The Grieving Nurse

I’m Nichole Haugen, and I’m here to support families facing anticipatory grief and loss. Join me as we share real stories and practical advice to help you navigate this challenging journey. You are not crazy. Grief triggers are real. You’re not alone—let’s walk through this together."

I Have Lost Interest In Everything 02/21/2025

I Have Lost Interest In Everything You don't want to die, but you have no interest in anything either. Things that used to bring you joy, now make you feel nothing. It feels like you are walking through mud with your mind. This episode I talk abou this feeling and what to do about it. Get help on the go with . A walkie-talkie app to get support for your grief as it occurs. Click the link, be sure to fill out the phone number portion. Download Voxer (free app). Get good sleep /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35275785

Going Back To Work After Death Of Loved One 02/14/2025

Going Back To Work After Death Of Loved One The bills keep coming even if your world feels like it has ended. You know that you need to make money but you don't feel ready to go back to work. This episode I talk you through how to know if you are ready to go back to work. If you aren't ready but the bills still need to be paid, I walk you through how to handle being back at work. Get help on the go with . A walkie-talkie on your phone so you can message me any time day or night to get help with grief. Want to get good sleep again? Sign up for my . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35274845

I Am Struggling To Go Through Their Things 02/07/2025

I Am Struggling To Go Through Their Things When people die there are a lot of things left behind. Their clothes, jewelry, shoes, trinkets, and paperwork. This list could go on and on. When you start going through your loved ones things a lot of feelings come up. It feels like you are losing that person all over again. This episode I talk about those feelings. You can feel like there is something wrong with you because everyone is telling you that you should do this. Or you feel like you should be doing this and be fine with it. It's ok not to be ok. I teach you how to process these emotions. Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35148520

I Am Not Ready To Go Through Their Things 01/31/2025

I Am Not Ready To Go Through Their Things After your loved one dies there are things to take care of and go through. So often we don't feel ready but there is a pressure to do this. This episode I talk about how to know that you are ready and what to do if you are not. This is not a race that you need to hurry through. Get support . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35086880

When the Glue Holding the Family Together Dies 01/24/2025

When the Glue Holding the Family Together Dies Relationships change after your loved one dies. People that you thought would be there for you are no longer there. You try to distance yourself from these people. You feel guilty and feel like you are failing your loved one. This episode I talk about how relationships shift and change after a death. Sometimes it can be good. Sometimes it can be bad. I help you navigate this unexpected side affect of death of a loved one. Book a free grief consult call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34966385

What To Do on Birthdays 01/17/2025

What To Do on Birthdays It's your first birthday since your loved one had died. You don't feel like celebrating. People tell you that they would want you to be happy. You know that, but you just feel sad. This episode I help you through your birthday or your loved ones birthday. You want to keep living but things feel harder and more lonely now. You feel like there is something wrong with you. Let's normalize our grief. Book a free online grief consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34882015

My Grief Isn't As Bad As Theirs 01/10/2025

My Grief Isn't As Bad As Theirs You think that you shouldn't be as upset as you are because this isn't true grief. Other people are going through so much worse. You are fine. This episode I talk about what happens when we believe that. Our grief comes out in other ways that we may not even realize. I help you know what to do about that. Grief is a normal response to a major loss. It doesn't matter if others think it's major. What matters is that it's major to you. Book a to talk through your grief. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34759240

Grief in the New Year 01/03/2025

Grief in the New Year We think that the New Year should help our grief be better. We feel bad because we don't. Then after December people stop checking in. This feels so isolating and lonely. This episode I talk about the new year and what that can mean for your grief. Starting January 15th join me for 24 hour access coaching. You know something needs to change and you don't know what to do. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34698140

I Feel So Guilty 12/27/2024

I Feel So Guilty The guilt you feel after a loved one has died can be crushing. Others try to reassure you that there was nothing you could have done but you don't believe it. You feel this pressure that you should have saved them. You should have done more. You should have known. This episode I talk about the different types of guilt after a loved one has died. This guilt is normal but we tend to get stuck in it. Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34473685

I Am Alone 12/20/2024

I Am Alone Grief can feel very isolating and lonely. How do you move on when you really don't have anyone else. What if your loved one was the only person in your life? This episode I talk about what life can look like when you are the only one left. Book a /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34473520

The Out of Control Feeling 12/13/2024

The Out of Control Feeling Grief makes us feel like we are out of control. We do or say things that we wouldn't normally do. This episode I break down what happens when we act like that. Usually if we back track we can pin point the moment that we first started to feel out of control or like a failure. We try to push it away until we no longer can, when then it comes out in a way we don't want it to. Get help walking through your grief journey. Book a free grief consult . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34397940

Grief with a Complex Relationship 12/06/2024

Grief with a Complex Relationship Grief can have many layers. Grief especially can have layers when you had a complex relationship with the person you are grieving. Maybe there was abuse or abandonment. You might feel like you aren't affected at all. Then you might wonder if you are heartless or if there is something wrong with you. People might tell you that you should be happy this person is dead, but you don't feel that way. You feel sad and don't know why. This episode I talk through those feelings with you. It is normal to feel this way. Book a free grief consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34303175

Grief Associated With Alzheimer's 11/29/2024

Grief Associated With Alzheimer's Watching your loved one slowly fade away over time is it's own sort of torture. This is true with cancer. This is especially true with diseases such as Alzheimers, Parkinson's, ALS, and Huntington's disease. This episode I specifically talk about Alzheimers because of the way the disease progresses. Your loved one can forget who you are years before they die. You want their suffering to stop. You want your suffering to stop. Then you feel guilty because you don't want them to die and can't believe you thought that. This a natural response. Thinking this doesn't not make you a horrible person. In fact, I have found that often the opposite is true. You love so deeply and that makes you a wonderful, beautiful person. Book a to talk through this pain with someone who understands. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34163715

Anticipatory Grief with Erin Whalen, CEO of Compassionate Coaching 11/22/2024

Anticipatory Grief with Erin Whalen, CEO of Compassionate Coaching Sometimes the loneliest part of grief is that we don't understand that what we are feeling or experiencing. Something feels off, but it doesn't have a name. It just feels like a hovering, looming, broken feeling. This episode I talk with Erin Whalen. She founded the company, Compassionate Coaching, where they use improv theater to help others through their grief. Erin lived with anticipatory grief for 40 years, not knowing or undertanding what it was. Her company host online group events where people come to share their unique grief experience. Erin and a variety of other actors play back your story through music, movement, and drama. It is a very powerful and moving experience. You see that you are not alone. You see that others have a common thread in their grief. You have community and don't feel so alone. Everyone is different in their grief. Book a free online consult with me to find ways that you can start to navigate your unique grief. Want to work with Erin and learn more about Grief Improv Theater? /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33946892

When People Stop Caring or Checking In 11/15/2024

When People Stop Caring or Checking In After a loved one dies a lot of people reach out to offer prayers and well wishes. Then it seems like over night, people disappear. You are left alone. You want support but you don't know how to ask for it. Or you think people should just know what you need. This episode I help you though the days when people stop showing up. You get easy, tangible steps to know what you need, when you need it. I'll show you ways to feel better when others don't know how to help. Book a free discovery call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33936367

What To Say At A Funeral 11/08/2024

What To Say At A Funeral Death makes people uncomfortable. You have a friend who just had a loved one die and you don't know what to say to them. You don't want to make them feel worse, so you say the clique things. This can leave the griever feeling like a burden, overwhelmed, isolated, and lonely. You want to help but don't know how. This episode I walk you through what to say at a funeral. I give you a list of things you can do to help and support someone in grief. If you are the griever, I show you how you can get support from your family and friends instead of expecting them to know what to do. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33707862

Grief Over Relationship Loss 11/01/2024

Grief Over Relationship Loss Grief doesn't always mean someone has died. Grief is a normal response to a major loss. Marriage betrayal or divorce is a major loss. The end of a relationship is a major loss. You can experience the normal grief stages and not even realizes this is happening. This episode I talk about how to handle this kind of grief. This grief can cut as deep but not receive the support from others around you. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33707502

I Feel Selfish In My Grief 10/25/2024

I Feel Selfish In My Grief When people are dying/die, there a lot of people that come out of the woodwork. This may feel comforting or it can make you feel selfish. You don't want to share your loved one with people that hardly knew them. We can let this selfishness affect us mentally. It can also affect others around us who are trying to support us and care for us. This episode I talk about how feeling selfish is normal. I walk you through what to do with that feeling so you don't take it out on others around you. Book a /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33602892

I Can't Grieve 10/18/2024

I Can't Grieve After a loved one dies most people go through a stage where you feel numb. You feel like you can't grieve. Like the death is not real, or that it hasn't hit you yet. This episode I talk about why that happens and how to handle that. Are you struggling and don't know if your grief is normal. Book a free consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33407007

No One Understands My Grief 10/11/2024

No One Understands My Grief When your loved on dies, you feel alone. You try to talk about your pain and people say things like "they are in a better place," or "they wouldn't want you to be sad." This does not help. You feel pushed away, isolated, and lonely. You try not to cry in front of people or you wait until you are in the shower to cry. This episode I teach you how to allow those emotions. How to know exactly what to do to make yourself feel better in those situations. I teach you how to communicate with your family and friends so they know what to say and do to support you. Book a free consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33406672

My Grief Story 10/04/2024

My Grief Story This episode I talk about my grief journey and why I wanted to help people who are struggling with grief. Grief is hard, but you don't have to go it alone. Book a free consult call. I will help you get through the hard days. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33333502

Episode #100 The First Time I Felt Grief As A Nurse 08/30/2024

Episode #100 The First Time I Felt Grief As A Nurse Celebrate episode #100 with me! I have been reflecting on how far I have come since my first podcast. This summer I have been discerning the gifts and talents that God has given me and what he is calling me to. This episode I talk about the first time I remember feeling grief as a nurse. How heavy that felt and how I just kept going and didn't process that. I cover the upcoming changes to my podcast and business. I have dealt with a lot of death in my life. With the loss of loved ones and also working as a hospice nurse. Moving forward I will be offering strategies and techniques on the grief that nurses go through. When a patient dies, often you feel alone and work offers no repreave. I will help you when you can't stop thinking about it. I am so excited for this next chapter. You can book a free consult call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32797257

Episode #99 Healthy Habit Reset with Janna Kerr 08/23/2024

Episode #99 Healthy Habit Reset with Janna Kerr You rush through most days. You are busy taking care of others. At the end of the day you look back and realize that you didn't make good healthy choices. So you tell yourself that you will start tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and the same thing happens. This can turn into months or years of unhealthy, often neglectful habits. This episode I talk with Janna Kerr, she is an intagretive nutrition health coach. She has a free 10 day challenge starting September 9th, 2024. She helps you look at everything in your life that affects your health. Whether it be your faith, your career, or your home environment. She helps you implement simple doable steps to have a healthier life. Want to join the challenge? Sign up Looking for someone to share the load? Click to book a free consult call with me. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32697047

Episode #98 My Job Needs Me, So They Should Treat Me Better 08/16/2024

Episode #98 My Job Needs Me, So They Should Treat Me Better We have all thought this at one time or another. When the nursing profession is so short staffed, we start to think that our employer needs us, more than we need them. That may be statistically true. However, the way we show up when we start to think this way, is usually not very kind or nice. This episode I talk through a bridge thought. How to get from the thought you are currently having to one that makes you feel better. A thought can be the difference between dreading going to work every day and loving your job. A thought can be the difference between biting your tongue, or lashing out at someone. Changing a thought can be so easy, and yet so difficult at the same time. A coach is the person who helps walk you through this process. You are able to more clearly discern if you are to stay in this job or follow a calling to another one. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32597312

Episode #97 How To Help Your Husband Through A Difficult Time 08/09/2024

Episode #97 How To Help Your Husband Through A Difficult Time Your husband is going through a difficult time. Maybe it's his health and he seems depressed. Maybe his job is really at a difficult time right now and he is super stressed. You want to help but you don't really know what to do. He is on edge all the time and everything you say seems to make it worse. This episode I go through 4 steps that you can take to help make the situation better. You are not trying to change him and his feelings. I guide you through being a supportive wife and how to listen. Is your husband driving you crazy with how crabby he is all the time. Book a to get help. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091257

Episode #96 Self Care; It's Not As Hard As You Think 08/02/2024

Episode #96 Self Care; It's Not As Hard As You Think We hear about self-care all the time. What does it really mean? The world tells us that it should be a bubble bath and shopping. What if you don't like those things? This episode I talk about what self care truly is. It's not as hard as you think. It doesn't take as much time as you think. Feel like there has to be more to life than this? Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091147

Episode #95 Lukewarm Catholics 07/26/2024

Episode #95 Lukewarm Catholics You are very invested in your faith. Your Catholic faith is very important to you. It is so frustrating when you hear other Catholics say things that are really not what the Church believes. They base how they feel as the truth, instead of Church teachings as truth. This episode I talk about when I encountered this recently and what I did. Here are some practical things you can do in those moments. Do you worry about what is happening in the world? Does it feel like everyone is against the Catholic church and it's teachings? Does this make you spin in anxiety and stress. to see why you don't have to feel that way. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091032

Episode #94 Interview with Kyle Hein on The Temperaments 07/19/2024

Episode #94 Interview with Kyle Hein on The Temperaments There are four temperaments; sanguine, choleric, melancholic, and phlegmatic. We often have 2 that are more prominant than the other two. This can lead to conflicts amongst siblings, amongst spouses, and amongst co-workers. It's not that they are doing it wrong or that you are doing it wrong. It's that you honestly just can't see the other side of it. This episode I interview Kyle Hein, a fellow life coach, on the temperaments. She has taken courses and has experience in this area. She teaches you how to have more compassion for others and how to foster a relationship that works for both sides. Want a neutral place to voice your struggles and stresses in life? Book a with me. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32040062

Episode #93 I Have To Take Care Of Everything Myself 07/12/2024

Episode #93 I Have To Take Care Of Everything Myself I have to do everything myself. No one helps me. If I want something done, it is up to me. This is what I tell myself a lot. It leaves me feeling angry and frustrated. Some of it is true, but most of it is just me getting stuck on a thought. This episode I lead you through the 4 steps to take to get others to help you. I help you get out of those panic, overwhelm, anger, and frustrated feelings. These four steps are very simple and easy and help you have more control in your life. You are able to vocalize what you need so others can help. Struggling and feel like you have to do everything by yourself? Come and . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32053462

Episode #92 The Cost of Goals 07/05/2024

Episode #92 The Cost of Goals There is a cost to everything. Especially when it comes to weight loss we want to quit. We don't like the cost that it comes with. We want it to be easy and simple. It can be easy and simple but it also comes at a cost. The cost might be not eating gummy worms and ice cream at 10 pm. The cost might be saying no to dessert when you go out with your friends. Our brain likes to tell us that this is not worth it. First you need to see the cost and decided if it is worth it to you. If the outcome is going to be worth the cost, then go for it. If you decide the cost isn't worth it now or ever, then don't do it. This episode I walk you through the process of first figuring out the cost. Then you get to decide if it's worth it or not. Don't let your feelings of comfort dictate your life. and I will show you how discomfort can be the perfect feeling you need to make long, lasting, changes. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31965502

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