Wellness Tips for Any Season - Including Holidays
Do You Have The Guts?
I am delighted that you are here. We are talking about the courage, the guts, the strength to do the holiday season a little bit differently today. We're talking about, you know, having an indulgence here and there, but not throwing in the towel for the season. These 5 tips apply to ANY holiday season, or any season of life that gets hectic and wild. Throwing in the towel around October was me for so many years, and I'm here to encourage you not to be like me, not to be like the old me, and to find a little bit of balance in between there. Let's indulge, but let's...
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5 Things You Didn't Know About Hydration
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Thank you for tuning in. Today we are online with one of my most favorite friends ever, Dr. Chris Stanley. Chris and I have both lived through severe autoimmune diseases and found healing and wellbeing through nutrition. Hydration is a key component for us both, we’d even consider it a ‘macro’ to count and understand if you’re serious about feeling good and having a body that works for you. In his physical theraphy practice, Chris often recommends hydration protocols for post operative patients and individuals looking to increase mobility alike! Our level of hydration plays a...
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Empowering Your Past
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"When you can see your past as a treasure chest of learning opportunities rather than a dumpster full of regrets, your whole life changes." Dr. Benjamin Hardy Reframing your past can unlock your potential and create a more positive and empowered future. What is Reframe? Reframing is defined as a psychological technique that changes how individuals perceive and interpret events, situations, or experiences. It involves looking at situations from different perspectives, leading to a shift in emotional responses and behaviors. A personal story is shared about a journey to reframe the...
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Sneaky Perfectionism
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Today we are discussing a new perspective on perfectionism, emphasizing the idea of not measuring success against an ideal but measuring it from one's starting point. I discovered this concept in the book The Gap & The Gain by Dr Benjamin Hardy & Life Coach, Dan Sullivan. This book is a must listen for business AND life in general. We are going to highlight how comparing oneself to an ideal can lead to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. Instead of comparing ourselves against an ideal, let's begin measuring progress by reflecting on how far we've come and by celebrating...
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Navigating A New Season of Wellness
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Links: Addressing the frustration of not being able to get things done is first and foremost on the agenda for season 2. And honestly, the how to on this is very surprising. I’m also hoping listeners can relate to being stuck in indecision city. I had too many choices. Too many goals. Too many priorities. And I began the art of letting go, once again. Dieing to the old way of things or the old version of myself is never easy. Worthwhile, but never easy and quite shocking when realizing what is happening and why. Do You Have The Guts Focus Season 2 Season 2 is focusing...
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Commitment.
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We think we are committed. We think doing pretty good at all the things that support our goals in life most of the time is good enough. We are not quite satisfied with our results, but the effort going into them seems somewhat profound and prolific even if you’re overcoming habits. I’d like to offer the idea that this story we are living isn’t true. That cycle of 98% effort, unintentionally falling away from the habits that are pushing us forward towards well being…that cycle of stopping and starting again…THAT is what is truly exhausting us.
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Belief. How to believe in yourself.
Do You Have The Guts?
Today is all about belief. Finding belief in you. Maybe this is a struggle for me over the last week or so because I am in the exact same process of digging deep to find belief in myself. Now if you are living on purpose, you’re always growing. That means you might have to stop and dig up belief when you need it. Becoming someone new, or transformation, required belief. Who I am today is a completely different version of me that who I was a year ago today. I am doing new and different and uncomfortable things. I am figuring things out STILL! Even when you believe in yourself, when you grow...
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REAL Self Care & How to do it.
Do You Have The Guts?
My history with self care was relatively non-existent until the last few years. I suppose it really began in 2019 with consistently taking care of my body…by late 2020 I was 100% committed (vs 98% committed which we will discuss in a later episode!!!) Getting to the point of wellness where I was able to consistently take care of my body was a huge journey in my pursuit of self care. The realiziation that consistency wasn’t all will power and that discipline actually created freedom I also needed a dream team which I cultivated first with a chiro and acupuncturist. ...
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The One Thing...
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Episode 19 is all about well being and what piece of the puzzle you might be missing so far. If you’re looking to change or transform your life, that is a big endeavor. It’s probably going to take a few skills or essentials that you don’t have yet. Love Maybe you’re missing love. The first thing we think is yea, I am lonely. I wish I had that special someone in my life. But that is not what I am talking about. Are you missing love for you? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you hate yourself. Each feeling offers a very very different platform with regards to...
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Reflection. A little known superpower.
Do You Have The Guts?
Reflection is a powerful tool that can work for you in many ways if you take time to indulge in its superpower. What we’re learning today is how to utilize reflection on a regular basis to improve results and mindset in our daily lives. This episode is rich with stories and examples of how reflecting, finding the wins and noticing our thoughts leads to the results we have been seeking or the understanding that we’ve been seeking. Reflection: What it looks like, how it works, and how it serves you. I thought I’d take you guys down memory lane with me as I reflect upon...
info_outlineMy history with self care was relatively non-existent until the last few years. I suppose it really began in 2019 with consistently taking care of my body…by late 2020 I was 100% committed (vs 98% committed which we will discuss in a later episode!!!)
Getting to the point of wellness where I was able to consistently take care of my body was a huge journey in my pursuit of self care. The realiziation that consistency wasn’t all will power and that discipline actually created freedom
I also needed a dream team which I cultivated first with a chiro and acupuncturist. Those two steps were all about physical self care and having feedback when my body was hurt or incapable of something. BUT - it took me taking care of myself and finding a way to make these things happen regularly to support my transformation. 5 years ago I’d not have given myself such an expensive support system.
What does it matter if we like or love ourselves anyway? I’ve been in that self loathing place too. The one that lasts for years and has begun again so many times you cannot tell the end from the beginning…How hard is it to take time for someone you don’t like? How difficult is it to show up for someone you don’t love? Especially when showing up is challenging mentally and or physically…
I thought about quitting all the time and I thought about doing better, but never really asked myself why I was sabotaging myself personally day in and day out. Why did I continue to go through this two week cycle of ‘being good’ and then ‘falling off the wagon’ or getting hurt, sick, discouraged to the point of quitting or micro quitting.
Looking back over my lifetime, I’ve now got the wisdom to see that all of the ways I believed I was taking care of myself were bogus. They were band-aids.
I had no idea how to feel or process the feelings that were jumbled up and shoved down inside of me. No idea. So I kept them at bay where I didn’t need to think about them, and I had no idea to release those negative thoughts.…I had no idea that was even a thing until age 29.
Why isn’t it a regular practice to teach our kiddos how to feel feelings that are uncomfortable.
Those thoughts stayed and festered and morphed into anger, resentment, shame and weight gain.
My self care centered around new clothes or something I bought to feel better. Pedicures. Manicures. Massages. Getting my hair done…Exercise - I did serious yoga in my 30’s. I focused 100% of my self care attention on how I looked on the outside. These practices felt indulgent or decadent, and they were. But they didn’t help me like myself at all. These things only felt good in the moment- they didn’t last.
Because feeling good because you look good is fleeting. You look good and all the same monsters are still in your mind.
Self care is about releasing those monsters. Releasing everything that is holding you back. That is real self care. And how scary does that sound? What was holding me back is what I held on to the tightest because those things helped me feel better in the moment, but the good feeling was fleeting.
I was also focused 100% on other people and my career. That is what I was taught to do my entire life. In school, at home and throughout life in general, my focus was always pointed away from me. I was a work-a-holic because i found ALL of my identity in my work. That was the only part of my life I was confident about and happy about.
It didn’t occur to me, at all, that I didn’t like myself until I was about 30 years old and I hired a health coach. I wanted to LOSE all the weight I’d been packing on since college. Her approach baffled and delighted me and I began to cultivate an awareness of myself that I’d never understood before. She was the first person to help me understand that my mindset was a huge part of self care.
She taught me about negative thought loops and that they could be released. This was pure gold to me.
Then one day she asked me to write down 10 traits that I liked about myself…Week after week I failed…
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