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This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Release Date: 06/29/2025

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Shownotes

 

  • Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

  • How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment

  • Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

  • The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

  • Why hiding your power creates disarray

  • Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

 

Bio

 

From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous cultures. His quest to understand himself and the life he was experiencing led him to explore the very nature of his existence, often guiding him down challenging paths, including struggles with addiction and depression.

 

Through this deep exploration, Tom gradually opened up to a more profound connection with his own humanity, confronting the limitations that prevented him from fully feeling and embracing it. His personal journey has taught him invaluable lessons, enabling him to be present with others in a spontaneous and creative way, facilitating their own process of discovery.

 

Tom’s work, particularly through The Sapience Retreat, focuses on helping individuals integrate all aspects of their being – mental, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual – in a way that fosters a true sense of homecoming, both within themselves and in connection with others. At the heart of his approach is cultivating an open awareness and a deep sense of choice, empowering people to show up more fully and authentically in life.

 

Learn more about Tom and The Sapience Retreat on his website.

 

Timestamps

 

00:00:54 - Guest introduction

00:05:46 - Tom describes what a “meeting” is in his work

00:09:54 - A meeting can be any flavor of energy

00:13:36 - The heart of this work is to have less and less resistance to what’s happening

00:14:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:59 - Relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

00:18:44 - The various traps humans get caught in

00:20:19 - Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

00:23:01 - Layla summarizes spiral dynamics 

00:26:41 - The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

00:29:27 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:31:20 - Layla describes her experience with the beige stage

00:35:10 - Trust and safety only exist in this moment

00:39:51 - The power of unconditional somatic connection

00:40:40 - Layla and Tom drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:43:20 - Layla talks about her “Reclamation in the Red Stage”

00:51:30 - When we hide our power, it can become a force that creates disarray

00:55:23 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:58:35 - How to be present with what’s true in the moment

01:01:09 - Layla shares about her entity removal at The Sapience Retreat

01:08:08 - What Tom whispered to Layla’s inner little girl

01:10:55 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:11:46 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:13:40 - We don’t have to become cosmic starchildren to touch magic

01:17:39 - Just meeting each other as humans is the most advanced thing we can do

01:21:48 - Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

01:25:42 - Layla shares about the stuffed animal she used to carry

01:27:46 - Conclusion