucked away. In this candid, funny, and deeply vulnerable episode, John and Joree unpack why so many couples get stuck in transactional chatter (calendars, chores, carpools) and how to shift back into connection through everyday openness and non-defensive listening. They explore what makes intimacy so scary (hi, vulnerability!), how the first 90 seconds of your response shapes long-term safety, and why “two conversations”...
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Inside the Fight: How Attachment Styles Play Out in Real Time
Love Isn't Enough
In this 3rd episode in our series on attachment styles, Joree and John take attachment theory off the page and into real life, breaking down patterns into tangible examples of how anxious and avoidant patterns play out in the middle of an argument. As we know, arguments in love are never just about the dishes or the eye rolls; they’re often old wounds and hidden fears playing out in real time. A very common pattern underneath the dynamics is the anxious partner’s fear of abandonment, the avoidant partner’s shame and shutdown, and the painful stories of being “too much” or “not...
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The #1 Thing to Practice to Feel Safe and Secure in Your Relationship
Love Isn't Enough
What happens when someone who feels “too much” falls in love with someone who feels “not enough”? For years, that was us - Joree, the anxious partner, and John, the avoidant partner - stuck in the push–pull dance neither of us fully understood. It created disconnection, frustration, and the same repetitive patterns… until we learned what was really going on beneath the surface. In this episode, we take you deeper into the understanding of attachment styles and why they matter; we share what it means to have attachment needs, and how when they are unmet, form attachment wounds and...
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From Reactive to Relational: How We Healed Our Attachment Wounds
Love Isn't Enough
In this heartfelt and vulnerable joint episode, we share our personal journey of healing from deep-rooted attachment wounds. We open up about the patterns we carried into our relationship—especially the anxious/avoidant dynamic that kept us stuck in cycles of disconnection—and how we consciously did the work to break free from it. Through honest reflection and therapeutic tools, we reveal what it took to stop reacting from old wounds and start relating from a place of safety and trust. We discuss how healing isn’t just an individual journey, but a relational one, and why creating a...
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How to Support One Another When Life Gets Hard
Love Isn't Enough
In this honest episode, Joree and John share vulnerably (once again - they’re always being vulnerable!) how they’ve been feeling lately. It’s been a mixture of grief, sadness and fear about the state of the world, dealing with aging parents, being in physical pain, stress and navigating difficult family dynamics. Without awareness or tools, couples can either deal with these real-life stressors feeling alone in their pain, or even worse, turn their negative emotions onto each other, creating additional stressors for them to face. Luckily that doesn’t have to be the case, and Joree and...
info_outlineOn this raw and revealing episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Joree opens up about a powerful realization that shook her to the core: she’s a high-functioning codependent. Together, John and Joree explore what high-functioning codependency actually looks like—especially in women who seem to have it all together—and how it can quietly erode your sense of peace, boundaries, and self-worth.
They dive into Terri Cole’s definition of HFCs, how childhood trauma and anxious attachment fuel overgiving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and the cost of constantly putting others’ needs ahead of your own. With vulnerability, real-life stories, and therapeutic tools, they unpack the emotional toll and begin the path toward healing.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted by doing it all, unsure of where your needs fit in, or afraid to stop performing for love—this episode will feel like a mirror… and a lifeline. And remember, you don’t have to earn love by doing. You are already worthy—just as you are.
Listen now to learn:
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What high-functioning codependency is (and how it sneaks up on you)
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The roots of HFC: childhood dynamics, hyper-responsibility, and fear of abandonment
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How to begin healing through boundaries, self-worth, and inner reparenting
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Why awareness is the first act of liberation
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What to do in your relationship when one of you realizes you are a HFC
Connect with Joree & John:
• Website: www.loveisntenough.net
• Instagram: @loveisntenough33
• Subscribe to their podcast: Love Isn’t Enough
• Join our relationship Master Class series: https://loveisntenough.net/masterclass/
Connect with Dr. John Schinnerer:
• Website: www.guidetoself.com
• Instagram: @theevolvedcaveman
• Subscribe to his podcast: The Evolved Caveman
Connect with Joree Rose:
• Website: www.joreerose.com
• Instagram: @joreerose
• Subscribe to her podcast: Journey Forward with Joree Rose
• Join the Podcast Membership: https://joreerose.com/journeyforwardpodcast/