The Grieving Nurse

I’m Nichole Haugen, and I’m here to support families facing anticipatory grief and loss. Join me as we share real stories and practical advice to help you navigate this challenging journey. You are not crazy. Grief triggers are real. You’re not alone—let’s walk through this together."

It's Never Good Enough 06/27/2025

It's Never Good Enough It often feels like it's never enough. There are never enough finances, there is never enough time in the day, there is never enough rest, and everyone wants something from us. This can cause you to spiral and feeling like nothing is going right. Especially if you are tired or hungry. This episode I talk about how to recognize this for what it is. That your brain is made to look at all the negatives to keep you safe. This doesn't feel very good and sometimes can last for days or longer. Learn how to recognize this and how to feel better, faster. Want more tips? Go to to get help. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/37168585

I Have Gained So Much Weight 06/20/2025

I Have Gained So Much Weight When you are taking care of others, you forget to care for yourself. You are so tired and overwhelmed that you turn to food, or other vices to numb those feelings. You forget about what it is that you enjoy and love and instead just try to check out at the end of the day. This episode I talk about the first steps to take in caring for yourself. Starting small is enough. Instead of letting days, months, weeks and sometimes years go bye before we know something needs to change, I encourage you to start now. These tips are small, yet powerful. Want to get 1:1 coaching to help you lose weight? /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36975215

If Your Grief Was An Image 06/13/2025

If Your Grief Was An Image If your grief was an image what would it look like? What would that image have looked like 2 or 3 years ago? What does it presently look like? What could it look like in 3 years if you invited God into that space? This episode I walk you through an exercise to see what your grief looks like. How are you doing to heal yourself on your own? What ways does God want to be invited into that healing and you are turning away. Maybe you have invited him in, but his timeline looks different than yours. Join a community that understands you to find healing. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36974480

When Life Is Consumed With Death 06/06/2025

When Life Is Consumed With Death When someone dies, the immediate days that follow are consumed with death. There are arrangements to be made, and people to be notified. After a couple weeks all of that settles down. What do you do after the tasks have all been completed. What do you do with the silence that now seems to creep in. At first you didn't have time for the emotions, now they don't seem to want to stop. This episode I will talk through what to do next and what questions to start asking yourself. Join my . Find community without compromising your faith. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36870475

God, Where Were You? 05/30/2025

God, Where Were You? When you are grieving, you feel abandoned by God. You know that He is there but you don't feel Him. The pain is too great. This episode I talk about why it's OK to question God, how to look to scriptures and the Saints, how to pray in the midst of suffering and where to find hope. Join me for a Catholic grief group to find others going through the same struggles. The pain of missing your loved one is still there but you don't feel so alone. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36774950

No One Loves Me Like They Did 05/23/2025

No One Loves Me Like They Did Your loved one was your support system. They were the person you called when life was hard. They always said the right thing to make you feel better. Now that they are gone you feel like you have no one to lean on. You feel so alone. This episode I help you see the ways that you can support yourself so you don't need to feel alone. Everything isn't great. You still miss your loved one so much, you are sad, but you don't have that acute pain of loneliness to go along with it. Looking for even more support. Join a Catholic grief group to get support. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36596515

What To Do When Grief Sneaks Up On You 05/16/2025

What To Do When Grief Sneaks Up On You Grief is a tricky thing. Just when you think you have a handle on it, it does something else to throw you off guard. This episode I talk about how there are grief triggers that feel unexpected but have a pattern, therefore, we can have a plan to expect them. Learn 3 tips to help you figure out and plan for the grief pattern. Join a Catholic community that focuses on grief. Our next group starts June 6th. Go to to find out more. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36584410

This Grief Thing Is Harder Than I Thought 05/09/2025

This Grief Thing Is Harder Than I Thought So often I hear people say "I am struggling with grief." You think you are being specific when you say this. The fact is that this is a very broad statement. When things are broad it tends to make us feel overwhelmed. When we are overwhelmed we tend to struggle more, which makes us feel miserable and stuck. This episode I teach you how to break this broad statement into something very specific. Something that you can work on. Something that will help you feel better. Stop struggling in your grief and start feeling better. Join my Catholic grief group at /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36373200

Why The Weather Affects Your Grief 05/02/2025

Why The Weather Affects Your Grief The weather really does affect our grief. A lot of times I forget this in the middle of winter. When the sun starts coming out and I can be outside more, I remember to give myself grace. Of course I was more sad. Of course I was more irritated. I felt like I was trapped in a pit of gloom and doom. This episode I talk about how the seasons can affect us in big and little ways. I give you simple tips to give yourself grace and to get through this. Tired of no one understanding you in your grief. Join my Catholic grief group at /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36372875

How Do I Know If I Have Processed Their Death? 04/25/2025

How Do I Know If I Have Processed Their Death? People will ask, 'have you processed their death?' Most of the time the response is "yes." We think that if we have gotten through the first days, weeks, and months, that we processed the death. We have moved on. We are fine. Until we aren't. How do you know if you have really processed this? This episode I talk about how you know if you have done this. If you realize that you probably haven't done this, I walk you through some simple steps to do this. Feel isolated in your grief? Go to to join a group that will truly help you and support you in your grief. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36298315

They Don't Want Me To Be Happy 04/18/2025

They Don't Want Me To Be Happy It is easy in our grief to feel like someone or something is standing in the way of our happiness. If they would check in on me, then I would feel better. No one understands what I am going through, therefore I have to struggle alone. This episode I talk about these sneaky beliefs that we have. We think if others changed then we would be happy. We want to take down anything that we feel is standing in our way of happiness. Want to feel better in your grief. Go to to join my grief group or for 1:1 coaching. Catholic. Compassionate. Convenient. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36208645

I Have To Do All The Hard Things 04/11/2025

I Have To Do All The Hard Things After our loved one dies everything is hard. You can start to feel like you are the one who is doing all the hard things. Your mind can get stuck there which adds to the pain and hurt you are feeling. This episode I talk about why this is so natural for us to do. I walk you through how to get out of this pain spiral. I help you with coping skills so you can get through a day with out breaking down and crying. Feel heard, seen, loved, and held. Go to /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/36085775

What Should I Do With My Loved Ones Social Media 04/04/2025

What Should I Do With My Loved Ones Social Media After your loved one dies there are still things that remain. Especially now with social media, what do you do with that? Do you take it down? Do you leave it up to post occasionally? What is the right answer? This episode I talk about social media. This is something that will only be growing more in the upcoming years. How do you navigate this when there really is no playbook to look at? Want to get help with your grief? /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35992665

Grief Is Not A One and Done Thing 03/28/2025

Grief Is Not A One and Done Thing The past couple weeks have not been very good weeks. There has been a lot of things with grief that have made me feel despair, hopelessness, lonely, and abandoned. It's hard to remember that grief is not a one and done type of thing. After reflecting back on this, there are a few things I would have done differently. There are a few things I now can do differently going forward. One of the hardest things about grief is that it feels so lonely. I can help. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35889265

The Horrible Week 03/21/2025

The Horrible Week This week has not been a good week. It has been a very hard week. There was something that triggered me from my mom's death. Then it was my dad's birthday. My marriage was also not in a great spot. Walk through this with me as I talk about the emotions an what I did to get out of that awful week. You are not alone. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35799950

The First Two Weeks To Month After Your Loved One Dies 03/14/2025

The First Two Weeks To Month After Your Loved One Dies The first couple weeks to month after someone dies is a blur. It's so many emotions. You don't know if this is 'normal'. You feel like you are looking through a fog. You are exhausted. This episode I talk about the first weeks to month after the death of a loved one. Gain a few simple tips on how to care for yourself during this time. Talking about all of this is one of the best medicines for grief. Talk with me at /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35671725

Am I Grieving The 'Right' Way? 03/07/2025

Am I Grieving The 'Right' Way? We see so many things that tell us we are grieving the wrong way. 'We should be over it by now.' 'So and so didn't struggle this much.' How do you know when you are doing grief wrong? This episode I give you 3 tips to help you know if you are grieving the right way. I also talk about the 'wrong' way to grieve. Wondering which category you fall into? Book a chat with me at /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35569135

I Didn't Get To Say Goodbye 02/28/2025

I Didn't Get To Say Goodbye If your loved one died suddenly, you didn't get to say goodbye. You wish you could go back in time and do things differently. You feel so guilty. This episode I talk about how to live with the guilt. You spiral on how things should have been different. If you had only know.. Get help on the go with . A walkie-talkie app to get support for your grief as it occurs. Click the link, be sure to fill out the phone number portion. Download Voxer (free app). Get good sleep /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35276005

I Have Lost Interest In Everything 02/21/2025

I Have Lost Interest In Everything You don't want to die, but you have no interest in anything either. Things that used to bring you joy, now make you feel nothing. It feels like you are walking through mud with your mind. This episode I talk abou this feeling and what to do about it. Get help on the go with . A walkie-talkie app to get support for your grief as it occurs. Click the link, be sure to fill out the phone number portion. Download Voxer (free app). Get good sleep /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35275785

Going Back To Work After Death Of Loved One 02/14/2025

Going Back To Work After Death Of Loved One The bills keep coming even if your world feels like it has ended. You know that you need to make money but you don't feel ready to go back to work. This episode I talk you through how to know if you are ready to go back to work. If you aren't ready but the bills still need to be paid, I walk you through how to handle being back at work. Get help on the go with . A walkie-talkie on your phone so you can message me any time day or night to get help with grief. Want to get good sleep again? Sign up for my . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35274845

I Am Struggling To Go Through Their Things 02/07/2025

I Am Struggling To Go Through Their Things When people die there are a lot of things left behind. Their clothes, jewelry, shoes, trinkets, and paperwork. This list could go on and on. When you start going through your loved ones things a lot of feelings come up. It feels like you are losing that person all over again. This episode I talk about those feelings. You can feel like there is something wrong with you because everyone is telling you that you should do this. Or you feel like you should be doing this and be fine with it. It's ok not to be ok. I teach you how to process these emotions. Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35148520

I Am Not Ready To Go Through Their Things 01/31/2025

I Am Not Ready To Go Through Their Things After your loved one dies there are things to take care of and go through. So often we don't feel ready but there is a pressure to do this. This episode I talk about how to know that you are ready and what to do if you are not. This is not a race that you need to hurry through. Get support . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/35086880

When the Glue Holding the Family Together Dies 01/24/2025

When the Glue Holding the Family Together Dies Relationships change after your loved one dies. People that you thought would be there for you are no longer there. You try to distance yourself from these people. You feel guilty and feel like you are failing your loved one. This episode I talk about how relationships shift and change after a death. Sometimes it can be good. Sometimes it can be bad. I help you navigate this unexpected side affect of death of a loved one. Book a free grief consult call . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34966385

What To Do on Birthdays 01/17/2025

What To Do on Birthdays It's your first birthday since your loved one had died. You don't feel like celebrating. People tell you that they would want you to be happy. You know that, but you just feel sad. This episode I help you through your birthday or your loved ones birthday. You want to keep living but things feel harder and more lonely now. You feel like there is something wrong with you. Let's normalize our grief. Book a free online grief consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34882015

My Grief Isn't As Bad As Theirs 01/10/2025

My Grief Isn't As Bad As Theirs You think that you shouldn't be as upset as you are because this isn't true grief. Other people are going through so much worse. You are fine. This episode I talk about what happens when we believe that. Our grief comes out in other ways that we may not even realize. I help you know what to do about that. Grief is a normal response to a major loss. It doesn't matter if others think it's major. What matters is that it's major to you. Book a to talk through your grief. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34759240

Grief in the New Year 01/03/2025

Grief in the New Year We think that the New Year should help our grief be better. We feel bad because we don't. Then after December people stop checking in. This feels so isolating and lonely. This episode I talk about the new year and what that can mean for your grief. Starting January 15th join me for 24 hour access coaching. You know something needs to change and you don't know what to do. /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34698140

I Feel So Guilty 12/27/2024

I Feel So Guilty The guilt you feel after a loved one has died can be crushing. Others try to reassure you that there was nothing you could have done but you don't believe it. You feel this pressure that you should have saved them. You should have done more. You should have known. This episode I talk about the different types of guilt after a loved one has died. This guilt is normal but we tend to get stuck in it. Book a . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34473685

I Am Alone 12/20/2024

I Am Alone Grief can feel very isolating and lonely. How do you move on when you really don't have anyone else. What if your loved one was the only person in your life? This episode I talk about what life can look like when you are the only one left. Book a /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34473520

The Out of Control Feeling 12/13/2024

The Out of Control Feeling Grief makes us feel like we are out of control. We do or say things that we wouldn't normally do. This episode I break down what happens when we act like that. Usually if we back track we can pin point the moment that we first started to feel out of control or like a failure. We try to push it away until we no longer can, when then it comes out in a way we don't want it to. Get help walking through your grief journey. Book a free grief consult . /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34397940

Grief with a Complex Relationship 12/06/2024

Grief with a Complex Relationship Grief can have many layers. Grief especially can have layers when you had a complex relationship with the person you are grieving. Maybe there was abuse or abandonment. You might feel like you aren't affected at all. Then you might wonder if you are heartless or if there is something wrong with you. People might tell you that you should be happy this person is dead, but you don't feel that way. You feel sad and don't know why. This episode I talk through those feelings with you. It is normal to feel this way. Book a free grief consult /episode/index/show/564d0344-0c85-4833-9523-23268e44c3f5/id/34303175

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