The Soft Girl Myth: What Feminine Energy Actually Is (Part 1)
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
In this episode, we’re calling out the biggest myths around feminine energy that are being pushed all over social media. From the “soft girl” era to “just receive and don’t chase,” there’s a lot being taught that sounds good… but is actually creating confusion, passivity, and disconnection. We break down what feminine energy is not, where these ideas go wrong, and why being in your feminine has nothing to do with being naive, avoidant, or dependent. This is part 1 of a 2-part series where we strip it back to truth — so you can actually understand what it means to show up...
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The Voice That’s Running Your Life
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
There are two voices inside you, the bully and the hero. In this episode of Aligned & A Little Unhinged, we break down how these two identities show up in your everyday life, shaping your decisions, your confidence, and the way you see yourself. The bully is the voice that criticizes, doubts, and keeps you small. The hero is the one that leads, takes ownership, and follows through, even when it’s uncomfortable. We talk about how most people unknowingly let the bully run the show, and how that keeps them stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, inconsistency, and low self-trust. But we also dive...
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Building A New Life (And Questioning Everything Along the Way)
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
In this episode, we’re just catching you up on life. We talk about what it looks like to step into new chapters — new careers, new relationships, new levels — and everything that comes with it… including the imposter syndrome, the doubt, and the “what am I even doing?” moments. Shelby shares about starting something new and navigating that uncomfortable space of doing things differently, while Cass dives into going all in on her business, her fitness journey, and stepping into a new relationship. This one is real, a little unfiltered, and probably something a lot of you will relate...
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The Valley of Despair: Where Most People Quit
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
Everyone loves to talk about the glow-up. No one talks about the part where your life feels like it’s falling apart. In this episode, we break down Alex Hormozi’s concept of the Valley of Despair—the phase where you’ve outgrown your old life, but your new one hasn’t fully landed yet. And honestly? This is where most people quit. We go deep into why healing feels more like loss than gain in the beginning—losing relationships, identity, comfort, and the versions of you that once felt safe… even if they were keeping you stuck. We talk about: Why this phase feels so heavy and...
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The Truth About Narcissists: What You're Missing in Toxic Relationships
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
In this episode, Cass and Shelby sit down with Aubrey, an AMFT specializing in Brainspotting Therapy, to talk about relationships — why they’re beautiful, why they’re hard, and why therapy can be one of the most helpful tools when problems arise. We dive into common relationship struggles like communication breakdowns, emotional triggers, and unresolved patterns, and how couples can begin navigating those challenges in healthier ways. We also unpack narcissism — what it actually is, why it’s often misunderstood, and how narcissistic dynamics can show up in relationships. Aubrey loves...
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Attachment Styles Explained: Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
In this episode, we dive into attachment styles — the patterns that shape how we show up in relationships. From anxious attachment and the fear of abandonment, to avoidant attachment and the instinct to pull away, these dynamics often develop early in life and continue to influence how we connect, communicate, and experience love. We break down what each attachment style looks like, why certain relationship dynamics feel so intense, and how anxious and avoidant patterns often create the push-pull cycles so many people experience in dating and long-term relationships. Most importantly, we...
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The Black Coffee Rule: Stop Sweetening What’s Meant to Be Bitter
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
In this episode, we talk about the black coffee rule — the idea that not everything in life is meant to be sweetened. Some seasons are bitter. Some truths are uncomfortable. And growth rarely tastes the way we expect it to. We explore how our instinct to avoid discomfort, rush healing, or sugarcoat reality can keep us stuck — and how learning to sit with life as it is builds resilience, clarity, and self-trust. Because the people who grow the most aren’t the ones who avoid bitterness… They’re the ones who learn to taste it without running. Sometimes it’s bitter. But it’s still...
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Leadership Starts With Ownership
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
Leadership isn’t a title — it’s an identity. In this episode, we break down what real leadership actually looks like and why it always starts with self-leadership. We talk about: Why ownership is the foundation of leadership How lack of clarity creates dysfunction The role ego plays in poor leadership Why emotional regulation is a leadership skill How leaders set the tone in every environment If you’re leading a business, a family, a relationship, or yourself, this conversation will challenge you to look at where responsibility actually belongs. Because you don’t get to...
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If It’s Not a Yes, It’s a Situationship
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
This week, we’re talking about situationships—and why so many people stay stuck in them far longer than they want to admit. If you’ve ever been in something that felt like a relationship but was never clearly defined… If you’ve been emotionally invested while the other person stayed vague, inconsistent, or noncommittal… If you kept hoping clarity, effort, or commitment would eventually come… This episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface in situationships, including: Why situationships feel so hard to leave, even when they’re painful ...
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When Hustle Turns Into Burnout
Aligned & A Little Unhinged
High performers don’t quit. They just slowly lose themselves trying to hold everything together. Burnout doesn’t show up as collapse at first. It shows up as irritability. Brain fog. Emotional numbness. Resentment toward the life you worked so hard to build. In this episode, we break down: • Why burnout is common in driven, capable people • How “pushing through” actually makes it worse • What to do when rest doesn’t even feel restful anymore • And how to rebuild capacity without losing your edge This isn’t about doing less. It’s about learning how to sustain more —...
info_outlineThere are two voices inside you, the bully and the hero.
In this episode of Aligned & A Little Unhinged, we break down how these two identities show up in your everyday life, shaping your decisions, your confidence, and the way you see yourself.
The bully is the voice that criticizes, doubts, and keeps you small.
The hero is the one that leads, takes ownership, and follows through, even when it’s uncomfortable.
We talk about how most people unknowingly let the bully run the show, and how that keeps them stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, inconsistency, and low self-trust.
But we also dive into how to shift, how to start building the hero within you through awareness, discipline, and keeping promises to yourself.
Because the life you want isn’t built by the bully.
It’s built by the version of you who shows up anyway.
If you’ve been stuck in your head, doubting yourself, or feeling like you’re your own worst enemy… this episode will hit.