3: Why You Can't 'Just Move On' After Infidelity
Betrayed & Stayed
You chose to stay after infidelity. So why does it still hurt so much? In this episode, we talk about why betrayed partners can’t simply “move on,” even when the affair is over and they’ve decided to stay. This isn’t weakness — it’s how the nervous system responds to betrayal. We explore: Why betrayal creates trauma responses in the body What’s really happening in your brain after infidelity Why forcing forgiveness or healing too fast backfires The difference between healing and emotional suppression What actually helps your system begin to feel safe again If...
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Bonus Episode: You Don't Have to Earn Fidelity
Betrayed & Stayed
In this bonus episode, I respond to a popular influencer whose content focuses on teaching people how to “keep their partner happy.” While this message can sound harmless or even helpful, it often carries a deeper and more damaging assumption: that someone must perform, change, or continually improve themselves in order to deserve their partner’s faithfulness. Let’s be clear. In a committed relationship, fidelity is not something that must be earned. It is a baseline expectation that comes with commitment. In this episode, we explore why the idea that a person must stay attractive,...
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2: I Stayed After Infidelity ... Now What?
Betrayed & Stayed
What happens after you decide to stay — even temporarily — following infidelity? For many betrayed partners, staying doesn’t bring relief. It brings confusion, shame, pressure, and a constant sense of urgency to “figure everything out.” In this episode, we slow the moment down. This is not about deciding whether reconciliation will work. It’s about helping you stabilize, ground yourself, and take wise next steps when your world has been turned upside down. In this episode, we’ll talk about: Why you don’t need to make permanent decisions right now The most common mistakes...
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1: Why I Hate New Year’s Resolutions (Especially After Betrayal)
Betrayed & Stayed
New Year’s resolutions promise fresh starts—but after betrayal, they often leave us feeling behind, ashamed, or broken. In this first episode of Betrayed & Stayed, Monica explores why traditional goal-setting fails those of us healing from infidelity and grief—and what to do instead. This episode offers a gentler, trauma-aware way to enter the new year, one that honors accountability and grace, without rushing your healing or abandoning yourself along the way. Monica works primarily with betrayed partners who have chosen to stay and rebuild after infidelity. If you’re curious about...
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Official Trailer
Betrayed & Stayed
If you’re here, chances are your life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. You discovered the betrayal. Your world cracked open. And then you made a choice that not everyone understands—you stayed. Or maybe you’re still deciding. Betrayed & Stayed is a podcast for men and women who have experienced infidelity and are choosing the complicated, courageous path of reconciliation. This is a space for honest conversations about grief, anger, forgiveness, boundaries, trust, faith, and the slow work of healing—without judgment and without pretending this is easy. I’m Rev....
info_outlineIf you’re here, chances are your life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would.
You discovered the betrayal.
Your world cracked open.
And then you made a choice that not everyone understands—you stayed.
Or maybe you’re still deciding.
Betrayed & Stayed is a podcast for men and women who have experienced infidelity and are choosing the complicated, courageous path of reconciliation. This is a space for honest conversations about grief, anger, forgiveness, boundaries, trust, faith, and the slow work of healing—without judgment and without pretending this is easy.
I’m Rev. Monica Humpal. I’m an ordained pastor, a Master Certified Coach, and a betrayed spouse myself. I know what it’s like to have your story rewritten without your consent—and to keep walking anyway.
This podcast isn’t about quick fixes or perfect marriages.
It’s about telling the truth.
About learning how to stay without losing yourself.
About healing—whether your relationship ultimately survives or not.
If you’ve felt unseen, misunderstood, or alone in your decision to stay…
you belong here.
Welcome to Betrayed & Stayed.
Monica Humpal is a Master Certified Coach who specializes in walking alongside those healing from infidelity while walking the challenging path of reconciliation. If you are seeking a coach and would like to speak with Monica click [HERE] to sign up for a free consulation to see if coaching is the right fit for you.