The Grieving Nurse

I’m Nichole Haugen, and I’m here to support families facing anticipatory grief and loss. Join me as we share real stories and practical advice to help you navigate this challenging journey. You are not crazy. Grief triggers are real. You’re not alone—let’s walk through this together."

The Out of Control Feeling 12/13/2024

The Out of Control Feeling Grief makes us feel like we are out of control. We do or say things that we wouldn't normally do. This episode I break down what happens when we act like that. Usually if we back track we can pin point the moment that we first started to feel out of control or like a failure. We try to push it away until we no longer can, when then it comes out in a way we don't want it to. Get help walking through your grief journey. Book a free grief consult . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34397940

Grief with a Complex Relationship 12/06/2024

Grief with a Complex Relationship Grief can have many layers. Grief especially can have layers when you had a complex relationship with the person you are grieving. Maybe there was abuse or abandonment. You might feel like you aren't affected at all. Then you might wonder if you are heartless or if there is something wrong with you. People might tell you that you should be happy this person is dead, but you don't feel that way. You feel sad and don't know why. This episode I talk through those feelings with you. It is normal to feel this way. Book a free grief consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34303175

Grief Associated With Alzheimer's 11/29/2024

Grief Associated With Alzheimer's Watching your loved one slowly fade away over time is it's own sort of torture. This is true with cancer. This is especially true with diseases such as Alzheimers, Parkinson's, ALS, and Huntington's disease. This episode I specifically talk about Alzheimers because of the way the disease progresses. Your loved one can forget who you are years before they die. You want their suffering to stop. You want your suffering to stop. Then you feel guilty because you don't want them to die and can't believe you thought that. This a natural response. Thinking this doesn't not make you a horrible person. In fact, I have found that often the opposite is true. You love so deeply and that makes you a wonderful, beautiful person. Book a to talk through this pain with someone who understands. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34163715

Anticipatory Grief with Erin Whalen, CEO of Compassionate Coaching 11/22/2024

Anticipatory Grief with Erin Whalen, CEO of Compassionate Coaching Sometimes the loneliest part of grief is that we don't understand that what we are feeling or experiencing. Something feels off, but it doesn't have a name. It just feels like a hovering, looming, broken feeling. This episode I talk with Erin Whalen. She founded the company, Compassionate Coaching, where they use improv theater to help others through their grief. Erin lived with anticipatory grief for 40 years, not knowing or undertanding what it was. Her company host online group events where people come to share their unique grief experience. Erin and a variety of other actors play back your story through music, movement, and drama. It is a very powerful and moving experience. You see that you are not alone. You see that others have a common thread in their grief. You have community and don't feel so alone. Everyone is different in their grief. Book a free online consult with me to find ways that you can start to navigate your unique grief. Want to work with Erin and learn more about Grief Improv Theater? /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33946892

When People Stop Caring or Checking In 11/15/2024

When People Stop Caring or Checking In After a loved one dies a lot of people reach out to offer prayers and well wishes. Then it seems like over night, people disappear. You are left alone. You want support but you don't know how to ask for it. Or you think people should just know what you need. This episode I help you though the days when people stop showing up. You get easy, tangible steps to know what you need, when you need it. I'll show you ways to feel better when others don't know how to help. Book a free discovery call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33936367

What To Say At A Funeral 11/08/2024

What To Say At A Funeral Death makes people uncomfortable. You have a friend who just had a loved one die and you don't know what to say to them. You don't want to make them feel worse, so you say the clique things. This can leave the griever feeling like a burden, overwhelmed, isolated, and lonely. You want to help but don't know how. This episode I walk you through what to say at a funeral. I give you a list of things you can do to help and support someone in grief. If you are the griever, I show you how you can get support from your family and friends instead of expecting them to know what to do. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33707862

Grief Over Relationship Loss 11/01/2024

Grief Over Relationship Loss Grief doesn't always mean someone has died. Grief is a normal response to a major loss. Marriage betrayal or divorce is a major loss. The end of a relationship is a major loss. You can experience the normal grief stages and not even realizes this is happening. This episode I talk about how to handle this kind of grief. This grief can cut as deep but not receive the support from others around you. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33707502

I Feel Selfish In My Grief 10/25/2024

I Feel Selfish In My Grief When people are dying/die, there a lot of people that come out of the woodwork. This may feel comforting or it can make you feel selfish. You don't want to share your loved one with people that hardly knew them. We can let this selfishness affect us mentally. It can also affect others around us who are trying to support us and care for us. This episode I talk about how feeling selfish is normal. I walk you through what to do with that feeling so you don't take it out on others around you. Book a /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33602892

I Can't Grieve 10/18/2024

I Can't Grieve After a loved one dies most people go through a stage where you feel numb. You feel like you can't grieve. Like the death is not real, or that it hasn't hit you yet. This episode I talk about why that happens and how to handle that. Are you struggling and don't know if your grief is normal. Book a free consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33407007

No One Understands My Grief 10/11/2024

No One Understands My Grief When your loved on dies, you feel alone. You try to talk about your pain and people say things like "they are in a better place," or "they wouldn't want you to be sad." This does not help. You feel pushed away, isolated, and lonely. You try not to cry in front of people or you wait until you are in the shower to cry. This episode I teach you how to allow those emotions. How to know exactly what to do to make yourself feel better in those situations. I teach you how to communicate with your family and friends so they know what to say and do to support you. Book a free consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33406672

My Grief Story 10/04/2024

My Grief Story This episode I talk about my grief journey and why I wanted to help people who are struggling with grief. Grief is hard, but you don't have to go it alone. Book a free consult call. I will help you get through the hard days. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/33333502

Episode #100 The First Time I Felt Grief As A Nurse 08/30/2024

Episode #100 The First Time I Felt Grief As A Nurse Celebrate episode #100 with me! I have been reflecting on how far I have come since my first podcast. This summer I have been discerning the gifts and talents that God has given me and what he is calling me to. This episode I talk about the first time I remember feeling grief as a nurse. How heavy that felt and how I just kept going and didn't process that. I cover the upcoming changes to my podcast and business. I have dealt with a lot of death in my life. With the loss of loved ones and also working as a hospice nurse. Moving forward I will be offering strategies and techniques on the grief that nurses go through. When a patient dies, often you feel alone and work offers no repreave. I will help you when you can't stop thinking about it. I am so excited for this next chapter. You can book a free consult call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32797257

Episode #99 Healthy Habit Reset with Janna Kerr 08/23/2024

Episode #99 Healthy Habit Reset with Janna Kerr You rush through most days. You are busy taking care of others. At the end of the day you look back and realize that you didn't make good healthy choices. So you tell yourself that you will start tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and the same thing happens. This can turn into months or years of unhealthy, often neglectful habits. This episode I talk with Janna Kerr, she is an intagretive nutrition health coach. She has a free 10 day challenge starting September 9th, 2024. She helps you look at everything in your life that affects your health. Whether it be your faith, your career, or your home environment. She helps you implement simple doable steps to have a healthier life. Want to join the challenge? Sign up Looking for someone to share the load? Click to book a free consult call with me. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32697047

Episode #98 My Job Needs Me, So They Should Treat Me Better 08/16/2024

Episode #98 My Job Needs Me, So They Should Treat Me Better We have all thought this at one time or another. When the nursing profession is so short staffed, we start to think that our employer needs us, more than we need them. That may be statistically true. However, the way we show up when we start to think this way, is usually not very kind or nice. This episode I talk through a bridge thought. How to get from the thought you are currently having to one that makes you feel better. A thought can be the difference between dreading going to work every day and loving your job. A thought can be the difference between biting your tongue, or lashing out at someone. Changing a thought can be so easy, and yet so difficult at the same time. A coach is the person who helps walk you through this process. You are able to more clearly discern if you are to stay in this job or follow a calling to another one. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32597312

Episode #97 How To Help Your Husband Through A Difficult Time 08/09/2024

Episode #97 How To Help Your Husband Through A Difficult Time Your husband is going through a difficult time. Maybe it's his health and he seems depressed. Maybe his job is really at a difficult time right now and he is super stressed. You want to help but you don't really know what to do. He is on edge all the time and everything you say seems to make it worse. This episode I go through 4 steps that you can take to help make the situation better. You are not trying to change him and his feelings. I guide you through being a supportive wife and how to listen. Is your husband driving you crazy with how crabby he is all the time. Book a to get help. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091257

Episode #96 Self Care; It's Not As Hard As You Think 08/02/2024

Episode #96 Self Care; It's Not As Hard As You Think We hear about self-care all the time. What does it really mean? The world tells us that it should be a bubble bath and shopping. What if you don't like those things? This episode I talk about what self care truly is. It's not as hard as you think. It doesn't take as much time as you think. Feel like there has to be more to life than this? Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091147

Episode #95 Lukewarm Catholics 07/26/2024

Episode #95 Lukewarm Catholics You are very invested in your faith. Your Catholic faith is very important to you. It is so frustrating when you hear other Catholics say things that are really not what the Church believes. They base how they feel as the truth, instead of Church teachings as truth. This episode I talk about when I encountered this recently and what I did. Here are some practical things you can do in those moments. Do you worry about what is happening in the world? Does it feel like everyone is against the Catholic church and it's teachings? Does this make you spin in anxiety and stress. to see why you don't have to feel that way. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32091032

Episode #94 Interview with Kyle Hein on The Temperaments 07/19/2024

Episode #94 Interview with Kyle Hein on The Temperaments There are four temperaments; sanguine, choleric, melancholic, and phlegmatic. We often have 2 that are more prominant than the other two. This can lead to conflicts amongst siblings, amongst spouses, and amongst co-workers. It's not that they are doing it wrong or that you are doing it wrong. It's that you honestly just can't see the other side of it. This episode I interview Kyle Hein, a fellow life coach, on the temperaments. She has taken courses and has experience in this area. She teaches you how to have more compassion for others and how to foster a relationship that works for both sides. Want a neutral place to voice your struggles and stresses in life? Book a with me. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32040062

Episode #93 I Have To Take Care Of Everything Myself 07/12/2024

Episode #93 I Have To Take Care Of Everything Myself I have to do everything myself. No one helps me. If I want something done, it is up to me. This is what I tell myself a lot. It leaves me feeling angry and frustrated. Some of it is true, but most of it is just me getting stuck on a thought. This episode I lead you through the 4 steps to take to get others to help you. I help you get out of those panic, overwhelm, anger, and frustrated feelings. These four steps are very simple and easy and help you have more control in your life. You are able to vocalize what you need so others can help. Struggling and feel like you have to do everything by yourself? Come and . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/32053462

Episode #92 The Cost of Goals 07/05/2024

Episode #92 The Cost of Goals There is a cost to everything. Especially when it comes to weight loss we want to quit. We don't like the cost that it comes with. We want it to be easy and simple. It can be easy and simple but it also comes at a cost. The cost might be not eating gummy worms and ice cream at 10 pm. The cost might be saying no to dessert when you go out with your friends. Our brain likes to tell us that this is not worth it. First you need to see the cost and decided if it is worth it to you. If the outcome is going to be worth the cost, then go for it. If you decide the cost isn't worth it now or ever, then don't do it. This episode I walk you through the process of first figuring out the cost. Then you get to decide if it's worth it or not. Don't let your feelings of comfort dictate your life. and I will show you how discomfort can be the perfect feeling you need to make long, lasting, changes. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31965502

Episode #91 The Joy of Creating 06/28/2024

Episode #91 The Joy of Creating You consume so much. More than you are even aware of. You consume knowledge. You consume products. You consume sports, TV, social media events, and vacations. You consume physical things like food and drink. This episode I talk about how consuming so much often leads us to feeling stuck, jealous, or trapped. You are made to create. We get dopamine from consuming but it is a dopamine that doesn't motivate. You also get dopamine from creating. The creative dopamine makes you want to create more. To do more. Not sure what you would create? Not sure you have the time? Book a with me and I will help you. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31919747

Episode #90 Interview with Brianna Fullmer and Reagan Valeria Foundation 06/21/2024

Episode #90 Interview with Brianna Fullmer and Reagan Valeria Foundation When Brianna was 26 weeks pregnant, her daugher, Reagan Valeria, was diagnosed with Congenital Diaphratic Hernia (CDH) in utero. Their life changed in that moment and she focused on finding the best possible care for their daughter. They moved to a different state to find a doctor that was experience with this diagnosis. This episode Brianna talks about the challenge of advocating for her daughter. How the diagnosis was not delivered in a kind way, and what advice she has for healthcare workers in these difficult situations. The Reagan Valeria Foundation helps families financially when their children are diagnosed with life threatening illnesses in utero. The foundation helps them navigate this stressful situation. Learn more about the /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31817867

Episode #89 Slow Success with Weight Loss 06/14/2024

Episode #89 Slow Success with Weight Loss We all want over night success. We want to believe that the commercials that talk about losing 14 pounds in 14 days work. We think that there is a secret thing that some people have and that's why they have overnight success. This episode I talk about slow success. Slow success is success that lasts. We can all have quick success, but in order for something to last it needs to be permanent change. This takes time. The example I give is with weight loss. What would you do to have slow success, and a permanent change, instead of having instant gratification. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31587732

Episode #88 Secret Pain 06/07/2024

Episode #88 Secret Pain You are going through life carrying around a secret pain. You know what I'm talking about. The one that keeps you from fully engaging in conversations. That keeps you in a fog and thinking about it all day long. The one that you are afraid if anyone finds out about it they won't like you. This episode I talk about the secret pain that a lot of us are carrying. I give you the steps on how to start to heal this pain. It doesn't work to try and ignore it. This just helps it grow and fester. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31586507

Episode #87 Interview with Rose Folsom from Virtue Connection 05/31/2024

Episode #87 Interview with Rose Folsom from Virtue Connection This episode I talk with Rose Folsom. Rose runs Virtue Connection. She helps Catholic professional easily find the time to connect with God in prayer and discover how to deal with distraction or obstacles. She provides some great tips for busy working moms. Her program helps you build your prayer life to find peace and confidence in every situation. Want to work with Rose- /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31406847

Episode #86 I Can't Keep Up, Yet I Keep Trying To Do More 05/24/2024

Episode #86 I Can't Keep Up, Yet I Keep Trying To Do More Usually this time of year means a shift in the schedules. Kids might be at home more. There are different activities this time of year. Or it's just Sunday night and you are stressed from all the things that need to get done this week. When you work in healthcare those tasks and to do lists can mean the difference between life and death. It can mean the difference between a happy patient or an angry patient. You tell yourself that you can't fail or forget anything. This episode I talk about what to do when you start to feel anxious about the upcoming days and weeks ahead. How you can plan for that. How you can stop scrolling on your phone. How to find little snippets of time that you can use efficiently and wisely. Most importantly, how to get your mind to stop constantly thinking about it. Want help with this? Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31406107

Episode #85 Lessons From a Broken Sump Pump 05/17/2024

Episode #85 Lessons From a Broken Sump Pump How do you handle the unexpected? What about when it involves a mess that you have to clean up and spending money? Do you get angry? Do you tell yourself how you should have seen this coming and beat yourself up (mentally)? This episode I talk about what happened when our sump pump stopped working. How I still managed to fit in everything I had planned for the day. I was able to see the blessings of the day and problem solve. I kept my temper with my children. I solved the problem and moved on. Want help? Click here to book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31337137

Episode #84 I Hate Making Decisions; Prudence 05/10/2024

Episode #84 I Hate Making Decisions; Prudence You constantly have decisions to make. Some are big, some are small. When it comes to the ones that feel big you don't want to get it wrong. You struggle with making a decision because you want to make sure it's the "right" decision, so in the end you do nothing. Or you are on the other end of spectrum. Maybe you are always making quick decisions, jumping in head first without much thought or reflection. Then you realize you have taken on too much and are stressed and overwhelmed. This episode I talk about prudence. How it is a Cardinal Virtue that helps us use reason to make a decision and to follow throught with it. Or how to slow down before we decide. Schedule a /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/31196557

Episode #83 Interview with Caroline Strzesynski from And Then There Were None Ministry 05/03/2024

Episode #83 Interview with Caroline Strzesynski from And Then There Were None Ministry Caroline Strzesynski worked in the abortion industry for almost 15 years. She provided care in the recovery room after surgical abortions and then later transferred to a Planned Parenthood that did not provide abortions but focused on birth control and preventative pregnancy measures. Caroline shares her incredible journey from working in a place of death to now working in a place of life, through midwifery. God was a persistent lover through it all working in different ways to guide her back to Him and to the Catholic church. Looking for someone to talk to? Book a free call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/30968553

Episode #82 Hurry Up!! 04/26/2024

Episode #82 Hurry Up!! This episode I talk about why most nurses I know have some sort of side hustle to bring in extra income. We want to hurry and have more money so we can have nicer things, fancier cars, go on nice vacations. The problem is that we make a habit of hurrying, we hurry through all of life. We don't take time to be present. As a nurse I was always hurrying to the next thing. I will help you slow down and be present. Click to visit with me. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/30955568

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