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Tension Changed My Life

Punk Rock Therapy

Release Date: 11/17/2025

These Go to 11 show art These Go to 11

Punk Rock Therapy

In this final episode of Season One, Josh pulls together the through-line that runs through the entire Punk Rock Therapy project — the uncomfortable truth that what we want most in life is usually found in the place we least want to look.   He reflects on his own work with anger, the parts of ourselves we exile, and how our wounds don’t disappear just because we ignore them. The places inside us that scare us, embarrass us, or feel “too much” are often the exact places where our power and presence are hiding.   This episode is about embracing the contradictions that real...

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Punk Rock Therapy

In this episode, Josh breaks down a painful pattern that shows up again and again in relationships — finding yourself in the same fight, with a different person, and wondering what’s wrong with you.   Using Muhammad Ali’s obsession with rematching Joe Frazier, Josh explains why we’re drawn back to the people and dynamics that hurt us the most. Not because we’re broken, but because our nervous system is looking for a rematch — the same fight, this time with a different outcome.   He explores how childhood wounds quietly shape adult attraction, why “chemistry” can be a...

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In this episode, Josh talks about one of the most common and least dramatic ways relationships fall apart — not through blowups, betrayal, or big moments, but through not being heard.   Drawing from a real couples session, he explains how two opposite experiences can be happening at the same time, and how one partner slowly loses themselves when their inner world goes unseen. Over time, that invisibility adds up — not in one fatal wound, but in hundreds of small cuts.   Josh breaks down why feeling unheard is so corrosive to intimacy, why defensiveness kills connection, and how...

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Trauma, Trauma, Trauma-Everbody Loves Trauma! show art Trauma, Trauma, Trauma-Everbody Loves Trauma!

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In this episode, Josh breaks down the most overused, eye-roll-inducing word in the therapy world — trauma — and explains why people shut down around it.   Instead of treating trauma like a dramatic label, he reframes it as something much simpler: the natural way a wildly sensitive nervous system gets “knocked out of tune” in childhood. We aren’t broken — we were Stradivarius violins asked to survive in blizzards.   Josh explores the danger of becoming the opposite — a cinder block who feels nothing — and why ignoring the sensitive parts of ourselves only gives those...

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In this episode, Josh tells the story of two boys on a playground — a story that becomes a metaphor for what so many men unknowingly do in their adult relationships.   He explains how men often exile the wounded, insecure part of themselves and instead chase the “cool kids”: success, achievement, and romantic validation. Those things feel like salvation, like proof that we never have to face the old pain again.   But when work disappoints us or a partner pulls away, the reaction — rage, collapse, panic — comes from that abandoned kid inside who suddenly gets exposed again....

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Power: Now with 100% More Surrender show art Power: Now with 100% More Surrender

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  In this episode, Josh breaks down the real source of power — and why it has nothing to do with force, dominance, or pushing harder.   Using the image of two men stepping into a cold shower, he shows how tension, resistance, and bracing yourself against experience actually make you weaker. Real power comes from the opposite: surrender. Dropping the shoulders. Breathing. Letting things be what they are instead of fighting reality.   Josh explains why men often lose their power by acting like “little boys,” why women feel it immediately, and why surrender — not force —...

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Out of Our Wounds Grows a Theme show art Out of Our Wounds Grows a Theme

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In this episode, Josh tells the story of a successful man who spent his entire life feeling like a fraud — and how that feeling traced all the way back to one childhood wound.   He explains why every one of us has a theme that grows out of our earliest pain, and how those themes quietly repeat themselves through adulthood: invisibility, control, worth tied to achievement, fear of abandonment, and more.   Josh breaks down how these themes shape our relationships, careers, and internal narratives — and why the only way to stop being ruled by them is to finally recognize them....

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In this episode, Josh talks about why dependency isn’t a weakness — it’s human biology. He explores how we’re born needing connection, how early experiences of having no one to depend on shape us, and why so many people fear relying on anything good. Through stories of mentors, training, and patients who “don’t want to get dependent,” Josh reframes dependency as a source of growth rather than shame. Real strength isn’t doing it all alone — it’s knowing what (and who) you can lean on.

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Punk Rock Therapy

We avoid tension because it feels like a problem, but it’s often the thing trying to grow us. In this episode, Josh unpacks why anxiety, fear, and frustration aren’t warnings to retreat—they’re invitations to step into the moments we’ve been dodging.   Drawing from Freud, Marcus Aurelius, and real patient stories, he shows how pain ignored turns inward, but pain faced becomes movement. The obstacle isn’t blocking your path—it is the path.

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Your Therapy's In My Yoga, Your Yoga's in My Therapy show art Your Therapy's In My Yoga, Your Yoga's in My Therapy

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In this episode, Josh talks about the point where therapy ends and practice begins. He unpacks the idea that “we do enough therapy until we can engage in the yoga” — that healing only takes us so far before we have to stretch back into life.   Whether it’s showing up differently in a relationship, taking a risk at work, or finally slowing down, growth only happens when we move between the two worlds — therapy and practice. Because if you’re only doing therapy, you’re hiding. And if you’re only doing practice, you’re bypassing.   The magic is in the stretch between...

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We avoid tension because it feels like a problem, but it’s often the thing trying to grow us. In this episode, Josh unpacks why anxiety, fear, and frustration aren’t warnings to retreat—they’re invitations to step into the moments we’ve been dodging.

 

Drawing from Freud, Marcus Aurelius, and real patient stories, he shows how pain ignored turns inward, but pain faced becomes movement. The obstacle isn’t blocking your path—it is the path.