15 | How shame f**ks up gay relationships
Better Gay Dating
Shame isn't always fun to talk about, but it's a powerful and often unrecognized force that impacts why dating in our community is like it is. So in this episode, we'll look at the subtle ways shame often shows up in gay dating — and how we can heal it to build stronger connections. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: Sources: [1] [2] [3]
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14 | Why gay men ghost — and how we break the cycle
Better Gay Dating
Ghosting kind of sucks. But statistically, most of us have been ghosted *and* we've ghosted someone else. So what can we do to break this cycle and create a culture of clearer and kinder communication in gay dating? Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: Sources: [1] [2]
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13 | Yes, I'm single. I'm happy to talk about it.
Better Gay Dating
So yeah, I get asked about my personal life from time to time. In this episode, I wanted to talk a bit about what my life looks like right now, but also about how we often think about singlehood — because there's a lot to unpack there too. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads:
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12 | Why gay men choose unsuitable partners
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Most of us have been there — we stuck it out with someone who definitely wasn't right for us. But why do we choose partners who aren't right for us? And how do we choose better? Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads:
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11 | How gay relationship coaching works
Better Gay Dating
In this episode I peel back the curtain on how gay relationship coaching works, what we actually do in the sessions, and how it'll transform the way you think about making connections in this community. If you're curious about working with a relationship coach, this deep dive is for you. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads:
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10 | Scientists found the secret to a happy life — here's what it means for gay men
Better Gay Dating
For more than 80 years, researchers at Harvard have studied what makes us truly happy. Here's what they found — and what it means for us as queer men. Find out more about "The Good Life": I read the European edition which was published in 2025 but the first edition (with a different cover) was published in the US in 2023. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: Sources: [1] Waldinger & Schultz: The Good Life, 10 [2] [3] The Good...
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9 | Gays, here's how to make great new connections offline
Better Gay Dating
If you're kind of over the apps right now... you're not alone. Here's your in-depth guide to making great new connections in person — where to do it, how to do it, and why it often leads to deeper connections 🌈 Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: https://threads.com/bettergaydating
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8 | Seven myths about gay dating that keep us stuck
Better Gay Dating
Sometimes gay men believe all kinds of crazy sh*t about our relationships — and ourselves 🤷♀️ Let's unpack what's going on here and how we can think about things differently. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: Sources: [1] [2] (Thanks to all the Reddit users who shared their stories on this post!) [3]
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7 | How I became a dating and relationship coach 🌈
Better Gay Dating
In this episode, I wanted to talk about my background as a musician, how I became a coach, and what it all means for me today. Oh, and about the time I played the piano for Ian McKellen. It’s a window into my unconventional, creative and occasionally wild life, and how it somehow all ties neatly together. Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads:
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6 | Let's talk about sex, baby: How great sex and deeper connection can co-exist
Better Gay Dating
As gay men, it can feel like sex is the thing we're always supposed to prioritize, even at the expense of our emotional or other needs. But what if there are ways to balance all of our needs in ways that feel fun AND fulfilling? Support the show and help me keep the episodes coming: Buy my book, Boys Who Like Boys: For coaching, group programs and more: Subscribe on YouTube: Instagram: Threads: Sources: [1] [2] Walt Odets, “Out of the Shadows: The Psychology of Gay Men’s Lives” (Penguin, 2019)
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[2] https://www.reddit.com/r/AskGaybrosOver30/comments/11o2p3b/anyone_ever_found_their_long_partner_after_40/ (Thanks to all the Reddit users who shared their stories on this post!)
[3] https://econtent.hogrefe.com/doi/abs/10.1027/1016-9040/a000259