Planning For Aging When You're Unconventional--Author & Counselor Kathy Labriola
Release Date: 03/07/2023
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info_outlineContinuing on a similar theme as the baby decision episodes, I wanted to have a conversation about what aging while child-free (and/or unmarried, and/or nonmonogamous, and/or without a stable job) might look like. I'm joined again by the counselor and author Kathy Labriola, who you might recognize from last season's episode, Help Dealing With Jealousy in Relationships & Career, as well as from my book, Open.
Not only does Kathy have an excellent new book out about aging while nonmonogamous, Polyamorous Elders, but she is herself a badass example of aging while unconventional. She is queer, child-free, and has multiple partners-- but is married to none.
In this super practical conversation, we talk about many different things to consider when aging outside the box, including:
--Differences in civil rights granted in a domestic partnership versus marriage
--Different things even younger people need to do, like filling out advanced care directives, writing a will, and thinking about long-term care insurance
--Thinking about housing long-term, and how to pay for it if you're not rich
--Why having a child is not a guarantee or even good insurance that you will be taken care of in old age
--How she has set up her life and practice to operate outside of traditional capitalist structures
And much more!
I am always inspired by Kathy, and I know this conversation gave me a long list of things to do and think about. I hope it helps you too!
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