How to Create Secure, Lasting Love in a Long-Term Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin | 60
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Release Date: 06/01/2025
How to Create Secure, Lasting Love in a Long-Term Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin | 60
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner The biggest mistake people make in modern dating Bio Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises...
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My Most Powerful Sex Magic Ritual 59
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes Layla’s most powerful manifestation ritual Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes Bio Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe. Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™...
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How to Stop Chasing Unavailable Men and Magnetize a Devoted Husband with Mel Wells | 58
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes Why the archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother Why rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen How the feminine archetypes impact dating and relationships Why we choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us Mel’s best advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone Bio Mel Wells is a world-renowned 7-figure love and leadership mentor for successful female entrepreneurs. She empowers women to create the love lives and...
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Meet My First Boyfriend and All the Ways I F**cked It Up | 57
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Shownotes The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume How radical love is different than self-sacrificing What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship Bio Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what...
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Hot Flashes to Hot Sex: The Power of Pleasure in Menopause with Eva Clay | 56
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Shownotes What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause Bio Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. She's helped thousands of...
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Taking Psychedelics and Learning to Love Yourself Dr. Nick Brüss | 55
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Shownotes Exactly what Internal Family Systems therapy is The actual mechanism that creates the most profound level of healing Psychedelics as a loving catalyst to know ourselves more The truth about psychedelic stigma Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics The difference between doses of psilocybin Bio Nick Brüss, EdD, LMFT, is a leading licensed psychedelic therapist, researcher and educator who is passionate about inspiring and helping people heal, grow and live creative lives. He’s pioneering treatments and programs that...
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How Surrender and Polarity Create the Hottest Sex with Nina Lombardo | 54
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Shownotes What people misunderstand about the feminine How to surrender into letting life be good What sexual surrender looks like in a partnership Why men are attracted to different life force energies in women Keys to navigating your partner’s triggers with compassion What it truly means for a man to be present sexually How submission is different than surrender Bio Nina Lombardo is a teacher and mentor for women, specializing in conscious intimacy, polarity and sacred feminine practice. She supports women and couples in embodying their deepest...
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My Story of Tantric Liberation & Stepping on Global Stages | 52
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes The science behind nervous system imprinting in childhood The importance of going through both concealing and revealing cycles in life How Layla knew there was something inside her worth fighting for The power of turning your pain into medicine Exactly what led Layla to the Tantric path How to break free from the story that we have to be special to be worthy Why the theory of Tantra is nothing compared to the actual practices Bio Layla Martin: Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to...
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The Top 4 Rituals to Supercharge Sex and Connection in Your Relationship | #51
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Shownotes 4 Sacred rituals to enhance your relationship How to break down the facade of perfection and replace it with what’s real Why inspiration is always supported by action Essential things you need in order to develop your partnership Important ground rules for safe communication 5 Core sexual skills to unlock your erotic abilities to download your FREE step-by-step guide to all 4 relationship rituals I shared in this podcast! Bio Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people...
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6 Ingredients You Need to Build a Lifetime of Love with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes Why 1+1=3 in love and relationships The 6 ingredients to build a lifetime of love Why attunement is one of the most powerful tools Dr. Nasserzadeh’s “soak together before you sink together” method How to show up with compassion even if you don’t understand someone Sexual harmony vs sexual chemistry Bio Building world peace, one relationship at a time is the mission of , a globally renowned and award-winning author, speaker and relationship expert. With a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and...
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The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning
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Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles
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How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer
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Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner
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One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner
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The biggest mistake people make in modern dating
Bio
Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA.
He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in
the US and internationally. Dr Tatkin is the author of In Each Other’s Care, We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships and co-author of Baby Bomb.
Dr. Tatkin received his early training in developmental self and object relations (Masterson Institute), Gestalt, psychodrama, and family systems theory. His private practice specialized for some time in treating adolescents and adults with personality disorders. More recently, his interests turned to psycho-neurobiological theories of human relationship and applying principles of early mother-infant attachment to adult romantic relationships.
Dr. Tatkin was clinical director of Charter Hospital’s intensive outpatient drug and alcohol program and is a former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter.
He is a veteran member of Allan N. Schore’s study group. He also trained in the Adult Attachment Interview by way of Mary Main and Erik Hesse’s program through UC Berkeley.
Timestamps
00:00:43 - Guest introduction
00:03:58 - The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning
00:06:00 - How to find compassion for an anxious or avoidant
00:09:59 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com
00:11:49 - Layla describes an avoidant’s experience as a baby
00:13:19 - Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles
00:16:17 - Attachment isn’t personality, it’s memory
00:21:49 - Plan for your devils, not your angels
00:25:43 - How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer
00:26:54 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:33:32 - Dr. Tatkin’s advice for the moments you see your partner as an enemy
00:37:27 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic
00:38:20 - What do you secretly put in front of your relationship?
00:45:48 - Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner
00:46:53 - How to learn to take care of your partner’s nervous system
00:49:14 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss
00:50:50 - One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner
00:54:05 - Why apologizing can subconsciously feel like weakness
00:57:11 - Dr. Tatkin explains the details of “The Couple Bubble”
01:00:34 - What Dr. Tatkin sees that the happiest long term couples do
01:03:50 - Insecures don’t believe there’s such a thing as fairness and justice
01:05:44 - The biggest mistake people make in modern dating
01:08:07 - Dr. Tatkin celebrates his wife and his relationship
01:11:55 - Secure functioning is very hard but it’s worth it
01:12:00 - Conclusion