74. Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships: The Power of Self-Awareness
Release Date: 02/24/2025
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Have you ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of past hurts, insecurities, or fears into your relationships—without even realizing it? Do you struggle with jealousy, trust issues, or feeling like you always have to prove your worth?
This episode is for you.
Today, we’re diving deep into self-awareness—why it’s the key to breaking unhealthy patterns, how it helps you navigate relationships (romantic or otherwise), and why it’s the foundation of true confidence. If you’ve ever wondered why you react a certain way in relationships, struggle to trust, or feel like you’re constantly searching for validation, this conversation is about to change everything.
🎧 Listen in as we unpack:
✔️ Why self-awareness is the key to a stronger, healthier you
✔️ How to recognize and break negative relationship patterns
✔️ The real reason you struggle with jealousy, trust, or insecurity
✔️ How self-worth and confidence impact every relationship in your life
✔️ The powerful truth about becoming ready for the things you want most
🩷 It’s time to stop carrying the past into your future.
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Thank you for spending this time with me today. I hope this episode reminded you that true confidence starts with self-awareness, and that you are capable of healing, growing, and stepping into the version of yourself who is ready for everything you dream of.
You don’t have to keep living in the same patterns. You can change the story. And I believe in you.
Until next time—go be great. 🩷
xoxo,
Noël