Episode #98 My Job Needs Me, So They Should Treat Me Better
Release Date: 08/16/2024
The Out of Control Feeling
The Grieving Nurse
Grief makes us feel like we are out of control. We do or say things that we wouldn't normally do. This episode I break down what happens when we act like that. Usually if we back track we can pin point the moment that we first started to feel out of control or like a failure. We try to push it away until we no longer can, when then it comes out in a way we don't want it to. Get help walking through your grief journey. Book a free grief consult .
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Grief with a Complex Relationship
The Grieving Nurse
Grief can have many layers. Grief especially can have layers when you had a complex relationship with the person you are grieving. Maybe there was abuse or abandonment. You might feel like you aren't affected at all. Then you might wonder if you are heartless or if there is something wrong with you. People might tell you that you should be happy this person is dead, but you don't feel that way. You feel sad and don't know why. This episode I talk through those feelings with you. It is normal to feel this way. Book a free grief consult
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Grief Associated With Alzheimer's
The Grieving Nurse
Watching your loved one slowly fade away over time is it's own sort of torture. This is true with cancer. This is especially true with diseases such as Alzheimers, Parkinson's, ALS, and Huntington's disease. This episode I specifically talk about Alzheimers because of the way the disease progresses. Your loved one can forget who you are years before they die. You want their suffering to stop. You want your suffering to stop. Then you feel guilty because you don't want them to die and can't believe you thought that. This a natural response. Thinking this doesn't not make you a horrible person....
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Anticipatory Grief with Erin Whalen, CEO of Compassionate Coaching
The Grieving Nurse
Sometimes the loneliest part of grief is that we don't understand that what we are feeling or experiencing. Something feels off, but it doesn't have a name. It just feels like a hovering, looming, broken feeling. This episode I talk with Erin Whalen. She founded the company, Compassionate Coaching, where they use improv theater to help others through their grief. Erin lived with anticipatory grief for 40 years, not knowing or undertanding what it was. Her company host online group events where people come to share their unique grief experience. Erin and a variety of other actors play back your...
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When People Stop Caring or Checking In
The Grieving Nurse
After a loved one dies a lot of people reach out to offer prayers and well wishes. Then it seems like over night, people disappear. You are left alone. You want support but you don't know how to ask for it. Or you think people should just know what you need. This episode I help you though the days when people stop showing up. You get easy, tangible steps to know what you need, when you need it. I'll show you ways to feel better when others don't know how to help. Book a free discovery call .
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What To Say At A Funeral
The Grieving Nurse
Death makes people uncomfortable. You have a friend who just had a loved one die and you don't know what to say to them. You don't want to make them feel worse, so you say the clique things. This can leave the griever feeling like a burden, overwhelmed, isolated, and lonely. You want to help but don't know how. This episode I walk you through what to say at a funeral. I give you a list of things you can do to help and support someone in grief. If you are the griever, I show you how you can get support from your family and friends instead of expecting them to know what to do.
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Grief Over Relationship Loss
The Grieving Nurse
Grief doesn't always mean someone has died. Grief is a normal response to a major loss. Marriage betrayal or divorce is a major loss. The end of a relationship is a major loss. You can experience the normal grief stages and not even realizes this is happening. This episode I talk about how to handle this kind of grief. This grief can cut as deep but not receive the support from others around you.
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I Feel Selfish In My Grief
The Grieving Nurse
When people are dying/die, there a lot of people that come out of the woodwork. This may feel comforting or it can make you feel selfish. You don't want to share your loved one with people that hardly knew them. We can let this selfishness affect us mentally. It can also affect others around us who are trying to support us and care for us. This episode I talk about how feeling selfish is normal. I walk you through what to do with that feeling so you don't take it out on others around you. Book a
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I Can't Grieve
The Grieving Nurse
After a loved one dies most people go through a stage where you feel numb. You feel like you can't grieve. Like the death is not real, or that it hasn't hit you yet. This episode I talk about why that happens and how to handle that. Are you struggling and don't know if your grief is normal. Book a free consult
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No One Understands My Grief
The Grieving Nurse
When your loved on dies, you feel alone. You try to talk about your pain and people say things like "they are in a better place," or "they wouldn't want you to be sad." This does not help. You feel pushed away, isolated, and lonely. You try not to cry in front of people or you wait until you are in the shower to cry. This episode I teach you how to allow those emotions. How to know exactly what to do to make yourself feel better in those situations. I teach you how to communicate with your family and friends so they know what to say and do to support you. Book a free consult
info_outlineWe have all thought this at one time or another. When the nursing profession is so short staffed, we start to think that our employer needs us, more than we need them. That may be statistically true. However, the way we show up when we start to think this way, is usually not very kind or nice.
This episode I talk through a bridge thought. How to get from the thought you are currently having to one that makes you feel better. A thought can be the difference between dreading going to work every day and loving your job. A thought can be the difference between biting your tongue, or lashing out at someone.
Changing a thought can be so easy, and yet so difficult at the same time. A coach is the person who helps walk you through this process. You are able to more clearly discern if you are to stay in this job or follow a calling to another one.