S2E20: Mental Strength Through a Partner's Transition
Release Date: 08/25/2024
S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview
Straight Wife Trans Life
The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her . The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx Them: ...
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S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell
Straight Wife Trans Life
It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they’re not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new. In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender. Information for allies: PFLAG...
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S3E16: Middle Schooler's Take on Moving Abroad
Straight Wife Trans Life
I asked my 12-year-old to share his perspective on moving abroad and squeezed out just enough to create a short episode. It is a reminder that kids are resilient and can handle big things as long as there is a support network to lean on — in this case, he has his parents plus family and friends from afar. There are lots of books, podcasts, resources and groups online to help you and your kids with an overseas move and even more specific to your situation and where you are going -- if you are planning a move, I encourage finding those groups and resources to help make the process feel...
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S3E15: Spouse's Take on Moving Abroad
Straight Wife Trans Life
In this episode, my spouse shares her feelings about moving abroad. "We are not chess pieces," she says, regarding the current anti-transgender climate in the US. That says it all. Mentioned or related to this episode: USA Today: TransLash: Erin in the Morning: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Trans Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: ...
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S3E14: The View from Abroad
Straight Wife Trans Life
You know how we sometimes dissect our night out on the way home from an event — you think about things you said, what others said, what you would do differently. That’s what it feels like I’ve been doing after living abroad for two months — looking back and wondering if things are as bad as I thought they were, and if we made the right move. This can’t be covered in one episode but let’s explore how things are currently looking from here. Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: NBC News: Lambda Legal: TransLash: Erin in the Morning: Information for...
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S3E13: The Move and the Motive
Straight Wife Trans Life
In the U.S., the current administration has fueled a hate-filled climate toward transgender people that is false, dangerous, and manipulative. It is a loss for the U.S. when smart, kind, caring people who have the burden of carrying the stigma that the transgender label brings — leave the U.S. In this episode, I share why our family of three, plus one dog, packed up decades of life into nine suitcases and a few carry-ons and left the United States. Mentioned or related to this episode: NPR: Netflix Documentary: Visit Berlin: : Learning about the first trans clinic...
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S3E12: Moving Hiatus and Self-Care
Straight Wife Trans Life
The big news in this episode is that I am taking a little hiatus until mid-September due to a big move with my spouse and our son. I'll miss you until then! I leave you with a few self-care tips that I hope are fresh enough to help carry each of us forward as we wade through these uncertain times. Chin up and onward we go, together. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More...
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S3E11: Hitting that Reset Button
Straight Wife Trans Life
It is easy to get distracted and drift off in one direction a little more than anticipated; sometimes we need to pause and hit the reset button when that happens. Recently, I have been laying it on thick as an ally to my spouse while forgetting about my own needs — not too difficult to do in these crazy times. While I reset, I reshare a talk with my son regarding his perspective about when my spouse came out as transgender. It’s a reminder that things aren’t that complicated and people are people. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality ...
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S3E10: Interview Removal and Reasons
Straight Wife Trans Life
A heartfelt thank you to the listeners, even my spouse, who brought it to my attention that the individual I previously interviewed and had in this slot was not presenting themselves in a truthful manner. I consider the podcast a community where resources, ideas, and honest opinions can be shared. This means that I will dig deeper to ensure this doesn’t happen again. Accountability matters. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of...
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S3E9: Interview - Renée Yoxon, Gender-Affirming Voice Teacher
Straight Wife Trans Life
In this episode, meet Renée Yoxon, a gender-affirming voice teacher who has created a suite of online voice courses to help you or the transgender or nonbinary person in your life to feminize, masculinize, or find something in between to shape that preferred this-is-me sound when speaking. Renée discusses their background, tips for voice health, and not allowing your fears to prevent you from beginning your voice transition journey. They also walk me through a voice exercise that you can find in the freebies section of their website. The goal: "there isn't a final goal... really what...
info_outlineThe Summer Olympics just ended and I’m always impressed by the overall mental strength component that athletes have to excel at their sports. It takes mental strength to succeed in sports, at work, as parents, and in a situation like many of us where your spouse or partner has come out as transgender. Let’s explore this idea of mental strength to help us remain grounded as we navigate a loved one coming out.
Mentioned in this episode:
Places to look for therapy and professional support:
- Psychology Today
- Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx
More transgender families:
- YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
- YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
- TikTok: TransitionTogether
- The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
- Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman
Information for allies:
- PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
- GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
- National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
- Human Rights Campaign ally guide
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