Letting Go of the Unattainable - The Desire to be Self-Sufficient

Welcome back, sweet friend! I am so glad you are here. I'm Ashleigh, and I'm thrilled to continue to discuss a topic that hits close to home – our tendency to strive for God-like qualities that we were never meant to possess. This is the final episode of our three-part series in which we're exploring the beauty of embracing our human limits and the incredible transformation that comes with letting go.

 

In our previous episodes, we delved into the concept of 'Letting Go of the Unattainable' – specifically, the trait of trying to be omnipresent, being everywhere at once, and omniscient - being all-knowing. We explored the common ways this pursuit displays in our lives, the challenges it poses, and actionable solutions to overcome it. If you missed either of these episodes, I encourage you to give them a listen as they shed light on other traits that we, as purpose-driven individuals, need to address on our journey to growth and balance.

 

Now, as we continue our journey of self-discovery and growth, we're shifting our focus to another attribute that often finds its way into our entrepreneurial pursuits: the desire to be self-sufficient.

 

 

Self-sufficiency, it's a fancy word for being super independent, doing everything on your own without needing help from anyone. It's the "I can handle it all" mindset.

 

Now, don't get me wrong; being self-sufficient is a great thing, but here's the twist. Complete self-sufficiency? Well, that's just an illusion. You see, as humans, we're wired for connection and teamwork. We thrive on working together, sharing knowledge, and growing together. The idea of going it completely alone doesn't really fit our nature.

 

Let's take a closer look at five key areas where the desire for self-sufficiency can emerge in your business and life. By shedding light on these challenges, we can better understand how they might be affecting our journey as an entrepreneur.

 

So, let's begin our exploration of some behaviors and actions that female entrepreneurs might engage in when seeking self-sufficiency:

 

The first characteristic of a self-sufficient female entrepreneur is the Refusal to Seek Help.

Picture this – you're navigating your business journey, and you've got this burning desire to be a one-woman show, handling every challenge that comes your way. It's like trying to carry a mountain of groceries in one go – pretty overwhelming, right?

Now, when you refuse to seek help, it's like missing out on the good stuff – fresh ideas, game-changing strategies, and golden opportunities that could supercharge your business. It's like saying, "I've got it all figured out," even when you don't.

But here's the deal – it doesn't have to be this way. You can break free from the "I can do it all" trap.

 

Here's how:

• First, let's switch gears and embrace a growth mindset. It's about seeing every challenge as a chance to learn and grow. Seeking help isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength.
• Next, build your support network. Connect with mentors, peers, and experts who can offer guidance and support. Don't be shy about seeking advice and collaborating with others – you'll be amazed at what you can achieve together.
• And finally, set that ego aside. Understand that nobody – I repeat, nobody – has all the answers. So, prioritize your business's success over the need to appear self-sufficient. Seek help when you need it; it's a game-changer.

Limited Learning:

Alright, let's dive into another common self-sufficiency pitfall. You might be that go-getter who believes you can figure everything out solo. It's like trying to paddle a boat with one oar – you'll go in circles.

When you avoid learning from others, you're basically putting your skills and knowledge on pause. It's like saying, "I've got this; I don't need no workshops or seminars." But guess what? Learning from others can catapult your growth.

 

So, here's your lifeline:

• Start by making skill enhancement a priority. Investing in your education isn't a luxury; it's a necessity. Attend workshops, seminars, and courses that can amp up your skills.
• Next, seek diverse perspectives. Imagine if you only ate one type of food your whole life – you'd miss out on some incredible flavors, right? Well, the same goes for ideas. Embrace the opportunity to learn from others; it can lead to game-changing innovations.
• And don't fall into the trap of reinventing the wheel. Sometimes, the solutions you're searching for already exist. Focus your learning efforts on areas where your knowledge and skills can have the most significant impact.

 

Fear of Vulnerability:

Here's another tricky spot – the fear of vulnerability. It's like wearing a mask, pretending you've got everything under control when deep down, you're not so sure.

 

Now, why is this a problem? Well, for one, it can make you an ineffective leader. Your team might feel like they're walking on eggshells around you because they can't relate to your perfect facade. That's not good for morale.

 

Plus, avoiding vulnerability means you're missing out on some serious learning opportunities. Sometimes, admitting you don't have all the answers is the first step to growth.

 

So, how can you tackle this?

• First, let's normalize vulnerability. Understand that it's a natural part of being human, and it doesn't mean you're incompetent. In fact, it's a strength to admit when you need help.
• Next, lead by example. Show your team that vulnerability is okay by admitting when you're uncertain and seeking input from others. It creates a culture of openness and authenticity.
• And guess what? Vulnerability leads to stronger connections, trust, and collaboration. It's like breaking down the walls that hold your business back. Share stories of how embracing vulnerability has led to some incredible outcomes.

Overworking:

Alright, let's talk about burning the midnight oil. You're pushing yourself to the limit, working crazy hours, thinking you're a superhero handling every aspect of your business. But here's the truth – even superheroes need a break.

 

Sooner or later, you're going to get tired – real tired. Burnout is just around the corner, and that's not a good place to be.

 

So, what's the remedy?

• First, set some boundaries. Define your working hours and stick to them. It's like creating a safe zone for your sanity.
• Next, don't be afraid to delegate and prioritize. Not everything has to land on your plate. Focus on tasks where your expertise shines and let others handle the rest.
• And remember, rest is your best friend. Understand that taking a breather is vital for your creativity and productivity. Regular breaks and vacations are like the secret sauce for success.

 

Hesitation to Invest:

Last but not least, let's chat about investment hesitation. You might be reluctant to spend on experts or services that could level up your business, opting to save costs by doing everything yourself.

 

But guess what? When you hesitate to invest, you might actually be wasting precious time and effort on tasks that specialists could handle like a pro.

 

So, here's the game plan:

• First, calculate the ROI – that's the return on investment. Think of it like this: a well-placed investment can be like a magic money tree. Evaluate how investing in experts or services could lead to cost savings and business growth.
• Start small if you're hesitant. Outsource or hire experts for specific tasks or projects. As you see the positive impact, you'll likely become more comfortable with broader investments.
• And don't go it alone – consult advisors, financial experts, or mentors. They're like your business GPS, guiding you to the right investment decisions. Trust their insights; they can be your investment compass.

 

So, here's the deal, my friend. Seeking self-sufficiency might seem noble, but it can have some pretty tough consequences for your business and your life. It's like trying to paddle a boat with one oar – you'll go in circles. Instead, let's open up to the power of collaboration, embrace the growth that comes from seeking help, and build some amazing relationships along the way. After all, we're in this journey together.

 

Seeking to be everywhere, know everything, and do everything can lead to a host of challenges that hinder both our businesses and personal lives.

 

The quest for omnipresence can result in burnout, strained relationships, and the inability to truly connect. The pursuit of omniscience often results in decision paralysis, isolation, and the overwhelming burden of information overload. Likewise, the aspiration for self-sufficiency can stunt growth, hinder collaboration, and deny us the beauty of mutual support.

 

While these attributes may seem noble, they frequently steer us away from our true potential and purpose. But there's a way to navigate this uncharted territory. By grounding ourselves in God's wisdom and applying the insights shared in these three episodes, we can avoid falling into these traps.

 

Embracing our human limits, embracing collaboration and openness, and embracing God's guidance can empower us to shed the unrealistic burdens of omnipresence, omniscience, and self-sufficiency. Instead, we can channel our energy into cultivating authentic connections, making informed decisions, and fostering growth through interdependence.

 

Through these episodes, we uncover the path to a purposeful entrepreneurial journey that aligns with our innate design and God's intended plan.

 

I hope you enjoyed this series! Until next time!