187: Is It Normal or Is It ADHD? with Dana Kay
Soaring Child: Thriving with ADHD
Release Date: 12/04/2025
Soaring Child: Thriving with ADHD
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What if your child’s meltdowns, impulsivity, and focus struggles weren’t behavioral problems but signs of a dysregulated nervous system? In this episode, Dana Kay sits down with licensed professional counselor Dana Hargus to explore a powerful and often misunderstood tool: biofeedback. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Dana explains how we can train the brain to regulate itself, helping children feel calmer, more focused, and more in control of their emotions. You’ll learn how biofeedback works in simple, practical terms, what it looks like during a session, and why many...
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Many children with ADHD know exactly what they’re supposed to do but still struggle to do it. That frustrating gap between knowing and doing is one of the most misunderstood parts of ADHD, and it can leave parents feeling confused, exhausted, and questioning their child’s behavior. In this episode, Dana Kay sits down with ADHD parenting expert and coach Cindy Goldrich to unpack what’s really happening in the ADHD brain when children don’t follow through on simple requests. Cindy explains why ADHD is not a problem of knowledge, but a challenge with executive function, and how factors...
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Grab your ADHD Thrive Decoder Kit here: You know what I wish someone had told me years ago when my son was diagnosed with ADHD? That ADHD isn't one neat little story. ADHD isn’t one problem. It’s often driven by five biological stressors stacked inside the same child. And depending on the day, a different stressor shouts loudest. In this powerful solo episode, Dana Kay reframes ADHD in a way that instantly relieves shame and confusion for parents. If you’ve ever felt like you’re parenting a different child by 4 p.m. than you were at 8 a.m., this episode explains why. Dana walks...
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Grab your ADHD Thrive Decoder Kit here: If you're raising a child with ADHD and sleep feels like a nightly argument, nobody wins. What if bedtime isn’t a parenting problem at all? What if your child isn’t resisting sleep… but their body is trying to take out the trash? In this powerful solo episode, Dana Kay reveals one of the most overlooked biological stressors impacting children with ADHD: poor detoxification. Sleep is not just rest. It is the brain and body’s nightly cleanup crew. When detox pathways are sluggish, overloaded, or genetically compromised, children can wake between...
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Grab your ADHD Thrive Decoder Kit here: Sometimes it’s not your child having a bad day. Sometimes it’s that you are parenting a completely different nervous system, depending on what went into their mouth yesterday. In this eye-opening episode of The Soaring Child Podcast, Dana Kay unpacks one of the most overlooked biological stressors driving ADHD symptoms: delayed, invisible food reactions. If you’ve ever felt like your child’s behavior shifts overnight — same child, same house, same rules — this episode explains what may actually be happening beneath the surface. Dana walks...
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That’s the question that keeps so many parents of neurodivergent kids up at night, especially when old behaviors resurface after months or years of progress.
In this episode of The Soaring Child podcast, Dana Kay, board certified holistic health and nutrition practitioner, 2X international bestselling author, and mom of a child with ADHD, opens up about the emotional whiplash that can come with raising a neurodiverse child.
She shares what it’s like to second-guess every behavior, even the ones that might just be typical childhood moments. Tune in to discover the difference between developmentally typical behavior and patterns that signal deeper dysregulation.
Links Mentioned in the Show
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▶ https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/parenting
▶ https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book
Key Takeaways with Timestamps
[00:16] Why calm can trigger panic for ADHD parents
[02:41] The “Is this normal or ADHD?” fear spiral
[04:27] What counts as developmentally typical behavior
[06:05] When patterns—not moments—signal deeper concerns
[06:53] Why one meltdown feels heavier after progress
[08:26] A client story: panic when the school didn’t call
[10:12] Why children (and adults) naturally have off days
[11:34] How biology—gut, nutrients, inflammation—affects behavior
[12:20] Questions parents can ask when behaviour worries them
[14:17] Why hyperactive boyhood isn’t pathology
[16:42] Tracking patterns over time rather than reacting to one-offs
[18:13] Validation that every parent needs to hear
Memorable Moments with Timestamps (Exact Quotes)
“If peace somehow feels unsafe, it’s not your fault.”
“I felt my whole body tighten… that hot flush that runs through every bone in your body.”
“One school phone call… and we spiral.”
“That fear doesn’t mean everything is unraveling. It means that you care.”
“Progress hits harder when you finally experience peace.”
“For years, silence meant brace yourself—something bad’s coming.”
“It means they’re human children.”
“We’ve been conditioned to expect our children to behave better than most adults do.”
“These aren’t signs of ADHD symptoms returning—these are signs of life.”
“Let them be messy. Let them be human. Let them be in process.”
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