From Reactive to Relational: How We Healed Our Attachment Wounds
Love Isn't Enough
In this heartfelt and vulnerable joint episode, we share our personal journey of healing from deep-rooted attachment wounds. We open up about the patterns we carried into our relationship—especially the anxious/avoidant dynamic that kept us stuck in cycles of disconnection—and how we consciously did the work to break free from it. Through honest reflection and therapeutic tools, we reveal what it took to stop reacting from old wounds and start relating from a place of safety and trust. We discuss how healing isn’t just an individual journey, but a relational one, and why creating a...
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How to Support One Another When Life Gets Hard
Love Isn't Enough
In this honest episode, Joree and John share vulnerably (once again - they’re always being vulnerable!) how they’ve been feeling lately. It’s been a mixture of grief, sadness and fear about the state of the world, dealing with aging parents, being in physical pain, stress and navigating difficult family dynamics. Without awareness or tools, couples can either deal with these real-life stressors feeling alone in their pain, or even worse, turn their negative emotions onto each other, creating additional stressors for them to face. Luckily that doesn’t have to be the case, and Joree and...
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I Thought I Was Being a Good Partner… Until I Burned Out
Love Isn't Enough
On this raw and revealing episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Joree opens up about a powerful realization that shook her to the core: she’s a high-functioning codependent. Together, John and Joree explore what high-functioning codependency actually looks like—especially in women who seem to have it all together—and how it can quietly erode your sense of peace, boundaries, and self-worth. They dive into Terri Cole’s definition of HFCs, how childhood trauma and anxious attachment fuel overgiving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and the cost of constantly putting others’ needs ahead of...
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The #1 Thing You Need for a Successful Relationship
Love Isn't Enough
Your mindset shapes your relationship more than you might realize. In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, we unpack the powerful research on mindset and how your beliefs about growth, change, and learning directly influence the success of your relationship. Do you believe yourself or your partner to “just be the way you/they are”? Or do you approach challenges as opportunities to grow, both individually and together? We explore how a growth mindset is essential when it comes to developing the emotional and relational skills that lead to a thriving partnership. From conflict repair to...
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The Silent Damage of Contempt and Stonewalling
Love Isn't Enough
In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, we’re diving deep into the final two of Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse—contempt and stonewalling—and exploring why these are the most damaging dynamics in relationships. We break down what they look like, why they show up, and how they silently erode connection, intimacy, and trust over time. If you’ve ever felt dismissed, shut out, belittled, or emotionally abandoned by your partner—or maybe you’ve done it yourself—this episode will help you recognize these harmful patterns and start shifting toward repair and...
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The Four Horsemen: How Defensiveness & Criticism Damage Relationships
Love Isn't Enough
In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose take a deep dive into two of the biggest relationship killers: defensiveness and criticism. These behaviors, identified by Dr. John Gottman as part of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” are major predictors of relationship dissatisfaction and conflict. But the good news? With awareness and intentionality, couples can break these toxic patterns and create healthier, more connected communication. We explore: • What the Four Horsemen are and why they matter in relationships. • How criticism differs from...
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From Contest to Connection: How Evin Rose & Alex Terranova Found Love in an Unexpected Way
Love Isn't Enough
What if your love story started with a contest? In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, we’re joined by Evin Rose and Alex Terranova, a couple whose unique journey to love is anything but ordinary. Alex, a coach and podcast host, decided to run a contest to find a date to bring to Tulum, Mexico—and Evin, a dating and self-worth coach, entered on a whim. What started as an unconventional experiment turned into a deep and meaningful relationship. We dive into: • The inspiration behind Alex’s contest and why he chose this unconventional approach to dating. • What made Evin say...
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Breakup with Stress, Not Your Partner with Elizabeth Earnshaw
Love Isn't Enough
In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough with Joree Rose and Dr. John Schinnerer, we are joined by therapist, relationship expert, and author Elizabeth Earnshaw to discuss how stress impacts couples and what we can do about it. Elizabeth’s new book, Till Stress Do Us Part, explores how daily pressures—whether from work, parenting, finances, or other challenges—can erode connection and create conflict in relationships. We dive into: The most common ways stress affects couples and why many don’t recognize it. How unspoken stress leads to resentment,...
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Let’s Talk About Sex: Breaking the Silence in Relationships
Love Isn't Enough
Sex is one of the most important aspects of a relationship—and yet, for so many couples, it’s one of the hardest topics to talk about. In this episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose dive deep into the reasons why couples struggle to communicate about sex, the unspoken beliefs and fears that keep them silent, and how they can start having more open, honest, and fulfilling conversations about intimacy. We explore: • The common reasons couples avoid talking about sex (and how this creates distance). • How cultural conditioning, shame, and past...
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Honest Sex for Deeper Connection, with Shana James
Love Isn't Enough
In this episode John and Joree interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds. The conversation also dives into how to build intimacy, the impact of social conditioning, the challenges of modern relationships, and practical tips for improving connection and trust within...
info_outlineOn this raw and revealing episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Joree opens up about a powerful realization that shook her to the core: she’s a high-functioning codependent. Together, John and Joree explore what high-functioning codependency actually looks like—especially in women who seem to have it all together—and how it can quietly erode your sense of peace, boundaries, and self-worth.
They dive into Terri Cole’s definition of HFCs, how childhood trauma and anxious attachment fuel overgiving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and the cost of constantly putting others’ needs ahead of your own. With vulnerability, real-life stories, and therapeutic tools, they unpack the emotional toll and begin the path toward healing.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted by doing it all, unsure of where your needs fit in, or afraid to stop performing for love—this episode will feel like a mirror… and a lifeline. And remember, you don’t have to earn love by doing. You are already worthy—just as you are.
Listen now to learn:
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What high-functioning codependency is (and how it sneaks up on you)
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The roots of HFC: childhood dynamics, hyper-responsibility, and fear of abandonment
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How to begin healing through boundaries, self-worth, and inner reparenting
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Why awareness is the first act of liberation
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What to do in your relationship when one of you realizes you are a HFC
Connect with Joree & John:
• Website: www.loveisntenough.net
• Instagram: @loveisntenough33
• Subscribe to their podcast: Love Isn’t Enough
• Join our relationship Master Class series: https://loveisntenough.net/masterclass/
Connect with Dr. John Schinnerer:
• Website: www.guidetoself.com
• Instagram: @theevolvedcaveman
• Subscribe to his podcast: The Evolved Caveman
Connect with Joree Rose:
• Website: www.joreerose.com
• Instagram: @joreerose
• Subscribe to her podcast: Journey Forward with Joree Rose
• Join the Podcast Membership: https://joreerose.com/journeyforwardpodcast/