Becoming Who I Already Am // Discover Your Destiny, Part 10

I passionately believe that God has the most amazing plan for your life and mine.  In His heart He conceived us and with His hands – He made us who we are. And He wants us to be the person He made us to be.

Over these last couple of weeks on the program we’ve just been spending some time discovering your destiny. Survey after survey tells us that 75% of people don’t enjoy their work. I wonder how many of those are trying to do a job they just weren’t cut out to do, it’s just not them.

And yet it’s not hard to see how different we each are.  Some people are great working with children for instance. Me? That would drive me crazy – all that noise and running around.  No.  Not me.  Other people are great with their hands – they seem to be able to turn all these pieces of wood into a house somehow – I wouldn’t know where to begin.

Some people are great at sports and athletics – hmmm I love to stay fit, but I can’t throw and catch and kick all that well. It’s as plain as the nose on your face and mine that people are all made to be different. And what is such a tragedy – we’ve talked a little bit about this already so far this week – is people trying to do things that they’re just not cut out to do.

A child at school who is great at creative writing – but terrible at mathematics.  So – what do we do? We make them work harder at their mathematics, instead of encouraging them to go with the creative writing thing that we’re good at. Of course, we all have to do a few things that we’re not good at from time to time, but if we end up majoring in those things, it’s a disaster.  When I left school I was accepted into a medicine degree – I would have made a terrible doctor, and a law degree – and same with being a lawyer because the law is all about detail and I’m not into detail.

So – pardon me for saying so, but blind Freddie can see that we have all been made differently.  I’m a fairly unemotional person – it’s not that I don’t care about people. I do, deeply, I’m just not an emotional person.  I’m not into hugs and kisses from people the way others are.  I don’t tend to feel other people’s pain, instead I want to do things that help them not feel the pain.  That’s how I’m wired.  And it took me a long time – a very long time – to get comfortable inside my skin, to get comfortable with who I am, and stop trying to be like other people are.

I think it was Oscar Wilde who said – Be yourself, Everybody else is already taken.  Pretty good thought that.

Okay baby is born right, what does it grow up to be? It grows into who it already is, let me explain. A little baby gets born, it can’t even go to the toilet on its own, it can’t feed itself, it can’t protect itself – in fact it can’t do anything pretty much except eat, sleep, scream and dirty it’s nappy. So …is it any less a human being than you and me? Well, no of course not, this little bubs is just in an early stage of life and just like we all did, it goes through all stages. It begins to recognise and smile at its parents and the psyche develops and it grows an awareness and it crawls and walks and it becomes a toddler and it goes to school and becomes a teenager and then an adult, it’s a natural progression.

What is it that influences who that little baby becomes when it grows up? Well two things, firstly its natural disposition, its abilities, who God made that child to be and secondly, the things that happen along the way. Now some of those things along the way are positive, some of those things like the good parents who love you and good teachers at school. Those things develop the child’s natural abilities, but some of the things that happen rob the person, rob the child, give it a wrong impression of itself.

You see bad things will always happen to good people, they do, they always have and they always will. But if we know who we are and if we let God into our lives to be with us, to develop us, to care for us, to nurture us, those bad things instead of robbing us end up enhancing our characters. The negatives get turned into a positive. The problem is so many people never get with God’s plan for who they are.

For years I tried to be all things to all people, I set myself up to be this and set myself up to be that because I thought it would make me look important and good. But it wasn’t until I got with God’s plan and started seeing myself the way he sees me that I really started being the me I was meant to be. God made me to be doing what I’m doing right now spending this time with you. I’m never as happy and as fulfilled as when I’m sitting here with you.

A friend of mine, a Pastor, once said to me, “You know Berni, you should be more pastoral than that.” In other words, you should be around lots more people and you should do this and you should do that and you should be this. And I love people but think about it, much of what I do is I prepare these programs alone and then I come into a studio basically alone.

Okay millions of people are listening around the world but they’re not in this room with me right now. If God made me to be someone who needed to be around a lot of people, don’t you think I’d get awfully lonely doing what I do? He didn’t so I don’t.

Who are you? Who did God make you to be? Maybe you’re just one of those people who loves entertaining and having a house full of people over all the time. That’s a gift, go and be that person, go and grow into that, go and love it and enjoy it and be the person who God meant you to be. Maybe, maybe you’re a quiet, backroom kind of person who does things, book keeping or cleaning or cooking and you know, when you’re doing those things you feel so fulfilled, can I tell you something?

Go for it, if that’s what God made you to be, don’t compare with other people, grow in that, develop that, be delighted with who God made you. When we compare ourselves with others, we aspire to be someone who we aren’t, who we were never made to be and come on – that’s just plain crazy. I’m excited about who God’s made me to be – and I focus on the things I’m really good at, try to grow in areas where I’m still a bit immature … and leave the stuff I’m not good at to other people – people who actually love doing those things because they’re good at them.  It’s not really that complicated, is it?

Eph 2:10 For we are God’s workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do the good things that God prepared beforehand for us to walk into.

That’s exactly what God’s Word says – do the things that God prepared for you – not the things that other people want you to do.

God knows who we are, he made us and he made us to be the me we were meant to be. Right now in this instant, His heart and His eyes are on you and me and He knows who He made us to be and He is delighting in us. Wake up! It is time to stop trying to be someone else, it is time to stop trying to squeeze into the world’s mould, into a shape that doesn’t fit, into something that ultimately becomes a distressing straight jacket. He wants each one of us to be the person He meant us to be.

I am so excited because God has a plan, he has a plan for me, he has a plan for you. And we only discover who we’re meant to be - it only happens when we get right up close to him, when we have a relationship with him through Jesus Christ. Jesus said, “I am the vine and you are the branches. Apart from me you can do nothing.” And you know? You’re going to grow different fruit to me ‘cause that’s how Jesus made us. And if you want to grow the fruit that you were meant to grow in your life, you need to get right up close with Him. His word and His Spirit in a rich and dynamic relationship that’s so wondrous and so huge and so safe and secure and at the same time exciting, then and only then can we be the me we were meant to be.

I’d like to encourage you just right now, look at your life, are you being the me God made you to be? Because if you’re not he wants to change that for you today. God wants you to get close to him so that you can live out the life he planned for you.