Straight Wife Trans Life
Follow the real journey of a straight wife as her husband of 13+ years comes out as transgender and they adjust to the changes.
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S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview
11/30/2025
S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview
The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her . The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx Them: TransVitae: Pronoun Pins: , , , Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell
11/16/2025
S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell
It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they’re not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new. In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E16: Middle Schooler's Take on Moving Abroad
11/02/2025
S3E16: Middle Schooler's Take on Moving Abroad
I asked my 12-year-old to share his perspective on moving abroad and squeezed out just enough to create a short episode. It is a reminder that kids are resilient and can handle big things as long as there is a support network to lean on — in this case, he has his parents plus family and friends from afar. There are lots of books, podcasts, resources and groups online to help you and your kids with an overseas move and even more specific to your situation and where you are going -- if you are planning a move, I encourage finding those groups and resources to help make the process feel less daunting. Mentioned or related to this episode: First interview with my son: Second interview with my son: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Trans Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E15: Spouse's Take on Moving Abroad
10/19/2025
S3E15: Spouse's Take on Moving Abroad
In this episode, my spouse shares her feelings about moving abroad. "We are not chess pieces," she says, regarding the current anti-transgender climate in the US. That says it all. Mentioned or related to this episode: USA Today: TransLash: Erin in the Morning: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Trans Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E14: The View from Abroad
10/05/2025
S3E14: The View from Abroad
You know how we sometimes dissect our night out on the way home from an event — you think about things you said, what others said, what you would do differently. That’s what it feels like I’ve been doing after living abroad for two months — looking back and wondering if things are as bad as I thought they were, and if we made the right move. This can’t be covered in one episode but let’s explore how things are currently looking from here. Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: NBC News: Lambda Legal: TransLash: Erin in the Morning: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E13: The Move and the Motive
09/21/2025
S3E13: The Move and the Motive
In the U.S., the current administration has fueled a hate-filled climate toward transgender people that is false, dangerous, and manipulative. It is a loss for the U.S. when smart, kind, caring people who have the burden of carrying the stigma that the transgender label brings — leave the U.S. In this episode, I share why our family of three, plus one dog, packed up decades of life into nine suitcases and a few carry-ons and left the United States. Mentioned or related to this episode: NPR: Netflix Documentary: Visit Berlin: : Learning about the first trans clinic Independent: Lambda Legal: TransLash: Erin in the Morning: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E12: Moving Hiatus and Self-Care
06/16/2025
S3E12: Moving Hiatus and Self-Care
The big news in this episode is that I am taking a little hiatus until mid-September due to a big move with my spouse and our son. I'll miss you until then! I leave you with a few self-care tips that I hope are fresh enough to help carry each of us forward as we wade through these uncertain times. Chin up and onward we go, together. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E11: Hitting that Reset Button
05/25/2025
S3E11: Hitting that Reset Button
It is easy to get distracted and drift off in one direction a little more than anticipated; sometimes we need to pause and hit the reset button when that happens. Recently, I have been laying it on thick as an ally to my spouse while forgetting about my own needs — not too difficult to do in these crazy times. While I reset, I reshare a talk with my son regarding his perspective about when my spouse came out as transgender. It’s a reminder that things aren’t that complicated and people are people. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E10: Interview Removal and Reasons
05/11/2025
S3E10: Interview Removal and Reasons
A heartfelt thank you to the listeners, even my spouse, who brought it to my attention that the individual I previously interviewed and had in this slot was not presenting themselves in a truthful manner. I consider the podcast a community where resources, ideas, and honest opinions can be shared. This means that I will dig deeper to ensure this doesn’t happen again. Accountability matters. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E9: Interview - Renée Yoxon, Gender-Affirming Voice Teacher
04/27/2025
S3E9: Interview - Renée Yoxon, Gender-Affirming Voice Teacher
In this episode, meet Renée Yoxon, a gender-affirming voice teacher who has created a suite of online voice courses to help you or the transgender or nonbinary person in your life to feminize, masculinize, or find something in between to shape that preferred this-is-me sound when speaking. Renée discusses their background, tips for voice health, and not allowing your fears to prevent you from beginning your voice transition journey. They also walk me through a voice exercise that you can find in the freebies section of their website. The goal: "there isn't a final goal... really what you're working towards is using your voice in everyday life in a way that doesn't feel like you're thinking about it all the time..." Mentioned or related to this episode: Renée Yoxon's Renée's Renée's Sign up for Renée's Find Renée on , , , Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E8: After Vocal Feminization Surgery
04/13/2025
S3E8: After Vocal Feminization Surgery
Two weeks post vocal feminization surgery, we hear what my spouse sounds like as she slowly recovers. She was on vocal rest for the past weeks and we talk about how she communicated, her reasons for opting for vocal surgery, and what she hopes the outcome will be in the months ahead. My favorite word in this episode: otolaryngology. Say that ten times. Mentioned or related to this episode: Phone app (Google Play) Type of vocal surgery: VFSRAC -- Vocal Fold Shortening and Retrodisplacement Anterior Commissure who performed this surgery Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E7: Surgeries Past, Present, Future
03/30/2025
S3E7: Surgeries Past, Present, Future
On the eve of her vocal feminization surgery, I talk to my spouse about surgeries she has had at this stage of her transition, the surgery decision process, and how she is feeling going into this one. Mentioned or related to this episode: GLAAD: , March 31 : LGBTQ+ health care provider HRC: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers. MAR 16, 2025SHARE
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S3E6: Interview 2 of 2: Parent Reaction to Spouse Coming Out as Transgender
03/16/2025
S3E6: Interview 2 of 2: Parent Reaction to Spouse Coming Out as Transgender
In this episode, I talk to my mom in her eighties about her reaction when I told her that my spouse had come out as transgender. My favorite quote from our talk: “You’re not the one who has the right to judge.” Mentioned or related to this episode: (AFS) Book my parents read: , by Jennifer Finney Boylan for friend and family ally support for friend and family ally support Book I recently read and recommend: , by Kenny Ethan Jones Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E5: Interview 1 of 2: Parent Reaction to Spouse Coming Out as Transgender
03/02/2025
S3E5: Interview 1 of 2: Parent Reaction to Spouse Coming Out as Transgender
Telling your parents that your spouse has come out as transgender can be quite stressful; no two family dynamics are the same. In this episode, I talk to my midwestern, cisgender, former United States Navy officer, highly educated dad in his eighties about his reaction when I told him that my spouse had come out as transgender. My favorite quote from our talk: “The only change would be our nasty attitude and that just makes no sense.” FYI: The podcast is now available on YouTube, too. Mentioned or related to this episode: Book my dad read: , by Jennifer Finney Boylan for friend and family ally support for friend and family ally support Book I recently read and recommend: , by Kenny Ethan Jones Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E4: How Much Longer?
02/16/2025
S3E4: How Much Longer?
The news headlines about attempts to erase the transgender community can do a number on us. Partner up, it’s going to be an unpredictable, bumpy ride. Rest when you need to, stay hydrated, and keep being you. Allies, time to step up. Trans Lifeline: Mentioned or related to this episode: USA Today: The Salt Lake Tribune: NPR: ABC News: Recommended: Recommended: Recommended: Recommended groups for cisgender spouses: , , Facebook and More Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD Advocates for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E3: Let's Talk Critical Thinking
02/02/2025
S3E3: Let's Talk Critical Thinking
Misinformation and fake news are abundant, and knowing what’s real and what’s not can even take the savviest person by surprise. Transgender people are the current target and as the saying goes, repeat a lie enough times and people start to believe it. Let’s change that. In this episode, I share tips and thoughts on how to spot fake news and stop others from spreading it. Mentioned or related to this episode: NBC News: Cornell University: T Adelphi University: Adelphi University: National Geographic / Global Digital Citizen Foundation: L.A. Public Library: How to Talk to Friends and Family Who Spread Misinformation Time: World Health Organization (WHO): UC Berkeley Library: Special NPR Series: Denver Public Library: Rawson Internet Marketing: Book: by Adam Grant Book: Weaponized Lies, by Daniel J. Levitin Book: by Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E2: Condensed Perspective of Three Years Post-Disclosure
01/19/2025
S3E2: Condensed Perspective of Three Years Post-Disclosure
It has been three years since my spouse came out to me as transgender. This episode reflects on how the first two years look from here, plus how things are going and where they are headed. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S3E1: First Family Visit Post-Transition
01/05/2025
S3E1: First Family Visit Post-Transition
It’s a new year and as we wrestle with what the future holds for transgender people in this moment in time, we begin the season with a glimpse of the potential for positive change. My spouse decided to visit her family in México to celebrate her dad’s 80th birthday this past November. It has been a difficult road for their relationship since my spouse came out and only recently have they been communicating on a regular basis. This was the first visit since my spouse began her transition, almost three years ago. Change can happen with effort from all sides. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S2E22: Interview - Life Coach Helping Straight Partners Navigate Transition
09/22/2024
S2E22: Interview - Life Coach Helping Straight Partners Navigate Transition
The season ends with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help anyone, anywhere in the world. In this episode, Abbe shares how a loved one coming out can impact the straight spouse or partner and offers insight into how couples can make it work. Season 3 returns in January. Until then, be well and thank you for listening. Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S2E21: Middle School Slurs
09/08/2024
S2E21: Middle School Slurs
One month into middle school for my son and a student has already used an anti-LGBTQ+ slur against another student in a locker room. The kicker is that we live in what is considered a very progressive area. In this episode, my son and I have a talk about this incident, how a teacher handled it, and what he might have done if the teacher wasn’t there. Related to this episode: UNICEF: Anti-Defamation League: Lambda Legal: Know Your Rights - Lambda Legal: For Educators - Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S2E20: Mental Strength Through a Partner's Transition
08/25/2024
S2E20: Mental Strength Through a Partner's Transition
The Summer Olympics just ended and I’m always impressed by the overall mental strength component that athletes have to excel at their sports. It takes mental strength to succeed in sports, at work, as parents, and in a situation like many of us where your spouse or partner has come out as transgender. Let’s explore this idea of mental strength to help us remain grounded as we navigate a loved one coming out. Mentioned in this episode: CNBC: Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S2E19: Meeting New Coworkers as a Transgender Person
08/11/2024
S2E19: Meeting New Coworkers as a Transgender Person
New job, new people can be exciting for most of us and unchartered, anxiety-inducing territory for transgender people who just want to fit in with everyone else. In this episode, I talk to my spouse about her first work retreat where she met new coworkers at an otherwise remote-based company. Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider or donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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S2E18: Responding to Transphobic People... Actual People, Not Online
07/28/2024
S2E18: Responding to Transphobic People... Actual People, Not Online
There are times when someone famous shows us their transphobic side or a transgender person makes poor decisions that come to light and they paint a negative image for the transgender community. Both examples actually had their moment in various news outlets this week and for those of us with a transgender partner or spouse, we may get caught in the middle of a fresh batch of transphobia. In this episode, I explore ways to respond. Mentioned and Related Links: The people making headlines this week: and TransActual UK: Medium: Attitude: - Meet the Amazing Trans Footballer Who Inspired Taika Waititi's Film and the Star Who Plays Her Book: by Susan Stryker Book: by C. Riley Snorton Book: by Dr. Kit Heyam, Ph.D Journal: Amnesty International: Boston University CIDI: YouTube: ACLU: QueerAF: : collection of free trans-focused literature Media Bias/Fact Check: Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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S2E17: Why I Dislike the Term "Trans Widow"
07/14/2024
S2E17: Why I Dislike the Term "Trans Widow"
The term “trans widow” is one that I thought I related to at first... until I didn’t. It is actually quite transphobic and in this episode, I share why it doesn’t sit well with me. Mentioned and Related Links: National suicide prevention lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) hotline: 1-888-843-4564 Opinion: HBO Max: Opinion: Opinion: The Williams Institute: Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: TikTok: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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S2E16: Job Searching as a Transgender Person
06/30/2024
S2E16: Job Searching as a Transgender Person
For the first time since my spouse began her transition two and a half years ago, she is looking for a new job opportunity. She is a Latina transgender woman who is fortunate to be educated with a strong support system. Keep in mind that the transgender workforce reports low employment rates, lower salaries, and high discrimination. In this episode, I talk to my spouse about her job search experience. Related Resources: ACLU: Advocates for Trans Equality (A4TE): and Human Rights Campaign: and LGBT National Help Center: Out for Work: Transgender Law Center: Australia: Canada: Europe: Campaign for Southern Equality: Los Angeles: Philadelphia & Vicinity: San Francisco LGBT Center: Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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S2E15: Labeling Struggles
06/16/2024
S2E15: Labeling Struggles
It’s Father's Day in the U.S. today and the first Father's Day post-disclosure was rough. Now, two and a half years in, it’s not a big deal but I still struggle with how to label my spouse when she’s not around. Is labeling my transgender spouse a “spouse” enough or is it necessary to add more or less? Here’s how I’m currently working through it. Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions.
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S2E14: Allyship Beyond Pride Month
06/03/2024
S2E14: Allyship Beyond Pride Month
June is Pride Month, a time to raise awareness about the LGBTQ+ community, its history and remembering the Stonewall Uprising, current issues facing the community… and it’s a time to celebrate diversity and acceptance, hope, progress, joy. I love that allyship is strong this month. Let’s explore how one can be a great ally to the LGBTQ+ community this month plus all year. Related Resources: Article - Harvard Business Review: Resource - ACLU: Resource - Trans Legislation Consider donating to: The , , and PFLAG , , your local LGBTQ+ centers Article - Out: Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions.
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S2E13: Voice Ch-Ch-Changes
05/19/2024
S2E13: Voice Ch-Ch-Changes
A main giveaway that someone might be transgender is their voice. Speaking as a transgender person can be daunting and in this episode, I talk to my spouse about her road to sounding more feminine with the help of vocal therapy. Related Resources: : includes list of resources and how to find them Stanford Health Care: UCLA Health: UCSF Transgender Care: International Resource - Australia: International Resource - British Trans Voice Coach International Resource - Canadian Trans Voice Coach (Trans Women) and by Kylie Voice Tools App: and YouTube: YouTube: Transmasculine resource Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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S2E12: Part 2 - The Transgender Bathroom Thing
05/05/2024
S2E12: Part 2 - The Transgender Bathroom Thing
I ask my spouse a few questions about her experience as a transgender woman using public restrooms. Related Resources: Article - The 19th: Resource - : a web application that seeks to provide safe restroom access for the LGBTQ+ community Resource (PDF) - OSHA: Resource - : transgender issues and transgender bathroom and facilities bans Resource - National Center for Transgender Equality: Resource - Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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S2E11: Part 1 - The Transgender Bathroom Thing
04/21/2024
S2E11: Part 1 - The Transgender Bathroom Thing
The idea that a transgender person should not be permitted to use a public restroom that aligns with their gender identity is misunderstood and places the safety of a transgender person in jeopardy. This episode touches the surface from my viewpoint as someone who lives with a transgender person. Mentioned and Related Resources: Article - Advocate: Article - CNN: Article - The 19th: Resource - : a web application that seeks to provide safe restroom access for the LGBTQ+ community Resource (PDF) - OSHA: Resource - : transgender issues and transgender bathroom and facilities bans Resource - National Center for Transgender Equality: Resource - : Resources Places to look for therapy and professional support: for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: YouTube Channel: The Cut: Chicago Tribune: Information for allies: PFLAG (PDF) GLAAD National Center for Transgender Equality Human Rights Campaign * * * , I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider
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