.50 the nuance party: when focusing on communication can do more harm than good
Release Date: 11/04/2024
.75 youāre not his mother: how to stop parenting your husband and lighten your load
Own Your Revival
Feeling like youāre parenting a grown man with a beard and a Costco membership? If youāre the one managing the calendar, fixing problems, and carrying the emotional load in your marriage, this episode is for you. In āYouāre Not His Mother: How to Stop Parenting Your Husband and Lighten Your Load,ā we dive into the commonābut often unspokenāparent-child dynamic that can quietly take over marriages. Youāll learn how to: Recognize when youāre overfunctioning and mothering your spouse Start breaking the cycle by stepping back with courage and grace Reclaim your energy and...
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.74 should I leave or stay? what strength really looks like in a destructive relationship
Own Your Revival
Iāll never tell you whether to stay or leave a relationshipāthatās a deeply personal decision, and safety always comes first. What I will say is that sometimes, when one person starts to shiftāby speaking up, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with who they areāthe dynamic can begin to change. In this episode, I share a moment at the gym that unexpectedly mirrored what real strength looks like in hard relationships. Itās not always in the dramatic decisions. Sometimes the flex is in the small repsādone with intention, clarity, and truth. š If this conversation...
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.73 is it trauma or unforgiveness? a conversation on healing and wholeness
Own Your Revival
In todayās episode, Iām joined by Ashley Montag, MS, LIMHP, LMFTāa Catholic therapist and founder of āfor a rich and grace-filled conversation about what true healing looks like: mind, body, and soul. We talk about the difference between trauma and unforgiveness, and why the feelings that surface when we see someone from our past donāt necessarily mean weāre doing something wrong. Ashley shares powerful, compassionate insights about being fully seen by God and learning to live from your true identity, even when old wounds resurface. If youāve ever asked yourself, āWhy does it...
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.72 breaking free: identifying personal contributions to relationship challenges
Own Your Revival
When you're ināor recovering fromāa destructive relationship, especially while trying to co-parent, itās tempting to focus solely on the other personās behavior. But what if one of the most powerful paths to healing is found in taking an honest look at your part? In this episode, we dive into a deeper examen of how we may unknowingly contribute to the relational patterns we desperately want to break. This isnāt about blameāitās about awareness, growth, and the freedom that comes from doing things differently moving forward. This conversation is raw, real, and rooted in...
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.71 3 ways to find peace when big moments don't go as planned š
Own Your Revival
In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the emotional complexities that arise when significant life events don't unfold as envisioned. Whether it's a milestone celebration, a family gathering, or any pivotal moment, unmet expectations can leave us feeling disappointed and emotionally drained. You're not alone in this experience. Join us as we explore three comforting truths that can help you navigate these feelings, embrace the beauty in imperfection, and find peace amidst the chaos. Let's shift the focus from perfection to presence and discover the profound impact of showing up...
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.70 emotional whiplash in toxic relationships: why big moments get hijacked by outbursts
Own Your Revival
Ever find yourself bracing before holidays, birthdays, or big life eventsāwondering if someone is going to ruin it again? Youāre not alone. In this episode, weāre digging into a pattern I call emotional whiplashāthose sudden outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere right before something good. Weāll explore why it happens, whatās really going on, and how to start protecting your peace even if someone else refuses to change. This one is especially for the woman who thinks sheās crazy for dreading the moments that are supposed to bring joy. Youāre not crazy. Youāre waking up....
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.69 (guest) from silence to strength; one woman's journey through divorce with Lauren Louque
Own Your Revival
Todayās episode is one that I know will stay with you. Iām joined by Lauren from Louisianaāthe first guest Iāve had on the show who I met out on the interwebsāand Iāve completely fallen in love with her beautiful faith, her mindful way of sharing her story, and (letās be honest) her pursuit of the perfect king cake. Sheās a mama of four, and in this conversation, she opens up about the silence she once kept around the pain in her marriage, the mixed responses she received when she finally spoke up, and the slow, sometimes lonely process of finding people who could truly enter...
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.68 when clarity comes after action: why starting matters more than knowing
Own Your Revival
Someone recently asked me how to find a spiritual director, and I shared the best advice I ever got: Even when you think youāve found the right one, meet with them a few times before you decide. That wisdom has echoed in so many other areas of life. Because often, we want clarity before we take action. But what if the clarity only comes after weāve had the courage to show up, take the next step, and trust the process? In this episode, Iām sharing the tender truth of what it means to move forward without all the answersāand how transformation unfolds one faithful step at a time. š«...
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67. (divorce) š¤Æ when co-parenting doesn't work
Own Your Revival
In todayās episode, weāre diving into a tough topic: when coparenting isnāt working. You may have found yourself stuck in a situation where communication is broken, and cooperation feels impossible. While coparenting is the ideal, itās not always achievable. So, what do you do when itās just not working? In this episode, Iāll explore the concept of parallel parenting, how to shift your approach, and what you can do to create a peaceful environment for your kidsāeven when the other parent isnāt on board. Letās talk about how you can regain control, set boundaries, and build...
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66. š breaking free from why: the key to becoming a change agent in your life
Own Your Revival
In todayās episode, we dive into the powerful shift from asking "Why?" to embracing the bigger questions that lead to real change in your life. We often get stuck in the cycle of wondering why things happen or why people act the way they do, but this focus on āwhyā keeps us from stepping into the role of a change agent in our own lives. Iāll walk you through how shifting your perspective can help you take control, make powerful choices, and move toward the transformation youāre seeking. Whether you see yourself as a leader or not, this episode will encourage you to take action and...
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Have you ever been in a relationship where communication was emphasized as the primary solution, but it didn't lead to the improvements you hoped for? If so, have you found do you yourself questioning your own feelings or instincts in a relationship when someone suggests that as the key to resolving the underlying issues? If so, welcome to the nuance party on when (the focus on) communication can lead to more harm than good and 4 key questions (by way of Dr. Ramaniās video, āNarcissistic relationships RUIN your COMMUNICATION SKILLSā to help determine when focusing on communication IS helpful.
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